No Child Should Ever Feel Unwanted

Hi Sylvie,

I finally received your book after making the mistake of ordering it under my husband’s Amazon account. He finally asked me about it and I reordered it under mine. Guess he didn't want to pay for it. Lol! Couldn't wait for it to arrive, so I was bummed when I thought I had ordered it and was on its way when it wasn't really. I read it all except I didn't do the worksheets. I get so busy with my 4 kids and I fear leaving paper around because I have a snoop husband who finds reads and keeps everything that he can use against me. It’s really awful!! I can use my phone notes but then fear that he has access to that to. So here I am at the library writing you.

First, I congratulate you on your book and finally reaching a point of discovery and finding who you are. A place I would love to arrive at soon. I’m 45 and have suffered a huge emotionally depressed internal battle most of my life. And really I’m sorry for all you have experienced in your life. But I love how you stood up for yourself when you felt you really needed to. I love your independence in a way, how you got to do all kinds of things etc. I worked retail and was very good at it because I love people and am very friendly. But have fortunately and unfortunately been a stay home mom since my oldest son was born almost 20 years ago. And I cannot find a job anywhere. Sucks!!

I wish I can tell you my story in person so much easier. I’m going to make it short. Just really looking to see what your opinion is.

I was rejected and emotionally abandoned by my mother and my siblings learned from her. I was the youngest of four. Our father died when I was four.  I was born breech and I overheard my mother talking to friends telling them the story and she made a comment “I hope she’s ok", this was the deadly seed that was planted in my soul that made me the person I am today. What made it worse is how she treated me. She ignored me, doing her cleaning, sewing, cooking, TV watching, etc. She would cook and take care of me but what I needed from her was her acceptance and love and validation that I was normal. I would say to her "why don't you talk to me" in Spanish my mother language. So I felt I was smart, creative, etc. but if my mother said this then something must be wrong with me. I grew up feeling unwanted and defective. They never diagnosed me for anything not even to this day. I think that I might have a language issue where I struggle to find the right words to say. I have learned recently also that maybe since I was under such anxiety that perhaps my brain didn't develop normally. Anyway this is my issue. I became a little sexualized.  My best friend's neighbor and her brother, we would get in the closet and this boy would show us his private. I had a moment with a girl cousin where we explored and kissed. I remember seeing a book that my mother had laying around on pregnancy and not sure what impact it had but it made an impression. Also, a lady friend of my mother was rubbing my back and she went around and fondled my breast. I have a hard time remembering when things happened in what order but I was 7 to 9 years old. So I have also read that this can be a problem with kids who are emotionally neglected or abandoned. Have you heard this being true? I need to read the Alice Miller books seriously. So fast forward. At 20 years of age I had graduated high school and really didn't keep in touch with friends. We moved away to another town and met my husband. He was amazing at the first meeting. We worked together at a grocery store. He’s the pharmacist and I was bigger than Deli. I thought he was perfect. He makes good money, he’s Christian and he likes me. Well, six months into dating he tells me he has something to tell me. He said he got in trouble for doing something stupid, he exposed himself and he was a sex offender. I was like what is that hey am not perfect either so I ignored this red flag and accepted his marriage proposal. I didn't tell anyone because I didn't think my mother or siblings thought I could do better. Immediately after marrying him, he changed. He ignored me sound familiar? Well since I was used to that I took the emotional abuse. He’s insane, a lot of narcissistic characteristics, is a psychopath, controlling, on and on. I tried divorcing him but got scared not knowing if I would have kids and a house. Anyways just all sad. My family found out about all this recently but they don't take responsibility for anything. They tell my family I’ve made poor choices, I’m disrespectful, etc. I just feel that since I was emotionally and physically rejected be my mom that all these things happened to me. So now I’m having to learn about this and understand that am not all to blame i hope. It’s literally staring my life over again. I lost friends, can’t find a job, my family is distant, Still with this husband that says he’s sorry and wants to stay together. I so don't love him at all. I just go with it since I have nowhere else to go.

Thanks for your help my emotions are all mixed up in my head and I am sure it comes out in writing. If you have any recommendations let me know. I’ve been to a therapist but it’s usually a waste of time.

Take care, I.

Dear I,

Sorry it took me so long to answer your letter, but I was the target of sociopaths/narcissists at work and it has been a difficult time for me.

Thank you for writing and sharing your story. I am glad to hear my book is a helping witness to you. I am so sorry you are in a very painful emotional prison. Your path to liberation has to be well planned and be on the lookout for opportunities when it’s the right time for you to make a move and leave your husband’s emotional prison. Read all Alice Miller’s books to help you get strong emotionally and get help in developing skills to help you find a job.

I too, like you, went through most of my life feeling unwanted and this is an awful feeling that no child should ever go through. It took me most of my life to heal this wound. Of course, the neglect you suffered as a small child made you vulnerable to being sexually abused by others. These words by Alice came to mind: “A small girl will follow to the cellar the neighbour who promised her chocolate, although she may feel uncomfortable. But if she learned from the beginning of her life that her feelings didn’t matter and that she should obey every adult person, even if she feels resistance, she will follow the neighbour. She will behave like the Little Red Riding-Hood in the fairytale. And she may later suffer in her relationship with men for her whole life if she didn’t work out this early experience in the cellar. However, if she does, she will no longer be in danger of becoming a victim of rape or any other kind of molestation.” From the book “Free From Lies” page 234  somehow through most of my life I listen to my feelings and if I felt something was not right I would plan my move and for the right moment to escape a bad situation.  Today the child in me is very much loved by the adult in me and I will never allow anyone to abuse me in any way again.

Feel free to write me anytime.

Best wishes,

Sylvie

 

Narcissists or Sociopaths Want to Destroy Anything that is Good

Since writing this blog, exactly a year later, my ex-boss, who the property manager recruited to do her dirty work, killed himself in a standoff with the local police after robbing a bank on March 11, 2016, that by coincidence was my birthday! So, the property manager does have blood on her hands after all, because I know without a doubt, if she had not started this psychological warfare against me, he would still be alive – he was her collateral damage – when people start wars someone always gets hurt or killed!!! I was her target to destroy, but when was one of her helpers to lose his mind and self-destruct, everyone involved became silent, and now is a big cover-up that involves the FBI, the US Marshals, and the media. It's a shame he was not strong enough to stand up to do the right thing and let himself become a puppet of the property manager -- he paid a high price for it. Puppets never have a good end. If it was me, the little woman to commit a crime my name and face would have been splashed all over the news stations! And then all probably go on TV talking about how disturbed the little woman was -- to discredit me and my book -- and make a name for themselves by standing on my head. And all probably say that you need God in your life, my ex-boss was a Mormon, a man of God, but he was the one to lose his mind, but now is a big cover-up. I could see their dirty games and traps so clearly.
Read more in the link below:  

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2017/09/big-cover-up-by-sociopaths-at-my-ex-job.html

Comments on the shared picture from the Facebook page Stop the Narcissist Now.

M: But it's all your fault right? In the end, they blame YOU for your own ''naufrage'' and they savor watching YOU suffer and flattened on the ground like a ''crèpe''. They even step all over YOU again and again because they are sadistic assholes. How could they ever know what it feels like to save your own soul when you don't have one, to begin with? Soulless beings always end up alone. YOU won't. YOU can leave everything behind but you can never abandon your soul. This is how I resume it: SOUL=Knowledge is power NO SOUL=Ignorance is bliss. Soulless people will give you the silent treatment, keep you isolated, drag you into darkness so they can control you. Certain death is the only result if you stay with these ''Beauty Stealers". Soulful people, on the other hand, will share their experiences, shine a light on you, hold your hand and help you reach autonomy in a creative way. Infinite possibilities are the resultant forces here. Thank you, Sylvie, for being there and offer guidance so the soulful humans of this world can understand that they are not alone.

Sylvie Imelda Shene Thank you, M, for your encouraging and thoughtful comment. I am happy to be here. Sometimes, I do ask myself, why I bothered working so hard to write my book and risk being attacked by sociopaths or narcissists. But then I get letters from people telling me how my book has been a big support to them and I am reminded that my hard work was not in vain. Most people that write to me do it in private, because they still afraid to do it in public and of course I understand their fears, because if we still are dependent on our abusers in some way, it can be very risky to express our true self in public. Just look what happened to me at my last job, they stole my job, but they can’t steal my soul, but they did try very hard to murder my soul. They were hoping, especially the property manager to discredit me and prove I was a fraud and soulless like them. They never had seen a real genuine person like me and they thought was not possible in this world. We have to have a healed and whole soul before going public with our stories otherwise the sociopaths and narcissist people in our world will take great pleasure in bringing us down and if possible murder our souls.
Every word you wrote is so true!

M: Sylvie, as long as you will spread Truth, Compassion, Acknowledgement, and Love, soulful people will find their way to your book and follow your lead. It takes immense courage to lead the way through an emotional desert. A great leader will respect the pace of other souls and empower each individual through autonomy in order to reach unicity. Alice Miller was your leader as she was for many others. You're holding the torch now. It's a priceless responsibility. Trust me, they will follow...

 Sylvie Imelda Shene Dear M, thank you for your very encouraging words and for posting Martin Luther King's quote! I needed to read that! His words could not be truer! While I was working on my book with my co-writer Ed Sweet, I mentioned to him a few times that I might lose my job for writing and publishing my book, because I was very well aware that most people that acted nice towards me were trying to buy my love and attention and they were not real and my book might trigger their own repression and come after me with avenges. So I was not choked by their actions and when they fired me without a cause and it has crossed my mind also that some crazy person, like a pro-lifer, might really try to kill me. But I would never let that fear stop me from doing what my soul calls me to do. I rather die young with my soul than die old and soulless.

Also, read my blog post Experienced Knowledge

Reasons Sociopaths and Narcissist people make you a Target

Since writing this blog, exactly a year later, my ex-boss, who the property manager recruited to do her dirty work, killed himself in a standoff with the local police after robbing a bank on March 11, 2016, that by coincidence was my birthday! So, the property manager does have blood on her hands after all, because I know without a doubt, if she had not started this psychological warfare against me, he would still be alive – he was her collateral damage – when people start wars someone always gets hurt or killed!!! I was her target to destroy, but when was one of her helpers to lose his mind and self-destruct, everyone involved became silent, and now is a big cover-up that involves the FBI, the US Marshals, and the media. It's a shame he was not strong enough to stand up to do the right thing and let himself become a puppet of the property manager -- he paid a high price for it. Puppets never have a good end. If it was me, the little woman to commit a crime my name and face would have been splashed all over the news stations! And then all probably go on TV talking about how disturbed the little woman was -- to discredit me and my book -- and make a name for themselves by standing on my head. And all probably say that you need God in your life, my ex-boss was a Mormon, a man of God, but he was the one to lose his mind, but now is a big cover-up. I could see their dirty games and traps so clearly.

Read more in the link below:  

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2017/09/big-cover-up-by-sociopaths-at-my-ex-job.html

Yes, I was the target of sociopaths and narcissistic people at my last job for all of the above reasons.
The property manager insane jealousy was the fuel that lighted up the fire and for the fact, they knew I could see through their facades, and to conceal their abuse, especially towards their own children, and of course, because they didn't agree with me.

Destroying me was her goal and is mad that she was not successful.

 

  Yes, they tried very hard to make themselves appear the victims and vilifying me, but most of the residents know PP, S board, and S did me wrong.

Petra Helm’s comment below on the quote above could not be truer. This was exactly how i was treated at my last job. They showed me how they were treated when they were defenseless little children. I have compassion for the little children they once were but I have no compassion for the adults they have become. As adults, they have choices to look and search for the answers why they are the way they are. With my book, I had put in front of them the truth they need and they still chose to get out of their way to hurt me. That's consciously choosing evil.

“This is exactly the way how many parents, teachers, and adults, in general, treat children in order to control them and prevent them from showing their emotions, encouraged by many professional "experts" in education. Letting babies cry it out when they reclaim nothing but their basic survival needs, walking away and ignoring toddlers when they throw a tantrum or punishing children with "time outs". As adults, these children often become narcissists who punish people who they can't manipulate or control by simply ignoring them and trying to make them feel worthless, just as they were treated by their elders. One of the meanest and most offensive ways of treating a person, which reveals a lot about the damage and the childhood drama of the offenders and hurts the victim who often tries nothing but to help them see precisely this very problem.” (PH)

Germanwings Plane Crash

Since writing this blog, my ex-boss, whom the property manager recruited to do her dirty work, killed himself in a standoff with the local police after robbing a bank on March 11, 2016, which by coincidence was my birthday! So, the property manager does have blood on her hands after all, because I know without a doubt, if she had not started this psychological warfare against me, he would still be alive – he was her collateral damage – when people start wars, someone always gets hurt or killed!!! I was her target to destroy, but when one of her helpers lost his mind and self-destructed, everyone involved became silent, and now it is a big cover-up that involves the FBI, the US Marshals, and the media. It's a shame he was not strong enough to stand up for what was right and let himself become a puppet of the property manager -- he paid a high price for it. Puppets never have a good ending. If it were me, the little woman to commit a crime, my name and face would have been splashed all over the news stations! And then all of them will probably go on TV talking about how disturbed the little woman was — to discredit me and my book — and make a name for themselves by standing on my head. And all probably say that you need God in your life, my ex-boss was a Mormon, a man of God, but he was the one to lose his mind, but now it's a big cover-up. I could see their dirty games and traps so clearly.
Read more in the link below:  

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2017/09/big-cover-up-by-sociopaths-at-my-ex-job.html

Germanwings Plane Crash

The co-pilot’s mental illness is without a doubt connected to his childhood. Still, I have no doubt that sociopaths in his present life maliciously and purposely regressed him into the state of a helpless child. They triggered the repressed overwhelming strong feelings of the child he once was, and without an enlightened witness in his present life to help him understand what was happening to him and the real roots of his despair, helpless and powerless; the repressed emotions of the child combined with the feelings from the present betrayal by the sociopaths in his present life, it drove him to do an evil act, but the truly evil people are the sociopaths in his present life that drive vulnerable people like him to do the evil acts for them. I have no doubt the sociopaths in his present life are in secret enjoying his destruction and all the destruction of the innocent people he took with him.

Recently, in my last job, I was the target of a mob of sociopaths that tried every trick in the book, with elaborate schemes to regress me into my childhood wounds so they could declare me mentally unstable and have a reason to fire me. Still, because I resolved my childhood repression and no longer blinded by the repressed emotions of the child I once was, I could see very clearly through their schemes and mind games. They were not able to regress me; they reminded me of the pain I suffered as a child, but they could not regress me, and when they ran out of tricks, they just fired me without a cause. 

Sociopaths are cowards and pure evil because they manipulate others with their mind games and schemes into doing evil acts for them. They block the healing truth that can free a person from their childhood emotional prisons, they are not interested in healing themselves and supporting others' healing, their goal is to covertly and behind seductive lies and the illusion of love and help to destroy as many souls as possible.

Sociopaths or narcissist people their goal is to drive their victims to destructive acts and don’t care about Collateral damage it might cause to innocent people, even if they are hurt in the process, actually they hope they too are injured and the public is watching, so they can play the victim role and manipulate the public to their side. 

They love to play the victim role to garner others' sympathy and manipulate them into giving them what they want. They are masters at doing this, just like Marie France Hirigoyen said in her book Stalking the Soul: “...When the victim loses control, the abuser simply injects a small dose of provocation and contempt to obtain a reaction and later reproaches her for it. If, for example, the reaction is anger, he makes sure that everyone sees it. On occasion, an outsider might even feel compelled to call the police. One even sees cases of abusers egging their victims on: “Poor thing, you can’t expect anything from life; I don’t know why you haven’t jumped out the window!” It’s easy after that for the abuser to make the victim a mental case. The victim needs to act, but because she is blocked by the hold over her, she can only find her freedom in an extreme gesture. To an outsider, any impulsive action, especially a violent one, is considered pathological. The person's reaction to provocation appears to be responsible for the crisis. Guilt in the eyes of the abuser; she seems like the aggressor to outsiders, who don’t understand that she can no longer live trapped in a horrible situation. Whatever she does, she can’t set herself free: if she reacts, she is responsible for starting the conflict, and if she doesn’t react, the deadly stalking of her soul continues. 

As he drives his victim to destruction, the abuser gets that much more pleasure from pointing out her weakness or unleashing her violence. He makes her feel debased and unworthy. Depending on her reaction, she is described as temperamental and neurotic, alcoholic, or suicidal. The victim feels defenseless and tries to justify herself as if she were, in fact, guilty. The abuser’s pleasure doubles: he bamboozles or humiliates his victim and subsequently rubs her nose in her humiliation. While the victim dwells on her guilt, the abuser benefits from the situation, making sure to cast himself as the victim. Justification becomes impossible when nothing is said and no reproach is made. Desperate to find a solution to this horrifying impasse, the victim may be tempted in turn to use innuendo and manipulation. The relationship then becomes ambiguous: who is the abuser and who the victim?   The ideal outcome for the abuser is to succeed in making the other “evil,” which transforms the evil into something more normal because it is now shared. He wants to inject the other with what is bad in him. To corrupt is the ultimate goal. His greatest satisfaction lies in driving his target to destructive acts or, in a larger framework, leading several individuals to finish each other off.” Read more here 

I read that the co-pilot, Andreas Lubitz, was seeing a psychiatric doctor and taking medication. Visiting a psychiatrist was his biggest mistake. What he needed was a true, enlightened witness to help him see and understand the real roots of his depression and despair, and give him support to consciously feel the repressed feelings within the context of his own childhood.

Usually, you don’t find a true enlightened witness within the so-called “mental health professionals.” in most cases, they are the most repressed people I know, hiding behind their degrees, seductive theories, and illusions, deceiving themselves and others and aggravating their patients' conditions.

When society is going to wake up, that, in the long run, medication doesn’t help people resolve childhood repression, but actually makes it worse. Just as Alice Miller says in an answer to one of her readers about the Virginia Tech shooting. “The Virginia Tech story is a flight from its own history with the help of drugs. They only help to flee and not to see. I am so glad for you that you dared to feel.”

Totally! The co-pilot took the final flight from his history by taking his own life and taking with him 150 passengers.

The quotes below from the Facebook page Stop the Narcissist Now are so true!

Yep! This was one of the big reasons I was targeted by the sociopath who was the property manager at my last job, because I am a truly happy and free person, but she was not able to destroy me, and she didn't walk away wearing my skin. But instead, her true self was revealed.

 

Hurting and destroying others' lives is their painkilling drug. It's an addiction that keeps their own childhood repression intact. Just like I wrote in my book A Dance to Freedom, page 118: "... as long our pain remains repressed, we will unconsciously and compulsively do to others what was once done to us."

Yes, this reversed illusion was their plan. I could see so clearly the illusion they were trying to create, and that's why I'm here to talk about it! I guess they didn't believe me when I said in my book A Dance to Freedom: Your Guide from Lies and Illusions. That I don't fall for illusions anymore! Free at last! They wanted to discredit me and my book, but they just gave more evidence that what I wrote in my book is the whole truth based on facts and evidence.

All malignant narcissists, sociopaths, and psychopaths love to play the victim card and make their real victims appear as the abusers, but when their targets can see clearly the games they play and articulate the real situation of what is really taking place, the targets of the malignant narcissists cease to become victims. 

To read more about my experiences with the mob of sociopaths or narcissists at my last job, read my blog, Experienced Knowledge.  
  

Forgiveness is a Trap

Since writing this blog, exactly a year later, my ex-boss, who the property manager recruited to do her dirty work, killed himself in a standoff with the local police after robbing a bank on March 11, 2016, which by coincidence was my birthday! So, the property manager does have blood on her hands after all, because I know without a doubt, if she had not started this psychological warfare against me, he would still be alive – he was her collateral damage – when people start wars, someone always gets hurt or killed!!! I was her target to destroy, but when one of her helpers lost his mind and self-destructed, everyone involved became silent, and now it's a big cover-up that involves the FBI, the US Marshals, and the media. It's a shame he wasn't strong enough to stand up for what was right and let himself become a puppet of the property manager -- he paid a high price for it. Puppets never have a good ending. If it were me, the little woman to commit a crime, my name and face would have been splashed all over the news stations! And then all of them will likely appear on TV, discussing how disturbed the little woman was -- to discredit me and my book -- and make a name for themselves by standing on my head. And most people would probably say that you need God in your life. My ex-boss was a Mormon, a man of God, but he was the one to lose his mind, and now it's a big cover-up. I could see their dirty games and traps so clearly.
Read more in the link below:  

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2017/09/big-cover-up-by-sociopaths-at-my-ex-job.html

Recently, I was the target of a mob of sociopaths or narcissists at my work, and because of it, I lost my job of 9 and a half years. A very religious coworker started to preach to me how I needed to forgive them for the harm they had caused me. I left his presence feeling sick to my stomach because he was discarding my hurt feelings and repressing me with his preaching about forgiveness. I felt so nauseous that I just wanted to throw up. Read more here.

Preaching forgiveness is another form of abuse that keeps us stuck in their emotional prisons. You have to allow yourself to feel all of your authentic feelings caused by the trauma we suffered from the sociopaths/narcissists. Feelings don't cause harm to ourselves or others; only actions can cause damage, but the repression of our authentic feelings will harm us and keep us stuck in the emotional prison. Forgiveness is a lid that represses our feelings, and as long as our feelings are repressed we stay stuck.

Just as Alice Miller wrote: They work under the influence of various interpretations culled from both Western and Oriental religions, which preach forgiveness to the once-mistreated child. Thereby, they create a new vicious circle for people who, from their earliest years, have been caught in the vicious circle of pedagogy. This, they refer to as "therapy". In so doing, they lead them into a trap from which there is no escape, the same trap that once rendered their natural protests impossible, thus causing the illness in the first place. Because such therapists, caught as they are in the pedagogic system, cannot help patients to resolve the consequences of the traumatization they have suffered, they offer them traditional morality instead. In recent years I have been sent many books from the United States of America describing different kinds of therapeutic intervention by authors with whom I am not familiar. Many of these authors presume that forgiveness is an indispensable condition for successful therapy. This notion appears to be so widespread in therapeutic circles that it is not always called into question - something urgently needed. For forgiveness does not resolve latent hatred and self-hatred but can cover them up in a very dangerous way. “ Alice Miller Read more here

The words below by Alice Miller about forgiveness are also very true. From my experience admitting the truth is a must, but we must also feel the whole range of our repressed emotions within the context of our own childhood, otherwise, the compulsion to repeat or reenact our childhood drama will continue endlessly one way or another. “…preaching forgiveness is not only hypocritical and futile but also actively dangerous. It masks the compulsion to repeat. The only thing that can protect us from repetition is the admission of the truth, with all its implications. Once we know as accurately as possible what our parents did to us, we are no longer in danger of repeating their misdeeds. Otherwise, we will do so automatically, and with all the tenacity at our disposal, we will resist the idea that we can --- and indeed must --- break off our infant attachment to parents who abused us if we want to become adults and live of our own in peace. We must give up the confusion we lived in as infants, the confusion stemming from early attempts to understand abuse and give it a meaning. As adults we can do that; we can learn to understand how morality in therapy gets in the way of the healing of the wounds we carry around inside us.” From the book “The Body Never Lies: The Lingering Effects of Cruel Parenting” by Alice Miller page 152.

"Only unflinching realization of one’s own past reality, of what really happened, can break through the chain of abuse. If I know and can feel what my parents did to me when I was totally defenseless, I no longer need victims to befog my awareness. I no longer need to reenact what happened to me with the help of innocent people because now I KNOW what happened. And if I want to live my life consciously, without exploiting others, then I must actively accept that knowledge.
..Am I saying that forgiveness for crimes done to a child is not only ineffective but actively harmful? Yes, that is precisely what I am saying. The body does not understand moral precepts. It fights against the denial of genuine emotions and for the admission of the truth to our conscious minds. This is something the child cannot afford to do, it has to deceive itself and turn a blind eye to the parents’ crimes in order to survive. Adults no longer need to do this, but if they do, the price they pay is high. Either they ruin their own health or they make others pay the price – their children, their patients, the people who work for them, etc." -- Alice Miller

Sociopaths and Narcissists Make sure they get to the Crowd Early

Since writing this blog, exactly a year later, my ex-boss, who the property manager recruited to do her dirty work, killed himself in a standoff with the local police after robbing a bank on March 11, 2016, that by coincidence was my birthday! So, the property manager does have blood on her hands after all, because I know without a doubt, if she had not started this psychological warfare against me, he would still be alive – he was her collateral damage – when people start wars someone always gets hurt or killed!!! I was her target to destroy, but when was one of her helpers to lose his mind and self-destruct, everyone involved became silent, and now is a big cover-up that involves the FBI, the US Marshals, and the media. It's a shame he was not strong enough to stand up to do the right thing and let himself become a puppet of the property manager -- he paid a high price for it. Puppets never have a good end. If it was me, the little woman to commit a crime my name and face would have been splashed all over the news stations! And then all probably go on TV talking about how disturbed the little woman was -- to discredit me and my book -- and make a name for themselves by standing on my head. And all probably say that you need God in your life, my ex-boss was a Mormon, a man of God, but he was the one to lose his mind, but now is a big cover-up. I could see their dirty games and traps so clearly.
Read more in the link below:  

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2017/09/big-cover-up-by-sociopaths-at-my-ex-job.html

The quotes below from the Facebook page Stop the Narcissists Now articulate exactly what the sociopaths/narcissists at my last job did to me and why they target me. They made sure they got to the crowd earlier and isolate me. It was pure evil!

Today, 1-7-22, I came across this article  5 Reasons Why Arrogant People Find Success

"Arrogance is a pretty despicable attribute. In spite of this, it persists. The evolutionary perspective can help us understand why. Arrogant people have a suite of attributes designed to intimidate and undermine others. If you find yourself running into problems with an arrogant bully, you need to realize that you’re not alone. Understanding the root causes of arrogance—as well as the importance of social coordination in dealing with this kind of behavior—can help us fight arrogance when it raises its ugly head."

Yes, I learned with my experience with these types of bullies that we have to get to the crowd first before they do! In order to survive in the workplace. And that's exactly what I do now! When I see an asshole starting to target me I start telling everyone right away that there's an asshole in my team trying to sabotage me and undermine me! The assholes at my job of nine and a half years, they made sure they got to the crowd earlier and isolated me. It was pure evil! But now I learned not to let anyone intimidate me into silence and isolate me. And since I have been at my present job I have survived 4 assholes that tried to touch me but they got burned!

Narcissists

Since writing this blog, exactly a year later, my ex-boss, who the property manager recruited to do her dirty work, killed himself in a standoff with the local police after robbing a bank on March 11, 2016, that by coincidence was my birthday! So, the property manager does have blood on her hands after all, because I know without a doubt, if she had not started this psychological warfare against me, he would still be alive – he was her collateral damage – when people start wars someone always gets hurt or killed!!! I was her target to destroy, but when was one of her helpers to lose his mind and self-destruct, everyone involved became silent, and now is a big cover-up that involves the FBI, the US Marshals, and the media. It's a shame he was not strong enough to stand up to do the right thing and let himself become a puppet of the property manager -- he paid a high price for it. Puppets never have a good end. If it was me, the little woman to commit a crime my name and face would have been splashed all over the news stations! And then all probably go on TV talking about how disturbed the little woman was -- to discredit me and my book -- and make a name for themselves by standing on my head. And all probably say that you need God in your life, my ex-boss was a Mormon, a man of God, but he was the one to lose his mind, but now is a big cover-up. I could see their dirty games and traps so clearly.

Read more in the link below:  

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2017/09/big-cover-up-by-sociopaths-at-my-ex-job.html

Reading the quotes above, the property manager at the community where I worked comes to mind. She was very jealous of me and she and the board manipulated by her came up with a very messy package abusive procedure, but then I came up with a package procedure that was really efficient and she comes up to me saying: "I heard you created a very efficient package procedure" and I just ignored her because I knew she was full of it and then she says: I am trying to give you a compliment! She was trying to give me a compliment my ass, she was seeing what else she could come up with to bring me down. She has everyone fooled, but she never had me fooled from day one, I knew I could not trust her. These words from an article I just read could not be truer: "13. Suspect Flattery

Flattery and compliments are different, and you should learn to tell them apart. Sociopaths use flattery as a tool for manipulation." Read more HERE 

Yes, I can tell when someone is genuine and authentic or when someone is trying to create a smokescreen to blind me and manipulate me.  

The quotes at the bottom also articulate exactly what the property manager did. Totally she wanted to destroy me! And she got the new guy and the Security Company to finished the job she started, she is talented!!! Read more quotes here.

Indeed... this describes exactly the property manager at my last job.

To read more about my experiences with the mob of sociopaths or narcissists at my last job read my blog Experienced Knowledge