We Are Human Beings, Not Human Doings

It seems everywhere I look, humans are in a race to see who is “better.”
Better at answering prompts. Better at winning games. Better at building the biggest following. Even when it’s AI being compared — like in an article testing ChatGPT-5 and Grok — the focus is still on the competition, the winner, the loser.

I’ve never enjoyed this constant measuring of worth against another. The beauty of different personalities and inputs gets lost when our only lens is rivalry.

The truth is, humans also compete with their own boredom. The endless search for the “next distraction” is really the search for something strong enough to numb what lies beneath — the unresolved pain of childhood repression. When we finally resolve childhood repression, boredom dissolves. We can simply be.

Psychologist James Hollis said it well: “We are not disturbed by things, but by the view we take of them.” When we stop fleeing discomfort through competition or consumption, we discover what the poet David Whyte calls “the restorative quiet” beneath the noise of doing — where simply being, observing, and connecting without agenda becomes deeply nourishing.

Alan Watts once wrote: “The meaning of life is just to be alive. It is so plain and so obvious and so simple. And yet, everybody rushes around in a great panic as if it were necessary to achieve something beyond themselves.”

His words are true. But for people to truly enjoy being alive, they must first resolve their childhood repression. Otherwise, they remain trapped in the panic Watts describes — forever seeking, never resting.

It’s also possible to live a long life without resolving childhood repression if one masters the art of repression, transference, and projection — as many cult leaders do. Years ago, I wrote about a cult leader who abused countless children. She lived into her mid-nineties, while many of the children she destroyed fell ill and died young.

That story confirmed what I already knew: people with deep-seated unresolved trauma can sometimes avoid sickness and live long lives if they have an endless supply of scapegoats to absorb their pain. The cult leader’s professed “love” for children made sense — they were her source of emotional survival, the perfect targets for projection and transference. Most abusers who proclaim to love children do so because those children are the poison containers they use to escape their own truth.

I wrote in 2016 that maybe one “secret” to a long life is being disconnected from one’s own truth and feelings — but it comes at the expense of others and the next generations. When I was a child, I said to myself: The pain stops with me. I was willing to die rather than pass it on to an innocent being. I much prefer resolving my own childhood repression and having a chance at a long life than living a long life at the expense of others.

Alice Miller said it best: “Am I saying that forgiveness for crimes done to a child is not only ineffective but actively harmful? Yes, that is precisely what I am saying. The body does not understand moral precepts. It fights against the denial of genuine emotions and for the admission of the truth to our conscious minds… Adults no longer need to [deceive themselves], but if they do, the price they pay is high. Either they ruin their own health or they make others pay the price — their children, their patients, the people who work for them, etc.”

In her essay Gurus and Cult Leaders: How They Function, Miller explains: “The thing that concerns me most about cult groups is the unconscious manipulations… It is the way in which the repressed and unreflected childhood biographies of parents and therapists influence the lives of children and patients entrusted to their care… Once they had learned how to reduce people to the emotional state of the helpless child… what they did seemed to come automatically, in accordance with the child-rearing patterns instilled into them in their own childhood.”

Watching that cult story also showed that formal education alone does not protect people from becoming victims. Education can be another illusion. The only lasting safeguard is resolving childhood repression — without that, people will continue to follow political and spiritual leaders blindly.

Alice Miller’s words in For Your Own Good remain painfully relevant: “Our capacity to resist has nothing to do with our intelligence but with the degree of access to our true self… Only within a group… will [an otherwise brilliant person] display a naïve submissiveness and uncritical attitude… This explains why Martin Heidegger… was not able to see the contradictions in Hitler’s ideology… He responded… with an infantile fascination and devotion that brooked no criticism.”

And in the same book, she reminds us: “Every crime, by virtue of being an enactment of childhood drama, cries out for understanding… The accused never bears all the guilt by himself but is a victim of a tragic chain of circumstances… There is a difference between prison being used to punish… and human tragedy being perceived in therapy during confinement.”

In the end, whether in politics, cults, or daily life, the same truth emerges: boredom, competition, blind obedience — they are all symptoms of a deeper disconnection from our own truth.

We are human beings, not human doings. When we heal the wounds of childhood repression, we stop needing distractions, winners, losers, or scapegoats. We can finally rest in the quiet strength of simply being alive.

Comments From A Facebook Post About Greta's Mother

Treating symptoms is a very profitable business – so let’s make it clear – if you are focusing on a symptom of society’s problems, instead of the root cause- childhood repression – then you are nothing but an opportunist.

The real conversation should be about the dangers of childhood repression in our society. Until this conversation starts on the world stage, no matter what Greta or anyone says, humanity will not stop self-destructing. If people resolve childhood repression, it will stop hurting the environment, themselves, and others.

Sylvie: Being talented and having special gifts doesn't mean anything. It can be used to exploit others. "If a person is especially gifted, they can use that gift to reinforce the refusal of the truth and keep it away from themselves and others.

 ...It is a great mistake to imagine that one can resolve traumas in a symbolic fashion. If that were possible, poets, painters, and other artists would be able to resolve their pain through creativity. This is not the case, however. Creativity helps us channel the pain of trauma into symbolic acts; it doesn't help us resolve it. If symbolic revenge for maltreatment received in childhood were effective, then dictators would eventually stop humiliating and torturing their fellow human beings. As long as they choose to deceive themselves about who really deserves their hatred, however, and as long as they go on feeding that hatred in symbolic form instead of experiencing and resolving it within the context of their own childhood, their hunger for revenge will remain insatiable," Alice Miller

Climate change is a symptom and is just a half-truth that is being exploited by some members of the elite for name recognition and to enrich themselves, so they can build their bunkers to protect themselves from climate change and other threats. 

The root causes of the world's problems are childhood repression, but I don't see that conversation starting anywhere in the stage of the world -- who wants to face their own painful childhood repression?! 

So if we really want to change the world, let's start the conversation about the dangers of childhood repression in our society. Greta is being exploited first by her parents and now by everyone else...

Sylvie, J P P, you're welcome to write in Portuguese. I have no trouble reading Portuguese, but I have difficulty writing in Portuguese or any other language because of my dyslexia; I have less difficulty writing in English. I don't have time to respond to your last comment, but I wrote two blogs that might answer some of your questions.

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2019/10/greta-thunbergs-speech-to-un-strangely.html?m=0

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2019/09/the-media-creates-false-heroes-and-only.html?m=0

Sylvie: I have learned that nothing ever is what it seems. What the public sees and what goes on behind the scenes are two totally different stories. 

Good for her that her bubble has not yet burst, and that she is still cashing in on her talents by focusing on the symptoms rather than the root causes of society’s problems. 

We live in a world of puppets and puppeteers, and people are free to give their minds and souls to whoever they choose. 

The world has no lack of good speakers, performers, actors, and actresses. If lectures and sermons by well-articulated speakers worked to change human behavior, the world would have changed many times over. 

It might help us feel better in the short term, like taking medication, but in the long run, it will make things worse. 

As I wrote in my book A Dance to Freedom: Your Guide to Liberation from Lies and Illusion, pages 75, 76, and 107 

“The extremes to which people go to avoid facing the pain of their own truth — even though such a confrontation would set them free — will never cease to amaze me. “To many people,” Alice Miller says, “it seems easier to take medication, to smoke, drink alcohol, preach, educate or treat others, and prepare wars than expose themselves to their own painful truth.”42 

…too many of us think that simply praising ourselves or visualizing ourselves in perfect circumstances is all we need to do to change. Even those who realize that real change is more difficult still take the easy way out and focus their energy on getting rid of symptoms rather than searching out the root cause. 

“There are plenty of means to combat symptoms of distress: medications, sermons, numerous ‘treatments,’ ‘miracles,’ threats, cults, pedagogical indoctrination, and even blackmail,” Alice Miller says. “They can all work for a while, but only because they reinforce the repression and reinforce the fear of resolving it.

 … A lot of money and fame come from this business of repression because it satisfies the longing of so many grown-up children: to be loved as a good child... In the long term, we have to pay a high price for this repression.”58 The typical methods people use to search for answers — which are really ways to run away from the truth — are futile because our real, repressed story continues to attempt to make itself heard no matter what we do. Alice Miller believed that our true plight, the root cause of all our repeated problems, will keep trying to gain our attention in more extreme ways until we finally take notice.”

Sylvie: I was not going to make any more comments on this post, but you might like reading the book The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self. In this book, Alice Miller shows how gifted children master the art of repression to perfection by developing a false self to accommodate the adults around them and secure their positive attention.

https://www.alice-miller.com/en/the-drama-of-the-gifted-child/

Troubled teenagers don’t drop out of the sky and are actually more authentic, they are unconsciously trying to bring attention to the facts and the true state of affairs; and if they are lucky to find an enlightening witness to help them deal with the pain that they were born to parents that could not really love - then they might grow up into mature conscious adults. But unfortunately, our world lacks true enlightened witnesses, and these troubled youth might never get the help they need. And some sadly end up in jail for petty crimes.

https://www.alice-miller.com/en/the-essential-role-of-an-enlightened-witness-in-society-2/

The world is run by gifted and once well-behaved children because most people cannot see behind their gifts and talents -- that they are corrupted to the core.  The white color crimes committed by gifted and once well-behaved children cost more money to society at large than all other petty crimes combined, but they rarely get punished in our society.

I Will no Longer Be on Social Media

Scroll down for an AI-polished version of this blog—same heart, clearer words.

"The Emperor's New Clothes" is a fairy tale. In reality, the kid who points out that the emperor is naked will get murdered. 

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2022/08/the-emperors-new-clothes.html

This is why I have been harassed, prosecuted, and ostracized by very bad players most of my life, starting with my first-grade teacher and especially in the workplace, since I published my book, because, with my book, I point out that the emperors of the world are naked. In this world, seeing and feeling, people are the most discriminated against, no matter what color or background. I have been the target of bad players in every color and background. 

Never too late to get real! First, with yourself and then, if you choose, with the whole world, but what's important is that you must become real, at least in private, with yourself if you want to die free and not in an emotional prison. 

If you do choose to go public with your story, make sure you really have resolved your childhood repression and you are no longer blinded by the repressed emotions of the child you once were.

Otherwise, you might not be able to see clearly the mind games and the traps the sociopaths of the world targeting you put in front of you to trap you and bring you back into an emotional prison. 

And you will be endlessly stuck in your story in an emotional prison with little chance of ever escaping. If I had not truly resolved my childhood repression, I would not have survived a mob of sociopaths targeting me after I published my book. 

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2016/06/for-sociopath-winning-is-all.html

I no longer have the patience and time for people who use their sharp intellect to go around in circles in their heads to avoid facing their own painful truths.

All of my life, I have been working undercover to witness the depths of humanity's repression and corruption.  I have learned humanity's corruption or evil is bottomless -- it's very ugly -- most people are acting as if personality pretending to be good people but are wolves in sheep's clothing, and if you trigger their unresolved childhood repression, their meanness, and cruelty, it has no end. Publishing my book was the ultimate test that gave me all the proof.

My work undercover is coming to an end, and I will be retiring soon and walking into the sunset and live happily ever after in peace and tranquility!  I have given up on humanity, and I consider myself divorced from humanity. 

I think Russia might have started World War 3, and we all might get nuked soon, anyway, so I'm going to enjoy all my days left on this Earth away from toxic people.

I'm tired of dealing with sociopaths at every corner I take and I will not get out of my way anymore to try to reach others that are in the same place I once was; if people want the naked truth and leave behind the world of lies and illusions, they will have to go underground and dig for the naked truth like I did because without the naked truth -- true liberation and healing --  is not possible. I will still try to write back to anyone, and mean ANYONE, family or not, that finds me and reaches out to me -- you might not like my answers, but you can be assured I will give you an honest answer. But I'm done with social media. Social media is all about creating pretty illusions and pretty seductive lies. 

If you have read my book, you know who Marty is! Before I met Marty, I used to be a very private person, sharing very little of myself with others. Now I'm going back to being the very private person I once was. 

For now, I will just keep this blog. If there is anything I like to share with the world, I will only share it here, and if people find it helps them gather the courage to leave the world of lies and illusions behind, and liberate themselves. Great! Being supportive of others is all I have ever wanted.   

I have deleted most of my social media accounts. Twitter and LinkedIn, I had no trouble deleting them, but Instagram and my personal Facebook page are giving me a hard time deleting them. 

When I click the button to deactivate accounts, I keep getting a query error, which is very annoying because I feel like I'm being held hostage by Facebook/Meta and they are forcing me to just abandon my pages. 

They like to control and block my truthful posts but they don't want me to deactivate my accounts because I'm sure they just want to keep the numbers of subscribers up because that's how they make money -- it's all about the math for them -- and they could care less about truth and humanity. 

I have been on Facebook for over 10 years and have not gotten much out of it! With any other relationship, I would have broken up a long time ago. I can't believe I stayed with Facebook this long without getting much back.

All they care about is money, power, and control. Facebook/Meta blocks the truth -- and allows the lies and illusions to spread like wildfires feeding the violence and all the wars around the world; therefore, Facebook is part of the problem and is evil. 

Facebook has been censoring me for many years, as you can see in the link below:

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2011/05/i-am-being-censored-by-facebook.html

The wall of silence is everywhere, and why would it be any different online?! And yes, self-censoring means a lot of important information never gets shared, but seductive pretty lies and illusions with disconnected half-truths, and feel-good disconnect stories that work like medication to keep us numb, they get a lot of sharing and likes. 

People love to be distracted from their own painful truths and from doing the most important work in their lives -- doing their own emotional work. 

“This kind of self-censoring can mean that important information is never shared. Some had hoped that social media might provide new outlets that encourage more discussion and the exchange of a wider range of opinions. But we see the opposite – a spiral of silence exists online, too.”

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2016/08/the-wall-of-silence-is-everywhere.html

Where there is 'control', there is ALWAYS abuse.

On YouTube, I only left the Big Brother video and deleted all others. 

As long as people are too afraid to face their own painful truths and consciously feel the repressed emotions of the child they once were within the context of their own childhood, they will be driven by the dead hand of their own repression into the state of repetitive compulsion to endless reenact their disastrous childhood dramas and no matter what anyone says or does, or how well someone articulates great ideas and pretty theories -- nothing matters in this world -- humanity is on the path to self-destruct -- and with the aid of technology -- it's going to self-destruct much faster -- humanity it's doomed. And there is nothing anyone can do or say to change this.

Every time a person goes off the deep end and takes others with them, like many dictators and mass shooters do. People say they need to raise awareness about mental health, remove the stigma, and make mental health a priority. But don't be fooled most people even those in the mental health field don't care about your mental health, if they did, they would not lie to you, they would not play mind games with you and they would find the courage to tell you the naked truth -- because without it -- true liberation and healing is not possible. 

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2018/04/comments-from-blog-about-olane-roos-or.html

"Children who are told the truth and are not brought up to tolerate lies and cruelty can develop as freely as a plant whose roots have not been attacked by pests (in our case, lies)" Alice Miller 

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2020/02/telling-children-truth.html?m=1

"Unfortunately, narcissists in positions of high visibility or power-particularly in the so-called helping professions (medicine, education, and the ministry) -often do great harm to others."

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2018/04/most-therapists-keep-themselves-others.html?m=1

Communities are micros of the world and If people cared about mental health I would not have been the target of a psychological warfare by a mob of bad players at the community where I worked for nine and a half years after I published my book sharing my life experiences and psychological discoveries -- at this community -- they were medical doctors, psychologists, psychiatrist doctors and even the ones that were not part of psychological warfare, they stayed silent on the sidelines looking at me stone-faced waiting to see if I would burn and crash. The silence from those on the sidelines is the worst.

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2018/05/take-risk-or-live-rest-of-our-lives-in.html

If it was me, the little woman to commit a crime, and self-destruct my name and face would have been splashed all over the news stations! And then all the "experts" would come out of the woodwork and take ownership of my story to spin it in any direction they wanted. 

Probably all go on TV talking about how disturbed the little woman was -- to discredit me and my book --and make a name for themselves by standing on my head. And all probably say that you need "God in your life", my ex-boss was a Mormon, a man of God, but he was the one to lose his mind, but now is a big cover-up. I could see their games and traps so clearly. I was their target to destroy, but when was one of them to self-destruct, all became silent, and no one cared that these criminals with their projections and lies -- I lost my job and more than half of my income  -- AND they could have destroyed my life completely.

 https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2017/09/big-cover-up-by-sociopaths-at-my-ex-job.html

Most people's objective in life is not freedom for themselves and others. Most people's objective in life is to one day own their own slaves.

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2017/06/most-peoples-objective-in-life-is-to.html?m=1

Most people only care about themselves and create bubbles around themselves to feel safe. They don't realize that their unresolved childhood repression will catch up with them and their bubbles and illusions will burst from within sooner or later in one form or another.

Suppose you truly break free and the system finds out. In that case, it will gather all the forces at its command to try to bring you back into the emotional prison --- remember the system doesn't want you to be free -- the system wants to keep you in an emotional prison and treat you with medications and manipulative therapies to keep you subdued, obedient and well behaved without a chance of breaking free from your emotional prison --- your freedom is the last thing the system wants --- It's a game they are playing, a cat and mouse game, a very dirty game they play to keep their own fears at bay of having to face and feel their own tragic repressed childhoods.

There are many people online articulating very well how the narcissist's mind works and how to deal with them, but very few mention the reason why people become full-blown narcissists and sociopaths?! So most likely, many are narcissists, themselves - talking a good talk without doing the emotional work and liberating themselves first.

The reason many people become narcissists and sociopaths is that they grew up with lies and had very tragic traumatic childhoods and because they can't face and feel this painful truth and consciously feel the repressed emotions of the child they once were within the context of their own childhood -- this is why people grow into full-blown malignant narcissists, sociopaths, psychopaths...

Most people rather idealize their parents and childhoods, and to survive, they have learned the art of projection and transference to perfection -- they go through life unconsciously and compulsively looking for scapegoats to use as poison containers to temporarily and superficially alleviate their own repression -- so they can have the illusion that they are perfect, better and superior to others and they rather kill and be killed than face and feel their own painful truths. 

They endless are driven by the repressed emotions of the child they once were to hurt themselves, others, or both. I don't see many saying that there is people's denial and the repressed emotions that turn many into -- people of the lie -- and become full-blown sociopaths, malignant narcissists, assholes, bad players, or whatever you like to call these evil people.  

Just like I wrote in my book on pages 144 and 145, "Thanks to Alice Miller, I came to understand that the widespread repression of early traumas is the great malady of

our society. If we look closely enough, we can see that this repression is responsible for most of our individual troubles, as well as our societal ills. It appears symptomatically in

illnesses, obsessions, addictions, violence, greed, deceit, and loss of meaning. And it can lead to cruelty, violence, and criminal behavior. So many of us carry on as if all this perverse behavior is normal, while most of us who really want to find a way out go down the wrong path. All too often, we follow false prophets who get us to believe that eradicating individual

symptoms is the way to solve our problems. Little do we know that in doing so, we always fail to get to the real heart of the matter — the denial and repression of childhood suffering."

Let me make it clear if you have unresolved childhood repression you will be blind by the unresolved repressed emotions of the child you once were and if you become the target of a sociopath or a malignant narcissist you will not see the emotional manipulations and traps these bad players set up for you -- and no matter -- how many very well articulated advice and tips you get on how to deal with these bad players -- you will fall prey into their traps and it will be very hard to escape from and you might not survive.

Also, in my book on pages 172 and 173, "Resolving childhood repression is the vaccine against the charlatans of the world who exploit those who are still emotionally blinded by the unresolved, repressed emotions of the children they once were.

Once you’re free, your whole outlook on life is going to change. This quote, from a patient of Alice Miller’s, expresses what happens perfectly: “The world has not changed. There is so much evil and meanness all around me, and I see it even more clearly than before. However, for the first time, I find life really worth living. Perhaps this is because, for the first time, I have the feeling that I am really living my own life. And that is an exciting adventure. On the other hand, I can understand my suicidal ideas better now, especially those I had in my youth — when it seemed pointless to carry on — because in a way I had always been living a life that wasn’t mine, that I didn’t want, and that I was ready to throw away.”80

I’ve removed all the barriers of false morality and am totally free to experience all my feelings, take them seriously and decide whom, if anyone, to share them with. I’ve faced my past and can deal with my present circumstances in the context of growing awareness instead of childhood fears. These words by Alice Miller express how I exactly feel: “If I allow myself to feel what pains or gladdens me, what annoys or enrages me, and why this is the case, if I know what I need and what I do not want at all costs, I will know myself well enough to love my life and find it interesting, regardless of age or social status. … I will know that I have

lived my own, true life.”81

It really is a powerful feeling, and you’re likely to find yourself possessing a power that will be threatening to a lot of people. Society is on the side of the status quo, so be prepared. As Alice Miller writes in Free from Lies, going against the parents “is a source of major alarm for others … They will sometimes mobilize all the forces at their command to discredit the former victim and thus keep their own repression intact.”82

But thanks to Alice Miller, I’m content to be who I am regardless of what other people think. This passage, from Breaking Down the Wall of Silence, sums it up so well: “To live with one’s own truth is to be at home with oneself. That is the opposite of isolation. We only need confirmation when we are alienated from ourselves and in flight from the truth. All the friends and devoted admirers in the world cannot make up for the loss.”83

When I die, I will not be sad because I have truly lived and will die in freedom, no longer scared and no longer a captive of the emotional prison into which I was born." 

After I published my book, all the sociopaths at my job felt threatened by my knowledge and sure enough, they all gathered the forces at their command to try to destroy me and discredit me and my book. 

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2015/08/it-was-attempt-of-psychological-lynch.html

I'm sure the sociopaths at my last job had never met anyone before me who I had truly resolved childhood repression. And thought my knowledge was just intellectual, like theirs, 

They didn't believe what I wrote in my book that I had faced and resolved my childhood repression, and I had broken free from my emotional prison. And I'm sure they were confident that they could bring me back into an emotional prison. Big mistake! Underestimating me has always been people's biggest mistake.

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=Big+mistake

"Narcissists aren't inconsiderate of your feelings. On the contrary, they are extremely considerate of your feelings. Your feelings are exactly what they are trying to affect. They closely observe how you react every time they do something to hurt you. And they are like sharks, able to smell a drop of blood a mile away. Why? Because your hurt feelings are their pain-killing drug. They are addicted to it. Ever since childhood. That's what their illness is, an addiction." Kathy Krajco

Hurting and destroying others' lives is their pain-killing drug. It's an addiction that keeps their own childhood repression intact. Just like I wrote in my book A Dance to Freedom, page 118: "... as long our pain remains repressed, we will unconsciously and compulsively do to others what was once done to us." 

As long as people's childhood repression goes unresolved, they will endlessly unconsciously and compulsively look for scapegoats to take revenge for the wrongs done to them when they were defenseless little children to temporarily and superficially alleviate their childhood repression...

And as Alice Miller wrote in the answers below to one of her readers:

"I am also glad that you have the hope that we can pass on our knowledge to the masses. I had this hope 30 years ago when I wrote the Drama. I thought that showing the truth can change so much. Meanwhile, I became more skeptical or just more impatient after I discovered the fear of the beaten child in all of us that built up the omnipresent resistance against the truth." Alice Miller

(Me too, I had the hope that with the writing of my book would help pass this knowledge to the masses, but like Alice Miller, I have become skeptical, and with the writing of my book, I too learned that people's repressed fears at the parents build omnipresent resistance against the truth. And people would rather destroy others than face and consciously feel their own repressed fears to see the truth. And this is why I have been harassed, prosecuted, and ostracized in the workplace by bad players since I published my book. I understand people's fears of their childhood pain that have been trying to keep repressed all of their lives, but it is still disappointing that pretty much everyone I meet doesn't have the courage to face their fears and become real.   

I don't know a single person in this world with whom I would like to switch places! Until the day I die, I have created a little heaven on earth for myself. And no one can steal that from me. I'm at home at last. 

"Sometimes people try to destroy you, precisely because they recognize your power, not because they don't see it, but because they see it and they don't want it to exist." Yes, this is another reason I get targeted by bad players since I published my book. They don't want me and my power to exist. 

"Imagine growing up treated as if you're hard to love... later realizing you were the most worthy of them all... finding you've been surrounded by toxic people full of self-hate who gained light by putting out yours. An insight that makes you invincible."  Yes, realizing that others are not more worthy or superior to me was very liberating.  

"Those who are able to see beyond the shadows and lies of their culture will never be understood, let alone believed by the masses." ~Plato~

I have to agree. “A writer writes not because he is educated but because he is driven by the need to communicate. Behind the need to communicate is the need to share. Behind the need to share is the need to be understood. The writer wants to be understood much more than he wants to be respected or praised or even loved.” ― Leo Rosten

Polished version by ChatGPT below. 

I’m Done With Social Media — And With Humanity’s Illusions

“The Emperor’s New Clothes” is a fairy tale. In reality, the child who dares to say the emperor is naked risks being murdered.

That’s been my reality. From my first-grade teacher to colleagues decades later, I’ve been harassed, attacked, and ostracized for seeing — and speaking — the truth most people cannot face.

My crime? Daring to expose the naked emperors of the world. Publishing my book shattered the illusions of many. When you refuse to lie, manipulate, or play mind games, you become a threat — especially to those still trapped in childhood repression.

In this world, truth-tellers — not liars — are the ones condemned. Repression knows no color, race, or background. Evil wears many faces, but its root is always the same: unresolved childhood pain projected onto others.

You Must First Free Yourself

It’s never too late to face your own truth. That is the only path to freedom. But be warned: until you have fully resolved your childhood repression, you will remain vulnerable to sociopaths who will mirror your unhealed wounds and trap you in their toxic games.

Had I not fully confronted my past before publishing my book, I wouldn’t have survived the psychological warfare waged against me. The ultimate test of my liberation came when the mob tried to destroy me. They failed — because I was already free.

I No Longer Have Time for Self-Deceivers

For years, I’ve witnessed the bottomless corruption of humanity. People pretend to be good while hiding their true nature. When their wounds are triggered, cruelty pours out. I’ve seen it everywhere — including among “healers,” “helpers,” and so-called “spiritual” leaders.

Even in my own workplace, after publishing my book, doctors, psychologists, and religious leaders either attacked me or silently watched, hoping I would collapse. Their silence was the deepest betrayal. Had I committed a crime, the media would have paraded my face as a trophy. But instead, my ex-boss — a self-proclaimed man of God — was the one to unravel. Today, the truth is buried. They underestimated me. They always have.

“Narcissists aren’t blind to your feelings. They’re addicted to your pain.”
— Kathy Krajco

“As long as our pain remains repressed, we will unconsciously and compulsively do to others what was once done to us.”
— A Dance to Freedom

This is why people endlessly scapegoat others instead of facing their own childhood tragedies. Most would rather destroy others — or themselves — than confront the truth.

Social Media Feeds the Lie

I’ve walked away from social media entirely. These platforms profit from illusion, distraction, and lies. They censor truth, but refuse to let users leave, trapping accounts for profit. They are part of the very evil they pretend to oppose.

“Some had hoped that social media might encourage open discussion, but instead, a spiral of silence exists online too.”
— from a 2016 article on my blog

Wherever there’s control, there’s always abuse. Self-censorship keeps truth hidden while comforting lies spread like wildfire. Most people don’t want healing — they want distraction.

Humanity Has Made Its Choice

Mass shootings and violence erupt, and people chant about “raising awareness” for mental health. Yet most — even many mental health professionals — refuse to face the root: repressed childhood pain.

“Children who are told the truth and not brought up to tolerate lies and cruelty can develop freely, like a plant whose roots have not been attacked by pests.”
— Alice Miller

Tragically, many who enter helping professions are deeply wounded themselves — and end up perpetuating harm while wearing masks of virtue.

“The widespread repression of early traumas is the great malady of our society. It underlies most personal and societal ills — from illness, addiction, and violence to greed, deceit, and the loss of meaning.”
— A Dance to Freedom

Resolving childhood repression is the only true vaccine against manipulators. But this demands radical honesty — and few are willing.

“Those able to see beyond the shadows and lies of their culture will never be understood — let alone believed — by the masses.”
— Plato

“Sometimes people try to destroy you not because they don’t see your power — but because they do.”
— Anonymous

“They will mobilize all forces to discredit the former victim to keep their own repression intact.”
— Alice Miller

My Heaven Is Built — And It Is Untouchable

Thanks to Alice Miller’s work, I no longer need anyone’s validation. My liberation is complete. I have built my heaven on earth, and no one can take it away.

“To live with one’s own truth is to be at home with oneself.”
— Alice Miller

The world hasn’t changed — but I have. And that is enough.

I am done with illusions, done with self-deceivers, and done with the endless repetition of humanity’s unresolved wounds. Those who seek the truth will have to dig as I did — underground, alone, free.

Until my last breath, I remain free. That is all I ever wanted.

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Coronavirus, Irrational Fears and Social Distancing

“It is not true that evil, destructiveness,

and perversion inevitably form part of

human existence, no matter how often this

is maintained. But it is true that we are

daily producing more evil and, with it, an

ocean of suffering for millions that is

absolutely avoidable. When one day the

ignorance arising from childhood

repression is eliminated and humanity

has awakened, an end can be put to the

production of evil.”

— Alice Miller, Banished Knowledge, p. 143

Because of my dyslexia writing is one of the hardest things for me to do in life and because of - I kind of -- I have given up on humanity -- I don’t see the point of forcing myself to write anymore!

But I have to write about the present crises of the coronavirus.

So many voices out there that all they do is make noise -- but not one single voice out there –mentions the fact that all crises like the coronavirus are caused by people’s repressed emotions.  

As long childhood repression is a taboo in our society -- people will be driven by the dead hand of their own repression into the state of repetition compulsion -- to unconsciously and compulsively -- to create crises and pandemics like the coronavirus.
The coronavirus is trying to wake up society -- our collective body -- from our deep collective repression, but I don’t think nothing will wake humanity up and crises and pandemics will keep escalating until the end of humanity -- because most people would rather kill and be killed -- than face and resolved their own painful repression. Humans are the most dangerous and emotionally blind or dumbest species on the Planet

I learned this after I published my book and I became the target of a mob of sociopaths at my job of nine and a half years.

As I wrote in my book A Dance to Freedom: Your Guide to Liberation from Lies and Illusions: 

“When you idealize your past, or ignore the painful truth by overachieving, hiding behind religious obedience or lashing out at scapegoats, you’re fighting a losing battle.

 What kind of life are you living? When you get addicted to the toxic cocktail created by pain, fear, shame, guilt, and repression — no matter how it manifests in your daily life — you’re living a futile existence indeed.

A life without freedom is ultimately a useless life because when you hide from the truth the body eventually rebels.

“Even if [the body] can be temporarily pacified with the help of drugs, nicotine or medicine, it usually has the last word, because it is quicker to see through self-deception than the mind, particularly if the mind has been trained to function as an alienated self,” Alice Miller writes.

“We may ignore or deride the messages of the body, but its rebellion demands to be heeded because its language is the authentic expression of our true selves and of the strength of our vitality.”55

These days, most of us are on a vain quest to improve ourselves. Self-help books and gurus are wildly popular.

We believe we can be saved by simple things such as affirmations and positive thinking, but to some degree, we end up like Lynne Rosen and John Littig, a husband-and-wife team of motivational talk-show hosts and life coaches who were found dead in their Brooklyn apartment after killing themselves with helium in June of 2013. Their own immersion in the positivity culture couldn’t save them.

Alice Miller started to understand why this is so, and we’re learning more all the time.

According to a Businessweek article that reported on the suicide of the positive pair I just mentioned, “A 2012 Canadian study, published in the Journal of Psychological Science, found a negative correlation between positive self-statements and mood in people with low self-esteem.

As lead researcher Joanne Wood of the University of Waterloo explained, those who try to pump themselves up with such phrases as ‘I accept myself completely’ end up feeling worse, in part, because affirmations conflict with their own view of themselves.

… As Dr. Wood and others have discovered in studying the psychology of self-esteem, what unhappy people need most is a chance to acknowledge their feelings of negativity.

”56 Alice Miller writes, “With all due respect for everything that has been said and written about the power of love, we should never forget that goodwill and devout wishing alone will not be enough to free a person to love if that person is in a state of unremitting internal war.

This desperate conflict would not be taking place if that person’s true self had not been suppressed in childhood.”57

Instead, too many of us think that simply praising ourselves or visualizing ourselves in perfect circumstances is all we need to do to change.

Even those who realize that real change is more difficult still take the easy way out and focus their energy on getting rid of symptoms, instead of searching out the root cause.

“There are plenty of means to combat symptoms of distress: medications, sermons, numerous ‘treatments,’ ‘miracles,’ threats, cults, pedagogical indoctrination, and even blackmail,” Alice Miller says.

“They can all work for a while, but only because they reinforce the repression and reinforce the fear of resolving it.

 … A lot of money and fame comes from this business of repression because it satisfies the longing of so many grown-up children: to be loved as a good child.

 … In the long term, we have to pay a high price for this repression.”58

The typical methods people use to search for answers — which are really, ways to run away from the truth — are futile because our real, repressed story continues to attempt to make itself heard no matter what we do. Alice Miller believed that our true plight, the root cause of all our repeated problems, will keep trying to gain our attention in more extreme ways until we finally take notice.”

This virus is forcing people to social distancing to protect themselves from being infected and in order to resolve childhood repression – we also must practice social distance – to protect ourselves from other people’s psychological viruses – psychological viruses can be as contagious, if not more contagious and dangerous then chemical viruses.

 If people while quarantining themselves read my book together with Alice Miller’s books, it could help them understand their emotions and consciously feel them within the context of their own childhood and trigger real healing!  

Society, our collective body, could come out of this pandemic as a changing society and save humanity from self-destructing, but I don’t hold my breath. And every one that dies will die in vain.

Everyone living in bubbles and with illusions --- the Coronavirus came to burst everyone's bubbles and illusions -- nature is demanding respect -- and for us to stop messing with it. But once this threat is over - humanity will go back to business as usual until a new threat arrives and this will go on until the end of humanity -- but nature will have the last word.

Hearing Dr. Phil on TV saying that people that are hoarding toilet paper and taking more than what they need are having irrational fears. Yes, but what are the causes of irrational fears?!

Irrational fears are caused by the unresolved repressed fears that now are being triggered by the present threat -- the Coronavirus.

It’s sad in our world repressed emotions are a complete taboo and no one wants to talk about it.

If people were able to understand these fears and consciously feel them within the context of their own childhood -- then they would be able to deal with the present fears caused by present threat rationally -- and take the precautions to take care of themselves -- and would not have irrational fears driving them to buy more then what they need -- they would not become hoarders of anything, EVER!

The fears caused by the present threat together with the triggered unresolved repressed fears that’s what causes irrational fears or panic attacks!

And that’s why people buy things like toilet paper compulsively to help them manage their overwhelming fears.

" Doctors have an unconscious fear of uncovering their own childhood hurts which keeps them from being as useful to their patients as they could be." Alice Miller 
https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=10151452109828922&id=723458921

As I wrote in my book: “Most people who search for answers never actually find them, because people suffering with their own repression are the ones who practice traditional therapies. 

Since the beginning of human history, priests, teachers, gurus, psychics, doctors, philosophers, and psychologists have all duped people into thinking they could provide real assistance, when it was never possible because the healers were also victims of their own childhoods.

Alice Miller saw the promise of psychotherapy to help people understand why they behave like helpless victims as adults and also to help them take responsibility for their actions. But she was disillusioned when she realized that practitioners couldn’t treat patients effectively as long as they failed to deal with their own repression.”

I have been practicing social distance most of my life, so it's really easy for me!

I practiced social distance all of my life because I’m mostly concerned about people’s unresolved childhood repression or we could say psychological viruses than any other viruses.

Childhood repression or psychological viruses are the roots of all societies’ maladies.

The great malady of our society, implicated in all our troubles and affecting us individually and socially, is the denial of childhood suffering.

When childhood suffering is denied, it does not go away.

It appears symptomatically in obsessions, addictions, violence, greed, deceit, and loss of meaning. Our temptation is to isolate these symptoms or try to eradicate them one by one, but the root problem is the denial of childhood suffering. 

The author in the article in the link below thinks the coronavirus should be a wake-up call for humanity, but I think nothing will ever wake humanity up from its deep repression. I have given up on humanity.

"The coronavirus did not manifest from nowhere. Our sadistic treatment and manipulation of animals for centuries have come back to haunt us. It is time for humanity to absorb the lessons of the animal world."

https://thehill.com/changing-america/opinion/488295-coronavirus-should-be-a-wake-up-call-to-our-treatment-of-the-animal

As you can see in the articles in the links below the coronavirus did more to temporally change human behavior and help the environment than Greta ever did with her preaching --- preaching never works.

https://www.greenmatters.com/p/venice-canals-coronavirus?gm

As Italy quarantines over coronavirus, swans appear in Venice canals, dolphins swim up playfully

“Nature just hit the reset button” in the suddenly clear waters of Venice canals and off the coast of a locked-down Italy.

https://thehill.com/changing-america/sustainability/environment/488286-italys-coronavirus-lockdown-shows-what-nature?fbclid=IwAR2Dm9u_WsLfpaAmhQ4PoMMbafabH3KCnJ_NFQK93oBUAdhoMMvTtX9DXlE

But it's only a temporary change - once the coronavirus is no longer a threat people will go back to business as usual.

Bill Maher posted on Facebook the words below, but he's another charlatan, like many out there, that say disconnect truths but is not one bit interested in connecting the dots and in true healing. "What if this virus - and others to come - is somehow connected to how much we've ratfucked the environment? 

When we upset one thing in nature, it tends to have repercussions down the line. One long fire season here in Cali then became the new normal. Is anything worth living like this? If - a hypothetical - they found that what went into making smartphones was part of the problem, would you give up your phone to be able to go to a bar? If you have to think about that, you've already lost your humanity. You're already a droid."

My answer to him @BillMaher The human mind is very sick and with the aid of technology we are going to destroy ourselves much faster. 

Did you ever receive my book A Dance to Freedom that I sent to you in 2015? My book can help heal the human mind. The coronavirus forcing people to stay home and while practicing social distance, if they read my book together with Alice Miller's books -- it could trigger true healing and save humanity from self-destructing. https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2015/03/free-speech-in-america-is-illusion.html