I Get a Little Satisfaction

Brrrrrrrrr... you will be shoveling snow pretty soon! 

Yesterday when i said people want to get rid of me, but they can't. I just mean sociopaths in gated communities, because I make friends in every community I work at and I always go back to the communities and they have to look at me! 

When I run into the sociopaths in Sxxxxxxxr, if looks could kill I would be dead right now, many times over! 

It gives me a little pleasure that i make them experience the helplessness of the child thy once were, because they can't destroy me and get rid of me! Just like the child they once were could not get rid of the abusive parents, but it's sad they only feel this helplessness with substitute figures that has nothing to do with the wrongs done to them when defenseless little children and not within the context of their own childhood, in order to protect their idealized parents and childhood. And endless stay stuck, because repression can only be resolved within the context of childhood and not with substitute figures or scapegoats. They are scared little children for eternity living in the state of confusion. But if you ever like to get rid of me, just say the word and I be out of your life just like that!

Just as I wrote in my book A Dance to Freedom: Your Guide to Liberation from Lies and Illusions page 83, 126 and 127 "People who idealize their childhoods, or otherwise ignore their pain, have limitless cravings for scapegoats on whom they can avenge themselves for the fears and anxieties of childhood. This is why some people have a lot of children, because unconsciously they want to make sure they have an endless supply of vulnerable, defenseless new victims. ...The unhealthy, cult-like devotion they invested in the group was actually getting in the way of their true happiness because the group was just filling in for their parents and keeping them blind to the truth. In an email to a reader, Alice Miller writes that “even smart people become stuck in confusion for years if the ‘healers’ demand from them the same as the parents did from the child: to stay blind, to forgive, to make amends, not to make troubles. The fear of the parents, stored up in the body, can make a person obedient and sick forever. I hope that you can overcome this fear by seeing through the hypocrisy of your helpers.”62 “It is a great mistake to imagine that one can resolve traumas in a symbolic fashion,” Alice Miller writes in The Drama of the Gifted Child. “If that were possible, poets, painters, and other artists would be able to resolve their pain through creativity. This is not the case, however. Creativity helps us channel the pain of trauma into symbolic acts; it doesn’t help us resolve it. If symbolic revenge for maltreatment received in childhood were effective, then dictators would eventually stop humiliating and torturing their fellow human beings. As long as they choose to deceive themselves about who really deserves their hatred, however, and as long as they go on feeding that hatred in symbolic form instead of experiencing and resolving it within the context of their own childhood, their hunger for revenge will remain insatiable.”63 Abstract techniques like yoga and meditation only serve to repress our anger and fear, even more, making us completely dependent on mantras or daily affirmations every time our anger gets triggered. Don’t you think it would be better to ask where our anger and fear come from? What are their real roots? And how can we deal with the causes and resolve them for good? Wouldn’t it be nice to free up your energy for real living, instead of wasting it on tools that seem helpful but only keep your anger and fear repressed?"

If you like to read more about my experience with a mob of sociopaths also read my blog post Experienced Knowledge 

Everyone Wants to Change the World

Comments on a Facebook post

Sylvie Imelda Shene: He is wrong. Mothers and fathers unresolved childhood repression harm children, just as Alice Miller wrote in her article The Ignorance or How we Produce Evil:

"Every dictator torments his people in the same way he was tormented as a child. The humiliations inflicted on these dictators in adult life had nothing like the same influence on their actions as the emotional experiences they went through in their early years. Those years are “formative” in the truest sense: in this period the brain records or “encodes” emotions without (usually) being able to recall them at will. As almost every dictator denies his sufferings (his former total helplessness in the face of brutality) there is no way that he can truly come to terms with them. Instead he will have a limitless craving for scapegoats on whom he can avenge himself for the fears and anxieties of childhood without having to re-experience those fears."

Laura Camp Tell it like it is!! Awesome post!

Sylvie Imelda Shene: Yes, Alice Miller tells it like it is, based on facts and evidence, but very few people want to hear it and everyone just wants to change the world without looking at the root causes -- without dealing with the root causes everything we do will just be a superficial and temporary fix --- and this is why humanity remain endless stuck going from one extreme to the other.

Donald Trump and his Followers Are Stuck in the Diaper Stage

Most people chase money, thinking that when they have a big house and X dollars, they will be happy, but it never happens because even with all the money in the world, they still won't be happy! I see this clearly! Read my blog, Addiction and Greed, which is the Same Thing.

You are right, and I know I can’t force people to open their eyes to see and feel. Still, it’s wrong of me to apologize for being a seeing and a feeling person and making the truthful statement that people are emotionally blind. 

All of my life, people tried to make me feel my perceptions were wrong and that I was crazy, so they could go on with their lies and illusions, as usual, to keep their own repression intact -- and I doubted myself most of my life, but I no longer doubt myself. I will not let anyone change my perceptions or my reality so people can stay comfortable and keep their illusions. Also, can you read Truth or Illusion?

Donald Trump Voters Are Stuck in the Diaper Stage -- chasing the pacifier of “money” to keep repressing childhood pain. Most of them voted for Trump because they think he will protect their money and make them more money! Yes, in the short term, they might put some extra money in their pockets, but in the long term, Trump, just like George Bush, will take it all back and more, and will be really bad for the economy and destroy many lives! Money alone, without facing our childhood repression, is just another illusion. We live in an Upside Down World 

The words below by Alice Miller explain beautifully why so many "intelligent" and "talented" people fall for politicians like Donald Trump. The capacity to resist a totalitarian state has nothing to do with intelligence, but with the degree of access to our true self.

"Just as in the symbiosis of the "diaper stage," there is no separation here of subject and object. If the child learns to view corporal punishment as "a necessary measure" against "wrongdoers," then as an adult, he will attempt to protect himself from punishment by being obedient and will not hesitate to cooperate with the penal system. In a totalitarian state, which is a mirror of his upbringing, this citizen can also carry out any form of torture or persecution without having a guilty conscience. His "will" is completely identical to that of the government.

Now that we have seen how easy it is for intellectuals in a dictatorship to be corrupted, it would be a vestige of aristocratic snobbery to think that only "the uneducated masses" are susceptible to propaganda. Both Hitler and Stalin had a surprisingly large number of enthusiastic followers among intellectuals. Our capacity to resist has nothing to do with our intelligence but with the degree of access to our true self. Indeed, intelligence is capable of innumerable rationalizations when it comes to the matter of adaptation. Educators have always known this and have exploited it for their own purposes, as the following proverb suggests: "The clever person gives in, the stupid one balks." For example, we read in a work on child-rearing by Grünwald (1899): "I have never yet found willfulness in an intellectually advanced or exceptionally gifted child" (quoted in Rutschky). Such a child can, in later life, exhibit extraordinary acuity in criticizing the ideologies of his opponents--and in puberty, even the views of his own parents-- because, in these cases, his intellectual powers can function without impairment. Only within a group--such as one consisting of adherents of an ideology or a theoretical school--that represents the early family situation will this person, on occasion, still display a naïve submissiveness and uncritical attitude that completely belie his brilliance in other situations. Here, tragically, his early dependence upon tyrannical parents is preserved, a dependence that--in keeping with the program of "poisonous pedagogy"-- goes undetected. This explains why Martin Heidegger, for example, who had no trouble in breaking with traditional philosophy and leaving behind the teachers of his adolescence, was not able to see the contradictions in Hitler's ideology that should have been obvious to someone of his intelligence. He responded to this ideology with an infantile fascination and devotion that brooked no criticism.”

From the book For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-rearing and the Roots of Violence, pages 42 and 43

If you would like to read more about my experience with a mob of sociopaths, also read my blog post, Experienced Knowledge. 

Donald Trump Provides the Scapegoats People Desperately Need

Donald Trump provides the Scapegoats people desperately need, and this is another reason he won.

Comments on the video 'What Everyone Who Voted for Trump Needs to Hear' used to be on YouTube, but they are no longer there. 

Sylvie Shene: The real root of Hillary’s loss lies in the repressed hate of the children they once were at their own mothers; NOW, transferred into all other women, their mothers are protected from their hatred, but all other women will have to pay the price for the wrongs done to them when defenseless little boys and girls. Unless people become conscious of their repressed hatred at their own mothers and consciously feel it within the context of their own childhood --- no matter what, a woman runs for the highest office of the land --- will never be the right woman, and people will always say: not that woman!! Here are the roots of sexism and misogyny. Read more here

MSW From Luskin: Sylvie Shene, thanks for sharing another perspective on this!

Greg Lindsay: Who has repressed hatred for their mother? Is this the opposite of the Oedipus complex?  I don't follow.

Sylvie Shene: Freud was on the right track at first, but could not deal with society's backlash and created the theory of the Oedipal complex that blames the child instead of the parents to be accepted by the masses. Read more here

Robert Leis: How about Hillary being the most corrupt person to run for President? She is a lying, hateful, pos....just look how Arkansas voted....you know the State the Corrupt Clintons governed and where they are from.

Sylvie Shene: How about the fact that the most corrupt person might be staring at you in the mirror, and you’re projecting yourself into Hillary! All politicians have to lie to an extent and tell the lies that people like you like to hear; otherwise, they would not get anywhere. Trump is a much bigger liar but he gets a pass because he has a penis!? Trump provides the scapegoats people like you desperately need to take revenge for the wrongs done to them when they were defenseless little boys and girls.

“Every ideology offers its adherents the opportunity to discharge their pent-up effect collectively while retaining the idealized primary object, which is transferred to new leader figures or to the group in order to make up for the lack of a satisfying symbiosis with the mother. Idealization of a narcissistically cathected group guarantees collective grandiosity. Since every ideology provides a scapegoat outside the confines of its own splendid group, the weak and scorned child who is part of the total self but has been split off and never acknowledged can now be openly scorned and assailed in this scapegoat. The reference in Himmler’s speech to the “bacillus” of weakness, which is to be exterminated and cauterized, demonstrates very clearly the role assigned to the Jews by someone suffering from grandiosity who attempts to split off the unwelcome elements of his own psyche. In the same way that analytic familiarity with the mechanisms of splitting off and projection can help us to understand the phenomenon of the Holocaust, acknowledging the history of the Third Reich helps us to see the consequences of “poisonous pedagogy” more clearly. Against the rejection of childishness instilled by our training, it becomes easier to understand why men and women had little difficulty leading a million children, whom they regarded as the bearers of the feared portions of their psyche, into the gas chambers. One can even imagine that by shouting at them, beating them, or photographing them, they were finally able to release the hatred going back to early childhood. From the start, it had been the aim of their upbringing to stifle the childish, playful, and life-affirming side. The cruelty inflicted on them, the psychic murder of the child they once were, had to be passed on in the same way: each time they sent another Jewish child to the gas ovens, they were, in essence, murdering the child within themselves.” Read more here

"Just as in the symbiosis of the "diaper stage," there is no separation here of subject and object. If the child learns to view corporal punishment as "a necessary measure" against "wrongdoers," then as an adult, he will attempt to protect himself from punishment by being obedient and will not hesitate to cooperate with the penal system. In a totalitarian state, which is a mirror of his upbringing, this citizen can also carry out any form of torture or persecution without having a guilty conscience. His "will" is completely identical to that of the government.

...The need to split off the disquieting parts of the inner self and project them onto an available object. The child’s great plasticity, flexibility, defenselessness, and availability made it the ideal object for this projection. The enemy within can, at last, be hunted down on the outside. Peace advocates are becoming increasingly aware of the role played by these mechanisms, but until it is clearly recognized that they can be traced back to methods of child raising, little can be done to oppose them. For children who have grown up being assailed for qualities, the parents hate in themselves can hardly wait to assign these qualities to someone else so they can once again regard themselves as good, “moral,” noble, and altruistic. Such projections can easily become part of any Weltanschauung..

Now that we have seen how easy it is for intellectuals in a dictatorship to be corrupted, it would be a vestige of aristocratic snobbery to think that only "the uneducated masses" are susceptible to propaganda. Both Hitler and Stalin had a surprisingly large number of enthusiastic followers among intellectuals. Our capacity to resist has nothing to do with our intelligence but with the degree of access to our true self. Indeed, intelligence is capable of innumerable rationalizations when it comes to the matter of adaptation. Educators have always known this and have exploited it for their own purposes, as the following proverb suggests: "The clever person gives in, the stupid one balks." For example, we read in a work on child raising by Grünwald (1899): "I have never yet found willfulness in an intellectually advanced or exceptionally gifted child" (quoted in Rutschky). Such a child can, in later life, exhibit extraordinary acuity in criticizing the ideologies of his opponents--and in puberty even the views by his own parents-- because in these cases his intellectual powers can function without impairment. Only within a group--such as one consisting of adherents of an ideology or a theoretical school--that represents the early family situation will this person, on occasion, still display a naïve submissiveness and uncritical attitude that completely belie his brilliance in other situations. Here, tragically, his early dependence upon tyrannical parents is preserved, a dependence that--in keeping with the program of "poisonous pedagogy"--goes undetected. This explains why Martin Heidegger, for example, who had no trouble in breaking with traditional philosophy and leaving behind the teachers of his adolescence, was not able to see the contradictions in Hitler's ideology that should have been obvious to someone of his intelligence. He responded to this ideology with an infantile fascination and devotion that brooked no criticism.”
From the book For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-Rearing and the Roots of Violence, pages 42 and 43 Me too, just like Hillary, I was the target of a smear campaign in an upscale gated community where I worked for nine and a half years. After I published my book, I spoke the truth about the human mind. This community is a micro of the world, so I know any truly genuine person will be attacked and forced out of the job, just like me, and replaced with a mindless shill/crony sociopath. Read more here

Sylvie: Hi J, are you as sad as I am that Donald Trump won the elections? I'm worried about the world when a man triggers people's repressed emotions to manipulate them to vote for him and get elected. I'm afraid we might be starting World War 3.

J: Oh, Sylvie, I am beyond sad - he has spread so much hatred and preyed on people's fears and given them validation.  I am also so very sad that so many people voted for him - how could any woman stand up for this man?  It is beyond my comprehension.

Sylvie: The hatred for women from other women is what makes me the saddest. Read more here
Also, read my blog America Was Blinded by Sexism and Misogyny to Vote for a Fascist.

If you would like to read more about my experience with a mob of sociopaths, also read my blog post, Experienced Knowledge. 

America Was Blinded by Sexism and Misogyny to Vote for a Fascist

Hi A,

I’m sad that you cannot see the plight of women like me. Yes, I was respected at Sxxxxxxxr for nine and a half years, as long as I didn’t pose a threat, but the moment I tried to make my mark in the world, I was attacked viciously by people, just like the ones you helped elect to the highest office on this land! 

You will never know what it’s like having a mob of sociopaths conspiring to steal your freedom and destroy you just because I was a woman, and they thought I needed to be put in my place! How dear of me, a little woman trying to make a mark in this world and change the world! 

Then, a year later, that happened again at CM, that a sociopathic guy is believed over me because a little woman like me could not possibly be speaking the truth, and is accused of being a liar, just like Hillary was constantly accused of being a liar on the world stage. However, Donald Trump could lie and say the most outrageous things and still be elected! Makes me sick to my stomach! 

Once again, after losing more than half of my income a year ago, when I just had a raise of $400 a month and I was starting to breed a little easier financially, I was forced out of my job, and once again and I'm the one losing $400 a month and plus over $3000 bonus around the holidays, putting me in a tough spot financially again, they can steal my money. Still, they can’t steal my joy, my freedom, and my knowledge of the human mind. What I have can't be bought with money or stolen, and that's what pisses the sociopaths off.

You seem not to have any sympathy for the fact that, for me to exercise my right to body autonomy as a young girl, I had to go underground and put my life in danger. You said, but you did it! Yes, I did it because I was lucky that no one found out; otherwise, I would have been forced against my will to carry a pregnancy to term and give life to a soul to suffer for the rest of his or her life.

I would have had the same fate as my grandmother, who was a single mother and died at a young age, and left my father an orphan, because I know without a doubt that if I had not had an abortion, I would not have been able to cope, like my grandmother. I would have died at a young age, and my child would have been an orphan, just like my father, and the whole scenario of my father would have been repeated. 

The reason I was lucky was because a young woman I knew when she was in her twenties while I was 16 or 17 called me in a panic that she had missed her period and was afraid she might be pregnant and asked if I could help her get an abortion and of course I said I would, back then I used to tell my friends that an unwanted pregnancy is like cancer if not treated right away it has no cure! 

Anyway, my sister Elza, who was always spying on me and stalking me, was listening to our phone conversation in the other room, so she found out about this young woman looking to have an abortion, and she followed me and contacted this young woman's parents, who were very Catholic. Everyone found out that she was pregnant and was forced to have the child.

A big mess! The young man she proclaimed to be the father denied being the father. In the late 1970s, there was no DNA test to prove fatherhood. The child was probably already 3 or 4 years old just before I went to London. I was called to be a witness in court to give a testimony that I knew this young woman was seeing  X man at the time of conception, and that he could be the father of the little boy. It was a big mess because my sister could not help herself from meddling in other people’s lives to make sure other people were born to have the same fate as hers!

I never went to court because I left for London and never heard from this young girl.  I can only imagine how fxcked this child, now an adult, might be!  Because of this young woman, I learned I could not talk freely on the house phone because my sisters could be listening. When I was making the appointment to see a midwife for my abortion, I made sure to use pay phones on the streets where I knew no one was listening, so no one could find out, and I would not have the same fate as this young girl and my grandmother. 

No woman anywhere in the world should have to go underground, put her life in danger, and face persecution for exercising her right to bodily autonomy. A woman who is not free to make her own decisions is a slave and will breed more slaves. Rich women will always be able to travel to get the best abortion care that they need, but poor women who can’t afford to travel will be fxcked under leaders like Donald Trump and forced to be a slave and an incubator. “Yeah, but then some women won’t be able to get an abortion?” Stahl asked. “No, it’ll go back to the states,” Trump replied. And if some states ban it? “Yeah, well, they’ll perhaps have to go — they’ll have to go to another state,” Trump said.” Read more here

I will always fight for poor, young, vulnerable women and never forget what could have happened to me if I had not been lucky in succeeding in having the abortion I needed. Still, you don’t seem to have any sympathy for the young woman I once was and for all other young women around the world in the same place I once was, being forced into motherhood against their will, because if you did you would never be able to vote for a man promising to make it difficult for women to get abortions and that women that get abortions should be punished! But I guarantee you that until women are truly free, no man will ever be truly free either! It starts with women, and as long as you vote for men or even women into power who want to control and repress other women, men will never be free either! Your priorities are all screwed up!

You also said that new people need to be born! I sense a little fear here! Are you afraid that not enough white people are having children and running out of white people in this world?! And losing your white privilege?! So you want women to be incubators?

You are driven by unresolved, repressed fears of the child you once were to vote for people that will repress other people the same way you were repressed as a little boy, and vote for people that will reenact the scenarios you fear most and try to avoid.

You might like reading the blog I wrote on November 5, 2015, titled  Psychological Warfare

"There's no such thing as good and bad people. The property manager used to always come to the gate and badmouth the residents she didn’t like because they would stand up to her, she loved to label them as bad people, and I used to think to myself: You are not better than them. There are unconscious or repressed people acting as if personality, pretending to be good people who can turn against you at any time and do their evil acts behind closed doors without witnesses. Some unconscious people can't act or pretend, and they do their evil acts in the open and usually get caught and end up in jail. And of course, a few of us have taken responsibility for our childhood repression and come from a place of honesty and authenticity." Read more here 

Put the Blame for Hillary’s Loss Where It Belongs

The real root of Hillary’s loss lies in the repressed hate of the children they once were at their own mothers, NOW transferred into all other women. Their mothers are protected from their hatred, but all other women will have to pay the price for the wrongs done to them when they were defenseless little boys and girls. Unless people become conscious of their repressed hatred of their own mothers and consciously feel it within the context of their own childhood --- no matter what, a woman runs for the highest office of the land --- will never be the right woman, and people will always say: not that woman!! Here are the roots of sexism and misogyny. "......If any man had faced one-tenth the scrutiny, bias, or disrespectful treatment that Hillary Clinton has endured with grace and class, such a man would be curled up in the fetal position, crying like an infant. I watched Hillary Clinton, campaign manager Robby Mook, her amazing volunteers, and HRC Super Volunteers work harder and with more fire and heart than I could imagine. But at the end of the day, too many (white and wealthy) people voted for a corrupt, clueless xenophobe because of …penis.
Yup. That is the sum total of my analysis. Penis." Read more here

Women Of The World: It’s Time To March On Washington

"TWENTY years ago, I argued with a newspaper colleague that America would elect a black president before it would elect a woman. “No way!” he said, “Racism is still endemic in the US.” It shocked me that an educated white man had no trouble identifying America’s pervasive racial hatred but was completely blind to the misogyny that ran just as deep, if not deeper.

Two decades and eight years of a black male presidency later, that same blindness has helped elect an unashamed bigot to govern the most powerful nation in the world. Of course, white racists voted for Donald Trump on Nov 8, but it was white misogynists who won it for him – male and female; Americans who would rather elect a white man with a flawed character and no experience than a white woman who is arguably the most qualified candidate ever to run for president. ...Let’s not be fooled by predominantly white male commentators who would have the rest of us believe the Trump vote had nothing to do with gender or race, that it was ALL about the absence of a credible Democratic candidate (presumably a male one); a backlash against the new liberal establishment, the political elite (so they vote for the old conservative elite instead?). Of course, there were other factors involved, but blaming Hillary for those who voted for such a profoundly inadequate candidate is perverse. ...It is time to take a stand as never before: shout it from the rooftops of social media, protest in the streets, become politicized. It is time to think about who your friends are and whose side they are on. It is time to be brave and defend our freedoms. It is time for women to march on Washington, and it is time for men to stand with us.

they say the darkest hour is just before the dawn. I believe it. Trump and his followers have brazenly thrown down the gauntlet to women and men across the world. The monster is no longer invisible; it spews venom from every Twitter feed and newsstand across the globe and threatens our children’s futures. Will we stand by as he grabs us, our daughters, our mothers, our sisters, our wives, by “the pussy” or will we grab him by the balls right back?

On January 21, 2017, the day after Trump’s inauguration, women and men from all over America and the world will unite for the Women’s March on Washington – an inclusive protest for anyone, anywhere, who supports women’s rights. It will start and finish at the Lincoln Memorial, from 10am to 5pm, where the great Martin Luther King Jr gave his stirring I Have a Dream speech in 1963. The world will see that the dream is still very much alive — and this time, it is for women." 

Thank you for listening.

Much love,

Sylvie

Also, read my blogs

White supremacists urge trolling of Clinton supporters to suicide

The Roots of Most People's Hate for Hillary Clinton

The Roots of Sexism and Hate for Women

Also, read the article below:

"Trump will change the country for women in ways that won’t be easy to reverse. His Supreme Court nominees will shape our laws for decades; the coming gerrymandering of districts in 2020 will make statehouses and Congress even more favorable to Republicans. Abortion rights, access to affordable birth control, Title IX, equal pay—it’s hard to imagine any of them faring well under the new regime. Why do you think Trump chose Mike Pence? We now have as vice president a man who tried to shut the federal government down over funding for Planned Parenthood; who, as governor of Indiana, pushed through a bill permitting discrimination against LGBTQ people; who tried to force women to hold funerals for aborted or miscarried embryos. Conditions will be worse for the women already most disadvantaged: women of color, Muslim and immigrant women, low-income women, and the disabled (did you know that Trump has promised to slash funding for services for people with disabilities?). If Roe v. Wade is overturned, or if the Supreme Court reverses itself and allows restrictions like the ones recently struck down in Texas, then getting a safe abortion will be hardest for women who can’t afford to travel to states where it remains legal. If social services are gutted, low-income women—disproportionately women of color—will be the ones with no place to go if they’re abused or homeless. If Obamacare is repealed, there goes medical care—including no-co-pay birth control and mammograms—for millions of women.
But white women, even if prosperous, may also find that their pedestal is shakier than they thought. Those women have unwanted and catastrophic pregnancies, too. They, too, are abused by partners, sexually assaulted, passed over for good jobs, or have LGBTQ kids they love who may soon be deprived of their civil rights. Those white women, like the rest of us, now live in a country where the public humiliation of women has the White House seal of approval. They might not like having their divorces and their discrimination suits and their rape cases decided by judges and juries marinated in those views."
Read more here 

Here is another great article, Garrison Keillor: Whoa, The Joke Came True. I could not have said better myself. Yes, the swamp was elected because a lot of people are so emotionally blind. "He promised the swamp would be drained. Was elected, said "Rain!" and it rained --- Eighty thousand Trump voters in three states gave us this man, which goes to show you how much damage a few people can do. It takes 12 million to provide health care 3 million to run the public schools, but 19 men with box cutters can turn the country upside down and, empower the paranoid right, and create the pretense of wars that will cost billions and kill a million people and give us a permanent army of blue uniforms yelling at us to take off our shoes and put our laptops into plastic trays." Read more here

Evil is born anew with each new generation.

If you would like to read more about my experience with a mob of sociopaths, also read my blog post, Experienced Knowledge 

Using Abortion as Hook to Manipulate

F, 

Thank you for writing. You are right: an unintended pregnancy means it was not desired, and every time someone is born that is not desired, planned and wanted for the rights reasons, it’s a very sad and tragic beginning indeed and because most people cannot face and feel the tragedy of their own history, they hang onto their illusion of love and this explains the hypocrisy that governs our world. 

This is why I fight so hard for the women’s right to choose to carry or not to carry a pregnancy to term and give birth to a new being. 

I am also doing all I can to remove the stigma from abortion, so if women find themselves pregnant with an unintended pregnancy --she will not feel pressure -- to carry a pregnancy to term and give birth to a new being she does not want and feels ready to love and in this way prevent from more unwanted children from being born to suffer-- and as an adult -- because of these disowned and unresolved childhood injuries will become openly and aided by hypocrisy a danger to society, allowing this insanity and suffering to go on until the end time. 

You are right many women unconsciously have a baby just to trap the father and takes advantage of the stigma of abortion in our society to force fatherhood on her partner, but sadly these women don’t realize that they are really trapping themselves and the innocent new being they bringing into the world to use as a tool of manipulation, because in most cases men just walk away and the worse it can happen to them, is that they have to throw money at what they see as a problem, triggering the mother’s unresolved repressed rage of the child she once was, because the instrument she created “the child” to use as a tool of manipulation didn’t work and now feels trapped and blames the child for her plight and starts taking it out on the child that has nothing to do with it, and this is another reason why I want to do all I can to remove the stigma from abortion and put the stigma where it belongs, because if it should be a stigma somewhere, it should be on those that bring children into the world to unconsciously to use and exploit.

Abortion can also be used by women to unconsciously manipulate the man in their lives. I know a case of a young woman with a lot of unresolved childhood injuries who became pregnant, and her partner did not feel ready to be a father and talked her into having an abortion, which she did. Still, then she used unconsciously the abortion, to make her partner feel guilt and have control over him by accusing him that he had turned her into a murderer and blaming all her problems on the abortion, of course society stigma on abortion gives unconscious very sick women reins to use abortion as the hook to control men, and then to alleviate their guilt feelings they decide to have a child, conceiving a child out of guilt instead out of love to use as a medication to alleviate their guilt feelings, by many hours talking with this lady it was revealed how she used the abortion as the hanger to hook on the partner’s unresolved guilt feelings from his own childhood traumas to have control over him. 

Were you trapped into fatherhood? Anyway this young man was very angry at his, now ex-partner, for deceiving him, because besides using his unresolved guilt feelings to control and manipulate him, she also had several affairs during their 20 years of marriage and confessed to never have loved him, but that she married him to take revenge on him, she also came to see clear that she was taking revenge on this man for the wrongs done to her by her own father when she was defenseless little girl, of course, today they are divorced, because their marriage was not real and they decide to become real and not live a lie anymore, but he is very angry and feeling all his anger at his ex and of course she deserves some of his anger, because she deceived him too, but who deserves most of his anger is his mother, because his mother was the first women that deceived him and used him as a tool of manipulation to force his father to marry his Mather, if he had a mother that truly loved him and never used him as an instrument of manipulation to get what she wanted, he would not ever had fallen in love in the first place with a very damaged women that would exploit and deceive him like his mother did when he was a defenseless little boy, as a child he could not leave his disturbed mother and father, but as an adult can gather the courage to face and feel the tragedy of his own childhood and leave a woman standing in symbolizing his mother, but he still has difficulty in feeling his feelings within the context of his own childhood and stays stuck, because as long the repressed feelings are not seen and felt within the context of our own childhood, they blind us and they drive us into repetition compulsion to reenact our childhood drama sooner  or later in one form or another and sadly I am seeing him repeating or reenacting his childhood drama all over again with a new woman he is getting involved with.

I agree that we need to do all we can to help young girls become conscious of their childhood traumas before having children, so they do not pass their own traumas into their children, just like Alice Miller says: “This incapacity to love from the outset occurs much more often than we imagine. It is not the fault of the mothers, but of society's ignorance. In a progressive maternity ward, a woman having her baby should have access to enlightened assistance in perceiving and becoming fully aware of the body memories within her. This would prevent her from passing on the traumas of her own childhood (abandonment, violence, and so on) to her baby."

"If the repression stays unresolved, the parents’ childhood tragedy is unconsciously continued on in their children.” Alice Miller (The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self) Page 23

I don’t think it’s a good idea to make vasectomy mandatory or force it on young men, because I don’t think anything should be forced on anyone. Still, I do agree it’s a great idea. I should encourage young men to volunteer for the procedure to protect themselves from women who might try to get pregnant to trap them into fatherhood and to prevent unintended pregnancies altogether!

Men are not included in the punishment for abortions for the same reason the bible asks for women to be stoned for adultery and men go scot-free. Because these laws and the bible were written by men!!! 
Yes,  it's about control, and abortion is the perfect hook.

Yes,  it's about control, and abortion is the perfect hook.

Also, read my answer to S in the blog titled  Removing the reins of guilt

Liberating the Child Within

The words written by Alice Miller in the answer below to one of her readers could not be truer! We can preach all we want about the dangers of child abuse, but until people liberate the child within of the strong repressed bitterness, the compulsion to repeat will continue in one form or another sooner or later. People that can't consciously feel the authentic repressed feelings of the child they once were, within the context of their own childhoods, are dangerous to themselves and others and can't be trusted, because sooner or later in one form or another will be driven by the repressed legitimate hate towards their parents or parents substitutes to use others as scapegoats or poisonous container to temporarily relieve repressed hatred. I rather be alone than being someone's scapegoat! 

"Yes, it would be wonderful if we could initiate a powerful movement towards more awareness. In fact, by understanding the emotional needs of children we would come to understand OURSELVES too, the basis of our existence, of our own Being as responsible adults. But this is impossible without liberating the strong bitterness of the abused child we hide deeply in our bodies because of the fears of our parents. Unfortunately, ALL religions FORBID this emotional liberation, they rather allow wars, some of them even consider wars as sacred because they have never understood that feeling the legitimate rage PROTECTS us from acting out in wars and criminality. The last are organized exactly by people who DON’T feel."
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The Past Always Catches up with Us

People that preach that focusing on the past is a waste of time and unhealthy and  we only need is to forgive and forget, they don’t realize that we can’t live in the present and look forward into the future without first looking into our past and face and feel the repressed feelings of the child we once were. As long the repressed feelings of our painful past remain repressed, we will be driven by them to unconsciously and compulsively reenact the painful dramas of the past. They are clueless that they have fallen into a trap that makes them feel better temporally and superficially and now unconsciously are alluring others into their traps, so they can feel superior and be in power over others to protect them from having to face and feel their painful past and they don't realize they are stuck in the past. This is how cult leaders are born. Until we face our past, the past will keep catching up with us in our relationship with others, especially with our children, if we have children.