How Narcissists Create Conflict

 

 

Narcissists do evil for the same reason an alcoholic takes a drink because it makes them feel good. It keeps a pain repressed. Indeed, does an alcoholic like whiskey? No! He has a love-hate relationship with it. He knows it's killing him. But it has a hold on him. He's addicted to the high. Narcissists are addicted to the high they get from harming others. Yes, they DO act out of malice, because they will to hurt you. That's no accident: they hurt you on purpose and as much as they can. But only because hurting you makes them feel good. 

Hurting and destroying others lives is their pain killing drug. It's an addiction that keeps their own childhood repression intact. 

"Sadism is not an infectious disease that strikes a person all of a sudden. It has long prehistory in childhood and always originates in the desperate fantasies of a child who is searching for a way out of a hopeless situation." From the book: “For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-Rearing and the Roots of Violence” By Alice Miller to Read more in the link below: 

http://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2011/01/unlived-anger.html

I have been there for over 20 years.

Relationships with narcissists only last for as long as you're willing to put yourself last.

The Scapegoat and the Golden Child are the roles assigned by the narcissist in order to play the game of Extract Narcissistic Supply through Triangulation. Triangulation is like driving a wedge between people. This can be done by a narcissistic parent or a narcissistic anyone in your life. The game involves two or more people who get pitted against each other and usually they don't even realize what's happening. They're often just aware of the conflict and maybe they can't figure out what's going on or where it's coming from.

In troubled families and toxic work environments abuse and neglect are permitted; it's the talking about them that is forbidden.

Never underestimate a cycle breaker. Not only did they experience years of generational trauma, but they stood in the face of the trauma and fought to say “This ends with me.” This is brave. This is powerful. This comes at a significant cost. Never underestimate a cycle breaker.

If you tell the truth, it becomes a part of your past. But, if you lie, it becomes a part of your future.

Narcissists = Selfish, entitled, no empathy, no love, cold, judgmental and critical. Why would you ever miss that? You wouldn't. You're missing the false image they portrayed to fool you. Let 'em go. You're losing nothing. The game exposed