Saturday, July 14, 2018

I Wonder if Society will ever Wake up

Hi M,

I just sent the e-mail below to X and thought I would share it with you! I have a feeling it will trigger his repressed anger and might not want to talk to me anymore -- transferring into me -- his repressed anger -- instead of consciously feeling it within the context of his own childhood -- making me his scapegoat.  

We cannot ever resolve repressed anger by transferring it into scapegoats. The only way to resolve repressed anger is to consciously feel it within the context of our own childhood. 

This is where the whole world is stuck unconsciously and compulsively looking for scapegoats for transference effect to temporarily and superficially feel better. 

This is why Donald Trump succeeded in becoming president because he provided his followers with the scapegoats they desperately needed like (Mexicas/Emigrants/other minority groups) AND this is how all the dictators get into power -- Hilter gave the Germans the Jews to use as scapegoats... will society ever wake up to these psychological mechanisms and stop repeating  this insanity over and over again??? 

I hope you are having a  good weekend,


Hi X,

I hope you are having a good day and feeling better and you and XX enjoying the weekend.

On my blog today the blog post below is in the top ten of the most read blogs, so I reread it and I thought of you!

I know you resist seeing and feeling things within the context of your own childhood and you think that would not make any difference to do so, but it might improve the quality of life while you still on this Planet if you were able to get real. 

The Avoidance of Truth In Medicine and the Media

Instead of handling feelings by having an opportunity to talk about them, we are given medication to quieten their effects. Therapies have been around for a long time which allow patients to experience the early repressed feelings driving their symptoms, yet we never hear about them from the media. It is as though these findings are unimportant. 

Dr. Miller believes that one reason is because of the blame which the publicity would place on parents. Because of this taboo, many seeking help are not receiving it.

Even if empathetic physicians had the time to listen to their patients, most lack the understanding of the "language of emotions." Doctors have an unconscious fear of uncovering their own childhood hurts which keeps them from being as useful to their patients as they could be.

She believes that in order to heal what is needed is an inner confrontation of the early repressed abuse and the uncovering of the defenses encasing those memories. Miller believes that if physicians were at least interested in hearing about their patient's personal histories that this could help. Even recognition of one's own limitations and some knowledge of psychosomatic medicine can be of some benefit. The widespread knowledge of the reality of the childhood of most people should be incorporated in medical training. Currently, to the patient's detriment, this information is more or less completely ignored.

But we can't help another if he doesn't question anything about himself and he is forced to feel good.

The body has the last word.

The body never lies, It sticks to the facts.

“Inability to face up to the suffering undergone in childhood can be observed both in the form of religious obedience and in cynicism, irony, and other forms of self-alienation frequently masquerading as philosophy or literature.  But ultimately the body will rebel. Even if it can be temporarily pacified with the help of drugs, nicotine, or medicine, it usually has the last word, because it is quicker to see through self-deception than the mind, particularly if the mind has been trained to function as an alienated self. We may ignore or deride the messages of the body, but its rebellion demands to be heeded because its language is the authentic expression of our true selves and of the strength of our vitality.” From the book the “The Body Never Lies: The Lingering Effects ofHurtful parenting” by Alice Miller 

Another truthful quote by Alice Miller comes to mind: “Children who have been beaten, humiliated, and abused, and who find no witness to come to their aid often develop a grave syndrome in later life: they have no knowledge of their true feelings, fear them like the plague, and are therefore incapable of recognizing vital connections.” 
— Alice Miller