Bea, all of her of books were a big help in my liberation that is hard for me to recommend which one to read first. Below are my little reviews of all of her books that I share at the end of my book A Dance to Freedom: Your Guide to Liberation from Lies and Illusions:
With this book, Alice Miller remains focused on facts and continues removing the many veils that people have used since the beginning of human history to hide the truth. She analyzes the work of famous philosophers like Nietzsche and artists like Picasso, and shows how they symbolically tell the true stories of their childhoods without ever realizing it. Alice Miller believes that the symbolism in their work helped these great thinkers survive, but that it didn’t liberate them because they never made the fundamental connection between their ideas as adults and their truths as children.
I wish I had read this book earlier because it really helped me understand the chains of repetition compulsion and how I kept reenacting my childhood drama in present relationships. Through this book I finally learned that the adult within me had to take responsibility and protect me from further abuse by paying attention to the wounded child who was also within me.
Breaking Down the Wall of Silence (Basic Books, 1997)