Why People in Germany Love to Celebrate Alice Miller’s Son Martin Miller

Dear H,

Thank you for your good wishes.

I think about writing to you every day! But every day ends without having the chance to write to you.

I hope you are not as stressed at work anymore. My place of work has good and bad days, but for now, I think I’m not being targeted by sociopaths and I feel safe for NOW! 

“And this thing with Martin Miller is so sad... here in Germany people love to "celebrate" him, and they seem to like the "fact", that Alice Miller was not perfect this is because so they can justify themselves from really facing their wounds...”

Yes, you are right this thing with Martin Miller is very sad. Most people in our society are too scared to face the fear of their childhood pain and live in denial hiding themselves behind a cloth of “perfection” and seeing themselves as superior and better than others -- exploiting the humanness of others -- I have come to the conclusion that most people in our society are sociopaths or malignant narcissist to a degree.

This why I’m not surprised to hear most people in Germany seem to like the ‘fact” that Alice Miller was not a perfect mother. Like I wrote you in an earlier e-mail:  “You know what I think that makes the sociopaths more afraid of me and hope my book never breaks through it’s that they can’t find a weak link in me.

That’s nothing in me they can get to grab on to try to discredit me and my book and that’s why all walk away and stay very silent in hope that my story never breaks through.

Alice Miller's weak link is her son and we all know how all the sociopaths including Martin Miller try to use this weak link to make a name for themselves by standing on Alice Miller's head.

I am so glad I didn’t have children; otherwise, the sociopaths out there might try to use my children to get to me, to try to discredit me and my book, like they do with Alice Miller, because if I had children without resolving my childhood repression first, me too, I would not have been a perfect “mother” and without a doubt, my children would have been wounded TOO and vulnerable to be exploited by sociopaths,  like Martin Miller is being used to stand on Alice Miller’s head, so they don’t have to face and feel the painful repressed feelings of the child they once were. When we have children without resolving our childhood repression we will unconsciously transfer into our children our internalized childhood abusers and then we face all over again our childhood abusers in our children. Oh, I'm so grateful I didn't repeat this vicious circle. 

They have nothing on me and that’s why they are so afraid of me.  And that's why also sociopaths target me at first, because they are pretty sure, confident, they can manipulate my emotions to act against myself interest, so they can point their finger at me and accuse me of being mentally unstable to silence me forever to manage their fears of exposure, but in the moment they discover they can’t manipulate me and that I see them clear as they really are, they walk away and leave me alone.

In most of these articles about sociopaths we see published online, the authors tell their readers to stop all contact and cut all forms of communication, but if we really have resolved our childhood repression there’s no need for us to stop all contact because they are the ones running away from us scared.

Before I had resolved my childhood repression I was the one running from people to keep myself safe. Now, it’s them running away from me. Nice place to be in!  What differentiates between me and the sociopaths, psychopaths and malignant narcissists, is that I truly liberated myself from the repressed emotions of the child I once was and I no longer can be manipulated and used, and the sociopaths, psychopaths malignant narcissists have mastered the art of repressing to perfection and cannot feel anything, and also have mastered the art of projecting their painful feelings into others,  that's why they always look compose, by transferring their repressed painful emotions into others, they manipulate others to act out their insanity, so they can appear to be the sane ones when in reality they are the crazy ones!  When they figure out I cannot be manipulated or used for this effect, they just walk away and leave me alone.  

This quote I just read in the article  6 Signs You're Arguing With A Psychopath is so true: "In professional environments, they want you to blow up so that coworkers and superiors see you as unstable. In romantic settings, they want you to lash out so that they can use your “hysterical” reactions to show potential partners and exes how crazy you’ve become. Until we understand this, we’ll continue to fall into their trap So next time someone you're arguing with uses these tactics to draw you in, try a different strategy: simply smile, nod, and go live your life. They don’t deserve another second of your time" That's exactly what I do! I might lose money, because of sociopaths in the workplace, but I no longer fall into their traps and I stay free! 

Sociopaths know they can’t change and believe others can’t change either and this is why I keep getting targeted, because they don’t believe me that I truly liberated myself and are confident they can bring me back to the emotional prison to be manipulated and used as their scapegoat or poison container to temporally and superficially alleviate their disowned pen up painful repressed emotions.

I have to be constantly on the lookout for new sociopaths, psychopaths, and malignant narcissists.

I hope you are feeling better and take good care in this crazy world full of sociopaths and psychopaths.

Hugs from Arizona,

Sylvie

Also, read my blogs in the links below:

Letter to P About Martin Miller's book
The Pain of a Mother
In Most Cases is a Lie
Don’t let Others Exploit your Repressed Anger to do Harm
Psychoanalysis and most therapies hinder people’s liberation and autonomy
Open letter to Martin Miller

The son of Alice Miller should have given the title to his book - The Drama of the gifted child - the tragedy of my life

To read more about my experiences with the mob of sociopaths or narcissists at my last job read my blog Experienced Knowledge