This blog is about learning to understand our feelings and consciously face, feel, and experience them in the context of our childhood.
Everything we become and everything that happens to us is connected to childhood. Not every victim becomes an abuser, but every abuser was once a victim of abuse. These are facts. Violence is not genetic; it’s learned.
Email me at sylvieimelda@yahoo.com with any questions.
I haven’t been writing for so long... I am still in this confusion, AM is talking about. I didn’t` t manage to improve my personal situation or the situation For "my" cat.
My autistic brother is taking care of her. He Loves her deeply... The second cat is still around...but not in a new home. I cannot go there very often these days. I feel like a huge betrayer... by being intrusive to the family after a long period of absence then not taking the chance to connect, then leaving it all Behind.
Now I feel that I cannot live with the guilt of my turn Arounds, my false proposals and not facing the consequences and stay Away... or say ok I am there. Always lingering in between. Same with Job. I have written the same for years...
But I wrote because of your letter on your website. It is so deep, so candid, so unquestionable... it is a masterpiece- although it is all Very sad anyway...
Must have been an energy-consuming process to get through this clarity in which the letter is written-- Anyway most of us humans do not good for life... this is a pity. And Nature will solve the problem, as we will probably do so much damage on Earth, that our planet will react and do a cleansing process anyway...
Sylvie. I wish you the very best Take care, J
Dear J,
Thank you for writing and saying my
letter published on my blog is a masterpiece! There is more I like to add but I
haven’t had the disposition to write much lately.
Yes, it’s all very sad but it is
what it is. Most people are living in a state of confusion lashing out at
scapegoats just because somehow you reminded them of their childhood caregivers
and they can’t see that we are not the cause of their feelings of hatred.
You have been in my thoughts lately
and was nice to hear from you.
I’m glad to hear your cat is being
taken care of by your autistic brother who loves him so much. I’m also happy to
hear the other cat is still around.
You feel guilt for your long periods
of absence. I wish I had stayed absent completely and not let anyone too close
to me, especially the new generation, all the time I spent with one of my
nieces and a niece-in-law was all wasted time. I wish I could get that wasted time
back.
Evil is born anew with every new generation. Can you imagine if I had not left Portugal and had not liberated
myself? As a small child, I was everyone’s scapegoat and now if I was still
there I would have been the scapegoat of the new generation that is more
dangerous because they have intellectual knowledge and are tech savvy that they use to go around
making a bunch of noise without resolving their own childhood repression first
– this new generation would eat me alive if they could!
For the last twenty years, that’s
what I have been witnessing a niece and a niece-in-law do, she has been going
around yelling at everyone, especially doctors but takes the medications they
give her and now I became her target also.
This is what many call, the woke
mob, all they do is going around with intellectual knowledged only that they have not experienced themselves finding fault with everyone pointing fingers and
making a bunch of noise – they are very dangerous people.
I’m going to be 65 years old soon and
now I just want to be left alone to live the rest of my life in peace and
quiet.
Alice’s Words in the link below describe what I witness parents and educators do, everywhere I go, to children with behavior problems. Children with behavior problems, they don’t need more punishment, but understanding and someone on their side.
A child that is misunderstood and not protected can turn into a very bad adult.
One reason I have very little hope for humanity is because of most people's idealization of one’s own parents and childhood as a major obstacle for parents and educators.
Thank you for
writing and finding the courage to drop your charming mask to show me your
unresolved, repressed hatred NOW directed at me, trying to make me your
scapegoat.
I’m used to
people trying to make me their scapegoat since I was a small child.
I’m very aware that when people are not able to consciously feel their feelings in the context of
their own childhoods, it will be a matter of time for them to try to make me
their scapegoat.
It took you and XA over 20 years! As a child, I didn’t
understand these psychological mechanisms. Still, as an autonomous free adult, I do, and I don’t take in and feel responsible for other people’s unresolved hatred,
no matter what they say to me and how hard they try to transfer it into me.
XB: “But when you
talk about me to other people, you use words like 'you're all fucked
up"”
Me: Your words
above show me that you have joined your repressed, unresolved hatred with XA’s
unresolved repressed hatred, and NOW you both are together directing all your
hatred towards me, and the words above are really what this person used to say
too.
How do you
think I know that while your son was still a small child, you would rather go to Porto’s
nightclubs chasing men to have sex with, to run away from yourself, than be
still to feel your pain and be present with your small child?
This is a pain
NOW for your adult child to feel if he wants to be free and stop the chains of
compulsion repetition that his mother is not capable of authentic love, and all
the love he got from his mother was the illusion of love. ...
The truth is, only fucked up people will chase after men and leave their small baby with a
stranger and lean on a man she has no feelings for, has a child with him, and after
leaving him, uses the welfare system to survive because of her unresolved
childhood repression, can’t hold on to a job for very long. Most people in our world are fucked up, and that's why humanity is doomed.
XB: “Also, send
messages that I wrote to other people, making me lose trust in you. When I
think about you, I also feel feelings of sadness.”
Me: Show me proof
and evidence that I shared your messages.
Maybe I’m a
little guilty of sharing too much when I talk. However, I do it only as
examples, hoping to inspire people to stop their own compulsions, be
still, and consciously feel their own pain, and to stop running from themselves and making
others their scapegoats. I don’t do it with malicious intent. And for that I'm sorry! But you can be assured, without a doubt, that if XA shows you anything I might have shared with her, she is
being malicious, trying to manipulate you into playing the part she wants you to play
in her twisted dramas.
Why do you think
she got mad at me?! Because I didn’t let her use me to join her hatred to satisfy her thirst for revenge and make XC her scapegoat. It’s easy to beat and step on someone when they are already down!
When XC had
money, everyone was around her trying to mooch off her, and she helped pay for
the car of XD that you crashed! It might have been some of my money too,
because back then I was sending money to XC all the time and now I'm sure if you are leaning on XA is because she has money but it doesn't matter how much money she collects it will not save her, just like money didn't save her mother and her father. Money alone is a big illusion and saves no one. Having too much money can create a lot of new problems.
If you trust
me or not, it doesn’t affect me. I trust myself and don’t need other people to
trust me! What matters is that we trust ourselves to handle what life throws at
us and not become dependent on anyone or anything to cope with life. Just like
my older sisters, you are trusting the wrong person, but it's your problem, not
mine. My older sisters never trusted me either! Because they never trusted themselves
and put all their trust in XC, and look how that worked out for all of them?!
The question you should ask yourself is whether you can trust yourself. You and XA don't trust yourselves to be alone for even one minute. You two deserve each other.
XB: “And by the
way, I don't know if I've already shared it with you, but the cats you killed
when you didn't have money to feed them and the absurd words you said come to
mind countless times: they died happy because they knew me and my love.”
Me: Wow, your
words above show me that it is really you who can’t be trusted, and you are twisting
my words. I said that I would rather die and euthanize my cats than ask XA and XL for
money. And yes, I do think it’s better
to humanely euthanize an animal than to live in crowded homes and in cages, suffering in horrible conditions. That’s no quality of life for the animals
and the humans. It’s better to live one day with authentic love than 100 years
with fake love or suffering scared on the streets and in horrible conditions.
XB: “And also take
care of your childhood repression because when you feel all the repression, the
feeling you will have for XE and XL would be compassion..."
Me: Yes, I have
taken responsibility for my own childhood repression and I feel sad for everyone
else, family or not, who is still stuck in the emotional prison of their own
childhoods, but I’m only responsible for myself, and is not healthy for me to
take in and let myself be used as poison container, it didn’t help them when
they made me their scapegoat or poison continuer when I was a small child --- and it will
not help them now either --- because hatred cannot ever be resolved by scapegoating. We can only save ourselves!
XB: “And not from
that petty enjoyment that you feel for what has happened and continues to
happen.”
Me: The words
above are just yours and XA's projections, because nothing makes XA happier than seeing others suffer; she only wants good things for herself and no one else. I hope the
little crumbs you might get from her to buy you to use you to exploit your
unresolved repressed hatred to join her hatred towards other scapegoats
to temporarily and superficially feel better are worth it to you.
XB: “you should
read the dunning-Kruger effect and you will see yourself in this complex
because as you started from a very young age hearing that you were a zero on
the left, that you were worthless, compounded by not being able to learn to
read, this left very deep feelings ingrained in you of inferiority and now that
you have learned things about psychology, you feel in a position of judge of
the total and absolute truth.”
Me: I’m glad that
reading the theory above brought you comfort and gave you the information to
diagnose me. Yes, your words reminded me of the pain I went through, but is
just a reminder because I have already been through it, if I hadn’t the
sociopaths at my job of nine and half yearswould have succeeded in destroying meafter I published my book with their mind
games and very well-orchestrated psychological warfare, but instead was one of them to self-destruct. And by coming
after me, they exposed themselves, and they showed their true colors, just like
you are doing right now.
All of my life, people have tried to use me as a scapegoat or poison container, like you are
trying to do NOW, and the sociopaths at my job did also. You and XA joined
forces to do the same, so you and XA are not much different. Now, if I can
ever picture a person who, if they were at my job of nine and a half years, they too would have played a role in the campaign to destroy me, I don’t
want to be associated with these types of cowardly people in any way, shape, or
form. Thank you for providing evidence
that you and XA are these kind of people.
Yes, many doctors are writing great theories and making great analyses.
Many
professionals out there do great analyses and understand well the reasons for
mental illness, depression, addictions, and chronic illness, which are linked to
childhood loss and trauma. I quote a few other professionals in my book to
prove that are out there, other professionals saying what Alice Miller says,
but how they go about to heal those traumas, they use the same old tools like
yoga, meditation, 12 steps, and controlled drugs, that all it does is
manipulate people's feelings, and repress their authentic feelings all over
again, and as long people go on repressing their authentic feelings, they will
be driven by them into the state of repetition compulsion of reenacting their
disastrous childhood dramas sooner or later in one form or another with anyone
they get involved with. It’s the repression of our authentic feelings that
causes us long-term harm and not the trauma itself.
As long as people's childhood repression goes unresolved -- they will be shackled into the
chains of compulsive repetition -- and it doesn't matter how well anyone
articulates very nice ideas...
The problem is
not a lack of educated people; there are plenty of them
with intellectual knowledge. The problem is an emotional blockage: the
so-called “professionals” or “educated people” hide behind their
rationalizations and seductive theories to protect themselves from facing and feeling their own emotional pain.
It takes courage to see, face, and feel our painful truths; intelligence
alone is not enough, but it rather helps create seductive rationalizations,
theories, illusions, and lies.
The words
below Alice Miller wrote to me before she passed come truer every day: “I have
learned over the years of my work on the internet that there are readers who
SEEM to understand SOME of what I have written, at least intellectually, but
they are still so afraid of their very cruel parents and of their repressed
FEELINGS of rage towards them that they are constantly looking for scapegoats.
They thus live in a continual confusion, pretending that they are healed and
even offering help and empathy to others. But eventually, they unconsciously use other people (even the ones who are quite friendly to them) as a poisonous
container, like their parents did to them, and if the offended people begin to
defend themselves, they can become very mean. I can only urge you to trust your
feelings and to NOT offer your empathy and interest to everybody just because
they say they read and understood everything I have written. In most of the
cases, it is a lie. To understand my books means to overcome the fear of one’s
parents, to honestly feel the justified rage TOWARD THEM and to no longer use
others to get free from the accumulated rage.”
XB: “Think about a really good guy to have sex
with, Imelda, [in Portugal, they call me by my middle name] that life is made up of many things and not just your morbid
interest in watching the circus burn down, in your family in Portugal, while
you're far away because that's easy.”
Me: I will do my
best not to think about you anymore. Yes, it makes it easy to detach from the
war at home with a continent and an ocean between us. Sometimes when people ask me why I left Portugal, I tell them jokingly that I’m a refugee from Portugal, and they look perplexed because Portugal is not involved in any wars, but I'm indeed a refugee from the war at home.
Dr. Julio Machado Vaz also prescribed sex in
my youth, and it was not helpful at all. You have been using sex as an escape – how does
that work for you?!
I am very
proud of the little girl I once was, despite her wounds and having a severe learning disability like dyslexia, she was courageous enough to face the world
all by herself and fight for her freedom and autonomy, and is not dependent on
others or drugs prescribed or not. I didn't believe what was said about me, and I believed in myself; otherwise, I would never have developed the courage to leave home.
Me: XA showed you
all the messages she wrote to me about you. She never said anything nice about
you, and you never said anything nice about XA either. But show me screenshots. So it's XA and you who can't be trusted. I'm
just guilty of freely sharing information with others that was useful to
me; now my work is done, and what others do with it is their responsibility.
It's time to say goodbye. This is the last message I'm writing to you.
When somebody
hands you the scissors to cut them off, it's like the trash taking itself out.
I thank XA for
removing herself and XB from my life. It’s so freeing!
Since I
published my book A Dance to Freedom: Your Guide to Liberation from Lies and Illusions, many have been trying to pull me back into their emotional prisons. They don't want me to be free if they can't be free either! But once a mind is
truly free, it can never be captured again! What I have NOW cannot be bought with
money or stolen! And this is why I’m hated so much!
With my book
and all my writings, I give people a map and the keys to liberate themselves.
If they ever find the courage to leave the emotional prison of their childhood,
as the quote below says, this journey is theirs to take.
"You
can't heal the people you love. You can't make choices for them. You can't
rescue them.
You can
promise that they won't journey alone. You can loan them your map. But this trip
is theirs." Laura Jean Truman
I changed my fate or destiny, but only I could have done that! We are only responsible for ourselves.
XB wrote the last words below to me, but because I said I wouldn't write to her anymore, I didn’t reply. But you can tell she is back paddling a little bit and probably realized she made a big mistake and let herself be used by XA, and now is trying to be the bigger girl by denying that she doesn't hate me, but no denials can change the facts because only a person with hatred could write to me what she wrote. If she were not emotionally blind, she would not let herself become a puppet or a flying monkey of XA and be used in this way. As long as our childhood repression goes unresolved, no matter how much intellectual knowledge we have in psychology, we remain emotionally blind and vulnerable to manipulation by a malignant person.
I leave people alone, but if they come after me and attack me -- I have the light -- so all I have to do is shine the light on them.
I don’t know what XA has shown her, but whatever it was, she did it maliciously, to poison her against me and to manipulate her to join her hatred and attack me through her. Just because I said no to her, how dear of me to say no to Dr. XA, so now she is on a smear campaign against me and trying to recruit as many people as possible to join her hatred to hate me too.
XB“Thanks for the answer, Imelda. I didn’t join anyone; you're wrong, I'm not even receiving money from anyone, but I saw the messages that you sent to her. I'm glad it doesn't affect you that I lost trust in you. As for my life, I know very well the mistakes I made, I know why, and I also know that everything that may happen to XE is my responsibility. As for my personal life, XX helps me share expenses and makes it easier for both of us. As for the hate you say I feel projecting onto you, it's a lie, because I don't feel hate towards you. In reality, I think that when you talk to me, since you don't talk to XA now, it would only be to try to find out some things that I might eventually know about your sisters. Continue living your freedom. … By saying that XA never said anything nice about me, you are being a mirror of your niece when she showed me what you wrote to her about me. After all, it really is time to say goodbye.”
There is a saying in the United States thatpeople living in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones at others. XA thinks she is perfect, smarter, superior, and on top of her game, but these are only illusions that can burst at any time.
When I was young, her mother used to stalk me and hated me because she couldn't control me, and now her daughter too stalks me and hates me because she can't control me either, or have me under her thumb.
I should have been more careful with her because the red flags were all there, and I was very conscious that this would happen the moment I said no to her or challenged her.
A month or so after, I was hoovered by XB with a FaceTime call, and most likely, they were both together, trying to bring me back into their orbit. But I didn't answer, now I'm in a place where if you disrespect me and attack me once, it will be the last time. Because I will never allow anyone to get back in my life again who tries to make me their scapegoat or poison container. I don’t give people second chances anymore.
"Hoovering is a type of emotional abuse or blackmail where a narcissistic person uses manipulative behaviors to pull someone back into an abusive relationship. This can include apologies, promises, love bombing, stalking, threats of suicide, or violence."
"Saying 'no" can trigger a narcissist's rage. Narcissists are hypersensitive to anything that might undermine their grandiose self-image. They thrive on constant admiration and attention, so rejection can trigger feelings of inadequacy and provoke a rageful response."
Evil is born anew with every new generation. Can you imagine if I had not left Portugal and had not liberated myself? As a small child, I was everyone’s scapegoat. Now, if I were still there, I would have been the scapegoat of the new generation that is more dangerous because they have intellectual knowledge that they use to go around making a bunch of noise without resolving their own childhood repression first. This new generation would eat me alive if they could!
For the last twenty years, that’s what I have been witnessing: a niece and a niece-in-law do, she has been going around yelling at everyone, especially at doctors, but takes the medications they give her, and now I have become her target also.
This is what many call the woke mob. All they do is go around with only intellectual knowledge they have not experienced themselves, finding fault with everyone, pointing fingers, and making a lot of noise – they are very dangerous people.
I’m going to be 65 soon, and now I just want to be left alone to live out the rest of my life in peace and quiet.
Once you resolve childhood repression you will never again be attracted to another narcissist.
Exactly!
Transference of Unresolved Fears Into Targets
I received the threatening email below from the son of XB, a young man that I tried to protect when he was just 4 years old, while I was in Portugal in 2005. He will never again have a chance to try to poison me with the poison his parents transferred into him when he was a defenseless little boy. I don't take in other people's poison, no matter who they are, family or not.
Dear Sylvie,
I am writing to formally request the immediate removal of a blog post that contains defamatory and harmful statements about myself and my family. The post in question, located at https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2024/02/the-trash-taking-itself-out.html, contains false information that severely damages our personal reputations and invades our privacy.
Specifically, the defamatory content includes:
* Mentions to myself,
XX (referred as "the child" in the post)
* Mentions to my mother, XB (referred as X in the post)
* Mentions to my XX (referred as "XX" in the post)
These statements are factually incorrect and constitute defamation:
* Under Arizona Defamation Law (Libel, Private Figure)
* Under Portuguese law (Articles 180–183)
They are not only untrue but have caused significant emotional distress to myself and my family.
In accordance with the above-mentioned defamation and privacy laws, I kindly request that you remove this post immediately to prevent further harm. If the defamatory content is not taken down within 7 days, I will have no choice but to explore legal remedies to protect my family's reputation and privacy.
Please confirm receipt of this message and the actions that will be taken to address this issue. I look forward to your prompt response and cooperation.
Sincerely,
XX
I responded, but it will be the very last time that this young man will ever hear from me and have access to me. Isn't that interesting how these narcissists all just care about their image and reputation?
I used initials, not their names, to protect their anonymity, and now I just use X. Try to sue me and see how far you get in court?!
It's impressive that this young man searched for a law in Portugal and a law in Arizona to threaten me with, and wrote the email like a lawyer.
If I don't use real names, I can write what the f I want. In the last twenty years, he never reached out to me, and now he has reached out to me to threaten me!
He could have written to share his feelings and asked to remove the part that is too painful for him to deal with, and I would have been happy to do so.
The very last time I saw him in person, he had just turned 5, and I said goodbye as I returned to the US. He kicked me in my leg very hard. I understood he was mad that I was leaving, the person who took care of him and defended him for the whole year. I had my life to live, and I couldn't stay in Portugal to take care of him. I didn't bring him into the world; his mother did, and she was responsible for protecting and caring for him. I tried to guide his mother from the United States. Still, she never developed the courage to face her fears of resolving her childhood repression, and now he learned with her to repress his fears and unconsciously try to transfer those fears into others by making threats when people don't behave to his liking...
Here is my response to his threatening email:
Confirmed!
But only because I respect your wishes. Not because of your threats.
In the United States, we have free speech, especially if what is written is true, which would be very easy to prove in a court of law.
The child in question is now an adult and old enough to face the painful truths in his life.
People like to attack others, but then they don't like it when people defend themselves by speaking the truth.
People who live in glass houses shouldn't go around throwing stones, so you should be mad at your mother and not at me.
Sadly, no one dares to face their painful truths.
Sincerely,
Sylvie Shene
These words Alice Miller wrote to me before she passed come truer every day: “AM: I have learned over the years of my work on the internet that there are readers who SEEM to understand SOME of what I have written, at least intellectually, but they are still so afraid of their very cruel parents and of their repressed FEELINGS of rage towards them that they are constantly looking for scapegoats. They thus live in a continual confusion, pretending that they are healed and even offering help and empathy to others. But eventually, they unconsciously use other people (even the ones who are quite friendly to them) as a poisonous container, like their parents did to them, and if the offended people begin to defend themselves, they can become very mean. I can only urge you to trust your feelings and to NOT offer your empathy and interest to everybody just because they say they read and understood everything I have written. In most of the cases, it is a lie. To understand my books means to overcome the fear of one’s parents, to honestly feel the justified rage TOWARD THEM, and to no longer use others to get free from the accumulated rage.”
"Narcissists often use threats as a way to control and manipulate others:
To get their way -- Narcissists may threaten to make others do what they want. They may believe that if someone doesn't agree with them, it's a personal attack on their self-esteem.
To keep people at a distance -- Narcissists may use threats to keep people away when they feel overwhelmed or at risk of narcissistic injury.
To get an emotional reaction -- Narcissists may use threats to get an emotional reaction from others, which can make them feel powerful.
Some examples of threats that narcissists may make include:
"If you leave, I'll ruin your life"
"You'll regret it if you ever cross me"
"You'll be sorry if you do that"
"Just you wait till you want something from me"
"Don't think you can get away with that"
Narcissists may also use other tactics to manipulate others, such as flattery and compliments.
The primary coping mechanism the narcissist relies on is to discharge unhappy feelings onto a target.
If someone thinks it's about them I'm referring to in my blogs and threatens me with a lawsuit, don’t they see that if they decide to file a lawsuit against me, they will be revealing their true identity and exposing themselves to the general public?!
Lawsuits become a public record! If I remove a blog post, it's because I respect a person's wishes and not because of threats of certain laws.
Filing a lawsuit is not in their best interest if they want to protect their anonymity and privacy; otherwise, the sociopaths at my job of nine and a half years would have done it already. If people don't like my writings, don't come to my blog; that's that simple. Will people ever learn that by attacking me and coming after me, they end up exposing themselves, self-snitching...
I saved her 4-year-old son's psyche enough for now as an adult to make threats against me to suppress the truth, facts, and evidence from himself and others. His mother, who abandoned him physically and emotionally when he was a defenseless little child, is protected from his unresolved repressed hatred and is directing his hatred towards me just because I dare to reveal the real state of affairs. It's sad, but it is what it is.
When people try to silence you, it can often mean they feel threatened by your voice or perspective, which could be interpreted as a fear of your potential influence or the truth you might speak; therefore, there is some validity to the idea that silencing someone is sometimes motivated by fear.
If someone is voicing opinions that contradict a dominant narrative or power structure, those in power may try to silence them to maintain control.
Speaking out against wrongdoing or highlighting issues can make those in positions of power feel vulnerable and exposed, leading them to try to shut down the criticism.
New ideas or perspectives can be unsettling, and those resistant to change might attempt to silence dissenters to maintain the status quo.
People with less power might be silenced more easily, making it crucial to analyze the power imbalance in a situation.
Beyond direct censorship, silencing can also happen through subtle means like gaslighting, ignoring, or discrediting someone's opinions.
If you put 100 black ants and 100 red ants in a jar, nothing will happen. But if you shake the jar hard, the ants will start killing each other. The red ants will consider the black ants their enemies, and the black ants will consider the red ants their enemies. The real enemy is the one who shakes the jar. The same thing happens in human society. So before we attack each other, we should think about who is shaking the jar! [Now I always see very clearly who shakes the jar! So instead of getting mad at me try to find out who is going around shaking the jar and get mad at her instead!]
Narcissists are generally not adept at containing their strongest impulses or feelings. They feel free to throw tantrums, call names, or make a scene. Their larger-than-life feelings and reactions make them feel powerful and discharge uncomfortable feelings or thoughts. Once again, it puts others on the defensive.
Shaming
Narcissists carry enormous shame, though this shame is generally outside their awareness. As a result, they tend to discharge their unpleasant feelings on those around them.
They may question others’ legitimacy. They may chide others for a less-than-perfect performance or rub a failure in another’s face. They have a knack for knocking others down a peg. The result: They feel one-up. In addition, the recipients of their shaming may feel they have to defend or explain themselves, which often gives narcissists additional ammunition for more shaming.
"Kidnapping and violence may be everyday things for fictional mob wife Carmela Soprano, but did you know that they’re horrifyingly real for mother cows? This year marks the 25th anniversary of the TV series The Sopranos, and PETA Honorary Director Edie Falco, famous for her role as Carmela Soprano, stars in our 2024 Super Bowl ad portraying the daily nightmare inflicted on mother cows in the name of cheese. The new ad was directed by DeMane Davis of Boston-based production company, Sweet Rickey; post-production was by EDITBAR, with Chris Carl as creative director.
Cows produce milk for the same reason humans do: to nourish their young. Like humans, cows form strong maternal bonds with their babies and go to great lengths to protect them. On dairy farms, workers forcibly impregnate cows so they’ll produce milk, only to take their calves away from them—typically just hours after birth—so that humans can drink their milk instead. Mother cows often call out for their calves for days after these traumatic separations.
If someone doesn’t immediately slaughter the calves, the females are doomed to the same miserable fate as their mothers and the males are sold into the veal industry, condemned to be chained up and malnourished for the remainder of their short, miserable lives.
The dairy industry runs on cruelty. After stealing their calves, farmers hook mother cows up to milking machines at least twice daily so that they can steal their milk, too. They exploit cows’ reproductive systems through genetic selection, despite the negative effects on the animals’ health. They use artificial insemination, milking regimens, and sometimes drugs to force them to produce an unnatural amount of milk—today, the average cow produces more than four times as much milk as she would have in 1950.
PETA’s investigations into dairy facilities revealed that workers electroshock cows in the face, hit them with poles and canes, and abuse them in other ways. Once their bodies wear out from repeated pregnancies, they’re sent to slaughter.
PETA’s ad will run the Saturday before the Super Bowl on CBS during Late News in northern New Jersey, where The Sopranos was set. It will also air live on YouTube TV, delivering more than 5 million impressions to people watching instant replays, game highlights, and other Super Bowl– and sports-related content.
Those Who Want Respect, Give Respect
Whaddya hear? Whaddya say? You can live without cheese—but calves need their mother’s milk. The surest way to respect cows and spare them pain and misery is to stop buying cheese and other dairy items and go vegan today. When you choose vegan cheese, you use your power as a consumer to show that you won’t support this horrific cycle of pain."
Some thing to learn from the Constitution of Brazil đŸ‡§đŸ‡·
A constitution is a set of rules that establishes the fundamental principles of a state or organization. It defines the relationship between the state's institutions, such as the legislature, executive, and judiciary. It also establishes the powers and duties of the government and guarantees certain rights to the people.
Constitutions also define the various institutions of government, their composition, powers, and functions. Almost all constitutions establish legislative, executive, and judicial branches of government.
The United States' first constitution was the Articles of Confederation and Perpetual Union.
The Constitution has been amended 27 times since its ratification, with the process for making amendments being quite onerous to prevent arbitrary changes.
There is no doubt that Alice Miller's son Martin Miller was a trigger for all of Alice Miller's books. And if he had not been born, we would not have had Alice Miller's enlightened books to help us liberate ourselves from the emotional prison of our own childhoods. And I would probably be dead NOW or still living in an emotional prison. He is just like a double-edged sword.
Martin Miller's book is nothing but smoke and mirrors. It is very sad to witness Martin Miller get together with the people who betrayed his mother while she was still alive. All they accuse Alice Miller of is precisely what they are doing. They don't take responsibility for their own unresolved childhood repression and have mastered the art of projection and transference to perfection.
I feel that Alice Miller’s experience is very similar to mine. My love for my ex and my desire to help him led me to seek help, so we could save our relationship, and in the process, I freed myself.
Alice Miller, too, saw that her son had problems, and how ironic it is that they both have the same name; my ex’s name is also Martin!
Alice Miller, like me, began lifting every stone to search for clues that would help her son, and in the process, she resolved her own repression and freed herself. Just like me, I went out looking for clues on how to help my Ex, and I ended up liberating myself in the process.
In the end, I had to let my ex go, and Alice, too, had to let her son go because once a person is an adult, no one, not even the mother, can make up for what we need as children, and we didn’t get.
Once we are adults, only we can save ourselves, and anyone who tells us otherwise is fooling us with false hopes and promises.
Alice Miller was driven to write her books to warn society of the dangers of childhood repression to save the children of the future, and help us face and resolve our own repression.
This is why it’s so essential for people to face their own repression before having children or at least become aware of their own childhood repression before their children become teenagers and adults because it’s not the trauma itself that causes long-term damage, but the repressed emotions caused by trauma that causes long term damage and if parents became aware of the damage done before their children became teenagers or adults, then they can help their children express their true feelings of anger, fear and hurt because the children are still emotionally dependent on their parents. Still, once the children become teenagers or adults, the defense mechanisms and walls have been built, and it’s out of the parents' hands; they can become the most conscious parents. Still, it will be too late because they can’t force teenagers and adult children to remove the walls to face and feel their childhood repression if they don’t wish to do so.
As Alice Miller wrote in the answers below to one of her readers:
"I am also glad that you have the hope that we can pass on our knowledge to the masses. I had this hope 30 years ago when I wrote the Drama. I thought that showing the truth could change so much. Meanwhile, I became more skeptical or just more impatient after I discovered the fear of the beaten child in all of us that built up the omnipresent resistance against the truth." Alice Miller
(Me too. I had the hope that the writing of my book would help pass this knowledge to the masses, but like Alice Miller, I have become skeptical
I published this review on Amazon, and they rejected it, saying:
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We couldn't post your review because it doesn't meet our guidelines for one or more of these reasons:
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GoodReads didn't have a problem with my review, and I received an email from them stating that someone liked my review, which is what triggered this blog. Amazon censorship is sickening.
Sylvie (The United States)’s review of The True “Drama of the Gifted Child”: The Phantom Alice Miller — The Real Person
saying "no" can trigger a narcissist's rage.Narcissists are hypersensitive to anything that might undermine their grandiose self-image.They thrive on constant admiration and attention, so rejection can trigger feelings of inadequacy and provoke a rageful response.
Other things that can anger a narcissist include:
When people see the blueprint pattern of their behaviors and try to figure them out
When people set boundaries with them
When they are called out and held accountable for their actions
When someone starts to become independent from them
Some other comments that can trigger a narcissist's rage include:
"I see through you"
"You're not as special as you think you are"
"You're not as great as you think you are"
"You always blame other people except yourself why is it that it's someone else's fault"
