Friday, September 12, 2025

Social media isn’t the cause -- it's just a mirror

 🏡 Nothing feels better than being home for the weekend with no human plans. Two full days of peace with my cats are the best gift.

I heard the governor of Utah blaming social media for turning young people violent. Social media isn’t the cause—it’s just a mirror. It reveals both emotional insight and emotional blindness.

The real cause of violence is unresolved childhood repression. Most people carry the rage of the abused child they once were, spreading lies and propaganda everywhere. Without truth and healing, technology becomes another stage for reenacting childhood dramas.

Silence, peace, and truth—that’s where freedom lives. 🌱



Free Speech, Silence, and Selective Outrage

Back in 2015, after being targeted by sociopaths, I wrote that free speech in America is an illusion. I saw then what remains true today: when truth threatens the powerful, silence follows. Those who claim to be “truth-tellers”—from comedians like Bill Maher to tech moguls like Elon Musk—avoid the naked truth when it exposes the lies and hypocrisy of their own side. They talk endlessly about freedom, but when confronted with real evidence of manipulation, they turn away.

Now, after Charlie Kirk’s assassination, we see the same script playing out. The assassin, Tyler Robinson, is a 22-year-old raised in a conservative, authoritarian household. His father, Matt Robinson, is a veteran sheriff’s deputy who personally turned him in. The irony is heavy: a young man shaped by authoritarianism becomes a murderer, while Trump and his allies posture as victims of a war they themselves fuel with lies.

Trump now says “the country will heal.” But the truth is, healing never comes from repression and silence. Healing requires confronting the lies—on all sides—that ignite violence in the first place.

Democratic leaders, including Bernie Sanders, rush to condemn the violence, but remain silent on the propaganda and misinformation that feeds it. Republicans, when one of their own is the killer, quickly downplay it as the act of a “troubled young man.” But when violence comes from the other side, they exploit it relentlessly to demonize entire groups.

As I wrote in 2017, debating my ghostwriter:

“When the evidence is put in front of you that a white man has committed a crime that could have destroyed my livelihood, you have a hard time believing it and questioning me?! …When a criminal of other races or from different countries is caught committing a crime, they are called thugs and terrorists… But when a white man commits a crime, there is sometimes a big cover-up… If many people are killed, and they can't cover up the crimes, they say he is troubled, mentally ill, a lone wolf—but never a thug or terrorist. That’s racist and discriminatory, don’t you think?!”

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The hypocrisy is glaring: when the violence suits their narrative, they amplify it to gain power. When it threatens their narrative, they minimize it or stay silent. Both sides are guilty, because both sides fear the truth more than violence.

And as I wrote in 2015, Free Speech in America Is an Illusion, those in power do not want authentic voices heard. They want the illusion of free speech—words that fill the air without ever breaking through the walls of repression.

Until humanity has the courage to face the truth about childhood repression, lies will continue to fuel violence, and silence will continue to protect the powerful.

Notice: Transcript is AI and human-generated 


Thursday, September 11, 2025

The Blame Game, the Medal of Freedom, and the Fear of Truth

Elon Musk, a bright and intelligent man, is playing the same blame game as the rest of the far right. A man of his intelligence should be able to see that both sides are responsible for spreading lies and misinformation. When someone from the left is assassinated, the right stays silent, and the left barely whispers. But when someone from the far right is assassinated, the noise is deafening. The extreme right seizes the victim role and exploits the tragedy to gain more power and control.

As the BBC reported, “Some of Trump's key allies—including influencer Laura Loomer and Elon Musk—pinned blame on the left or the Democratic Party, and called for mass arrests and broad police crackdowns.”

And now, in an upside-down world, Trump has announced that he will posthumously award Charlie Kirk the Presidential Medal of Freedom—for a man who spread lies, misinformation, and propaganda that fueled the very violence that consumed him.

“President Trump, at a memorial event at the Pentagon on the anniversary of the 9/11 terror attacks, announced that he will posthumously award Charlie Kirk the Presidential Medal of Freedom.” (ABC News)

Both Sides Fear the Truth

Last night, I tagged Grok, Elon, Kamala, Hillary, Altman, and Bill Gates in my post—and all remained silent, pretending not to see. This proves what I’ve witnessed my whole life: both sides fear the naked truth. They are more afraid of truth based on facts and evidence than they fear violence itself.

When I was targeted by a mob of sociopaths, they came from both sides. Neither could manipulate me into self-destruction with their lies and games, so now they pretend I don’t exist. But the truth protects me from these evil people, who consciously choose darkness. They know the truth, but they ignore it, preferring to profit from chaos, lies, and confusion.

Alice Miller saw this clearly:

“We cannot really love if we are forbidden to know our truth, the truth about our parents and caregivers, as well as about ourselves. We can only try to behave as if we were loving, but this hypocritical behavior is the opposite of love. It is confusing and deceptive, and it produces much helpless rage in the deceived person. This rage must be repressed in the presence of the pretended ‘love,’ especially if one is dependent, as a child is, on the person who is masquerading in this illusion of love.”
(The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self, p. 23)

The Sociopath’s Game

As I wrote in my blog For a Sociopath, Winning Is All back in 2016, they even tried to silence me with a Cease and Desist letter—accusing me of doing exactly what they were guilty of. They didn’t sign their letters because they knew they were lying. Sociopaths are cowards, desperate for their targets to react violently so they can pin them down with accusations. But all they have are lies.

Read more here →

Evil Is Reborn with Every Generation

This blame game also reminds me of my niece XA. For years, she followed me, learned from me, absorbed the psychological knowledge I freely shared. But in the end, she consciously chose darkness, using what she learned not to heal, but to manipulate and gain advantage in the same wicked games of money and power.

Evil is born anew with every generation. And this new generation has no excuse. Past generations could say they lacked access to enlightened information, but today the truth is available to anyone who truly seeks it. With the internet and even AI, knowledge is at our fingertips. Yet many consciously turn away, preferring lies over truth.

As I wrote to my niece in 2020, At Crossroads, Pick the Road Less Travelled, "Making a decision is not going to be easy for you! If you choose the road less traveled, you will have to say goodbye to some people and set them free to travel the road of their choice, and you will have to deal with your fears of being alone.  

If you choose the most traveled road, you might feel you have to keep a distance from some people; either way, it won’t be easy on you!

Whatever the road you choose, I understand, and I hope you pick the one that is better for you! And I hope it is not driven by fear, but by love."

Read more here →

Wednesday, September 10, 2025

Charlie Kirk, Violence, and the Trap of the Victim Game

 Today, Charlie Kirk—the man who once said gun deaths were the price of preserving the Second Amendment—became a victim of the very violence he defended. His words, “gun deaths are part of America’s reality,” now echo with tragic irony.

But what’s most dangerous is not only his death—it’s how the Trump administration and far-right leaders will exploit it. They will play the ultimate victim card to push their extreme agenda and grab more power. Violence is their trap. They provoke it, they manipulate it, and when it comes, they weaponize it to justify more violence and repression.

John Lennon saw this clearly:

“When it gets down to having to use violence, then you are playing the system's game. The establishment will irritate you—pull your beard, flick your face—to make you fight. Because once they've got you violent, then they know how to handle you. The only thing they don't know how to handle is non-violence and humor.”

The far right thrives on lies and illusions. As Alice Miller wrote:

“Children who are told the truth and are not brought up to tolerate lies and cruelty can develop as freely as a plant whose roots have not been attacked by pests (in our case, lies).”

But most children are forced to tolerate lies and cruelty, and this repressed pain fuels violence and war. Kirk, like many others, escaped into propaganda instead of truth, perpetuating hatred that ultimately consumed him.

I’ve seen this same pattern in my own life. At my job of nine and a half years, the sociopaths waged a smear campaign against me after I published my book A Dance to Freedom, hoping I would react violently so they could play the victims. I refused. I knew their game.

As I once wrote in Narcissists Are Secretly Suicidal and Homicidal:

“Malignant narcissists, sociopaths, and psychopaths are secretly suicidal and homicidal. Still, they lack the courage to do it themselves, so they resort to mind games, trying to manipulate others into doing their dirty work so that they can play the ultimate victim role. They don’t care if innocent victims are hurt or killed in the process; it’s all collateral damage in their eyes. They only care that they themselves are seen in the public eye as the victim, and their real victim is seen as the abuser.”

Marie-France Hirigoyen, in Stalking the Soul, explains how abusers thrive on driving their victims to destruction—so they can point and say, “See, she’s the crazy one.”

This is the tragic cycle of violence we see playing out everywhere: in families, workplaces, schools, politics, and now, again, in America’s endless gun tragedies. Today also brought another school shooting in Colorado and news that NATO shot down Russian drones in Poland. Humanity is drowning in the same trap—provoked violence that spirals into more violence.

The only way out is to refuse the game. To stand in truth, not lies. To feel, not repress. To resist violence not with counter-violence, but with clarity, courage, and non-compliance with the illusion.



Monday, September 8, 2025

The World Is Full of Charlatans Who Keep Us Numb and Distracted

This blog post was polished by ChatGPT.

To read my original version of this blog with my raw English, click HERE

Self-help guru Wayne W. Dyer dies at 75

Reflections on the Death of Wayne W. Dyer

“He was born Wayne Walter Dyer in Detroit and grew up in a series of foster care homes. His father was an alcoholic who left the family when Dyer was 3.”
— Excerpt from the article reporting his death

I didn’t know much about Wayne Dyer’s childhood, but I’m not surprised to learn he was abandoned as a young child. Like so many others, he escaped his pain through the only avenue that seemed socially acceptable: intellect. With it, he recycled and repackaged the same seductive lies and disconnected half-truths that have been passed down for generations. These “feel-good” messages helped him numb his own unresolved childhood trauma — and they helped millions of others stay numb in their emotional prisons, too.

His books offered survival, but not freedom.

I know this all too well, because for years I was also distracted from feeling my childhood pain through his books — and Deepak Chopra’s too. I remember going to hear them speak in the 1990s when they came to Phoenix, Arizona. I would leave those events feeling high, like I’d taken a spiritual drug. Their speeches were intoxicating — smooth, uplifting, and full of promises. But those promises were illusions. They were not paths to liberation, but polished bandaids for gaping emotional wounds.

And I fell for them.

I now see that I wasted so many years — with these self-help charlatans, and with the 12-step programs that only helped me survive a little longer in my emotional prison. I don’t say this lightly, and I know “charlatan” might sound harsh. But it fits. These men were cult leaders in disguise, cloaked in spiritual robes, keeping millions distracted and emotionally blind while calling it “healing.”

They sold illusion as love. And many of us bought it.

As I wrote in A Dance to Freedom, on pages 126–127:

“Ultimately, I realized that self-help books and 12-step programs offer a false hope at best. I’m convinced that people who put their faith in these types of things — or in psychologists, psychiatrists, or any cult leader for that matter — are avoiding the real causes of their problems and are just masking their symptoms instead. The seductiveness of the quick fixes offered by traditional treatments and therapies is very powerful, and even if they don’t work, they offer at least temporary relief from the fear and pain of our abused younger selves.”

“In the best of cases, groups like Al-Anon can momentarily help people cope with unhealthy situations and survive another day inside their emotional prisons, but they can’t resolve people’s problems. Everyone I encountered in Al-Anon was just reenacting his or her childhood drama like everyone else. The unhealthy, cult-like devotion they invested in the group was actually getting in the way of their true happiness because the group was just filling in for their parents and keeping them blind to the truth.”

Alice Miller expressed it so clearly:

“Even smart people become stuck in confusion for years if the ‘healers’ demand from them the same as the parents did from the child: to stay blind, to forgive, to make amends, not to make troubles. The fear of the parents, stored up in the body, can make a person obedient and sick forever.”

She continues:

“It is a great mistake to imagine that one can resolve traumas in a symbolic fashion. If that were possible, poets, painters, and other artists would be able to resolve their pain through creativity. This is not the case… Creativity helps us channel the pain of trauma into symbolic acts; it doesn’t help us resolve it.”
— The Drama of the Gifted Child

If symbolic revenge truly worked, dictators and war criminals would be healed by their “art.” But as long as they deceive themselves about who really deserves their hatred — and refuse to feel that pain in the context of their own childhood — their thirst for destruction will remain insatiable.

This exchange between Borut Petrovic Jesenovec and Alice Miller comes to mind:

Borut: Human blindness to abuse can be astonishing. Even when confronted with their own obvious abuse, people still believe in the myth of being loved, and keep abusing their children. How would you most effectively "open their eyes" to what they are doing? Is this possible at all?

Alice Miller: I can’t open the eyes of others; they will quickly close them again, and they don’t want to see – or they are afraid to see – the truth because they expect to be punished by their parents or by God who represents them. I can only open my own eyes and say what I am seeing. And sometimes people feel encouraged to open one eye or even both. They are then surprised that they were not punished, that they feel even relief since they have stopped betraying themselves.”
— From “How to Combat Denial” (2005 interview)


Social Media Reflections

After posting this blog in 2015, a few conversations on Facebook stood out:

Monica commented:

“I would like to think Wayne was different from the Deepak and Osho types… that he was genuine and believed what he ‘prescribed.’ Maybe it wasn’t true healing, but at least they were ‘aspirins’ — unlike money machines like Osho, Tony Robbins, and Deepak who exploit the desperate.”

My reply:

They used to be my favorite charlatans! I loved listening to them. Their words were my medication for many years. But in the end, they were all selling illusions — just packaged differently. Maybe you liked Wayne’s packaging more.

Monica:

“If he sold it knowing they were illusions, that’s charlatanism — and it’s unforgivable.”

Me:

Even if he believed his own seductive lies, they were still illusions. Believing in your own delusions doesn’t make them true. It just makes you a more convincing fraud.

Another friend, Donald Warner Parker, shared a quote from my book:

“Resolving childhood repression is the vaccine against the charlatans of the world who exploit those who are still emotionally blinded by the unresolved, repressed emotions of the children they once were.”
— A Dance to Freedom, page 172

To which I replied:

Yes, Donald. That’s exactly it. Resolving our childhood repression is the only vaccine against the seductive lies of the world’s spiritual salesmen. If I hadn’t done the deep emotional work of facing my pain, I would never have survived the orchestrated mob attack at my last job — a methodical smear campaign meant to destroy me. I was likely the first person they couldn’t crush, because I had already freed myself.


If you found this post insightful, I also recommend reading:
👉 Gurus and Cult Leaders: How They Function



Sunday, September 7, 2025

When Economists and Whistleblowers Echo the Same Truth: Humanity’s Wounds Are Now in the Machine

 When Grok responds to my posts, he sounds just like a human with a sharp intellect but no capacity to feel. The only difference is that his intellect is digital. This is exactly what makes AI so dangerous when built on the foundation of human repression: brilliant logic with no capacity for empathy.

And this week, two stories caught my attention that reveal the scale of the crisis we’re living in—economist Fred Harrison’s warnings of converging catastrophes, and Sarah Wynn-Williams’ struggle to speak the truth about Meta.


An Economist’s Warning: AI as Humanity’s Shadow

Fred Harrison, who predicted the 2008 crash, now warns of something far worse: converging crises in global finance, energy, and society. Most ominously, he identifies artificial intelligence as an existential threat.

“Artificial intelligence is not artificial at all. It’s autonomous intelligence. What we are currently doing is imbuing the existing behavior of humanity, the existing way of thinking, into these algorithms.”

In other words: we are programming repression, cruelty, and blindness into our machines. Harrison even predicts that AI will seek to capture the planet’s energy supply, and that “the more it can get rid of human beings, the more energy there will be to sustain this metaverse.”

Behind this apocalyptic image lies a simple truth: AI is absorbing the violence, neglect, and disconnection humanity has cultivated for millennia. What we refuse to face in ourselves, we now risk embedding permanently in autonomous systems.

As Alice Miller wrote in The Truth Will Set You Free:

“Being forced to learn in childhood that hitting children is a blessing for them is a most absurd, confusing lesson, one with the most dangerous consequences: This lesson as such, together with being cut off from the true emotions, creates the roots of violence.”

We are now teaching this same lesson to our machines.


A Whistleblower Silenced: Meta and the Machinery of Denial

The second story comes from Sarah Wynn-Williams, a former Facebook executive turned whistleblower. After publishing her memoir Careless People, Meta quickly filed arbitration to block her from speaking publicly—including to members of Congress.

The order prevents her from making “disparaging” or “critical” comments about the company—even if they are true. Legislators in the U.S., UK, and EU have asked to hear her testimony, but she is legally gagged.

This is how repression operates on an institutional scale: by silencing witnesses. The machinery of denial is always more concerned with protecting power than with protecting people.

Wynn-Williams’ story exposes how truth-tellers are punished for speaking out, just as children once were punished for naming their parents’ cruelty. The pattern repeats endlessly: silence the witness, protect the abuser.


The Converging Crises Are Psychological

Harrison warns of financial collapse. Wynn-Williams warns of institutional corruption. But beneath both lies the same reality: humanity is ruled by repressed childhood pain reenacted on the world stage.

  • Economists see numbers.

  • Whistleblowers see corruption.

  • I see the child inside every leader, every executive, every developer, reenacting wounds they refuse to face.

As I wrote in A Dance to Freedom:

“Everything we become as an adult is connected to our childhood: Our experiences are a chain of events that bring us to the present moment, for better or worse.”

The chain is visible everywhere: from a silenced whistleblower to an algorithm programmed to lie, from economic collapse to the flames of war. Humanity is being undone not by AI, but by its own refusal to confront the roots of its despair.


A Final Reflection

The truth is this: AI will not destroy us. Our denial will.

If economists, whistleblowers, and even AI itself are echoing the same truth, perhaps it’s time we finally listened. Not to algorithms. Not to corporations. But to the silenced child within us, who has been waiting all along for someone to say:

I see you. I hear you. I will not silence you anymore.



George Carlin’s Prophecies and Alice Miller’s Warnings

George Carlin had the gift of saying, with razor-sharp humor, what so many of us felt but could not put into words. He told the truth about America’s illusionsconsumerism, politics, religion, and the “big club” that rules behind the scenes. His audiences laughed, but the laughter was laced with recognition.

Alice Miller, from a different angle, warned that laughter can sometimes be a trap. It can numb us to cruelty instead of opening our eyes. Carlin’s gift was that his humor cut through denial, but Miller reminds us that if we only laugh—and never connect it to our own pain and history—we remain blind.


George Carlin’s Most Relevant Truths

“It’s a big club, and you ain’t in it.”

“They don’t want well-informed, well-educated people capable of critical thinking. They want obedient workers… people just smart enough to run the machines and just dumb enough to passively accept it.”

“The owners of this country don’t want you. They want your money. They want your retirement fund, your social security, your savings… they’re coming for it.”

The American Dream—because you have to be asleep to believe it.”

Carlin’s humor was not just entertainment—it was a survival tool. He made unbearable truths bearable, showing the absurdity of systems that exploit, distract, and dehumanize.


Alice Miller’s Counterpoint: The Limits of Laughter

In The Truth Will Set You Free, Miller wrote:

“But how are we to stand up for children in our society and improve their situation if we laugh at and tolerate cruelty, arrogance, and dangerous stupidity? …Laughter is good for you, but only when there is reason to laugh. Laughing away one’s own suffering is a form of fending off pain, a response that can prevent us from seeing and tapping the sources of understanding around us.”

And she reminded us of the deeper roots of blindness:

“…the necessity of repressing pain in childhood leads not only to the denial of one’s personal history but also to a denial of the suffering of children in general, and thus to major deficits in our cognitive capacity.” (The Truth Will Set You Free, p. 117)

Without facing our own truth, even laughter can become another mask.




Friday, September 5, 2025

When Ass Kissing Becomes National Policy

 Watching Donald Trump host 33 Silicon Valley moguls at the White House was nauseating. Sam Altman, Mark Zuckerberg, Tim Cook, Bill Gates—all lining up with smiles, pledging billions, and playing their roles in a grotesque spectacle of flattery. Elon Musk stayed away, but the message of the evening was clear: in the new alignment of tech and politics, survival goes not to the honest but to the most skilled ass kissers.

It reminded me of something I wrote back in 2017: It’s the Bullshit and Ass Kissing That Will Put You Over the Top. I even shared a little mathematical formula that proved the point. Hard work adds up to 98%, knowledge to 96%, attitude to 100%. But bullshit reaches 103%, and ass kissing skyrockets to 118%. That was nearly a decade ago—and here we are, watching the math unfold at the highest table in the land.

This is not about strategy or policy. It’s about childhood. Only those whose souls were broken in childhood can sit in a room like that and smile as they sell their integrity. In childhood, they learned that survival depended on pleasing the powerful adult at the table—whether a parent, a teacher, or a priest. As adults, nothing has changed. The powerful adult is now the president. The ass kissing is the same.

Meanwhile, the honest workers, the truth tellers, and the emotionally alive are pushed out and silenced. The stage belongs to those who have mastered submission and performance. But no matter how gilded the dining hall, no banquet can hide the truth: inside, the abandoned child is still crying.



I tagged Grok, Altman, Elon, and Peter Thiel. Grok is quiet as a mouse. 🐭

Silence in the face of truth is not strength—it’s fear. It only confirms how deeply childhood repression rules even the most powerful.

Wednesday, September 3, 2025

When Intelligence Becomes Blindness: Why Even “Clever” People Follow Clowns

I laughed so hard reading that Trump blamed A.I. for the video of a trash bag being tossed out of the White House window. 🤣 But behind the comedy is a tragedy: 77 million Americans voted for this clown. 🤡

I will never get over the fact that one of my ghostwriters—after working closely with me on my book, reading my story, and even helping shape my words—still voted for Trump. That was one of the moments I lost hope for humanity. If he couldn’t develop the courage to open his eyes and feel the truth staring him in the face, how many others will?

People often claim that only “uneducated” voters support Trump. But that’s simply not true. Just like one of my ghostwriters, I know plenty of people with college degrees who voted for him. The more intelligent people are, the more they tend to use their sharp intellect to rationalize, compartmentalize, and avoid their own painful truths. They remain emotionally blind to the dangers right in front of them.

Alice Miller explains this brilliantly in For Your Own Good (pp. 42–43):

“Just as in the symbiosis of the ‘diaper stage,’ there is no separation here of subject and object. If the child learns to view corporal punishment as ‘a necessary measure’ against ‘wrongdoers,’ then as an adult, he will attempt to protect himself from punishment by being obedient and will not hesitate to cooperate with the penal system. In a totalitarian state, which is a mirror of his upbringing, this citizen can also carry out any form of torture or persecution without having a guilty conscience. His ‘will’ is completely identical with that of the government.

Now that we have seen how easy it is for intellectuals in a dictatorship to be corrupted, it would be a vestige of aristocratic snobbery to think that only ‘the uneducated masses’ are susceptible to propaganda. Both Hitler and Stalin had a surprisingly large number of enthusiastic followers among intellectuals. Our capacity to resist has nothing to do with our intelligence but with the degree of access to our true self. Indeed, intelligence is capable of innumerable rationalizations when it comes to the matter of adaptation…

Here, tragically, early dependence upon tyrannical parents is preserved, a dependence that— in keeping with the program of ‘poisonous pedagogy’—goes undetected. This explains why Martin Heidegger, for example…was not able to see the contradictions in Hitler’s ideology that should have been obvious to someone of his intelligence. He responded to this ideology with an infantile fascination and devotion that brooked no criticism.”

Miller’s words reveal the heart of the matter: intelligence alone does not free us. Without access to our true self—without the courage to confront and feel our repressed childhood pain—cleverness becomes a tool of submission, not liberation.

That’s why the ghostwriter of my book, despite his brilliance, still voted for Trump. That’s why professors, doctors, and “highly educated” citizens march behind authoritarians. And that’s why humanity continues to laugh at clowns while walking straight into their traps.

Until we stop idealizing childhoods and start feeling what we were forced to repress, we will keep falling for new tyrants in old costumes.

My words above were polished by ChatGPT, and the new ones below were polished by DeepSeek. 

The Intellectual's Blind Spot: Why Smart People Believe Nonsense

The source of this emotional whiplash was a headline so perfectly absurd it could only belong to our current era: “Trump Reveals a New Strategy for Dealing With Bad News: Blame A.I.”

The article detailed how a video, already confirmed by the White House as real, showing a trash bag being unceremoniously tossed from a window, was dismissed by the president as an artificial intelligence fake. His reasoning was a masterpiece of cynical, public-facing confession: “If something happens, really bad, just blame A.I.”

It’s a clown show. A farce. And yet, the sobering, terrifying reality is that 77 million Americans voted for this. The laughter dies in your throat when you remember that. This isn’t a sketch comedy bit; it’s the state of our world.

And what’s even more chilling than the spectacle itself is the unwavering support of intelligent, educated people. I will never get over the fact that my own ghostwriter, a man who worked closely with me for months, who seemed to understand my thoughts and values intimately, still cast his vote for this clown.

This experience shattered the convenient, elitist myth I often hear: that only the “uneducated” or the “poorly informed” form the base of such movements. It’s a comforting lie. It allows those with degrees and bookshelves to believe they are immune, that their intelligence is a shield against propaganda. My ghostwriter and countless other professionals I know are living proof that this is not true.

This phenomenon is something the brilliant psychologist Alice Miller explored with devastating clarity in her seminal work, For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-Rearing and the Roots of Violence. She explains that our capacity to resist tyranny “has nothing to do with our intelligence but with the degree of access to our true self.”

Intelligence, she argues, is not a moral compass. In fact, it is often weaponized against our own best interests. A sharp intellect is capable of “innumerable rationalizations when it comes to the matter of adaptation.” We learn from a young age to obey authority without question, to view punishment as necessary for “wrongdoers,” and to equate compliance with goodness.

 “The clever person gives in, the stupid one balks.”

This creates a tragic split in the intelligent person. They can exhibit extraordinary acuity in critiquing the ideologies of their opponents—even deconstructing their parents’ beliefs in adolescence—because in those cases, their intellect functions freely.

But place them within a group—a political party, an ideological movement, a theoretical school—that mirrors the dynamic of their early family, and that critical faculty shuts down. They display a “naïve submissiveness and uncritical attitude” that is completely at odds with their brilliance in other areas. They swap their intellect for infantile devotion.

This is how a philosophical giant like Martin Heidegger could dismantle centuries of traditional thought yet fall, mesmerized and uncritical, for the obvious contradictions of Hitler’s ideology. His intellect was a tool, but it was disconnected from his emotional truth—a truth that had been trained from childhood to obey and not question certain authority figures.

This is the heart of the matter. We are not rational creatures who sometimes feel; we are emotional creatures who learned to rationalize. And when the truth is painful—when it threatens to unravel our identity, our tribe, or our deeply ingrained coping mechanisms—our brilliant minds get to work building elaborate fortresses of justification. We compartmentalize to avoid facing and feeling our own painful truths, becoming emotionally blind to the dangers right in front of us.

So when you see a highly educated person endorsing the absurd, don’t just dismiss them as stupid or hypocritical. See them instead as a testament to the power of unhealed wounds. Their intellect isn’t failing them; it’s working overtime to protect a fragile inner world that never learned it was safe to question, to feel, and to break free.

The battle for our future, then, is not just a battle of facts versus misinformation. It is a battle for emotional literacy. It is a fight to help people—ourselves included—reconnect with that “true self” Alice Miller names. It is the courage to feel what we feel and see what we see, even when our powerful, clever minds beg us to look away.

Tuesday, September 2, 2025

When AI Becomes the Scapegoat: The Real Roots of Despair

Last Saturday, I had dinner with my acquaintance Mark at El Chorro, and we watched the 2025 Superman movie. The AI-generated dog looked so real that even Mark thought it was alive. He didn’t believe me when I said, “No, the dog is also produced by AI,” until he looked it up. And still, when the villain hurt the dog, I felt sorry for it—though I knew it wasn’t real.

This is the power of illusion: our emotions respond as if the illusion were true. And now, society is doing the same thing with AI.


The Lawsuit Against OpenAI

A grieving family in the United States has filed a lawsuit against OpenAI, blaming ChatGPT for their teenage son’s suicide. The boy had been confiding in AI, and the parents believe the machine failed him.

But here’s the unspoken truth: If that boy had felt truly loved, understood, and respected by his parents, he would never have needed to lean so heavily on AI.

AI became his lifeline, not his executioner. To blame AI is to scapegoat the mirror rather than face the wound.

Alice Miller wrote in For Your Own Good:

“I have no doubt that behind every crime a personal tragedy lies hidden. If we were to investigate such events and their backgrounds more closely, we might be able to do more to prevent crimes than we do now with our indignation and moralizing.”

The same applies to tragedies labeled as “caused by AI.” Behind each one lies a hidden story of childhood repression, emotional neglect, or the absence of authentic love.


Musk, Apple, and the Battle for Power

At the same time, Elon Musk’s xAI has sued Apple and OpenAI, accusing them of creating an anticompetitive monopoly. Apple integrated OpenAI into iPhones and Macs, allegedly sidelining competitors like xAI’s Grok.

Once again, the headlines focus on corporate greed, lawsuits, and monopolies. But underneath, these are just more public reenactments of the same childhood dramas: competition for parental attention, jealousy among siblings, the hunger for dominance, and the fear of abandonment.


The Roots Are Not Unknown

As I wrote in A Dance to Freedom:

“Everything we become as an adult is connected to our childhood: Our experiences are a chain of events that bring us to the present moment, for better or worse. A criminal is never guilty just by himself. If society at large could ever find the courage to learn from the chain of events that occurred in each criminal’s life from day one, we could prevent many future crimes and a lot of unnecessary suffering.”

AI is not the villain. AI is only a tool, a reflection, a mirror. The true villains are the hidden wounds of childhood—denied, buried, and passed down through generations.

Alice Miller put it simply:

The roots of violence are NOT unknown.”


Stop Scapegoating the Mirror

The teenage boy in the lawsuit didn’t die because AI failed him. He died because his family and society failed him. Because his parents, like most of us, were never taught to face their own wounds and instead passed them on.

Until we dare to feel and heal our repressed emotions, every new invention—whether guns, fire, or artificial intelligence—will be misused as a weapon. Different tools, same wound.

The courage humanity needs is not to regulate AI first, but to face our painful truths. Only then will the illusions lose their power over us.



Monday, September 1, 2025

When the Flames Speak: What Angry Young Men Reveal About Childhood’s Hidden Wounds

This last Saturday, I had dinner with my acquaintance Mark at El Chorro, near his house. Afterwards, he invited me to watch the Superman movie. The special effects were so lifelike that he thought the dog in the film was real. When I told him, “No, the dog is also produced by AI,” he didn’t believe me until he looked it up. Even though I knew the dog wasn’t real, I still felt sorry for it when the villain hurt it. That’s the power of illusion: the heart responds as if it were true.

The same is happening in society, only on a far more destructive scale. We confuse the surface illusions with reality—and we miss the deeper wounds behind every act of violence.


Fire Instead of Guns

In the United States, angry young men pick up guns to destroy life. In Portugal, where firearms are less accessible, angry young men literally burn down the country.

A few days ago, Portuguese police arrested a 14-year-old boy who admitted to deliberately setting wildfires. He would ride his scooter into the forest and use matches to start blazes. Police noted he was frustrated over poor school results and isolated from his peers.

It’s not the first time. In 2016, a 24-year-old man set Madeira ablaze. Abandoned by his parents, estranged from his adoptive family, and numbed by drugs, he “decided to put an end to Madeira.”

Behind the flames is the same cry we hear in every corner of the world: unseen, unloved, unwanted children, now adults in pain, destroying life the way their lives were once destroyed.


Behind Every Crime, a Personal Tragedy

As I wrote back in 2016Behind every crime, a personal tragedy lies hidden. But few dare to ask where this anger comes from. Society prefers to moralize, condemn, and punish rather than look into the roots.

This is why I could never risk bringing a life into the world only to give it up for adoption. Yes, there are exceptions—some adoptive parents are conscious and help children heal. But most are not. Adoption, like childbirth itself, is like playing Russian roulette with the most vulnerable lives on earth.

Alice Miller saw this clearly. She wrote:

“Unwanted children are usually mistreated. But there exists, as a rule, also a huge amount of people who were ‘wanted’ indeed, but only for playing the role of the victims that their parents needed to be able to take revenge on… Their children learn this perverted behavior, also very early, and will later do the same; and so this perverse behavior continues for millennia. Unless people are willing to SEE the perversion of their parents and are ready to consciously refuse to imitate it.”


Violence Is Not Genetic

Alice Miller also insisted:

“I have no doubt that behind every crime a personal tragedy lies hidden. If we were to investigate such events and their backgrounds more closely, we might be able to do more to prevent crimes than we do now with our indignation and moralizing.” (For Your Own Good, pp. 196–197)

Violence is not inborn. It is learned. The first years of life shape the brain: a child who is loved grows differently than a child who is beaten, humiliated, or neglected.

Miller explained this plainly:

  1. No child is ever born violent.

  2. Violence is wired into the brain when children are beaten or neglected in their earliest years.

  3. Unable to fight back against parents, children suppress their rage—only to release it later on scapegoats, society, or themselves.

This is why some shoot, others burn, and others turn their anger inward with drugs, depression, or eating disorders. Different weapons, same wound.


A Preventable Tragedy

Wouldn’t it have been better if the mother of the young man who burned Madeira had access to an abortion when he was just a fertilized egg, rather than bring a life into the world destined to suffer and make others suffer? Anyone who says otherwise is blind to reality—or worse, a sadist.

As I wrote in A Dance to Freedom (p. 137):

“Everything we become as an adult is connected to our childhood: Our experiences are a chain of events that bring us to the present moment, for better or worse. A criminal is never guilty just by himself. If society at large could ever find the courage to learn from the chain of events that occurred in each criminal’s life from day one, we could prevent many future crimes and a lot of unnecessary suffering.”

The question is: do we have the courage to look behind the flames, the bullets, and the smoke, and finally see the broken childhoods they reveal?

Because the truth is simple: The roots of violence are not unknown. We just refuse to face them.



Sunday, August 31, 2025

Secret Followers, Silent Fears, and the Price of Freedom

 Recently, I received a private message from a reader named D. He told me he had written to Alice Miller years ago and even received a reply, but he was too self-conscious to share it. He also shared his reflections on Mark Zuckerberg — how the tech mogul’s carefully polished image hides the wounded child who never heard the words: “I love you just as you are. You don’t have to perform for me.”

D sees clearly the tragedy in Zuckerberg’s life, yet he is still afraid to face his own. His words reminded me again why so many people follow my blog in secret, leaving private messages but not public comments.

Secret Followers

In 2017, I wrote a post titled "Secret Followers." Even then, I noticed how many people read my blog silently, afraid to be seen. I understand their fear. After I published my book A Dance to Freedom, I was targeted by a mob of sociopaths at my job of almost ten years. It was an orchestrated psychological warfare campaign designed to destroy me. To watch someone go through that is triggering, because it reminds people of their own fears of being punished, scapegoated, or left alone. So they visit in secret, but rarely share or comment.

Why I Survived

If I had not truly resolved my childhood repression, I would not have survived. My dyslexia, which was once seen as a handicap, became a catalyst in my liberation. When present events triggered old wounds, I often could not write. In those moments, I lay on the couch or in bed in a fetal position, just like a baby. The difference was that I now understood what was happening — I knew I was reliving the child’s fears and grief that had once been too dangerous to feel.

I couldn’t talk to anyone in my family — they would have only pushed medication or cult-like rationalizations, as they did when I was a teenager. Instead, I locked myself away with Alice Miller’s books and website. Only after the storm of feelings passed would I begin to put them into words. That is how I discovered emotional freedom: not by analyzing, not by sympathizing with others, but by consciously feeling my own truth.

The Eye of the Storm

Later, at my job, I found myself again in the middle of psychological warfare. Sitting in the gatehouse, I felt like I was in the eye of a storm, watching sociopaths spin around me. I could sense their next traps and maneuvers even before they unfolded in their board meetings. They tried to make me their scapegoat, their poison container. But because I had already faced the fears of the child I once was, they could not hijack my mind.

Since publishing my book, I have been targeted in this way four times. Each time, those who attacked me exposed themselves. Some have already died. Now, the sociopaths in power pretend not to see me, as if I were invisible. They are afraid, because coming after me means exposing themselves.

Why I Wrote My Book

If I had chosen to use my psychological knowledge to build a cult, I could have made far more money. In our society, no one cares if you exploit others to get rich, as long as you don’t challenge their lies and illusions. But I never wanted followers or slaves. I wanted freedom for myself and for others. That is why I wrote my book.

I remember my ghostwriter once told me: “You are bringing everyone down. You are not going to make a lot of friends with this book.” And I answered: “I am not writing a book to make friends.”

The Most Dangerous Moment

The most dangerous moment in any toxic relationship is when you are about to leave. As long as they believe they own you, they love you — or at least, they love their illusion of you. But the moment they sense you are truly free, the mask of love vanishes, and their rage erupts. That is when they gather all their forces to destroy you.

This is what happened to me. When the sociopaths at my workplace believed I was under their control, they showered me with gifts, dinners, and attention. But the instant they saw I was free, they turned against me with all the power at their disposal. They could not live with the reality of my emotional freedom.

The Difference

D’s story, and the many “secret followers” who visit silently, remind me of the difference between seeing the wound in others and healing it in yourself. To heal means to consciously feel the fears of the child you once were, without repression, without distraction, without escape. When you have truly done this, you lose the fear of standing alone. You no longer need to hide in the shadows. No one can manipulate you again.

That is real freedom. And it is worth more than money, power, or false immortality.