Narcissists Hate People like me Exist

That's why they constantly target me: the moment they know I see right through them, I get a target on my back. They hate that people like me exist who can see and feel. I'm in a minority group, that's for sure.

So true. 

As the saying goes... when something is too good to be true, it is because it's too good to be true!

These words by Alice Miller could not be truer: "...like every psychopath, not at all interested in understanding himself, only in controlling, misleading and manipulating others. ..."

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2014/08/talking-about-psychopaths-and-school.html

Very true. They are very cheap! They hate spending their money. 

Once they show you who they really are and choose darkness, walk away and let them meet their own future and destiny. 

Yes, I have the power to walk away and stay away. That's real power! 

Yep! It's insane. We are the crop! Eventually, they will take everyone around them down with them

7 - Without Truth, there can be no Help

A great deal of understanding is shown for an unemployed father who beats his children. There is no problem understanding an overburdened executive who does the same thing, especially when he is irritated by his wife. The wife also meets with understanding when she can't help beating her child after the milk boils over. Page, 130

The Jungian doctrine of the shadow and the notion that evil is the reverse of good aim to deny the reality of evil. But evil is real. It is not innate but acquired, and it is never the reverse of good but rather its destroyer. Page, 142

Evil people
Our knowledge cannot alter them. They can change only if they sense, not merely intellectually but with their feelings, how they have been turned into evil people. Only then will they be able to remove the blockages and, by experiencing the blocked pain, liberate the abused child who had to wish to harm anyone on coming into the world, the child who wanted love but found no one to make that possible for him. All he found was barbed wire and walls on all sides, and he believed that was the world. When he grew up, he built gigantic worlds full of walls and barbed wire, or complicated philosophical and psychological systems, in the hope and expectation of receiving love in return- the love he never received from his parents when he was an 'unworthy life.  Page, 143
https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=banished+knowledge+

Yep! I see people connected all the time by fear, hatred, and money, but I seldom see people connected by love.

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2021/12/money-alone-will-not-save-anyone.html?m=1

Yep!

Yes, malignant covert narcissists are the most dangerous. 

Yep! Because they are too afraid to walk away and be alone to do their emotional work to resolve their own childhood repression, they become like the people they grew up with and hated so much.

Yep! They can't survive on their own, no matter how much money the narcissist has... They constantly need a scapegoat or a poison container for projection or transference effects to temporarily and superficially alleviate their unresolved childhood repression. 

Very true!

Yep! I'm so glad there are no narcissists in my life right now; it's so peaceful. I don't make a good supply, so they don't want me in their lives. If they had their way, I would be in jail, in a mental hospital, or dead. They hate the existence of people like me. The existence of people like me ruins the wicked, evil, manipulative games they play to exploit the emotionally blind people in this world. 

No, it's not my job.

With my book and all my writings, I give people the map and keys to liberate themselves if they ever find the courage to do their emotional work—the most important work in a person's lifetime—and leave the emotional prison of their childhood. As the quote below says, this journey is theirs to take. 

It takes courage to see, face, and feel our painful truths—intelligence alone is not enough; it can instead create seductive rationalizations, theories, illusions, and lies that help us run from facing and feeling our own painful truths. 

"You can't heal the people you love. You can't make choices for them. You can't rescue them.

You can promise that they won't journey alone. You can loan them your map. But this trip is theirs." Laura Jean Truman

Flying Monkeys, they suck. Walk away from the narcissist and their Flying Monkeys. Let them be to meet their own future and destiny. 

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=Flying+Monkeys

Yep, they show us how they truly feel through their facial expressions and disastrous reenactments—it reveals the truth of their emotional state. 

Yep, I have learned to cut my losses and walk away from people who want to stand on my head to gain an advantage in the games people play and feel superior to others.  

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=the+games+people+play

True. They can't deal with reality and face their own painful truths. They would rather kill and be killed than face their own painful truths. They are doing everything in their power to avoid facing the pain that they were born into this world without love. So they settled for the illusion of love. As children, this illusion helped us survive, but as adults, it keeps us endlessly stuck in the emotional prison of our childhood. 

These words by Alice Miller are so true: “We cannot really love if we are forbidden to know our truth, the truth about our parents and caregivers as well as about ourselves. We can only try to behave as if we were loving, but this hypocritical behavior is the opposite of love. It is confusing and deceptive, and it produces much helpless rage in the deceived person. This rage must be repressed in the presence of the pretended “love,” especially if one is dependent, as a child is, on the person who is masquerading in this illusion of love.” Alice Miller (The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self) Page 23

In this interview, "The Feeling Child" with Alice Miller by Diane Connors for OMNI Publications International in March 1987 --- Dr. Alice Miller says:

"Pain is the way to the truth. By denying that you were unloved as a child, you spare yourself some pain, but you are not with your own truth. And throughout your whole life, you'll try to earn love. In therapy, avoiding pain causes blockage. Yet nobody can confront neglect or hatred without feeling guilty. "It is my fault that my mother is cruel," he thinks. "I made my mother furious; what can I do to make her loving?" So he will continue trying to make her love him. The guilt is really protection against the terrible realization that you are fated to have a mother who cannot love. This is much more painful than thinking, "Oh, she is a good mother, it's only me who's bad." Because then you can try to do something to get love. But it's not true; you cannot earn love. And feeling guilty for what has been done to you only supports your blindness and your neurosis.

I try to reach the child in the readers and allow them to feel. I see my style as ranking keys. Everybody can take one so that they can go open their own door to find something. Or they can say no, I don't want to go through this door; I will return the key. I try to evoke feelings, and images. In this way, I offer keys to your own experience. You can then go look at your children and learn from them, not from me. Because only from your own experience can you really learn.

In my first studies, I was very abstract; I wanted to understand the most abstract ideas -- of Kant, Hegel, or Marx. My philosophy dissertation was very abstract. Now I see that each philosopher had to build a big, big building to avoid feeling his pain. Even Freud.

If a child has been molested and the therapist doesn't deny this fact, many things can open up in the patient. The therapist must not preach forgiveness, or the patient will repress the pain. He won't change, and the repressed rage will look for a scapegoat." Please read the full interview HERE.

I Guess the Shoe Fits Him

Since writing this blog, exactly a year later, my ex-boss, who the property manager recruited to do her dirty work, killed himself in a standoff with the local police after robbing a bank on March 11, 2016, which, by coincidence, was my birthday! So, the property manager does have blood on her hands after all, because I know without a doubt, if she had not started this psychological warfare against me, he would still be alive – he was her collateral damage – when people start wars someone always gets hurt or killed!!! I was her target to destroy, but when was one of her helpers lost his mind and self-destructed, everyone involved became silent, and now it is a big cover-up that involves the FBI, the US Marshals, and the media. It's a shame he wasn't strong enough to stand up and do the right thing, and let himself become a puppet of the property manager -- he paid a high price for it. Puppets never have a good end. If it were me, the little woman to commit a crime, my name and face would have been splashed all over the news stations! And then all probably go on TV talking about how disturbed the little woman was -- to discredit me and my book -- and make a name for themselves by standing on my head. And all probably say that you need God in your life. My ex-boss was a Mormon, a man of God, but he was the one to lose his mind, and now it's a big cover-up. I could see their dirty games and traps so clearly.
Read more in the link below:  

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2017/09/big-cover-up-by-sociopaths-at-my-ex-job.html

Hi X,

The attached pictures express exactly what I am dealing with.

I went over their response, and it is full of lies. First of all, during the nine and a half years I worked there, I was allowed to use my laptop for personal use when not busy, and they gave me their own WiFi password so I could use it on my laptop. I also used my personal laptop for work because some residents communicated with me by email to let me know about their visitors, and I had to access their emails on it. 

Also, the downtown office communicated with me by e-mail, so I had to use my personal laptop. 

I did my private work off duty after work, which is not illegal, and the residents gave me permission to check out their gate keys. Matter of fact, I was there today, cat-sitting for a resident, and I checked out their gate key to enter their house. And as you know, I was house sitting and living at S before working for S at the gate, so it's not a secret that I did private work in the community. 

P driven by jealousy, is the bigger instigator, M B is opportunistic, and joined in on the plotting to bring me down because he wanted my job. I am starting to think MB was hired to come to work for me to spy on me and harass me emotionally to destroy me; he was part of their plotting! They are totally evil.  

Anyway, P also, over the years, did some private work for residents, like house-sitting. And some residents over the years expressed to me how pissed they were because she did it on company time, which is true, and there is proof of that: she checked out residents' house keys while she was working on company time. I never checked out residents' keys in company time.  I was never violent with anyone, and I am sure they have no evidence. Yes, I did express my concerns in writing that I was dealing with sociopathic behavior and you read that email, but never confronted anyone, and I didn't call anyone a sociopath in person. 

I am not sure what to do next, because I am dealing with very bad people; their goal is to destroy me and discredit me so they can keep their own lies and illusions intact.

Mr. K, the resident in the chair of security that I shared with the article about sociopaths, thought he might help me. They say in the letter that he assumed I was calling him a sociopath. I guess the shoe fits him! Because as we NOW know, he was in on the plotting too. 

Once, while back, he came to the gate, and I had the TV on, it was on the CNN channel that was talking about terrorism in the Middle East, and he mentioned to me that terrorism is solved by bombing the Middle East, including women and children -- kill everybody! And I told him: They think the same thing about us -- unless the whole society deals with the roots of what breeds terrorism here and abroad, always will be terrorism, no matter how many wars we create and how many people we kill. Isn't this the talk of a sociopath?!  

When they created the abusive, messy package-receiving procedure, Mr. K came to the gate, and I tried to explain to him how flawed their system was, but he said to me, "I am trying to protect you!" 

Trying to protect me my ass. I knew he was lying then, and now there is proof. 

Every time someone tells me they are trying to protect me, it really means: I am trying to control you and repress you to manage my own fears. Just like I said in my blog They are Allergic to my Aliveness:  “And like my family, they are using the same tactics by saying that is to protect me, but what they want to do is to put me in my place and show me who is in charge to manage their own fears and keep their own image, repression and little illusions intact. Just as Alice Miller says: “Conditioning and manipulation of others are always weapons and instruments in the hands of those in power, even if these weapons are disguised with the terms education and therapeutic treatment.” For Your Own Good, P. 278

I shared the same article with another resident, and this person didn’t assume I was calling her a sociopath, as you know, XX was not part of the plotting to destroy me. As you see by XX’s words below, she thanked me for sharing the article about sociopaths with her.

“This [article] is very interesting, and thank you.  I started telling you this morning that when she told ME who she would distribute to, that irritated me… I may also mention that in the 25 years I've been an S resident, we have never had our guard gate run as efficiently as it is at the present time.  I will ask him if the evidence of package abuse supports the severe response by the board  --- how many requests for a tighter process has he received from residents -- etc.  I will also suggest that since this action defies sanity, there could possibly be another motive somewhere lurking in the shadows.  It simply makes no sense unless they have info I've not received!  Well, we'll see -- hugs, X”

I hope all is well with you, and thank you for your attention.

Sylvie

Comments on Facebook from the sharing of this post:

Monica: Too awake Sylvie ... that 'I am trying to protect you rings a bell too'! It is sickening to hear it from the foul mouth of an enemy, a wolf in sheep's skin. Expose them here Sylvie. I do it for other readers who may be going through that silent hell! Nature will take its course, as I believe every action has a price or a prize.

Sylvie: Yes, I am too awake... I have no doubt that they will sooner or later meet their own future and destiny. When old age sets in, and they no longer can run from themselves and use scapegoats for transference effect to temporarily relieve their own repression and death gets close, they will be forced to face their own repression/hell, and it's not going to be pretty for them, and no amount of money will save them. I have worked in healthcare and witnessed a few rich people go through their own repression/hell before dying, and I used to say to myself: money can't save you now. I would not want to be close by and witness these people's hell. I really feel sorry for them.

Monica: am certain too. Have known people in my lifetime from their younger years to old age, and can see the difference between the decent ones, who age gracefully, and the unscrupulous and unrepentant ones, who age 'painfully', some looking empty and lost. This is the price and prize. It is a pity not all are capable of understanding this life's logic. The sooner one comes to terms with this logic, the sooner one regains mental health and the greater the strength in dealing with any challenges ahead. You are fine, Sylvie, and I'm pleased I 'met' you thanks to Alice Miller's writings. I got to your blog and your wonderful book! :-)

Sylvie: and no amount of money will save them. I have worked in healthcare and witnessed a few rich people go through their own repression/hell before dying, and I used to say to myself: money can't save you now. Me too. I am grateful for Alice Miller's writing that helped me face and resolve my own repression and freed me to live my authentic life and to die free with a clear conscience.

Also, read my blog, Experienced Knowledge

imposter syndrome

"you don't argue with feelings, but beliefs you can challenge" Very true!

"It has to do with the fact you couldn't be real as a kid." That's how the false self is created!

“Because of his early experiences with his mother, he cannot believe that this need not happen. If he gives way to this fear and adapts himself, the therapy slides over into the realm of the false self, and the true self remains hidden and undeveloped. 

It is therefore extremely important that the therapist not allow his own needs to impel him from formulating connections that the patient himself is discovering with the help of his own feelings. Otherwise, he is in danger of behaving like a friend who brings a good meal to a prisoner in his cell, at the precise moment when that prisoner has the chance to escape --- perhaps to spend his first night hungry and without shelter, but in freedom nevertheless. Since this first step into unknown territory would require a great deal of courage, the prisoner may comfort himself with his food and shelter and thus miss his chance and stay in prison.”

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2012/11/facing-and-feeling-repressed-emotions_29.html?m=1

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2016/02/quotes-from-book-drama-of-gifted-child.html

What are the 5 types of imposter syndrome?

Experts recognize five main subtypes of imposter syndrome: the perfectionist, the superhero, the expert, the natural genius, and the soloist.

https://grad.uc.edu/student-life/news/all-about-imposter-syndrome.html#:~:text=Experts%20recognize%20five%20main%20subtypes,natural%20genius%2C%20and%20the%20soloist.

Yes, the best gift parents give their children is to resolve their own childhood repression, otherwise, the parents' tragedy is repeated in their children 

Yes, it is!

I'm only guilty of sharing my love and insights freely and of staying too long waiting to see if people develop the courage to face their fears of resolving their own childhood repression. I'm getting too old to waste a minute of my life with people who lack the courage to open their eyes to see and feel their own painful truths.

This is an interesting explanation of dissociation. Many people live in a dissociation state, and it's a very dangerous state to live in. 

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=Dissociation&m=1 

Yep! Distance yourself and let them be to meet their own future and destiny. 

Yes, the beauty of being an independent and mature conscious adult is that you can walk away from anyone standing in symbolizing your childhood caregivers reenacting your childhood dramas. Free at last!

True!

Yes, many people are very good actors, acting as if personality pretending to be good people but in reality, are wolves in sheep's clothing. 

If you only surround yourself with YES people who tell you only what you like to hear, sooner or later, someone will come along who plays the game better and smarter and will take everything. 

Yes, the chickens 🐔 will always come home to roost. 

Yes, it's a very nasty game! 

Yes, I have stared evil in the face if I had not truly resolved my childhood repression I would not be here to talk about it.

After being the target of a mob of sociopaths conspiring to hurt me I will never look at another human being in the same way.

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=big+cover+up

No, therapy doesn't work on these types of people, once a person has grown into a full-blown malignant narcissist or psychopath, they just waste your time and try to use you for whatever they want and if you ever dare to say no to them, you will become their number one enemy that they must destroy. You will get a target on your back. Run from these types of people as far away as you can. 

Very true. If I didn't recognize evil when it tried to touch me I would be done! And I would not be here today!

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2017/09/big-cover-up-by-sociopaths-at-my-ex-job.html

The devouring mother archetype represents the shadow side of the maternal instinct, where caring and nurturing turns into suffocating overprotectiveness. These mothers stifle their children's growth, leaving them dependent, lacking agency, and emotionally stagnant.

NARCISSISTS DESPISE WEAKNESS

The older I get, the less I feel the need to be included, understood or accepted.

"Narcissist v. Sociopath

A Narcissist sees others as a means to validate his existence. The less validating you are, the less use you are to a Narcissist.

A Sociopath views others as entertainment. The less entertaining you are, the less use you are to a Sociopath.

Both the Narcissist and the Sociopath need to dominate and control others. They will both exploit you with no remorse and have no conscience. My advice? Do not validate the Narcissist and do not entertain the Sociopath. Stay clear of them. Once they suck you in, it is hard to get away. Avoid them both at all costs and if they manage to bring you into their den, run like hell." Lisa E. Scott

"IT IS VERY RARE THAT A SURVIVOR OF NARCISSISTIC ABUSE IS NOT LEFT COMPLETELY FINANCIALLY OBLITERATED." 

"Dark Truth: Emotion for a narcissist equates to fuel. They want to hear you getting irritated. They want to get you annoyed. They want your voice to rise and see the tears of frustration welling your eyes. When they see this, it makes them feel so powerful."

"Does the narcissist's description of YOU actually make a good description of the narcissist? Welcome to the wonderful world of PROJECTION."

"THEY ARE PREDATORS

They seek out compassionate, trusting good hearted human beings, and then mimic those qualities.

Like parasites, they are their strongest when they have a healthy host.

And then slowly, they use their victims love to destroy them from the inside out.

But unlike parasites, they don't do this for survival.

They do it for fun/entertainment in order to temporarily alleviate the twisted state of living in contempt, envy and boredom."

"Narcissists are not what they pretend to be .... They are what they hide.

"Open minded people don't care to be right, they care to understand. There's never a right or wrong answer. Everything is about understanding."

"The narcissist believes they are the authority that determines reality. To them, your facts are meaningless and your logic offensive."

"Why? Narcissists Do Not Go To Therapy Narcissists spend their lives, repressing the insecure parts of themselves. They are constantly seeking narcissistic supply, to feed that insatiable need to be superior and the best. The false self is powerful, strong and omnipotent. If they decide to go to therapy, in their eyes, they perceive that to be an admittance of weakness, and that there may be something innately wrong with them. There is no way a narcissist is going to allow that to happen. They live their lives, trying to avoid that very thing. They need to believe there is nothing wrong with them, and they are In fact, superior and amazing human beings. It is extremely difficult convincing a narcissist to go to therapy, and if they do end up going, they have been known to be, dishonest and manipulative with the therapist." -Maria Consiglio

"A TOXIC PERSON never changes. They change victims and blame everything on everybody else. They can't see the wrong in their actions, but always find time to find them in yours."

"Relationships with narcissists only last for as long as you're willing to put yourself last."

"A narcissist will do what it takes to maintain control over you.

This intensifies when you leave.

They do this through various ways. They will try and cripple you financially, they will isolate you from any support system they perceive to be a threat. Be prepared and have a plan in place!"

"Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate." CARL JUNG

"Before you attack her, know that she is built for this shit. She's stronger than her demons. She's been played, stabbed, cheated on, taken advantage of and left crying and ribbed on the cold floor. Her name has been dragged through the dirt a number of times, and everytime she picked it up and came out clean. She passed the worst moments of her life alone. You see, she's self made. She's built for war, and pain shaped her the best, you can't destroy a woman like that."

"When you think of the long and gloomy history of man, you will find more hideous crimes have been committed in the name of obedience than have ever been committed in the name of rebellion" -- C.P. Snow.

"They don't lie to you because the truth will hurt your feelings. They lie to you because the truth might provoke you to make choices that won't serve their interest."

"DYING DOESN'T SCARE ME WHAT SCARES ME IS lS LIVING IN AWORLD RUN BY EVIL PEOPLE. WHO CONTROL THE DESTINY OF OUR CHILDREN"

"Narcissists only surround themselves with people who enable their behavior, ignore their behavior or encourage their behavior. Anyone who tries to hold them accountable will be accused and blamed of the exact things the narcissist is guilty of. And the people who know the truth, will remain silent. THE ENLIGHTENED TARGET"

"Narcissists are not sick. They are evil. They are selfish. They are liars. They manipulate you to serve their interests. They do not deserve a second chance, and they will never change.

Sounds harsh? Good! Because the way they will destroy your life is even harsher."

"NARCISSISTS DESPISE WEAKNESS 

One day my client came in, angrily proclaiming, "You will never believe what's happening?" "I helped my brother when no one else did. No one else in the family cared, they turned their backs on him. I went with him to all his appt. and everything he needed to try to fix his situation. And no matter how cruel everyone was, I was always there trying to be his strength. Things eventually got better for him. And unfortunately things took a turn for the worst for me. I started to have some difficulty in my life, because of my narcissistic husband. Everything started falling apart. My narcissistic family turned against me as usual. And guess who was the leader of the pact? MY BROTHER! My brother turned against me, no remorse, no obligation to the only person who was there for him. You see my brother is a narcissist too. I had hoped that me being there for him would of maybe influenced a change in him, I could not have been more wrong. I feel so betrayed. I am so sad. I don't deserve this. And I am so angry! What horrible horrible people!"

Narcissistic Individuals don't feel obligated to anyone. They do what is best for them, regardless of who they hurt. 

The brother saw his sister in a position of weakness, and had no respect for her. She was depressed and having a really hard time functioning. She started having panic attacks and went to the emergency room a few times. Her brother looked down on her. Narcissists hate weakness. They don't have compassion or empathy for the person suffering. What they have is contempt." Maria Consiglio

"Why did they try to destroy you?

Because the darkness in them recoils from your light.

Their empty heart resents your abundant love, and their strange hunger feeds on the pain they cause.

Your resilience enrages them. Despite doing their worst, they could never break you.

They hate you because they are something monstrous, and you are nothing like them." John Mark Green // Reasons Why

There is no such thing as a "mutual friend" with an abuser. If they're still friends with the abuser, they cannot be your friend. If they are in contact with the abuser, it puts you at risk and you should not be in contact with them.

IS NARCISSIST PERSONALITY DISORDER

Permanent? Yes.

Treatable: No. 

Can help? No.

Can it be fixed? No. 

Will it always be bad? The abuse will always return.

Can I make it better? No. 

What if its ME? It isn't.

What about the good times? The good times are a tool to keep you hooked.

"Some children in a narcissistic household detect how the selfish parent gets his needs met by the other family members. Those children observe how manipulation and using guilt gets the parent what they want. They emulate the narcissistic parent and develop a false self, use aggression and intimidation, and bully the other siblings and other parent in order to get their way. Those children become narcissists themselves."

"Imagine growing up treated as if you're hard to love... later realizing you were the most worthy of them all... finding you've been surrounded by toxic people full of self hate who gained light by by putting out yours. An insight that makes you invincible"

"The only time a child of a narcissist receives any attention is when it is "showtime". When narcissistic mom is presenting herself as "super mom." There are the impeccable photographs of the perfect family. The children stand their with glued on smiles and empty frozen eyes. They are wearing their best clothing and mother has made sure that everyone she knows will have this image of her family."

The Black Butterfly

"NEVER SAY THIS TO A NARCISSIST

"You're lying!"

"You're a narcissist."

"You're wrong!"

"You use people!" "You hurt me!"

Narcissists are built to destroy those who call them out, so don't. Close the book in the relationship instead and move on!"

"NARCISSISTIC ABUSE

I think the only ones who could understand this type of abuse is other people who have gone through it. Because if it didn't happen to me, I would of never accurately understood it. It feels earth shattering when the mask comes off, and they are so cold, so cruel almost gruesome at times. It is so difficult to accept that none of it was real. You feel traumatized, and really shaken up. It's like waking up from a bad dream, to a nightmare. Especially if you dealt with a covert narcissist, who appeared so good and humble, even kind and compassionate, only to find the devil at the other end of the mask. its so difficult getting used to the depth of their cruelty, and their ice cold hearts. The shock does not wear off easily. At least it didn't for me." Maria Consiglio

"THEY HATE YOU

They hate you, they hate you because they need you. Narcissists are very needy people. That's why when you walk away from them, you are completely exhausted. They need your energy. But they resent that. They resent needing you to survive, so they punish you. You can feel the hatred sometimes pouring out their pores. Crazy part is you don't know what you did. What did you do to make them hate you so much? You didn't do anything, they just resent giving you that much power. They never want to admit just how very important you are to them." -Maria Consiglio

"Psychological murder, or pernicious abuse is form of violence. It is one that goes unnoticed. A crime that is enabled by society. It goes unrecognized but it exists.

The perpetrators operate on an extremely covert level.

It happens behind closed doors, without anyone even being aware of who the victim is-the real victim.

There is no trail of evidence and no one has ever been convicted of it yet but the truth is that pernicious abuse is something that can and does have a life-changing or life-ending effect, not just on the victim, but also on a broader spectrum. Pernicious abuse can initiate someone to commit acts of covert psychological murder, unfortunately, unrecognized and virtually unquestioned.

A covert narcissistic abuser has the potential to commit murder without leaving a trace behind, even morphing into a martyr, a victim."

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2015/02/stalking-soul.html?m=1

"You know what your problem is? You're smart. Too smart. You over think, because your mind moves at a million miles a minute.. You're sad, because you're not fooled by the world like everyone else. You don't get along with most people, because they just don't look at things the way you do. You think you're dumb, because you're smart enough to know you don't know everything. Your problem is you're too smart. And that's not a problem at all." Unknown

I don't know a single person in this world I would like to switch places with! I have created a little heaven on earth for myself!

"TO THE REBELS This is for ones that see the through the deception and lies. That actively resist tyranny and live a life which is lead by their own intuition and heart. They are owned by no one.

To the brave Women and Men who courageously risk their reputation and relationships to stand up for what they believe in. Although they may be courageous, they are also selfless, intuitive, and conscious. They care. They love. They fight. Not only for their freedom, but for everyone's freedom.

To the rebels of the world. KEEP ROARING!!"

"WHY YOU SHOULDN'T BE JEALOUS OF THE NEW SUPPLY!

THERE IS NO HAPPILY EVER AFTER. EVER. THERE IS NO TRUTH, LOVE, WARMTH. HONESTY. FIDELITY, RESPECT, CONSIDERATION, RECIPROCITY OR GENUINE BOND. THERE IS ONLY FILTH. TOXICITY, CYNICISM, CONTROL, MANIPULATION, CHEATING, TRIANGULATION. PASSIVE AGGRESSION, COMPETITION. INSECURITY AND ENVY. A LANDFILL. THE NARC WILL NEVER BE ANY DIFFERENT TO HOW THEY WERE WITH YOU! WHEN THE MASK SLIPS"

"Pathological narcissists get away with their abuse because those who haven't experienced it cannot wrap their heads around the possibility such cruelty exists. Because the truth sounds insane. That's because it is."

"TIPS FOR DEALING WITH A NARCISSIST

Don't argue with them.

Don't engage with them.

Don't defend yourself.

Be indifferent.

Be grounded.

Be emotionless."

"Sometimes people try to destroy you, precisely because they recognize your power - not because they don't see it, but because they see it and they don't want it to exist."

"MALIGNANT NARCISSISTS DON'T CHOOSE LOSERS. THEY CHOOSE YOU BECAUSE THEY WANT THE QUALITIES THAT YOU HAVE, THE ONES THEY ARE LACKING, THAT THEY WILL NEVER HAVE."

"Narcissistic Individuals Buy Into Their own Masks.

Covert narcissists for example think they are really good people. They buy into their "humble demeanor" There is a delusional aspect to narcissism, there has to be for them to believe they are perfect or superior. They rationalize all the bad things they do. They find a way to blame you, or make it your fault, or believe you deserve it. That is how they could live with themselves. Especially covert narcissists, they can't imagine being looked at as anything

other than wonderful people" -Maria Consiglio

"5 REASONS WHY NARCISSISTS ARE SO DANGEROUS

Narcissists are dangerous because they destroy and corrupt the Victim's self-identity, self-concept, and self-worth. The Victim no more identifies him or herself and takes years to rebuild their personality. Going through narcissistic abuse is the total annihilation of everything a person has ever known. The gaslighting, projection, cognitive dissonance, future-faking, love-bombing, false-promises, eroded boundaries, inability to empathize, and mind-fuckery are all enough to drive one crazy.

Narcissists are true parasites. The only reason they stay with you because they need supply and need to feed on you. They see you as an object.

• Lack of meaningful remorse or guilt-to the point of complete indifference. They leave a trail of destruction wherever they go.

. They take pleasure in their Victim's pain. It gives them a sense of being in power and control. Emotional Abuse"

"Empaths be like:

I don't just listen to your words. I listen to your use of words, your tone, your body movements, your eyes, your subtle facial expressions. I interpret your silences - I can hear everything you don't say in words." - Unknown

"The high narcissists get from hurting an innocent child is a hell of a lot more intense than the one they would get from targeting a world-weary adult. This is why narcissists stalk their own children; that and easy access. Malignant narcissist parents also stalk their children's souls in order to be human extensions-to live vacariously through them. Either way; the malignant narcissist parent gains in the transaction of the child's soul. They drain the child (kill life in the child), and leave them hollow (without a self) so that they can fill the child with themselves: be it as a dumping ground for their own toxic waste, or a vessel to live their narcissistic fantasy through."

"Most normal people have a narcissistic tendency as well as an altruistic one. However, the narcissist is the one end of the scale and the altruist on the other. While the altruist gets a kick out of helping others, the narcissist gets a kick out of hurting others. The altruist wants to raise others to their level and enjoy the familiarity they see with themself in the person, the altruist has helped and shares the happiness. On the other hand, the narcissist wants to drag people down to their level and enjoy the familiarity they see with themself in the person they have hurt and the shared misery." ~Dr. Ludger Hofmann-Engl 

"The narcissist's life is a huge lie that is wrapped up with a huge bow to look like it is an amazing gift to all man and womankind! They have to process a great deal to keep their dysfunction at bay and protect themselves from exposure always having to look over their shoulder because in time life WILL finally catch up with them and expose them with the truth of what they REALLY are. If they can get away once more they will try, they are very adept at escaping exposure and accountability with more lies. But age will also slow them down as well as KARMA and there will be nobody there for them to abuse for supply and that will destroy them. Let them meet their own future AND destiny."

EVERYTHING YOU SEE ON TV IS A SCRIPTED PERFORMANCE WITH THE PURPOSE OF SHAPING YOUR WORLD VIEW TO BENEFIT THE POWERFUL INTERESTS RUNNING THE SHOW.

"What kind of narcissist is the most dangerous?

A covert narcissist is the worst kind of narcissist there is. Like a stealth bomb, you can't see them coming until they have left their destruction.

Covert narcissism is one of the most extreme and damaging forms of narcissism that you can encounter. The thing that sets these narcissists apart is their highly defensive nature and being emotionally vulnerable, seemingly without any exterior trace of the planning and plotting in which they engage. Unlike other forms, the covert narcissist is like a stealth bomb-they come without any warning and destroy everything in their wake."

We can Change our Destiny or Fate

Scroll down for an AI-polished version of this blog—same heart, clearer words.

This conversation is a reaction to my blog, People Who Live in Glass Houses Shouldn't Throw Stones

Hi there...

I resonate with what you wrote about the woke mob... I think that they are way further from their truth, which is even more blocked by all the technical/digital "extensions" that they used almost from the beginning... of course, this is not the root of destruction... but it "helps" them to be even more detached from themselves?

I understand that these are deep processes you are into; it is sad...

 Not much to say... 

I don't know if I'll ever learn to distinguish and then stay consistent about who I connect with and where I should stay away...

 I cannot sleep... so I write.

 I added a photo, as an update...

Have a good day

 J

Hi J,

Thank you for sharing a picture of yourself! Love putting a face to your understanding words. Looks very cold there!

Yes, the new generation with intellectual knowledge only and tech-savvy is much more dangerous because they can manipulate the masses and cause a lot more damage… with the aid of technology, they are going to self-destruct much faster. Humanity doesn’t have much time left, and no matter how much money anyone collects, it will not save them. 

Don’t take the blame for what is going on in your family because we don’t have power over others’ lives. Each person is on their own path for better or worse. We are born with a pre-written destiny or fate, and we can’t change anyone’s fate or destiny, no matter what we do. 

I changed my fate or destiny, but only I could have done that! We are only responsible for ourselves.  

XB wrote the last words below to me, but because I said I wouldn't write to her anymore, I didn’t reply. But you can tell she is back paddling a little bit and probably realized she made a big mistake by letting XA use her, and now she's trying to be the bigger girl by denying that she doesn't hate me. Still, no denials can change the facts because only a person with unresolved repressed hatred could write to me what she wrote. If she were not emotionally blind, she would not let herself become a puppet or a flying monkey of XA and be used in this way. As long as our childhood repression goes unresolved, no matter how much intellectual knowledge we have in psychology, we remain emotionally blind and vulnerable to manipulation by a malignant person. 

I leave people alone, but if they come after me and attack me—I have the light—so all I have to do is shine the light on them.  

I don’t know what XA has shown her, but whatever it was, she did it maliciously, to poison her against me and to manipulate her to join her hatred and attack me through her. Just because I said no to her- how dear of me to say no to Dr. XA- now she is on a smear campaign against me and trying to recruit as many people as possible to join her hatred and hate me too.

"Saying no" can trigger a narcissist's rage. Narcissists are hypersensitive to anything that might undermine their grandiose self-image. They thrive on constant admiration and attention, so rejection can trigger feelings of inadequacy and provoke a rageful response."

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2024/01/comments-that-easily-trigger.html?m=1

She is too emotionally blind to see that all the hatred she sends to me will go back to her, and she is the one to end up self-destructing, just like the sociopaths at my job of nine and a half years did. 

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2021/11/lost-in-projections-and-transferences.html?m=1

Narcissistic Smear Campaigns

1 PREEMPTIVELY starts smear campaign by planting seeds in the minds of others

2 Begins the smear by painting himself or herself as the devoted, loving, innocent VICTIM of you

3 Twist stories and tell lies about your character, making sure to incorporate a GRAIN OF TRUTH

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2016/06/sociopaths-hate-us.html?m=1

"ABUSE BY PROXY

It's when the narcissist gets other people to abuse you. That way, the narcissist gets to abuse you but indirectly through the flying monkeys who might reject you or make you feel not good enough.

Maybe they'll shame you or put you in a bad situation; maybe they'll extract information from you, or maybe they'll even tell you that you're crazy. Abuse by proxy allows the narcissist to look clean, appearing to not be involved, when really they've orchestrated it all."

Yes, I have seen this play being played before. I know who the director is who orchestrated it all.  
https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2015/02/cowards-always-get-others-to-do-dirty.html

All malignant narcissists, sociopaths, and psychopaths love to play the victim card and make their real victims appear as the abusers, but when their targets can see clearly the games they play and articulate the real situation of what is really taking place, the targets of the malignant narcissists cease to become victims. 

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=abuse+by+proxy

XA accomplished exactly what she wanted from XB. Still, it did me a favor because after 20 years, if XB hadn’t been able to face and feel her emotions by now in the context of her own childhood, it isn't going to happen, and we shouldn’t talk anymore; let everyone be to meet their own future and destiny. 

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=destiny

Her son can change his destiny, but he has to find the courage to face and feel his personal truths. Now that he is an adult, he is responsible for his actions and choices, not his mother. 

There is a saying here in the United States that people living in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones at others. XA thinks she is perfect, smarter, superior, and on top of her game, but these are only illusions that can burst at any time.

When I was young, her mother hated me because she couldn't control me, and now her daughter hates me too because she can't control me either or have me under her thumb. 

I should have been more careful with her because the red flags were all there, and I was very conscious that the moment I said no to her or challenged her, this would happen.

She hates XC for manipulating money from her mother, but she is no better; she uses her sex appeal to flirt with the judges to manipulate them into assigning more insolvency cases to her, so she can make more money and get richer, so REALLY, she is not better than a prostitute. She deleted all the messages she sent to me, incriminating herself, because she was afraid that I'd be like her. I would show the pictures to other people, so she covered her tracks by deleting all of our conversations. Still, she and the judges know the truth... the fact that she deleted all incriminating messages and pictures proves she knows what she's doing is wrong. 

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2015/09/most-people-out-there-are-prostituting.html

XA learned to apply dark psychology tricks to control and manipulate. 

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2023/06/dark-psychology-tricks.html

The truth is that XA and XB are each other’s mirrors and are lost in a house of mirrors. They never said nice things about each other, but now they get together, projecting themselves onto me and seeing their own projections. 

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2021/11/lost-in-projections-and-transferences.html?m=1

I don't need to talk to XB to know what is happening with my sisters. I talk to them anytime I  want and see everyone very clearly, so I know everyone's state of mind... 

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2022/03/we-must-learn-to-stand-alone.html

Thank you for listening.

Take good care,

Sylvie

XB: “Thanks for the answer, Imelda [is my middle name]: didn’t join anyone, you're wrong, I'm not even receiving money from anyone, but I saw the messages that you sent to her. I'm glad it doesn't affect you that I lost trust in you. As for my life, I know the mistakes I made, I know why, and I also know that anything that may happen to XE is my responsibility. As for my personal life, XX helps me share expenses and makes it easier for both of us. As for the hate you say I feel projecting onto you, it's a lie, because I don't feel hate towards you. In reality, I think that when you talk to me, since you don't talk to XA now, it would only be to try to find out some things that I might eventually know about your sisters. Continue living your freedom. … By saying that XA never said anything nice about me, you're mirroring your niece when she showed me that you wrote to her about me. After all, it really is time to say goodbye.”

Hi Sylvie.

This is all heavy stuff. Puh... what I learned about my own narcissistic behavior is that I am just starting to be alert if someone more conscious really confronts me, and then I start to step back a little. But if I can't take responsibility, then it doesn't change anything. This is what we see here...

You know, here in Germany we have the same movement as in 1933... and it is run by People who are "fighting"  for democracy and blaming anyone who has critical thoughts about the Government/ WHO/ the EUParliamentt to be a Nazi. Journalists, Doctors, and lawyers are imprisoned if they dare to publicly question f.i  the money we sent to the war in Ukraine, or about counterproductive laws to save the Climate, or wokeism? We can see things differently, but there is no way to incriminate anyone for having a different opinion. We have laws to prevent this, but the judges follow the Government. It is very scary and sad.

I hope you understand what I mean. No offense to a certain attitude towards specific issues. It is a way of blaming others for their own blind spots if there is a conflict, as you have to witness it.

We have the same saying with the Glasshouse here in Germany.

And it fits me. I am a Prisoner as well... 

This is unfreedom, and this is nazi... if one is not true to oneself because of fear... And it is not about "fighting" a political party I don't like, and you don't need the slightest bit of courage to show your Protest because anyone has the same opinion anyway ...

Sorry, now I've gone too far with my thoughts. But the underlying Mechanisms are all the same, right?

We had a really cold winter this year. It's not very long, but I remember it from childhood. Now it is starting to be warmer and sunnier...  But I cannot cling to it. I am concerned, I am stuck, and I am not hopeful, watching myself repeating the sick structures...

Puh. I stop here for now.

Take care

J

Hi J.

Yes, I understand what you mean. And I agree that the underlying mechanisms are all the same in the games people play.

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2017/10/the-games-people-play.html

Authoritarian movements as of 1933 are going on everywhere, not just in Germany. The woke mob with intellectual knowledge only and tech-savvy individuals are very dangerous everywhere. 

With the aid of technology like AI, humanity will not survive another movement like the one in 1933. It will be the end of humanity.

I like to see Putin defeated, though. He is a very cruel man...

Thank you for your understanding.

You too, take good care,

Sylvie

Polished version by AI DeepSeek below. 

Germany, XA, and the Digital Reich: How Trauma Tech is Rewriting 1933

The Unifying Threat: Trauma, Tech, and Totalitarianism

"Authoritarian movements mirroring 1933 are rising globally—not just in Germany. The 'woke mob' (armed with intellectual detachment and tech savviness) accelerates this decay. With today’s technology, humanity cannot survive a repeat of that era. It would be our end.
Yet I still hope to see Putin defeated—his cruelty exemplifies the unhealed trauma driving these cycles."

Why This Matters

Your exchange with J reveals a terrifying pattern:

1. The Personal (XA):

   • Narcissistic smear campaigns, emotional manipulation, and weaponized technology (hacking Facebook, recruiting "flying monkeys").

2. The Political (Germany):

   • Journalists jailed for dissent. Critics branded "Nazis." Judges enforcing ideological conformity.

3. The Global:

   • Tech becomes the enabler: Digital tools let authoritarians control narratives, silence truth-tellers, and mobilize masses—just as XA used screenshots to distort reality in your family.

The common thread?

"Unhealed childhood trauma + technology = existential threat."
When the emotionally blind gain algorithms and AI, their reenactments turn catastrophic.

Polished Full Exchange (Key Sections)

J’s Warning (Germany’s Reality)

"Here in Germany, we have the same movement as 1933... It’s run by people 'fighting for democracy' while branding critics as Nazis. Journalists and doctors are jailed for questioning Ukraine funding or climate policies. Judges obey the government. This is unfreedom—and it’s Nazi logic. If you’re not true to yourself out of fear, you’re complicit."

Your Response (The Focal Point)

*"The mechanisms are identical everywhere: authoritarianism rising under the guise of progressivism. ‘Woke’ mobs use intellectual posturing and digital prowess to mask their trauma-driven hunger for control. With modern technology, another 1933-style movement would end humanity. Yet Putin’s defeat remains essential—his brutality shows where unhealed trauma leads when given unchecked power."*

The Personal-Political Link

XA’s Playbook = Germany’s Playbook:

• Smear campaigns → Branding dissenters "Nazis"

• Deleting incriminating messages → Censoring journalists

• Recruiting "flying monkeys" → Mobilizing ideological mobs

• Illusions of superiority → Moral grandstanding of authoritarians

The root? Childhood trauma weaponized by technology.

*"J’s words from Germany chilled me—not because they surprise me, but because they confirm what I’ve witnessed in my family, my career, and now globally: Repressed trauma + digital tools = humanity’s suicide note.
XA hacking Facebook accounts... Germany jailing truth-tellers... Musk and Trump’s feud... All are variations of the same unhealed wound.
Technology didn’t create this sickness. It just gave it missiles.
The only vaccine? Courage to face our personal 1933s—the childhood prisons we’re still fleeing. J knows. I know. And the clock is ticking."*