Wednesday, June 28, 2023

An arrow can only be shot by pulling it backward

I kind of feel the quote below to be true. The bad actors in the workplace since I published my book A Dance to Freedom have been trying to pull me back very hard so this might mean I'm going to launch into something out of this world?

The bad actors pulling me back so hard cannot stop me!

And to me, I already have arrived anyway and no one can ever take me back no matter how hard they try to pull me back! I am free and I'm staying free! And it doesn't matter to me if the rest of the world sees me and recognizes me or not.

All the bad actors trying to pull me back can all kiss my A$$. Freedom isn't free, It comes with a lot of losses and I have paid a high price for it! Many people would rather kill and be killed than walk away and start over as I did at the age of 46 years old when I started over again from zero.

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=freedom+ain%27t+free+

"An arrow can only be shot by pulling it backward. When life is dragging you back with difficulties, it means it's going to launch you into something great. So just focus, and keep aiming."


All smiles, I know what it takes to fool this town

I'll do it 'til the sun goes downAnd all through the nighttimeOh, yeahOh, yeah, I'll tell you what you wanna hearLeave my sunglasses on while I shed a tearIt's never the right timeYeah, yeah
I put my armor on, show you how strong I amI put my armor on, I'll show you that I am
I'm unstoppableI'm a Porsche with no brakesI'm invincibleYeah, I win every single gameI'm so powerfulI don't need batteries to playI'm so confidentYeah, I'm unstoppable today
Unstoppable todayUnstoppable todayUnstoppable todayI'm unstoppable today
Break down, only alone I will cry out loudYou'll never see what's hiding outHiding out deep downYeah, yeahI know, I've heard that to let your feelings showIs the only way to make friendships growBut I'm too afraid nowYeah, yeah
I put my armor on, show you how strong I amI put my armor on, I'll show you that I am
I'm unstoppableI'm a Porsche with no brakesI'm invincibleYeah, I win every single gameI'm so powerfulI don't need batteries to playI'm so confidentYeah, I'm unstoppable today
Unstoppable todayUnstoppable todayUnstoppable todayI'm unstoppable todayUnstoppable todayUnstoppable todayUnstoppable todayI'm unstoppable today
I put my armor on, show you how strong I amI put my armor on, I'll show you that I am
I'm unstoppableI'm a Porsche with no brakesI'm invincibleYeah, I win every single gameI'm so powerfulI don't need batteries to playI'm so confidentYeah, I'm unstoppable today
Unstoppable todayUnstoppable todayUnstoppable todayI'm unstoppable todayUnstoppable todayUnstoppable todayUnstoppable todayI'm unstoppable today

Tuesday, June 27, 2023

Suicide is always the consequence of denied suffering in childhood

 “Suicide is always the consequence of denied suffering in childhood, as is depression. I have written an article about depression, which you can read on my website. There I refer to many examples of very successful stars, such as Dalida for instance, the famous Egyptian singer, who in their lives got everything they wanted and were admired and famous. But in the middle of their lives, they became depressive, and many committed suicide. In all these cases it was not the present that made them suffer, it was the denied traumas of their childhood that made them feel miserable because they were never consciously acknowledged. The body was left alone with its knowledge.” http://www.alice-miller.com/en/the-intended-profile/4/

The body never lies, It sticks to the facts. “Inability to face up to the suffering undergone in childhood can be observed both in the form of religious obedience and in cynicism, irony, and other forms of self-alienation frequently masquerading as philosophy or literature.  But ultimately the body will rebel. Even if it can be temporarily pacified with the help of drugs, nicotine, or medicine, it usually has the last word, because it is quicker to see through self-deception than the mind, particularly if the mind has been trained to function as an alienated self. We may ignore or deride the messages of the body, but its rebellion demands to be heeded because its language is the authentic expression of our true selves and of the strength of our vitality.” From the book “The Body Never Lies: The Lingering Effects of hurtful parenting” by Alice Miller 

Another truthful quote by Alice Miller comes to 
mind: “Children who have been beaten, humiliated, 
and abused, and who find no witness to come to 
their aid often develop a grave syndrome in later life: 
they have no knowledge of their true feelings, fear 
them like the plague, and are therefore incapable of 
recognizing vital connections.” — Alice Miller

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2018/07/i-wonder-if-society-will-ever-wake-up.html

“Many world-famous stars who are envied and idolized are in fact profoundly lonely people. As the example of Dalida indicates, they were misunderstood precisely because they could not understand themselves. And they were not able to understand themselves because their environment responded to them with admiration rather than understanding. Finally, they took their own lives. This vortex tells us a lot about the mechanisms of depression. People seek understanding by pinning their hopes to success, they take endless trouble to achieve such success and to arouse the admiration of an ever-larger audience. But this admiration cannot provide any real sustenance as long as understanding is absent. Despite the success they have made of their careers, life is meaningless because they remain strangers to themselves. And this self-alienation persists because they want to completely forget what happened to them in their early lives and to deny the sufferings of childhood. As this is the way society functions, these stars were bound to remain misunderstood and suffered the torments of chronic loneliness.
The categorical denial of the pain we suffered at the beginning of our lives is harmful in the extreme. Suppose someone setting out on a long walk sprains an ankle right at the outset. That person may decide to ignore the pain and to soldier on because he/she has been looking forward to the outing, but sooner or later others will notice that they are limping and will ask what has happened. When they hear the whole story they will understand why this person is limping and advise him/her to go for treatment. But in connection with the sufferings of childhood, which play a similar role in our lives to a sprained ankle at the beginning of a long hike, then things are different. Those sufferings cannot be "played down," they will leave their mark on the whole enterprise. The crucial difference, in this case, is that normally no one will take any notice. The whole of society is, as it were, in unison with the sufferer, who cannot say what has happened. It may well be that, despite the violation of their integrity, people who have been injured in this way really have no memories. If they have to spend their whole lives with people who play down the traumas of childhood, then they have no choice but to connive in this self-delusion. Their lives will progress in much the same way as the outing of the hiker who has sprained his ankle but pretends that nothing has happened. Should they, however, encounter people who know about the long-term effects of childhood traumas, then they will have the chance to abandon their denial and good prospects of healing the wounds they have been carrying around with them.

Most people are not so fortunate. The celebrities among them are surrounded by hosts of unsuspecting admirers, none of whom recognize the distress afflicting the stars they idolize. This is in fact the last thing they want to know about. Examples are legion. We may recall the fate of the enchanting Marilyn Monroe, who was put in a home by her mother, was raped at the age of nine, and was sexually harassed by her stepfather when she returned to her family. Right to the end she trusted in her charm, and finally, she was killed by depression and drugs.”

Monday, June 26, 2023

Being single beats being married, psychologist claims

I can testify that being single beats being married! I'm a very happy single by choice. I could not agree more with Professor Bella DePaulo. 

"Increasing numbers of people are single because they want to be"

Being single allows people to “live their best, most authentic and most meaningful life” and the idea of wedded bliss is largely a myth, a psychologist has claimed.

Professor Bella DePaulo told the American Psychological Association’s annual convention in Denver that she wanted to challenge the “conventional wisdom” that getting married helped people live longer, happier, and healthier lives.

She said she had looked at more than 800 different academic studies carried out over the last 30 years that mentioned single people.

“The available findings are telling. For example, research comparing people who have stayed single with those who have stayed married shows that single people have a heightened sense of self-determination and they are more likely to experience a sense of continued growth and development as a person,” said Professor DePaulo, of the University of California, Santa Barbara. 

...The preoccupation with the perils of loneliness can obscure the profound benefits of solitude.

“It is time for a more accurate portrayal of single people and single life – one that recognizes the real strengths and resilience of people who are single, and what makes their lives so meaningful.

Professor DePaulo said married people were bolstered by the “relentless celebration of marriage and coupling and weddings that I call matrimania”.

Read more in the link below:

https://www.independent.co.uk/news/science/single-married-whats-better-not-having-a-partner-expert-claims-a7174146.html





Friday, June 23, 2023

Why AI Is So Dangerous & How It Could Destroy Humanity

 


Humanity everywhere is corrupted to the core and has passed the point of no return a long time ago. Humanity is insane and with the aid of technology, is going to destroy itself much faster.

I have a feeling many in the tech world it's their goal to get rid of most of humanity and are consciously programming algorithms to divide people to hate each other and kill each other, otherwise, why would they program the algorithms, as Facebook does, by suppressing the truth that can set humanity free but instead, allows the lies to spread like wildfire. Lies and misinformation feed all the violence and wars we witness in our world.

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2011/05/i-am-being-censored-by-facebook.html

"Children who are told the truth and are not brought up to tolerate lies and cruelty can develop as freely as a plant whose roots have not been attacked by pests (in our case, lies)" Alice Miller 


Dark Psychology Tricks

My ex-boss was very well-trained in dark psychology. But didn't work on me. And sooner or later, he and his cronies will meet their own destinies... everyone does, there is no escape. Everywhere I look, I see people playing this dirty game. 

My very last boss was the most conniving person I ever dealt with. Thanks to seeing these dark psychological tricks very clearly, I survived working with him for 4 years. These people are pure evil, criminals. 

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2023/03/hard-evidence-of-my-ex-boss-being.html

I just thought to myself: I always lose money and the sociopaths go Scot-free and keep all the money, but I keep my dignity, conscious/soul and that is worth more than all the money in the world. And eventually, they will meet their own destiny and the money will not save them in the end.

We understand a lot about human motivation once we realize one thing: ninety-nine percent of humanity spends ninety-nine percent of their time trying to avoid facing and feeling painful truths.

Dark psychology is the use of tactics to motivate, persuade, manipulate, and coerce people to get what you want. Here are some examples of dark psychology tricks:
  • Love bombing: Giving someone a lot of attention, then taking it away
  • Restricting choice: Mainly used by waiters and parents
  • Ghosting
  • Withdrawal
  • Gaslighting
  • Reverse psychology
  • Love flooding
  • Emotional manipulation
  • Consistently thanking someone for basic things
  • Silence
  • Manipulative negotiation techniques
  • Guilt trip
  • The importance of the word "because"
In some cases, the use of dark psychology techniques to manipulate others may be illegal. 

Priceless! FOR ANIMAL LOVERS

 

FOR THOSE OF YOU WHO HAVE PETS, THIS IS A TRUE STORY.

FOR THOSE THAT DON'T, IT IS A TRUE STORY.

The following was found posted very low on a refrigerator door.
 
Dear Dogs and Cats: The dishes on the floor with the paw prints are yours and contain your food The other dishes are mine and contain my food. Placing a paw print in the middle of my plate does not mean that is is suddenly your food, nor do I find that aesthetically pleasing in the slightest.
 

The stairway was not designed by NASCAR and is not a racetrack. Racing me to the top of the stairs is not the object. Tripping me doesn't help because I fall faster than you can run.
 
I cannot buy anything bigger than a king sized bed. I am very sorry about this. Do not think I will continue sleeping on the couch to ensure your comfort. Dogs and cats can actually curl up in a ball when they sleep. It Is not necessary to sleep perpendicular to each other, stretched out to the fullest extent possible. I also know that sticking tails straight out and having tongues hanging out on the other end to maximize space that you are taking up, is nothing but sarcasm.
 
For the last time, there is no secret exit from the bathroom! If, by some miracle, I beat you there and manage to get the door shut, it is not necessary to claw, whine, meow, try to turn the knob or get your paw under the edge in an attempt to open the door. I must exit through the same door I entered. Also, I have been using the bathroom for years - canine/feline attendance is not required.
 
The proper order for kissing is: Kiss me first, then go smell the other dog or cat's butt. I cannot stress this enough.
 
Finally, in fairness, dear pets, I have posted the following message on the front door:

TO ALL NON-PET OWNERS WHO VISIT AND LIKE TO COMPLAIN ABOUT OUR PETS:
 
(1) They live here. You don't.

(2) If you don't want their hair on your clothes, stay off the furniture. That's why they call it 'fur'-niture.

(3) I like my pets a lot better than I like most people.

(4) To you, they are animals. To me, they are adopted sons/daughters who are short, hairy, walk on all fours and don't speak clearly.
 
Remember, dogs and cats are better than kids because they:

(1) eat less,

 (2) don't ask for money all the time,

(3) are easier to train,

(4) normally come when called,

(5) never ask to drive the car,

(6) don't hang out with drug-using people;

(7) don't smoke or drink,

(8) don't want to wear your clothes,

(9) don't have to buy the latest fashions,

(10) don't need a gazillion dollars for college and

(11) if they get pregnant, you can sell their children.....(*_*)

 

Wednesday, June 21, 2023

How Americans EAT Portuguese Food EVERYDAY (Without Knowing)

 


Search area for lost Titanic-bound submersible deepens, doubles in size as oxygen dwindles

Here's a great example that having too much money can get you into a lot of trouble! 

Money alone it's the biggest illusion, ever! The only way to be happy, joyous, and free is to resolve childhood repression and break free from the emotional prison of our childhood. https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2016/07/the-conversation-about-effects-of.html

"Yes, we can say this without any hesitation. Every behavior that is directed against the health of a person, that hinders the healthy functioning of the body and mind, is a repetition of once-endured mistreatment, neglect, confusion, lies, betrayal, perverted practices, and the exploitation of the child." Alice Miller

Tuesday, June 20, 2023

My efforts were not in vain after all

I use Facebook Memories to delete past posts because I'm tired of Facebook censoring me and I have quit Facebook, and I want to delete most of my posts there. Today I got this old note I published in 2011 https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2022/08/i-will-no-longer-be-on-social-media.html

I have been feeling a little frustrated and tired lately and wanting to give up my efforts of trying to raise awareness, but I got the e-mail below from my nephew and my niece-in-law in Portugal, this year their beautiful son graduated from Elementary School. Thanks to my niece-in-law’s courage to see her own truth and reaching out to me to help her protect her son, their journey has been difficult and painful, but they are raising their beautiful boy in truth and honesty and I congratulate them for their courage to open their eyes and see. This e-mail showed me my efforts were not in vain and that I have to keep trying to reach people and not to give up, because even if only I can reach a few it is worth it. [Today, my great-nephew has graduated from college and is an engineer in the tech world.]

 Data: 20 de junho de 2011 09:41:39

GMT+01:00

 Subject:  Page for Finalists Book

 Portuguese to English translation

 The 1st time I went with my mother to Jasmine's school, it was Marisa who showed us the school and told us about the teaching methods and all the activities in school. I was so hopeful about this school that I wanted to change here soon. I started first grade in the school Pedras and my teacher there at the end of the 1st month divided us into the Good, Bad, and More or Less. So I tried this new school where we were all equal.

 I studied in this school for four years and in Jasmine was time to grow and learn. It was with Professor Ana who I learned to read and write. After Professor Rita, which came into my life and my heart and taught me so many things ... In the 4th year, Professor John closed the cycle and I learned a lot of matters and Professor John is fun to take classes, especially history.

 Thanks to my teachers! I also like very much all the friends I made here and one of my best friends is Chico. C F

 When my eight-year-old son on Mother's Day dedicated me the poem below it was the happiest day of my life.

 Mother

The light from your eyes

 as the sea are beautiful

 Forget the material

 because the best

 are the sentimental

 Oh, Mother, you are beautiful ...

 As the petal of a flower

which is called love!

 You are cool

 As the gentle sea breeze

that lights the day ...

 I wept with joy and thrilled me.

 The 5th of October 2001 was the happiest day of my life.

 I would like to share the website l of my Aunt, who lives in the United States,

in Scottsdale, Arizona, called Sylvie Shene, and came to Portugal between October 2003 and May 2005, sharing her story.

 https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2014/08/a-dance-to-freedom-book-reviews.html

 What we learned from her made it possible to realize our dream as Parents,

which I think is the dream of all mothers and fathers of the world: The Happiness of Our Children. Alice Miller in her book "The Truth will set Free” explained how I begin my journey in 2003. F S

 I am the father of C F, and I feel great joy and pride. I have grown more with my son and I have learned so much from him, than in my whole life. I know true love, for the 1st time, through the eyes of my son. Thanks, C F. C A

Sylvie Imelda Shene: W, my grandnephew started first grade four years ago in a public school named Pedras and the school was so abusive that when my niece called me to share with me what was happing to her son, I told her that she had to take him out of that school and not to think twice that was her job as a mother to protect her son from anyone abusing him, so thank goodness she listened to me and looked for another school and she found this private school named Jasmim, they had to make big financial sacrifices in order to pay for it, but it was worth it because now they have a happy child.

Below is a letter my niece wrote to the abusive School that I translated with Google Translate.
I have published the original letter in Portuguese on my blog on the Portuguese side. I know you know Spanish and if you like to try to read Portuguese here is the link to it:
A Concerned Mother
Ladies and Gentlemen:
This letter aims to explain the reasons which lead me to request the transfer of my son from the School of Pedras to the School of Jasmin.
My son was so excited about the start of school and after one month of staying in this school went sad and did not want to go to school.
The education system does not motivate or encourage children to like school and discourages children to learn what is very serious for a country that intends not to be behind in Europe in relation to school failure and illiteracy.
On the 2nd day of class, the teacher told my son that his design was very ugly. my son had great sorrow because the teacher Corina in pre-school encouraged the students to draw a lot and even exposed the work of all children. My son has had many works displayed at the school at the end of the year.
My son cried a lot, and could not even eat the bread they brought for lunch. The teacher did not have the slightest compassion for the suffering of my son and also said that he should go back to preschool. 

Not respected in both situations. Since that day my son loved to draw, at home he stopped picking up the paper or the pen. I spoke with my son about this problem several times telling the truth to my son, he is good at drawing and has a flair for design but the fact is that he has not drawn as used to. 

This event marked him very negatively and was so great his sorrow and not know how long it will take to overcome it. I have the cover of last year with all the work of my son, aged 5 years, and shows its capabilities, for teachers who want to see it. 

I talked to the teacher on the subject Candida and asked him to go to see the cover drawing that has the sea. It is simply a rough sea with big waves and stormy and uncertain with the true sea tides. My child is a child extremely observant and knows the characteristics of the sea and the waves and it is perfectly natural and understandable that on the 2nd day of school, his mind was agitated because he was on the 2nd day of school with a new teacher and also some new colleagues and all that went into the drawing.
In the second week of school, the teacher hit a student with a ruler and my son for him to sit.
He was sitting right in front of the side frame and stood up to put out what their colleagues were drawing teacher and hit the 3 boys.
Had not yet passed the first month of classes and the teacher changed all children from starting positions where they were sitting and told them the good, more-or-less, and bad
Have the children divided by these criteria? I consider this very serious division for all children and ask for equality for all including the children's room that Rodrigo is the boy who spends more time on the side of evil, regardless of the behavior (which is a symptom that something is happening with the child), the ease/difficulty of learning, learning time (which varies from child to child) or time it takes to draw the vowels or diphthongs or doing any other exercise. I would love for you to read the article 'titled" School Notes: Helpful or Harmful? "
The teacher allowed a mother to enter the classroom and that permission to beat his son if he needed to "catch up". The most serious is that this mother is the director of the School Pedras to hold the position of Director should give the epitome of respect for children and especially his son who belongs to this class.

As for attendance has missed two and a half days which forced him to change it and then the children had to adapt to more than two new teachers to adapt to the teacher that Candida was still to be made.
There is also a security problem during recess in the morning and afternoon. In the playground, the children are not being properly monitored because there is a lack of employees. Children are not safe, some boys from the 4th year are bullying the 1st year students and of course, they are 5 and 6 years old and cannot defend themselves from the 9 or 10 years old. The strength and height of not allowing that to happen and sometimes having 2 or 3 against one of the smallest. It's happening daily. Two fourth-grade boys came to my son and took him and held him and the other hit him. What I am suggesting is that teachers and assistants also help take care of the children in the playground. The responsibility of all teachers should not end with the bell for recess but remain throughout the period they are in school. I learned that last year the playground, in the back of the school, a boy was playing in the hills of the wall fell down and fainted. It is necessary and urgent that this does not happen again protect that area with nets, so as not to allow children to have access to that site to play. Children by nature are very curious and courageous and that space should be preserved.

On the question of my son eating lunch in the cafeteria a few times, the days when lunch was only the day when I could not go get him. I received the following notice from employees who are at the gate at the entrance from 9 am: "They asked me to warn you that your child can not eat lunch on school days only in meat and are worried about the food wheel Francisco. " When you make the purchase of passwords in the Parish Council, the clerk always asks me how many passwords I want to buy. My question is this: my son to be able to enjoy lunch in the canteen was always or only could have lunch on the days you needed?
The question which arises is: what is the legal framework to keep the gate locked and not allow parents to school entry (which looks more like a prison). Consider the school an interactive space between students, teachers, and parents that cannot be derived from this rule imposed by the group.
Against this background black the question I ask is this: is it allowed for parents in Portugal to teach their children at home and in the 4th year or at the end of each academic year to do an exam and give them an equivalent as if they had attended school (I know in the U.S. this system is implemented).
I ask the very group responsible for this to read with full attention to these problems are only some of the problems of the School Pedras and take the necessary measures to solve problems and be able to make this school a better school, more just and fraternal because classroom with 24 children they still need to be treated with respect and in order to learn. This phase of primary school is decisive in the life of any child is in your hands and changes and believe that all staff of the school can grow and improve. The school my son moved to is a dream come true by a person who studied in Brazil and has such fond memories of her elementary school that decided to build one in Portugal and is a completely different method of teaching. It is the School Jasmim. I also like to share the website of Sylvie Shene https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2014/08/a-dance-to-freedom-book-reviews.html
Best Regards,
F S and her son C S



C A: Jasmim school is the name of the school

W M: So they took him to a more liberal school after Elementary school? What's a Jasmine

 school?

Thursday, June 15, 2023

Mad Scientists - Elon Musk

PETA cofounder Ingrid Newkirk says she's sending Elon Musk a third of her heart when she dies because she doesn't think he has one

The article in the link above about Elon Musk being heartless brought to mind the words Alice Miller wrote below in her article Unlived Anger

Our world doesn't need more geniuses! What our world needs most is people with the courage to open their eyes to see and feel the real state of affairs. 

"An American professor, for example, has been conducting experiments for years with brain transplants. In an interview with the magazine Tele, he reports that he has already succeeded in replacing the brain of one monkey with that of another. He does not doubt that in the foreseeable future, it will be possible to do the same thing with human beings. 

Readers have a choice here: they can be thrilled at so much scientific progress, or they can wonder how such absurdity can be possible and what purpose such pursuits can serve. But a piece of seemingly unimportant information may produce an "aha" reaction in them, for Professor White speaks of "religious feelings" connected with his endeavor. 

Questioned by the interviewer, he explains that he had a very strict Catholic upbringing and in the opinion of his ten children had been raised like a dinosaur. 

I don't know what is meant by this, but I can imagine that this image refers to antediluvian methods of child-rearing. 

What does that have to do with his scientific work? Perhaps this is the unconscious background for Professor White's experiments: by devoting all his energy and vitality to the goal of one day being able to transplant brains in human beings, he is fulfilling his long-harbored infantile wish to be able to replace his parents' brains. 

Sadism is not an infectious disease that strikes a person all of a sudden. It has a long prehistory in childhood and always originates in the desperate fantasies of a child who is searching for a way out of a hopeless situation."

From the book: “For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-Rearing and the Roots of Violence” By Alice Miller
http://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2011/01/unlived-anger.html

"A defenseless child that is tortured and at the same time forbidden to defend itself, to cry, to scream, to rage—to live. A child from whom only obedience and good behavior are expected. The only thing remaining to him, if he has talent, is to develop a dazzling intellect. Life escapes him daily. Abstract thought offers a chance of survival. In the meantime, the body seeks to express its terrible distress in other ways than tears and screams. It produces an endless catalogue of symptoms, in the hope that someone will finally sit up and take notice and perhaps ask the [question]: "What is causing you such distress?" (Alice Miller, on Nietzsche, from Breaking Down the Wall of Silence)

Elon Musk also has shared that he had a not-very-nice childhood but has not resolved the repressed emotions of the child he once was and is running from his painful emotions with his sharp intellect and work, and developing the technology to one day escape to Mars. It's pure madness. 

Definition of life: life is a sexually transmitted incurable disease. I am kidding around, but think about it, it’s true!

It takes courage to see and speak the truth, intelligence alone is not enough, but it rather helps to create a lot of seductive lies that ring like truth.

When we are open and attentive to our true feelings and follow them -- we are being honest -- and as an honest person -- we have better chances to meet other honest people with whom we can connect on a deeper level and that is extraordinary, and definitely worth living for.

When people are not able to face and feel at the conscious level a painful truth, they will always use rationalizations and the intellect to create a smoke screen to hide the facts from themselves and others --- and they rather shoot the messenger than face and feel at the conscious level their own painful truths.

The quote below by Alice Miller could not be truer!  I witness people doing this every day, especially online! People compulsively preach and try to educate others, but they themselves have not been able to face and feel at the conscious level their own painful truths and liberate themselves from their own emotional prison.

“To many people it seems easier to take medication, to smoke, drink alcoholic, preach, educate or treat others, and prepare wars than expose themselves to their own painful truth.” From the book banished knowledge by Alice Miller


Wednesday, June 14, 2023

Singapore found Sylvie's place



"The time when one could deny that sexual seduction is extremely traumatic for children appears to have ended. The more studies that come out on the effects of childhood sexual abuse, the more severe the damage is found to be. The flood of books and articles documenting the emotional problems of victims both in childhood and in later life has to be read in detail to appreciate the profound sense of betrayal and the terrifying fears felt by the child so that even single incidents have the power to permanently ravage their lives. Severe somatic reactions, depersonalization, self-hatred, hysterical seizures, depression, borderline personality formation, promiscuity, sexual dysfunctions, suicide, self-mutilation, night terrors and flashbacks, multiple personalities, post-traumatic stress disorders, delinquency, bulimia, and the overall stunting of feelings and capacities have all been documented – the earlier and the more often the abuse, the worse the damage." -- Lloyd DeMause
Above excerpt from the article The Universality of Incest by Lloyd DeMause www.psychohistory.com/articles/the-universality-of-incest/
Psychohistory Articles Menu www.primal-page.com/psyhis.htm#menu
"Yes, we can say this without any hesitation. Every behavior that is directed against the health of a person, that hinders the healthy functioning of the body and mind, is a repetition of once-endured mistreatment, neglect, confusion, lies, betrayal, perverted practices, and the exploitation of the child." Alice Miller

Tuesday, June 13, 2023

A Dance to Freedom -- A Must-Read for anyone navigating life with unresolved childhood trauma!

Today I was notified that I had a new five-star review on Amazon.com

"The author writes with such beautiful candor and shares of her life story to enlighten and inspire others to learn their truth too…So well written and a must read for anyone who feels stuck in life and wants to break free and learn to live again!!!"

https://www.amazon.com/gp/customer-reviews/RL9P1IT4EI8AG/ref=cm_cr_arp_d_rvw_ttl?ie=UTF8&ASIN=1539859886

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