Why Narcissists Get Married

 

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Narcissists may get married for a variety of reasons, including:

• Validation and approval

  Narcissists may seek validation and approval from their spouses to boost their self-esteem.
• Supply

  A spouse provides a constant source of narcissistic supply, and narcissists cannot function without it.
• Image boosting

  Marriage can help narcissists boost their image.
• Money

  Narcissists may get married to get money from their partner or their partner's family.
• Social status

  Narcissists may get married to attain higher social status, such as marrying into a certain family or ethnic group.
• Ownership

  Narcissists may view marriage as ownership of a source of narcissistic supply, which their spouse is required to give them 24/7.
• Contract

  Narcissists may view marriage as a contract that proves they will never be alone or abandoned.
• Attention

  Weddings come with lots of attention, which may be appealing to narcissists. 

Narcissists may also marry people who are: Weak-minded, Submissive, People-pleasers, and Targets already vulnerable people. 

Some say that narcissists and people-pleasers may have a dynamic where one person maintains and asserts their power, while the other person does whatever they can to ensure that power stays in place. 

The narcissist fears abandonment, if you agree to marry them, the narcissist feels more secure and more in control. They need an assistant. The narcissist loves being taken care of. Having a spouse to a narcissist often means having a live-in house cleaner, chef, secretary, accountant, and errand-runner.