This blog is about learning to understand all of our feelings and learning to consciously face, feel and experience all of our feelings within the context of our own childhood.
Everything we become and happens to us is connected to childhood. Not every victim becomes an abuser, but every abuser was once a victim of abuse, these are facts, Violence is not genetic, it’s learned.
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I remember very vivid saying to Marty that I could not go out with him because he would be too much trouble for me. But after a year of chasing after me I gave in. Me too, I knew he was trouble the moment he walked in.
This song was inspired by Harry Styles and it's interesting that he reminds me a lot of Marty! Had the same smile and both are Aquarius. Be be careful with those Aquarius, they are trouble.
Thanks to Harry Styles we have this beautiful song. And thanks to my experience with Marty i was inspired to write A Dance to Freedom.
Only i wanted was Marty's love but instead I got a degree in psychology and I became a published author.
"1. He sees all emotional reactions as attention. Narcissists thrive on getting attention, feeling special, and having control. He is an expert at getting an emotional reaction out of you – good or bad – because it makes him feel powerful and better than you. The best thing you can do is not react. I often tell my clients to use fewer words – don’t bother getting into a discussion or trying to explain your point – it won’t work, and only gets you sucked further into his crazy, which is what he wants. So, say little, walk away, and extract yourself.
2. They try to keep the relationship not to love you, but to control you. When a rift of any kind does occur in the relationship, he tries to get you back – with false promises – not because he really wants a better, healthy relationship with you, but because he wants to control you. He must win. He must have the final say. This is part of the abuse cycle. He wants you back for his own purposes.
3. All his thoughts are focused on getting attention and feeling special. Everything in his life, and I mean everything, are about filling that bottomless pit inside him that needs to feel superior, special, and the focus of attention. Don’t be fooled – what might seem like a kind act almost always has a hidden agenda to serve his own purposes. Nothing is a higher priority to him than feeling special."
Click in the link below to read all the 10 Truths Narcissists Want to hide from you. The author uses the pronoun "he" for convenience but of course aplies also to the female narcissit.
Very true! The fact that I have been constantly targeted by these malignant people since I published my book A Dance to Freedom: Your Guide to Liberation from Lies and Illusion is a sign I got it right. My book challenges them, just as a reader of my book wrote: "I'm so sorry you have to endure manipulation and abuse from perfect strangers because of your book. However, I think it's a sign you got it right!"
The enemy wouldn't be attacking you if something very valuable wasn't inside of You. Thieves don't break into empty houses. YOU have a purpose!
"WHO IS TARGETED Contrary to what their aggressors have others believe, victims are not, at the outset, particularly weak or mentally unhealthy individuals. Quite the opposite: harassment is often set in motion when a victim refuses to give in to a boss’s authoritarian procedures. She is targeted because of her capacity to resist authority, even under pressure. …"
You caught the narcissist's eye because you are a capable, caring, loving person, everything they are not. They set out to prove that your personality was as fake as theirs. They tried to shatter your self- confidence, take away your security and make you beg them for more emotional abuse. In their twisted minds this emotional wreck before them is the real, pitiful you and you deserve to be outted. Love is foreign to them and so is the pain of a broken heart. ~Y. Clerebout
THEY ARE PREDATORS
They seek out compassionate, trusting good hearted human beings, and then mimic those qualities. Like parasites, they are their strongest when they have a healthy host. And then slowly, they use their victims love to destroy them from the inside out. But unlike parasites, they don't do this for survival. They do it for fun / entertainment in order to temporarily alleviate the twisted state of living in contempt, envy and boredom.
We need to fully grasp what we are dealing with when we encounter a narcissist. This thing masquerading as a normal person is in no way human, as we understand the word. It is a predator and a destroyer of all good and decent things. If we can comprehend this it will have no power over our thoughts and emotions. If one of these are in your life do everything in your power to extract it. Your sanity and your life may depend on it. ~Y. Clerebout
Lesley Gore- "You Don't Own Me" Love this song was way before its time and will always be gold
Yep. My feedback below to a narcissist close to me was treated as the biggest insult ever. People have to find the strength and courage to detach and let go the narcissist family cult. And most of the time we have let go of money too.
Freedom ain't free! It comes with a lot of losses. Stop fighting and walk away. Take time to mourn and heal. At the end of mourning, you feel so free and good that you never thought it was possible.
Walk away from people that lacks courage and never look back. Put them in your rearview mirror.
“I already know that! It's better to let go... one thing I have learned is that it's not worth it fighting over money! At the end of our journey where we go, we can't take our money with us anyway! What we leave behind someone else will get to use our money for good or bad and we will not have a saying by then!!! The reality is, as long your mother is alive, she's entitled to give her money to whoever she wants and we don't have to like it! Unless she is declared mentally insane, she can do with her money whatever she wants...”
Very true! No, they don't ever reflect. They refuse to look at themselves and take responsibility for their actions. They rather put all the blame on others and live with the illusion that are perfect.
No, you can't. Walk away
Yep, they are like the people they despise and hate so much
