Empathic people are natural targets for sociopaths - protect yourself

Since writing this blog, exactly a year later, my ex-boss, who the property manager recruited to do her dirty work, killed himself in a standoff with the local police after robbing a bank on March 11, 2016, that by coincidence was my birthday! So, the property manager does have blood on her hands after all, because I know without a doubt, if she had not started this psychological warfare against me, he would still be alive – he was her collateral damage – when people start wars someone always gets hurt or killed!!! I was her target to destroy, but when was one of her helpers to lose his mind and self-destruct, everyone involved became silent, and now is a big cover-up that involves the FBI, the US Marshals, and the media. It's a shame he was not strong enough to stand up to do the right thing and let himself become a puppet of the property manager -- he paid a high price for it. Puppets never have a good end. If it was me, the little woman to commit a crime my name and face would have been splashed all over the news stations! And then all probably go on TV talking about how disturbed the little woman was -- to discredit me and my book -- and make a name for themselves by standing on my head. And all probably say that you need God in your life, my ex-boss was a Mormon, a man of God, but he was the one to lose his mind, but now is a big cover-up. I could see their dirty games and traps so clearly.
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https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2017/09/big-cover-up-by-sociopaths-at-my-ex-job.html

The words below express exactly what happened to me at my last job of 9 and half years. Yes, I was targeted because, I am real, sensitive and I can see people clearly.

 "Often empaths are targeted by sociopaths because they pose the greatest threat. The empath is usually the first to detect that something is not right and express what s/he senses.
As a consequence, the empath is both the sociopath's number one foe and a source of attraction; the empath's response and actions provide excellent entertainment for sociopaths, who use and abuse people for sport.

The world of the empath is not for the faint-hearted. In the context we are discussing, empaths often find themselves up against not only the sociopath but often a flock of apaths as well. Apaths are afforded pole position in the sociopath's intrigues.
But this prime spot comes at a price for, in what we call the "sociopathic transaction", the apath makes an unspoken Faustian pact with the sociopath, then passively or otherwise participates in the cruel sport. The usual set-up goes like this: the empath is forced to make a stand on seeing the sociopath say or do something underhand. The empath challenges the sociopath, who straight away throws others off the scent and shifts the blame on to the empath. The empath becomes an object of abuse when the apath corroborates the sociopath's perspective.

The situation usually ends badly for the empath and sometimes also for the apath, if their conscience returns to haunt them or they later become an object of abuse themselves. But, frustratingly, the sociopath often goes scot free.

Sociopaths rarely vary this tried-and-tested formula because it virtually guarantees them success.

Sociopaths draw in apaths by various means: flattery, bribery, disorienting them with lies. A sociopath will go to any lengths to win her game. The best way to illustrate the interplay, and the ease with which apaths are pulled in, is by another short story. Sociopaths draw in apaths by various means: flattery, bribery, disorienting them with lies. A sociopath will go to any lengths to win her game. ...Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse in which false information is presented in such a way as to make the target doubt his/her memory and perception. Psychologists call this "the sociopath's dance". It could involve denial or staging of strange events." Totally, they tried to make me doubt myself with their lies.
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Comments from the sharing of this post on Facebook:

Monica Chelagat Have seen this clearly in my experience.

Sylvie Imelda Shene I am sorry Monica, you too were the target of a sociopath at the workplace. Sadly this happens often everywhere. Healthy people appreciate me and I do well until a sociopath targets me...

Monica Chelagat Now you know better avoid even at cost of resigning. I had no choice in Rome as a foreigner with a family. I tapped on the finest strategies my intelligence prompted me to try to reach the end which I managed but at verge of my limits. I was lucky to have had enough insight to identify the 'evil' at a pretty early stage so I learned how to ' dodge the punches! at the end I was too hurt and exhausted all the same. They got into my privacy in my neighborhood with huge cubicle spray painting writing on a wall at the entrance gate where I live for a lifetime. A complex of over 200 apartments. I shared that incident dating back almost 4 years ago recently here on FB on my timeline.

Sylvie Imelda Shene Monica, it's hard to avoid sociopaths, because they are among us everywhere, acting as if personality, pretending to be nice people, they are wolves in sheep's clothing, especially in the workplace. I would have been able to stay under the sociopaths' radar if I never had written and published my book. As long they had the illusion that I was a nobody below them, I was safe. They all were curious about my book because they knew I used to be a topless dancer and they thought, they would get a lot of juice sexy stories, but instead my book burst their illusions and they knew I could see through their facades and they became too uncomfortable with me, that they started their campaign to destroy me and discredit me, in order to manage their fears of exposure. But by going after me, they exposed themselves. My book is a mirror and they didn't like their own reflections. How dear of me, an ex-topless dancer and a gate attendant put such a strong mirror in front of them and remove their masks.


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I Guess the Shoe Fits Him

Since writing this blog, exactly a year later, my ex-boss, who the property manager recruited to do her dirty work, killed himself in a standoff with the local police after robbing a bank on March 11, 2016, which, by coincidence, was my birthday! So, the property manager does have blood on her hands after all, because I know without a doubt, if she had not started this psychological warfare against me, he would still be alive – he was her collateral damage – when people start wars someone always gets hurt or killed!!! I was her target to destroy, but when was one of her helpers lost his mind and self-destructed, everyone involved became silent, and now it is a big cover-up that involves the FBI, the US Marshals, and the media. It's a shame he wasn't strong enough to stand up and do the right thing, and let himself become a puppet of the property manager -- he paid a high price for it. Puppets never have a good end. If it were me, the little woman to commit a crime, my name and face would have been splashed all over the news stations! And then all probably go on TV talking about how disturbed the little woman was -- to discredit me and my book -- and make a name for themselves by standing on my head. And all probably say that you need God in your life. My ex-boss was a Mormon, a man of God, but he was the one to lose his mind, and now it's a big cover-up. I could see their dirty games and traps so clearly.
Read more in the link below:  

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2017/09/big-cover-up-by-sociopaths-at-my-ex-job.html

Hi X,

The attached pictures express exactly what I am dealing with.

I went over their response, and it is full of lies. First of all, during the nine and a half years I worked there, I was allowed to use my laptop for personal use when not busy, and they gave me their own WiFi password so I could use it on my laptop. I also used my personal laptop for work because some residents communicated with me by email to let me know about their visitors, and I had to access their emails on it. 

Also, the downtown office communicated with me by e-mail, so I had to use my personal laptop. 

I did my private work off duty after work, which is not illegal, and the residents gave me permission to check out their gate keys. Matter of fact, I was there today, cat-sitting for a resident, and I checked out their gate key to enter their house. And as you know, I was house sitting and living at S before working for S at the gate, so it's not a secret that I did private work in the community. 

P driven by jealousy, is the bigger instigator, M B is opportunistic, and joined in on the plotting to bring me down because he wanted my job. I am starting to think MB was hired to come to work for me to spy on me and harass me emotionally to destroy me; he was part of their plotting! They are totally evil.  

Anyway, P also, over the years, did some private work for residents, like house-sitting. And some residents over the years expressed to me how pissed they were because she did it on company time, which is true, and there is proof of that: she checked out residents' house keys while she was working on company time. I never checked out residents' keys in company time.  I was never violent with anyone, and I am sure they have no evidence. Yes, I did express my concerns in writing that I was dealing with sociopathic behavior and you read that email, but never confronted anyone, and I didn't call anyone a sociopath in person. 

I am not sure what to do next, because I am dealing with very bad people; their goal is to destroy me and discredit me so they can keep their own lies and illusions intact.

Mr. K, the resident in the chair of security that I shared with the article about sociopaths, thought he might help me. They say in the letter that he assumed I was calling him a sociopath. I guess the shoe fits him! Because as we NOW know, he was in on the plotting too. 

Once, while back, he came to the gate, and I had the TV on, it was on the CNN channel that was talking about terrorism in the Middle East, and he mentioned to me that terrorism is solved by bombing the Middle East, including women and children -- kill everybody! And I told him: They think the same thing about us -- unless the whole society deals with the roots of what breeds terrorism here and abroad, always will be terrorism, no matter how many wars we create and how many people we kill. Isn't this the talk of a sociopath?!  

When they created the abusive, messy package-receiving procedure, Mr. K came to the gate, and I tried to explain to him how flawed their system was, but he said to me, "I am trying to protect you!" 

Trying to protect me my ass. I knew he was lying then, and now there is proof. 

Every time someone tells me they are trying to protect me, it really means: I am trying to control you and repress you to manage my own fears. Just like I said in my blog They are Allergic to my Aliveness:  “And like my family, they are using the same tactics by saying that is to protect me, but what they want to do is to put me in my place and show me who is in charge to manage their own fears and keep their own image, repression and little illusions intact. Just as Alice Miller says: “Conditioning and manipulation of others are always weapons and instruments in the hands of those in power, even if these weapons are disguised with the terms education and therapeutic treatment.” For Your Own Good, P. 278

I shared the same article with another resident, and this person didn’t assume I was calling her a sociopath, as you know, XX was not part of the plotting to destroy me. As you see by XX’s words below, she thanked me for sharing the article about sociopaths with her.

“This [article] is very interesting, and thank you.  I started telling you this morning that when she told ME who she would distribute to, that irritated me… I may also mention that in the 25 years I've been an S resident, we have never had our guard gate run as efficiently as it is at the present time.  I will ask him if the evidence of package abuse supports the severe response by the board  --- how many requests for a tighter process has he received from residents -- etc.  I will also suggest that since this action defies sanity, there could possibly be another motive somewhere lurking in the shadows.  It simply makes no sense unless they have info I've not received!  Well, we'll see -- hugs, X”

I hope all is well with you, and thank you for your attention.

Sylvie

Comments on Facebook from the sharing of this post:

Monica: Too awake Sylvie ... that 'I am trying to protect you rings a bell too'! It is sickening to hear it from the foul mouth of an enemy, a wolf in sheep's skin. Expose them here Sylvie. I do it for other readers who may be going through that silent hell! Nature will take its course, as I believe every action has a price or a prize.

Sylvie: Yes, I am too awake... I have no doubt that they will sooner or later meet their own future and destiny. When old age sets in, and they no longer can run from themselves and use scapegoats for transference effect to temporarily relieve their own repression and death gets close, they will be forced to face their own repression/hell, and it's not going to be pretty for them, and no amount of money will save them. I have worked in healthcare and witnessed a few rich people go through their own repression/hell before dying, and I used to say to myself: money can't save you now. I would not want to be close by and witness these people's hell. I really feel sorry for them.

Monica: am certain too. Have known people in my lifetime from their younger years to old age, and can see the difference between the decent ones, who age gracefully, and the unscrupulous and unrepentant ones, who age 'painfully', some looking empty and lost. This is the price and prize. It is a pity not all are capable of understanding this life's logic. The sooner one comes to terms with this logic, the sooner one regains mental health and the greater the strength in dealing with any challenges ahead. You are fine, Sylvie, and I'm pleased I 'met' you thanks to Alice Miller's writings. I got to your blog and your wonderful book! :-)

Sylvie: and no amount of money will save them. I have worked in healthcare and witnessed a few rich people go through their own repression/hell before dying, and I used to say to myself: money can't save you now. Me too. I am grateful for Alice Miller's writing that helped me face and resolve my own repression and freed me to live my authentic life and to die free with a clear conscience.

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Which Professions Have the Most Psychopaths/sociopaths?

10 Careers With The Most Psychopaths – Is Your Profession On This List? -

I knew the media and journalists would have to be on this list. Where there is power most likely there's a psychopath/sociopath.
"In today’s turbulent world, many people may wonder if the person with whom they work just might be the next psychopath to make news headlines.
Psychopaths aren’t necessarily axed murderers, as Time noted. The clinical diagnosis refers to those who have shallow emotions or who lack empathy and guilt, are coldhearted, superficial, manipulative, impulsive, or irresponsible.
And with that definition, it seems the corporate world has its fair share. ....."
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Open Letter to the Media

Since writing this blog, exactly a year later, my ex-boss, who the property manager recruited to do her dirty work, killed himself in a standoff with the local police after robbing a bank on March 11, 2016, that by coincidence was my birthday! So, the property manager does have blood on her hands after all, because I know without a doubt, if she had not started this psychological warfare against me, he would still be alive – he was her collateral damage – when people start wars someone always gets hurt or killed!!! I was her target to destroy, but when was one of her helpers to lose his mind and self-destruct, everyone involved became silent, and now is a big cover-up that involves the FBI, the US Marshals, and the media. It's a shame he was not strong enough to stand up to do the right thing and let himself become a puppet of the property manager -- he paid a high price for it. Puppets never have a good end. If it was me, the little woman to commit a crime my name and face would have been splashed all over the news stations! And then all probably go on TV talking about how disturbed the little woman was -- to discredit me and my book -- and make a name for themselves by standing on my head. And all probably say that you need God in your life, my ex-boss was a Mormon, a man of God, but he was the one to lose his mind, but now is a big cover-up. I could see their dirty games and traps so clearly.
Read more in the link below:  

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2017/09/big-cover-up-by-sociopaths-at-my-ex-job.html

My name is Sylvie Imelda Shene and I think I have a story for you.

For nine and a half years, I worked as a gate attendant manager for a wealthy community in Scottsdale. I was a hard worker and an easygoing supervisor, and I always had a smile on my face. In fact, I got along so well with some of the residents that they often invited me to parties and hired me to watch their homes and pets whenever they went away, sometimes for six months at a time. I always handled myself with integrity and a great attitude, and it was greatly appreciated by many of the residents.

Last summer, I published a book about how to recover from childhood trauma, using my own experiences growing up poor in rural Portugal, working as a topless dancer and discovering the groundbreaking works of psychologist Alice Miller. My book, A Dance to Freedom, is part memoir and part self-help book and I’m proud to say that it’s touched many people around the world.

Working on this book was a labor of love for me. I’m not a wealthy person, but I managed to save and raise (through the crowdfunding site Indiegogo) the money I needed to get the book out into the world. It took me five years and four ghostwriters to get it right, but it’s all been worth it.

Many of the residents in the community where I worked supported me in this endeavor, and I’m sincerely grateful for their love and support. Others, however — including the property manager of the community and the security company that employed me — weren’t as enthusiastic about the project. They all started treating me differently after I published my book. They couldn’t stand the fact that someone who they considered inferior — a guard gate manager — could get a real book out into the world and understand the human condition so much that their own lies and illusions were exposed.

It was this combination of jealousy and fear that led a group of sociopaths to begin a campaign of emotional harassment against me. One resident returned the book she bought from me with toilet paper in it. The property manager started a campaign to get rid of me and, with the help of some board members, created a messy package receiving procedure they hoped would frustrate me into quitting. And a new employee who wanted my job called other guards at their homes to see if they had anything bad to say against me. The sociopathic behavior ramped up almost daily, and after six months they decided to fire me without cause.

It saddens me that someone can actually lose their job for exercising their right to freedom of speech. I think what my former employer and co-workers did was a disgrace, and I want as many people to know about it as possible.

If you think you can help me get my story told, I’d really appreciate it.

Thanks so much for your consideration.

Sincerely,

 Sylvie Imelda Shene

Thank you, Jekaterina. Connected stories like mine need to be told, but sadly most people in the media are only interested in disconnected stories of victims without resolution they can exploit for pure sensationalism, they are like vultures. And they feel threatened by connected stories like mine because stories like mine make people look in the mirror to question themselves, their own parents and people in power position standing in symbolizing their parents. AND WHO WANTS TO DO THAT? Most people are still scared little children afraid of being punished if they dare to speak the naked truth and expose the real state of affairs.

David Lynch, thank you for your comment, but the reason people in the community read my book was that they all knew I used to be a topless dancer!!! They didn’t have a problem with that!!! smile emoticon They thought it was cool!! Some used to be customers and they knew me from the club! I was treated like I was a star!!! I was very well known in this town! I had a good reputation for being honest and a clean dancer. They thought they were getting a disconnected story, like many out there, but my story is connected with true liberation at the end. My book is a mirror and they didn’t like their own reflections!!! They rather destroy me than face their own painful truths. They were uncomfortable with my knowledge and my understanding of the human mind that I could see through their masks and facades. Just like Donald Warner Parker wrote in his review of my book: “What more can you give a person and this world, for that matter, than sharing your own hard-earned wisdom, experience and truth through telling your own story and holding up a mirror for others to capture their own reflection in it, while at the same time providing the vital information of Alice Miller’s body of work to free themselves from their denial and repression and the illusions that keep it intact. It is so true what you wrote in your Chapter False Hope on page 126, “Ultimately I realized that self-help books and 12-step programs offer a false hope at best. I’m convinced that people who put their faith in these types of things — or in psychologists, psychiatrists or any other cult leader for that matter — are avoiding the real causes of their problems and are just masking their symptoms instead. The seductiveness of the quick fixes offered by traditional treatments and therapies is very powerful and even if they don’t work they offer at least temporary relief from the fear and pain of our abused younger selves.” You make it crystal clear in your book how Ed Sweet played such an important role in the development of it and how grateful you are to him. Once again my Best Wishes to you and Congratulations to you as well on your accomplishment of your passionate mission to get to people the vital and lifesaving information, guidance and companionship they need to free themselves of lies and illusions.” 

You are right they rather replace me with someone that is emotionally blind and mindless shill/crony they can feel superior to and they can fool.

David Lynch: Sylvie, you got set up to fail. This is a common tactic employed by power-hungry narcissists for getting rid of employees that they no longer want around by creating a "no-win situation" where everything you do right is ignored and minimized and everything you supposedly do wrong is magnified, exaggerated and maximized. You were unlucky enough to get targeted by a lying sociopath who saw an opportunity to get rid of you once he learned from your book that you had a history of working as a stripper. Armed with that knowledge it would then have been very easy for him to rally up an army of mindless supporters by telling lies that you were also involved in prostitution/porn etc. He character-assassinates you by painting you as a deadly threat to the morality and good name of their supposedly perfect little community and all his sheeple follow along like the mindless hypocrites that they are cos they want to please Big Daddy. He gets rid of you because you are independent and he has no control over you and replaces you with a mindless shill/crony who will be loyal to him and thereby increase his power-base. The moral is always be very careful about who you share your story with because there are vicious narcs everywhere just waiting for any opportunity they can get to do harm to other people. I don't see your story getting any media attention though because it is so depressingly common. However, if you felt strongly enough about it then you could use (or misuse) social media to anonymously let the world know about what this man is really like.

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Tough Decision to Make

Since writing this blog, exactly a year later, my ex-boss, who the property manager recruited to do her dirty work, killed himself in a standoff with the local police after robbing a bank on March 11, 2016, that by coincidence was my birthday! So, the property manager does have blood on her hands after all, because I know without a doubt, if she had not started this psychological warfare against me, he would still be alive – he was her collateral damage – when people start wars someone always gets hurt or killed!!! I was her target to destroy, but when was one of her helpers to lose his mind and self-destruct, everyone involved became silent, and now is a big cover-up that involves the FBI, the US Marshals, and the media. It's a shame he was not strong enough to stand up to do the right thing and let himself become a puppet of the property manager -- he paid a high price for it. Puppets never have a good end. If it was me, the little woman to commit a crime my name and face would have been splashed all over the news stations! And then all probably go on TV talking about how disturbed the little woman was -- to discredit me and my book -- and make a name for themselves by standing on my head. And all probably say that you need God in your life, my ex-boss was a Mormon, a man of God, but he was the one to lose his mind, but now is a big cover-up. I could see their dirty games and traps so clearly.
Read more in the link below:  

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2017/09/big-cover-up-by-sociopaths-at-my-ex-job.html

I have a tough decision to make. Moving forward is being pulled back into the harem of the sociopaths or narcissists. And do nothing is letting them get away with their lies and attempt to soul murder.
The attached pictures express exactly what I am dealing with.

Love and Freedom Experienced in Childhood that Turns us into Compassionate Adults

Since writing this blog, exactly a year later, my ex-boss, who the property manager recruited to do her dirty work, killed himself in a standoff with the local police after robbing a bank on March 11, 2016, that by coincidence was my birthday! So, the property manager does have blood on her hands after all, because I know without a doubt, if she had not started this psychological warfare against me, he would still be alive – he was her collateral damage – when people start wars someone always gets hurt or killed!!! I was her target to destroy, but when was one of her helpers to lose his mind and self-destruct, everyone involved became silent, and now is a big cover-up that involves the FBI, the US Marshals, and the media. It's a shame he was not strong enough to stand up to do the right thing and let himself become a puppet of the property manager -- he paid a high price for it. Puppets never have a good end. If it was me, the little woman to commit a crime my name and face would have been splashed all over the news stations! And then all probably go on TV talking about how disturbed the little woman was -- to discredit me and my book -- and make a name for themselves by standing on my head. And all probably say that you need God in your life, my ex-boss was a Mormon, a man of God, but he was the one to lose his mind, but now is a big cover-up. I could see their dirty games and traps so clearly.
Read more in the link below:  

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2017/09/big-cover-up-by-sociopaths-at-my-ex-job.html

Sylvie, I read your book & I just wanted to share my thoughts with you.  I loved the title, a dance to freedom.  Dancing to me is liberating as well as dealing with those things within ourselves that need liberating. I totally agree with you on how childhood trauma shapes our life.  But I don’t think everyone’s way of learning this is the same.   You had some very tortuous weeks and dealt with a lot of pain very tumultuously at once.  

I discovered mine over a period of years, slowly and gently by the things and people that I surrounded myself by.  I think people are in our lives at the time they are in our lives and our adversities as well as our joys shape us into the beautiful people we are.  I don’t discount the wrongs you were done at the hands of your family & that famous dr. Phil type doctor but they made you the beautiful and compassionate person you are now.  

The desire you have to help others is kind.  My daughter is coming to peace with her traumas by being a Catholic missionary.  I think the discoveries of oneself can be had in the beauties of our beliefs.   Because they are strong and with self-discovery, you find what satisfies your life.  I know you are an atheist but the belief is not where the falsehood lies.  I believe that “God dwells in us, like us.”  But I don’t discount my daughter's avenue of self-discovery.  Her journey is not mine, or mine hers or yours.  I just wanted to share my thoughts, I enjoyed your book, thank you for writing it. K

K,

Thank you for writing to share your thoughts and thank you for reading my book. I am glad you enjoyed reading it. I like to respond in more detail to your letter, but my time is very limited right now so I will do it when I have some free time.
Again thank you for reading my book and take good care,
Sylvie

P.S you might like reading the exchange between me and Donald below, it shows that is the love and the freedom experienced in childhood and finding a true enlightened witness as an adult that helps us heal from traumas, and became courageous adults with kind souls and not the traumas we suffered.

“Dear Donald, your words are touching me deeply. I have no doubt that thanks to having my mother’s protection and full attention in those few earlier years, and her letting me play and explore freely, that’s why I was able to preserve my soul/feelings. And from this short experience of freedom in my childhood was the bases that gave me the strength to rebel and stand up to those trying to repress me and murder my soul/feelings, this experienced freedom was my compass in life to guide me to find a true enlightened witness like Alice Miller, so I could really fully liberate myself and this time preserve it. I did not include this memory in the book, but it just came to mind: I remember my older sisters being mad at my mother when I was a teenager and blaming her for me being so difficult and rebellious, they told her it was her fault because she had let me run wild as a small child when I was left alone with her in the village. Thank goodness for those few wild years in the village. Those were the best years of my childhood.

Sadly these words in your comment above could not be truer: Thank you for writing. It’s nice to connect to another soul capable of feeling and seeing: “(otherwise they remain in the darkness of compulsive repetition without an enlightened witness) and that this is a life and death matter in a world that is rapidly plummeting to its destruction on every conceivable level due to the individual and collective global repression and denial of childhood traumas and how this is being manifested in our child-abusing and neglecting, animal enslaving and slaughtering and earth-raping death culture of addictions, narcissism, and materialism. Anything, however well-intentioned it may be, that evades the central reality of Alice Miller’s message is only inadvertently, hypocritically, and unconsciously contributing to the above. Your book is a beacon of light that points the way to true liberation through your own story and how Alice Miller’s body of work enabled you to find your “dance to freedom.” Despite all that you had had to absorb and defend against from your family and culture there was something very true, vital and pure(* see below) inside you to have been able to so clearly recognize the truth in Alice Miller’s work and to be able to take her message to heart, fully embracing it and applying it to your own life and becoming your own enlightened witness with her assistance. Sincerely,” Donald Warner Parker” Read more here