This blog is about learning to understand all of our feelings and learning to consciously face, feel, and experience all of our feelings within the context of our own childhood.
Everything we become and everything that happens to us is connected to childhood. Not every victim becomes an abuser, but every abuser was once a victim of abuse. These are facts. Violence is not genetic; it’s learned.
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Machiavellians generally share the following behaviors and traits:
1. Manipulation
Machiavellians lie, cheat, and flatter to get their way. They are long-term planners and calculated strategists, able to read people and to use their fears or weaknesses against them. They will bend rules, trick people, and fake sympathy to gain favors, McIntosh says. They can be charming at first but later resort to more aggressive tactics like bullying. Overall, they lack morals and are more than willing to cause harm to get what they want. (Here ishow to recognize manipulation, for what it's worth.)
2. Self-interest
Ever the cynic, Machiavellians believe thateveryoneis acting in their own self-interest, so they do not form close relationships and do not trust easily. Money and power mean more to them than relationships with people. They can be incredibly disloyal, as their determination can lead them to ignore social pacts or bonds of trust. This trait also distinguishes them from the other two Dark Triad types (narcissists and psychopaths), as they do not necessarily have to be the center of attention. (yes, money, control, and power that all they care about)
3. Deceit
Machiavellians understand that having information is useful. They often do not share information with others unless it is in their favor to do so. They may manipulate otherwise innocuous information and can be very crafty about taking information out of context. (Now I see that all these years she follow me around was just to take information from me and not to learn from me and become a more compassionate and understanding person. What makes me most sad is that she uses all the information she got from me to give her an advantage in the games people play)
Machiavellians lack empathy and compassion. Generally, they are neither able to identify their own emotions nor recognize those of others, which is part of what enables them to be so willing to do truly anything they deem necessary to achieve their goals, even at other people's expense. Despite their strength in manipulating others,past researchsuggests Machiavellians actually tend to be lessemotionally intelligent.
5. Ambition
Machiavellians are highly ambitious, and they'll use controland manipulation to achieve those ambitions. A2016 study evaluating Machiavellianism among supervisors found these personality types make abusive and aloof managers, with the abuse becoming most prevalent when in a perceived position of power in the workplace. The researchers consider that power may be an amplifier that draws out the Machiavellian's preexisting behavioral predispositions, emotions, and beliefs.
6. Competition
Machiavellians are highly competitive, so they view everyone as adversaries. They are willing to take a back seat or be a team player at times when doing so is to their advantage. Machiavellians are sensitive to the power dynamics in social contexts and can switch between cooperative and competitive tactics.
White-color crime costs more money than street crime, but it rarely gets punished compared to street crime.
White-collar crime, which includes crimes like fraud, embezzlement, and corporate crime, typically results in higher financial losses than street crimes like theft or assault.
Elaboration:
FBI Estimates:
The FBI estimates that white-collar crime costs the US more than $300 billion annually, significantly exceeding the cost of street crime, which is estimated at around $15 billion.
Scope of White-Collar Crime:
White-collar crimes often involve complex schemes that can affect many people and can have far-reaching consequences on the economy and society.
Examples of High-Cost Crimes:
Examples of white-collar crimes that cause substantial financial damage include Ponzi schemes, corporate fraud, and intellectual property theft.
Underreporting and Under-Investigation:
White-collar crimes are often underreported and difficult to prosecute, which contributes to their high economic impact.
Global Impact:
The economic impact of white-collar crime is not limited to the United States. Globally, it's estimated that these crimes cost up to $1.7 trillion per year.
"They're doing it with impunity for profit!" No truer words have ever been uttered. Sadly.
Could not agree more. Yes, they are the real problem. The people who voted for Trump can not ever be forgiven.
F-E-A-R has two meanings
"Forget Everything And Run."
"Face Everything And Rise"
The choice is yours.
Kamala and Walz didn't lose! The United States and the world did. Musk probably also manipulated the computers to help DT win. The geeks are going to screw everyone on this planet. The world is run by white-collar criminals.
I have compassion for the children they once were, but I have no compassion for the monsters adult they have become
I look forward to the day Trump and his cronies are gone, and I never hear his name again. The Americans who voted for Trump can never be forgiven.
No, Trump and his cronies have no moral compass. Sociopaths kiss each other's a$$es
Machiavellian
Machiavellianism refers to a personality trait characterized by manipulativeness, cynicism, and a tendency to exploit others for personal gain, often disregarding morality and ethics
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Origin and Historical Context:
The term originates from the writings of Niccolò Machiavelli, a 16th-century Italian diplomat and political philosopher, particularly his treatise The Prince, which offered pragmatic advice to rulers on acquiring and maintaining power, even if it meant using deceit and manipulation.
Key Characteristics of Machiavellianism:
Manipulativeness: Skilled at influencing others to achieve their own goals, often through charm, deception, or exploitation.
Cynicism: Possesses a negative and distrustful view of others, assuming they are motivated by self-interest.
Amorality: Demonstrates a disregard for conventional morality and ethics when pursuing personal objectives.
Strategic and Calculating: Approaches situations and relationships with a calculated and strategic mindset, prioritizing personal advancement.
Lack of Empathy: May exhibit a reduced capacity for empathy and may struggle to prioritize the needs and feelings of others.
Examples of Machiavellianism in Action:
Workplace Politics: Engaging in manipulative tactics to climb the corporate ladder, such as taking credit for others' work or sabotaging colleagues.
Interpersonal Relationships: Manipulating partners' emotions to maintain control or using flattery and charm to exploit others.
Negotiations and Bargaining: Employing deceptive strategies or misrepresenting information to gain an advantage.
Political Campaigns: Using smear tactics or spreading misinformation about opponents.
Machiavellianism vs. Other Personality Traits:
Narcissism: While both Machiavellians and narcissists can be manipulative, narcissists are primarily driven by a need for admiration and attention, while Machiavellians are more strategic and calculating in their manipulation.
Psychopathy: Both Machiavellianism and psychopathy involve a lack of empathy and a willingness to exploit others, but psychopathy often involves more impulsivity and overt antisocial behavior.
Note: Machiavellianism is not a clinical diagnosis but rather a personality trait that exists on a spectrum. While high levels of Machiavellianism can be associated with negative consequences in relationships and social interactions, it is important to remember that individuals may exhibit varying degrees of these traits.
I understand this has been building for some time and it finally hit a point where you could not tolerate it any longer.
At first i was surprised it hit that point late in the evening, yet once more reflection it made sense.
You showed your commitment to E X by the very long time you dealt with the stress. As I have told you before the community all loves you.
Thank you for showing T how to enter the RFID tags into MyQ. I have requested credentials for T From C G.
Yes, I agree one's mental health is the most important thing. You must do what is necessary to take care of and protect yourself. It was at a point where you could not tolerate any more. I understand this.
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Thank you for understanding
It means a lot to me.
I will be at EX Tuesday around 9am to show T how to program RFID tags.
RM and his cronies at AXX are very toxic and dangerous people going around acting as if personality pretending to be good people but are wolves in sheep's clothing and unfortunately it's not the first time I have been the target of malignant narcissists or assholes like Mr. RM in the workplace.
These type of people don't like honest, authentic and transparent people like me. Once they discover that I'm true and authentic and I'm not like them and once they know that you know of who they really are _-- you become a target they must have to destroy.
In dysfunctional, toxic and narcissistic groups, friendly empaths are outcasted and scapegoated while predators and bullies are popular and glorified.
The words written in this article below couldn't be more true:
"6 Signs You're Dealing With A Machiavellian & What To Do
Machiavellians generally share the following behaviors and traits:
1. Manipulation Machiavellians lie, cheat, and flatter to get their way. They are long-term planners and calculated strategists, able to read people and to use their fears or weaknesses against them. They will bend rules, trick people, and fake sympathy to gain favors, McIntosh says.
They can be charming at first but later resort to more aggressive tactics like bullying. Overall, they lack morals and are more than willing to cause harm to get what they want. (Here is how to recognize manipulation, for what it's worth.)
I'm so sorry I was not able to give much notice of my departure but I was at the end of my rope with RM and his cronies at AXX I couldn't take thier emotional harassment one more day.
They didn't have relieve for me on Saturday and they wanted to force me to work a 12 hour shift when I have been telling them for over a year that I'm burned out and i can't work overtime anymore.
I guess they don't care about their employees health and well being.
But isn't interesting how all of the sudden they didn't have trouble finding coverage?!
I hope you understand my mental health is more important.
This has been my experience in the workplace. Once they learn, I can see through their BS I become their target they must destroy, so they can go on with their lies, illusions, and mind games as usual. But coming after me they end up exposing themselves and eventually they are the ones to self-destruct. Just like my boss at my job of nine and a half years did in 2016. He treated me like a criminal but he was the one to turn out to be the criminal. But now is a big cover-up. If it was me, the little woman to commit a crime my name and face would have been splashed all over the news stations! And then all probably go on TV talking about how disturbed the little woman was -- to discredit me --and make a name for themselves by standing on my head.
“Authoritarian personalities are ones that “kiss above and kick below”, in other words, they are loyal to their leaders, but will attack those of lower rank. They also protect their “in-group” and attack the “out-group”. Social Dominance Orientation (SDO) personalities, on the other hand, tend to be those who lead the authoritarians, they are more interested in being on top.”
The words above describe exactly my boss for the last almost 4 years.
"What can you do?
Unfortunately, this is a type of personality disorder, and there is little you can do when working for or with this type of person. If you are working for this person long term, you need to leave the organization or company as soon as possible. Their negativity will be extremely stressful and ultimately do damage to your career.
Do not think you can talk to the person and ask them to consider changing. They do not allow anyone to challenge them, and they despise admitting mistakes. In fact, if you are questioning their decisions or behavior, they have already put a plan in motion to whisper about your own competency or value to the company or organization."
Very true that's why I worked with the target on my back for so long! I survived almost 4 years working with this kind of boss but finally, I left last week because was starting to affect my physical and mental health. No Job is Worth Health Destruction.
People with narcissistic disorder are actually using mind control and brainwashing techniques to control those around them into giving them what they want. They will use lies, bits of disconnected truths, physical force, sex, emotional manipulation, mental torture, sexual abuse and combinations of these things to keep their victims in line. This goes way beyond wanting the occasional compliment. It really is pathological! The better ones can go undetected for years, for example, abusing the family at home, but seeming to be very friendly and helpful outside. Or they can wreak havoc in the workplace, climbing the corporate ladder very rapidly while destroying the careers and reputations of the competition.
Machiavellians generally share the following behaviors and traits:
1. Manipulation
Machiavellians lie, cheat, and flatter to get their way. They are long-term planners and calculated strategists, able to read people and to use their fears or weaknesses against them. They will bend rules, trick people, and fake sympathy to gain favors, McIntosh says. They can be charming at first but later resort to more aggressive tactics like bullying. Overall, they lack morals and are more than willing to cause harm to get what they want. (Here ishow to recognize manipulation, for what it's worth.)
2. Self-interest
Ever the cynic, Machiavellians believe thateveryoneis acting in their own self-interest, so they do not form close relationships and do not trust easily. Money and power mean more to them than relationships with people. They can be incredibly disloyal, as their determination can lead them to ignore social pacts or bonds of trust. This trait also distinguishes them from the other two Dark Triad types (narcissists and psychopaths), as they do not necessarily have to be the center of attention. (yes, money, control, and power that all they care about)
3. Deceit
Machiavellians understand that having information is useful. They often do not share information with others unless it is in their favor to do so. They may manipulate otherwise innocuous information and can be very crafty about taking information out of context.
Machiavellians lack empathy and compassion. Generally, they are neither able to identify their own emotions nor recognize those of others, which is part of what enables them to be so willing to do truly anything they deem necessary to achieve their goals, even at other people's expense. Despite their strength in manipulating others,past researchsuggests Machiavellians actually tend to be lessemotionally intelligent.
5. Ambition
Machiavellians are highly ambitious, and they'll use controland manipulation to achieve those ambitions. A2016 study evaluating Machiavellianism among supervisors found these personality types make abusive and aloof managers, with the abuse becoming most prevalent when in a perceived position of power in the workplace. The researchers consider that power may be an amplifier that draws out the Machiavellian's preexisting behavioral predispositions, emotions, and beliefs.
6. Competition
Machiavellians are highly competitive, so they view everyone as adversaries. They are willing to take a back seat or be a team player at times when doing so is to their advantage. Machiavellians are sensitive to the power dynamics in social contexts and can switch between cooperative and competitive tactics.
This has been my experience in the workplace. Once they learn, I can see through their BS I become their target they must destroy, so they can go on with their lies, illusions, and mind games as usual. But coming after me they end up exposing themselves and eventually they are the ones to self-destruct. Just like my boss at my job of nine and a half years did in 2016. He treated me like a criminal but he was the one to turn out to be the criminal. But now is a big cover-up. If it was me, the little woman to commit a crime my name and face would have been splashed all over the news stations! And then all probably go on TV talking about how disturbed the little woman was -- to discredit me --and make a name for themselves by standing on my head.
Pay very close attention to what the narcissist barks at you about. Specifically what he/she accuses you of. It's usually the closest thing to a confession you'll get.
“Authoritarian personalities are ones that “kiss above and kick below”, in other words, they are loyal to their leaders, but will attack those of lower rank. They also protect their “in-group” and attack the “out-group”. Social Dominance Orientation (SDO) personalities, on the other hand, tend to be those who lead the authoritarians, they are more interested in being on top.”
"What can you do?
Unfortunately, this is a type of personality disorder, and there is little you can do when working for or with this type of person. If you are working for this person long term, you need to leave the organization or company as soon as possible. Their negativity will be extremely stressful and ultimately do damage to your career.
Do not think you can talk to the person and ask them to consider changing. They do not allow anyone to challenge them, and they despise admitting mistakes. In fact, if you are questioning their decisions or behavior, they have already put a plan in motion to whisper about your own competency or value to the company or organization."
Very true that's why I keep getting targeted by this type of boss. No Job or relationship is Worth Health Destruction.
Sometimes people try to destroy you, precisely because they recognize your power - not because they don't see it, but because they see it and they don't want it to exist.
Does the narcissist's description of YOU actually make a good description of the narcissist Welcome to the wonderful world of PROJECTION.
The techniques of brainwashing are simple: isolate the victim, expose them to inconsistent messages, mix with sleep deprivation, add some form of abuse, get the person to doubt what they know and feel, keep them on their toes, wear them down, and stir well.
Someone who hates you normally hates you for one of three reasons. They either see you as a threat. They hate themselves. Or they want to be you.
The enemy wouldn't be attacking you if something very valuable wasn't inside of You. Thieves don't break into empty houses. YOU got a purpose!
ARGUING WITH A NARCISSIST IS LIKE PLAYING CHESS WITH A PIGEON NO MATTER HOW GOOD YOU ARE....THE PIGEON IS GOING TO SHIT ON THE BOARD AND STRUT AROUND AND ACT LIKE IT WON ANYWAY!
To a malignant narcissist, it is a dog-eat-dog world in which there are only winners (predators) and losers (prey) with nothing in between. In their eyes, the end justifies the means, so they will manipulate, exploit, and deceive to accomplish their goals.
They are often pathological liars, telling fanciful stories of their achievements and ruthlessly lying about their true intentions.
Malignant narcissists are often successful because of their ability to adapt, work hard, and deceive. But even if they appear to be acting virtuously, their true aim is to gain admiration, attention, and power – by any means possible.
Shallow Relationships and Intellect
Although they may successfully love bomb and seduce others to fall for them, they are incapable of having deep and intimate relationships. They will only love and care for someone else if that person can fulfill their narcissistic needs. But once they have fulfilled a purpose, they are devalued and discarded.
...Kernberg also suggests that they project the unresolved hatred they feel for themselves onto others, consequently mistreating and/or dismissing them.
They either idealize or devalue others, believing anyone who does not admire and submit to them is an enemy and must be destroyed.
Idealization and Devaluation
Initially (especially when they are trying to win you over), malignant narcissists can be charming, loving, and seductive. They will idealize you, putting you on a pedestal and making you feel special and wanted.
But once they notice any flaws (because we all have them) or you challenge their authority or grandiose fantasies in any way, you become “bad” in their eyes.
Because of their black-and-white thinking, they can no longer see any good in you; they now see you as a threat or enemy and feel entitled to devalue and abuse you.
This behavior is confusing and highly distressing because someone who made you feel so good about yourself now acts as though they despise you.
Emotional Abuse and Manipulation
Malignant narcissists are skilled at manipulating others to meet their own needs. They will make you believe their façade is real, that their stories of success and power are true, and that they really are the partner of your dreams.
The gaslighting, hot-and-cold behavior, stonewalling, blame-shifting, and victim-playing start to creep into the relationship without you even realizing.
They skillfully manipulate you into believing you are the problem – telling you “you are jealous/ broken/ crazy/ a bad person” – until over time you start to believe it. They will never take responsibility for their actions and behaviors, blaming their problems and wrongdoings on you. "
In this Interview "The feeling child" with Alice Miller by Diane Connors for OMNI Publications International March 1987 --- Dr. Alice Miller says:
"Pain is the way to the truth. By denying that you were unloved as a child, you spare yourself some pain, but you are not with your own truth. And throughout your whole life you'll try to earn love.
In therapy, avoiding pain causes blockage. Yet nobody can confront being neglected or hated without feeling guilty. "It is my fault that my mother is cruel," he thinks. "I made my mother furious; what can I do to make her loving?" So he will continue trying to make her love him.
The guilt is really protection against the terrible realization that you are fated to have a mother who cannot love. This is much more painful than to think, "Oh, she is a good mother, it's only me who's bad." Because then you can try to do something to get love. But it's not true; you cannot earn love. And feeling guilty for what has been done to you only supports your blindness and your neurosis.
I try to reach the child in the readers, allow them to feel. I see my style as ranking keys. Everybody can take one so that they can go open their own door to find something. Or they can say no, I don't want to go through this door; I will return the key. I try to evoke feelings, images. In this way I offer keys to your own experience. You can then go look at your children and learn from them, not from me. Because only from your own experience can you really learn.
In my first studies I was very abstract; I wanted to understand the most abstract ideas -- of Kant, Hegel, or Marx. My dissertation in philosophy was very abstract. Now I see that each philosopher had to build a big, big building in order not to feel his pain. Even Freud.
If a child has been molested and the therapist doesn't deny this fact, many things can open up in the patient. The therapist must not preach forgiveness, or the patient will repress the pain. He won't change, and the repressed rage will look for a scapegoat."
