6 Red Flags To Instantly Recognize Bad Leadership

 

2. Managers who need to control everything

This person micromanages down to the last detail. The work environment is suffocating because they need to control every decision. They don't trust the team and refuse to delegate. There's no room for discussion or input because their management style is all about control. Creativity and learning new things? Forget about it. Loyal employees just end up following orders without finding any real meaning in their jobs.

3. Managers who triangulate

Picture a sensitive situation in which a manager does not communicate directly with a subordinate or peer but gladly reaches out to communicate with a third person, which can lead to that person (who may not even be involved in the situation) becoming part of the problem. Sometimes, this manager will even play the two people against each other. Welcome to triangulating. This is a dysfunctional pattern by managers who don't have the courage to deal directly with an issue and communicate effectively to diffuse the situation.

To read all 6 red flags click on the link below:

https://www.inc.com/marcel-schwantes/6-red-flags-to-instantly-recognize-bad-leadership.html

Narcissists only surround themselves with people who enable their behavior, ignore their behavior, or encourage their behavior. Anyone who tries to hold them accountable will be accused and blamed for the exact things the narcissist is guilty of. And the people who know the truth will remain silent. --Jill Wise

What are Flying Monkeys?

Flying Monkeys are the people who enable and support a Narcissist. Some will even help the Narcissist in carrying out spiteful or deceitful acts. These people could be her family members, friends, coworkers, her partner, or even her own children. Even when they know the Narcissist is doing wrong, they will help her, because they fear her. They know if they don't help her, she is going to punish them, usually by using the silent treatment on them or doing spiteful things to make their life miserable.

4 SIGNS OF TRAUMA BONDING:

*Not having any boundaries.

*You cannot think of being without your abuser.

*You become needy and need constant reassurance.

*You become trapped in the cycle of love bombing and abuse.

Narcissists are such hypocrites, they pretend to have morals, standards, feelings and a conscience, but they possess none of these. They will lie, insult, cheat, abuse and disrespect you, but in return they will expect fidelity, respect and all your time and energy spent on them. They can do whatever they want, whenever they want, but you are to remain loyal and perfect at all times.

This isn't healthy it's toxic and definitely not love.

That's what I do. 

Yes, they love a challenge! That's why I have been constantly targeted by malignant narcissists since I published my book A Dance to Freedom, how dear of me to publish a book sharing my life experiences and psychological discoveries. With their lies and mind games, they hope I lose my mind and prove that I'm fake like them so they can feel superior. But coming after me they expose themselves and they end up being the ones to eventually lose their minds...  once you have truly resolved your childhood repression you are no longer blinded by the repressed emotions of the child you once were. You see very clearly the lies, mind games, and the traps malignant narcissists set up for you to fall into. Once a mind is truly free, it can never be captured again. I'm free and I'm staying free.   

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2023/03/hard-evidence-of-my-ex-boss-being.html?m=1

Yes, they hate themselves. They are constantly unconsciously and compulsively looking for scapegoats to use as poison containers to project and transfer all their unresolved repressed emotions into to temporarily alleviate their own childhood repression and feel better about themselves. 

Repressed hatred cannot ever be resolved by scapegoating other beings. 

"Alongside reactive hatred of the parents and latent hatred deflected onto scapegoats, there is also the justified hatred for a person tormenting us in the present, either physically or mentally, a person we are at the mercy of and either cannot free ourselves of, or at least believe that we cannot. As long as we are in such a state of dependency, or think we are, then hatred is the inevitable outcome." Alice Miller

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2021/10/what-is-hatred.html?m=1

These words Alice Miller wrote to me come truer every day: “Thank you for your thoughtful letter I agree with you that there is a difference between the powerless, legitimate rage of a desperate child that reacts to the cruelty of their parents and the rage of the adult who is attacking others out of denial of their history by imitating the behavior of own parents from the position of "power" (even grandiosity). The first rage (of the child) should be felt and expressed in therapy, it can then be RESOLVED. The second one (of the adult), directed toward scapegoats, can NEVER be resolved (see dictators). If therapists see it as an end point of their therapies and don’t enable the patients to confront the early parents and the feelings of that time they do much HARM to them. Staying trapped in the hatred toward scapegoats can't be the successful end of a therapy. I hope that you can continue your work if you have this difference in mind and can also explain it in your forum."

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2017/05/scapegoating.html?m=1

How arrogance is created 

"Those who take a stand in today's world on behalf of workers, women, or even mistreated animals will find a group to represent them, but someone who becomes a strong advocate for a child and opposes the lies society has tolerated in the guise of child-rearing practices will stand alone.  This situation is difficult to understand, especially when we consider that we were once all children ourselves.  I can explain it only by suggesting that unequivocal advocacy of the child represents a threat to most adults. For when it becomes possible for children to speak out and confront us with their experiences, which were once ours as well, we become painfully aware of the loss of our own powers of perception, our sensibilities, feelings, and memories.  Only if the child is forced to be silent are we able to deny our pain, and we can again believe what we were told as children: that it was necessary, valuable, and right for us to make the emotional sacrifices demanded of us in the name of traditional child-rearing.  As a consequence of the adult's arrogant attitude toward the child's feelings, the child is trained to be accommodating, but his or her true voice is silenced.  Another arrogant and blind adult is the result. "

From the book:  "Pictures Of A Childhood" by Alice Miller