Friday, March 1, 2019

Echoism Is the Little-Known Condition that Affects Victims of Narcissistic Abuse

Echoism Is the Little-Known Condition that Affects Victims of Narcissistic Abuse

Comments on facebook from the sharing of the article in the link above.

Sylvie Imelda Shene Interesting! Saving the link to read later.

K L K M:  Sylvie Imelda Shene it’s a different lens for understanding the victims and survivors. New insights always excite me. Healing is a lifelong journey!

Sylvie Imelda Shene Yes, I agree healing is a lifelong journey. And once you find freedom -- you always have to deal with people crossing your path trying to stand in symbolizing your childhood abusers -- reminding you of the painful past -- or triggering flashbacks. 

They're too many abusers in our society masquerading as "helpers" and good people waiting for you to make a mistake to grab on and regress you to the state of the wounded child and put their hands on you to bring you back into an emotional prison -- they want to steal and gain ownership over your story -- and have power over you. 

They can wait on the sidelines all they want because I will never give them the opportunity to put their hands on me -- see them very clearly everywhere -- like this psychologist in the Netherlands that even went through the trouble to change her name to mess with my mind so I wouldn't know who she was. 

I get it! And understand! Why so many malignant narcissists and sociopaths target me. Who I’m I?! An ex-topless dancer and a gate attendant that never went to college could possibly know more about the human mind than them that went to college and have spent all of their lives working so hard and studying -- memorizing knowledge --- which they use like robots or parrots to fool others and manipulate them to act exactly the part they want you to act in their twisted drama.

K L K M: Sylvie Imelda Shene so grateful for your resilience! You continue to heal and help others heal and flourish. Boundary awareness is so important! Our toxic antennae is very similar! I can spot and sense toxic behaviors a mile away! Steering clear isn’t always easy as we know. But knowing we can set strong, firm boundaries is crucial. And we can never let down our guard if we want to keep ourselves safe. There’s safety in numbers thank goodness!

Sylvie Imelda Shene Thank you for your kind words, K L K M. Glad you too can spot toxic behavior a mile away. No, it's not always easy to steering clear of toxic behavior, especially in the workplace. We have to be constantly vigilant and protect ourselves.

S G: I've seen it. I've lived it. Not pretty. Remember who you are deep down. The person who claims to love you the most should lift your spirits not douse them. Save your words for someone with genuine compassion as there is NOTHING you can say to this personality type without an argument. YOU ARE ALWAYS GOOD ENOUGH

K L K M: S G, so well said!! And wonderful advice from someone who’s lived this! I’m sorry for what you endured and I’m grateful for your resilience. I just love the part “remember who you are!” Beautiful! Because if we can hold onto this, we won’t lose who we truly are inside. It can happen with enough gaslighting! Thank you for sharing and for being you. Beautiful on the inside and out!

Sylvie Imelda Shene Finally, I had time to read the whole article. No doubt I identify with it! 
"Recovery from this abuse is totally possible. You need kind people to listen to you and validate you.” 

Good luck finding authentic kind enlightened witnesses to listen and validate you. After being the target of a mob of sociopaths, malignant narcissists or whatever you like to call them. I was left alone, especially by mental health professionals that should have been the first ones to reach out to me and make sure I was okay and listen to me. From my experience, most people are acting as if personality, saying all the right things pretending to be good people, but are wolves in sheep's clothing. 

Like I wrote to someone that wrote me defending the psychologist from the Netherlands that tried to mess with my mind: "If your idolized Lilianne/Olane is such a compassionate person that cares so much about others --- how come she didn’t reach out to me with a kind word of support when I was being targeted by a mob of sociopaths at my job of nine and half years after I published my book in 2014? I know she is following my blog incognito and witnessed everything that was taking place. 

She didn’t care, because she is a malignant narcissist or a sociopath like them. She was witnessing an attempt of a psychological lynching and said nothing and most likely hoping they would succeed in destroying me for her sadist enjoyment and put her own fears of exposure to rest. 

She sat with her critique for four years and then she publishes it after changing her name! She never predicted that I would figure out that Olane Roos and Liliane Rombout is one and the same! If this is not a calculated move of a malignant narcissist to try to discredit someone’s work -- then I don’t know what a calculated malignant narcissist is?!"

Alice Miller has been the only authentic witness in my life and if I had not had become my own enlightened witness with the help of her books, website, and ‎correspondence -- I would not have survived -- I would have been thrown over the edge like we constantly witness in the stage of the world many victims of malignant narcissists abuse being thrown over the edge. 

From my experience, a lot of mental health professionals say nice things and come up with great theories, but because have not resolved their own childhood repression and liberate themselves from the emotional prison of childhood cannot provide real assistance to their patients or clients and end up causing more harm.

Just like I wrote in my book A Dance to Freedom page 173 "But thanks to Alice Miller, I’m content to be who I am regardless of what other people think. This passage, from Breaking Down the Wall of Silence, sums it up so well: “To live with one’s own truth is to be at home with oneself. That is the opposite of isolation. We only need confirmation when we are alienated from ourselves and in flight from the truth. All the friends and devoted admirers in the world cannot make up for the loss.”

And this is why I survived being the target of a mob of sociopaths or malignant narcissists because -- I live with my truth -- I'm at home with myself -- and no longer waiting for validation and confirmation from others --- otherwise I would not have survived a mob of sociopaths at my job of nine and a half years all conspiring for my demise.

Read my blog Experienced Knowledge about my experience with emotional harassment in the workplace.

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