This blog is about learning to understand all of our feelings and learning to consciously face, feel and experience all of our feelings within the context of our own childhood.
Everything we become and happens to us is connected to childhood. Not every victim becomes an abuser, but every abuser was once a victim of abuse, these are facts, Violence is not genetic, it’s learned.
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Women are hated by both sexes, period, this is why it's hard to elect a woman for the highest office.
I have been the target of people's repressed hatred at their own mothers' or mothers' substitutes more times than I can count.
Less qualified men demagogues win elections because they give their supporters the desperately needed scapegoats.
Many people have mommy issues and are full of hatred. Their mothers are protected from their hatred, but they take revenge on all other women and other scapegoats.
They are driven by the dead hand of their unresolved childhood repression to vote for demagogues.
"Psychological abusers are attracted to what is going on within the person's life that is shiny, glamorous, or exciting, or successful, or dynamic, or vibrant," she told Business Insider. "That's what is attracting, kind of like a moth to a light, this kind of psychological perpetrators because they want to initially get something positive from that person."
I wrote her two emails one on her 40 birthday and another on her 41 birthday, but she never acknowledged them and ignored me. I understood she was too drunk on money to acknowledge me and now she is surprised our relationship ended. We grew apart that's all. Her priority is money and power and mine is being at peace and free. We are totally different people.
"Is blood thicker than water? Should family always come first?
These clichés about the importance of family abound, despite the recognition that familial relations are oftentimes hard, if not downright dysfunctional.
But over the past few years, a discussion has emerged about a somewhat taboo move: cutting ties altogether with family members deemed “toxic.”
Called going “no contact,” this form of estrangement usually involves adult children cutting ties with their parents. It might happen after years of abuse or when a parent disapproves of a child who has come out as LGBTQ+. Or it might be spurred by political or religious differences. Even Vice President Kamala Harris has been mostly estranged from her father since her parents’ divorce.
Those in favor say people should disentangle from unhealthy relationships without shame, and that family should be held to the same standards as friends and romantic partners."
Interesting article click on the link below to read more:
"Taylor Swift makes this big confession about Sean Diddy Combs; this is what she has to say about the rapper
Taylor gave the following explanation for her choice of the rapper, Diddy has really always been very nice to me. Rachael joked that Swift was going on a freaky prom date. He's a gentleman, Ray added, as quoted in a report by the Daily Star."
Here is a great example: just because someone is nice to you doesn't mean they are not abusers or dangerously repressed people. Dangerously repressed people target those they think are voiceless or below them or those they feel threatened by to use as scapegoats or poisonous containers Just like in my case, I became the target of a mob of malignant narcissists after I published my book A Dance to Freedom: Your Guide to Liberation from Lies and Illusions because the fundamental truths in my book triggered their fears of exposure so I became their number one enemy that they must destroy so they can go on with their false personas, lies, and illusions as usual.
Just a friendly reminder that abusers don't abuse/target everyone they come in contact with, so placing doubt on the people being targeted by the abuser based on your experience with that person is irresponsible and unkind. Thanks.
Someone who hates you normally hates you for one of three reasons. They either see you as a threat. They hate themselves. Or they want to be you.
Narcissist v. Sociopath
A Narcissist sees others as a means to validate his existence. The less validating you are, the less use you are to a Narcissist.
A Sociopath views others as entertainment. The less entertaining you are, the less use you are to a Sociopath.
Both the Narcissist and the Sociopath need to dominate and control others. They will both exploit you with no remorse and have no conscience. My advice? Do not validate the Narcissist and do not entertain the Sociopath. Stay clear of them. Once they suck you in, it is hard to get away. Avoid them both at all costs and if they manage to bring you into their den, run like hell. --Lisa E. Scott
The enemy wouldn't be attacking you if something very valuable wasn't inside of You. Thieves don't break into empty houses. YOU have a purpose!
Better to be slapped with the truth than kissed with a lie. RUSSIAN PROVERB
Everybody isn't your friend. Just because they hang around you and laugh with you doesn't mean they are your friend. People pretend well. At the end of the day, real situations expose fake people, so pay attention.
"There's a reason narcissistic and psychopathic individuals withhold support, validation, healthy praise, and credit from those they feel threatened by but "gush" over people they perceive won't threaten their ego and will make obedient members of their harem. Make sure you validate and reparent yourself so you stay away from these types of harmful types of people and are repelled by their lack of authenticity. You never have to seek the approval of toxic people, especially those doing less than you." Shahida Arabi, MA.
