Sylvie: Michael Jackson was a very disturbed man acting out his childhood drama until the very end of his life. One more proof that talent, fame, and money alone will not liberate anyone from the emotional prison of childhood
ES: Sylvie: pedophilia is to do with brain lesions.
Sylvie: Brain damage/lesions are caused by childhood abuse. He is acting out unconsciously and compulsively the abuse he suffered in childhood.
This quote by Alice Miller comes to mind: "It is a great mistake to imagine that one can resolve traumas in a symbolic fashion. If that were possible, poets, painters, and other artists would be able to resolve their pain through creativity. This is not the case, however. Creativity helps us channel the pain of trauma into symbolic acts; it doesn't help us resolve it. If symbolic revenge for maltreatment received in childhood were effective, then dictators would eventually stop humiliating and torturing their fellow human beings. As long as they choose to deceive themselves about who really deserves their hatred, however, and as long as they go on feeding that hatred in symbolic form instead of experiencing and resolving it within the context of their own childhood, their hunger for revenge will remain insatiable (see Miller 1990a).”
MG: He was conscious about his stolen childhood. He said it several times himself. Most humanity is. What makes the difference is if we are conscious and consequently how we deal and compensate with the void it creates inside us. No one recovers totally from trauma but we can develop coping mechanisms aware not to hurt others who have nothing to do with it. He explained in one of the several interviews why he created Neverland and it has nothing to do with sex. I do not believe that every traumatised person in entertainment job should be suspected of abuse or prostitution as some may be accused of in show business. I recently listened to an interview by a mature Culkin when he testified for sexual abuse in defence to Michael. There were video clips of him playing at the ranch and he looked so happy. Children being sexually abused cannot pretend to be joyous. America is a terribly dangerous world if you have too much money. They will kill you and kill your memory. Here is the interview if you are interested in further analysis. https://youtu.be/QeQFGT5Jbgo
Sylvie: Macaulay's interview doesn't prove Michael Jackson didn't have a sexual perversion and didn't molest children. Every child molester proclaims to love children. Macaulay maybe has not dealt with his trauma and is still repressing it and might still feel guilt and shame about it and keeping it as a secret. I know I blamed myself and I kept it as a secret for over two decades the sexual abuse I suffered at the hands of the prestigious Portuguese doctor, Julio Machado Vaz.
All child molesters proclaim to love children. Being intellectually aware of his stolen childhood doesn't mean he was able to stop his compulsion to molest children. The only way to break free from the chains of repetition compulsion is to mourn the loss of childhood and consciously feel the repressed emotions within the context of our childhood. As long people go on repressing their emotions they will be driven by them sooner or later in one form or another to repeat the traumas they once suffered. Hilter too admitted of being beaten by his father.
"Out of the Prison of Confusion
“Even Adolf Hitler never denied that he had been beaten. What he denied was that these beatings were painful. And by totally falsifying his feelings, he would become a mass murderer. That would never have occurred had he been capable of feeling, and weeping about, his situation and had he not repressed his justifiable hatred of those responsible for his distress but consciously experienced and comprehended it. Instead, he perverted this hatred into ideology. The same hold for Stalin, Ceausescu, and all the other beaten and humiliated children who later turn into tyrants and criminals.
The return of the truth only begins to announce itself in the moment that we turn the tables and the word “spanked” condemns itself as heartless testimony to the disrespect and humiliation inflicted on the child. Only once we have become capable of empathizing with the feelings of the abused child we once were, and rejection the mockery and cynicism of our adult selves, do we begin to open the gates to the truth. Only then can we also stop being a danger to others.” From the book “Breaking Down the Wall of Silence” Alice Miller page 15, 16
All child molesters proclaim to love children. Being intellectually aware of his stolen childhood doesn't mean he was able to stop his compulsion to molest children. The only way to break free from the chains of repetition compulsion is to mourn the loss of childhood and consciously feel the repressed emotions within the context of our childhood. As long people go on repressing their emotions they will be driven by them sooner or later in one form or another to repeat the traumas they once suffered. Hilter too admitted of being beaten by his father.
"Out of the Prison of Confusion
“Even Adolf Hitler never denied that he had been beaten. What he denied was that these beatings were painful. And by totally falsifying his feelings, he would become a mass murderer. That would never have occurred had he been capable of feeling, and weeping about, his situation and had he not repressed his justifiable hatred of those responsible for his distress but consciously experienced and comprehended it. Instead, he perverted this hatred into ideology. The same hold for Stalin, Ceausescu, and all the other beaten and humiliated children who later turn into tyrants and criminals.
The return of the truth only begins to announce itself in the moment that we turn the tables and the word “spanked” condemns itself as heartless testimony to the disrespect and humiliation inflicted on the child. Only once we have become capable of empathizing with the feelings of the abused child we once were, and rejection the mockery and cynicism of our adult selves, do we begin to open the gates to the truth. Only then can we also stop being a danger to others.” From the book “Breaking Down the Wall of Silence” Alice Miller page 15, 16
MG: Sylvie Imelda Shene. In response to your comment that "Every child molester proclaims to love children " , May I also say that ' not every man that claims to love children is a suspected molester?' First of all there is no record of MJ being sexually abused to have the repetition compulsion to sexually abuse. MJ grew up in big family with several siblings which makes a difference than an only star child. All of them were in the same boat because of their popularity. On his love for children, why is the media not giving much importance to the contributions in millions of dollars he made to the deprived and unfortunate children? I recall the We are the World Project and his video with children in Brazil. Another unforgetable event several years ago and long before the sexual invented scandal was his concert in Rome. I recall the huge cubital newspaper headlines demonizing his image as the negro who was bleaching his skin to be white, It was so bad, it shocked to date. What had it to do with his art? Despite all, the stadium was all sold out and the concert was a real success.. Many learned later he had vitiligine My children who were around 9-10 were shocked too, they were ashamed 'like MJ, to be of colour (I had to work on them for sometime to neutralize the trauma). It was the music industry here protecting their competition interests, I was disgusted. how they didn't give a f**** about the impact on children. I already had read Alice Miller some 5-6 years earlier. I recall how they were ashamed to be associated with him particularly because they are of colour too. It was the first time I woke up to what the establishment media is (the Guardian is one of them too). I have witnessed the constant character assassination MJ was subjected to for his entire career until his death. Macaulin seems to have captured the essense of his personality well. I conclude by saying that when we suffer certain phases in our lives, one of the frequent reactions is also embrasing a cause to what we missed out on. Like traumatised parents, some repeat the trauma, some become over protective. What makes the difference is gaining insight and being conscious. All the historical personalities you have cited were mass murderers too, and I am not saying the sexual abuse is any less violent. I do not think any of them cared about improving the lives of the poor, any promises was a tactic to control them.
Sylvie: Of course, every person that proclaims to love children is not a child molester, but I have not seen a molester that didn’t proclaim to love children.
I’m not saying MJ was a child molester, I don’t know! I would have to study his case much closer, but some signs are there and we need to listen to the voices that are coming out and believe them.
There is no doubt MJ had a lot of issues and he died prematurely because of it.
I like MJ and always felt sorry for him, because everyone around him was just exploiting him, and the parents were the ones that exploited him the most when he was a defenseless little child, for his talents and no one ever offered him real help. -- It was a tragic life -- We live in a society that just admires a person’s talents and don’t care about the person’s suffering. They just want to be entertained and distracted from their own painful truths.
It has been proved that spanking a child in the private area is sexual abuse and can cause sexual deviance on his adult life
https://www.medicinenet.com/script/main/art.asp?articlekey=87491
It’s a well-known fact MJ was spanked as a child. As the cult of Jehovah's Witnesses, he was raised in, it teaches to spank children to make them obedient.
A few years ago I saw his mother on a TV show, while I was cat sitting at the community where I worked for nine and a half years, MJ’s mother ignorance was so sickening, saying that nowadays, children don’t get enough spanking and that is why the world is in such a mess and that the end of the world is near, because children don’t get enough spanking and discipline! It brought to mind the quote below by Alice Miller because it could not be truer!
“Emotional blindness can be well studied by examining the careers of sect members, Jehovah’s Witness, for example, are in favor of corporal punishment and constantly warn that the end of the world is near. They are not aware that they bear within themselves the abused children they once were, and that they already experienced the end of the world when they loving parents beat them. What could be worse than that? But the Jehovah’s Witnesses learned very early not recall their pain and to tell their children that hitting doesn’t hurt. The reality of the end of the world is constantly on their minds, but they do not know why.”Alice Miller, taken from the book “The Truth Will Set you free” page, 141
Read my blog Experienced Knowledge about my experience with emotional harassment in the workplace.