Blindness for the crimes of parents can be found in all ethnic groups

"It is true, black people have had so much to suffer from the cruelty of white people that the solidarity with their families gave them probably a kind of protection. But the blindness for the crimes of parents is by no way smaller among other ethnic groups. 

It is the same all over the world, among Europeans, Chineses, Japaneses, Christians, Moslims. In all religions it is forbidden to have authentic feelings and to feel rage towards the abusers, it is instead allowed to take revenge on the small children, to beat them, and to teach them the lie that cruelty is "for their own good". 

Very early most of these children believe as adults in beatings and don't know that they are stuck forever in their eternal fear of their parents. They remain scared children their whole life instead of becoming adults who can be respectful of their offspring. 

Concerning Prozac and other medication, I think that they may help us to feel better but can block the experience of emotions stored up in our body. However, it is exactly these emotions which give us access to our history, so that in long-term we can feel better."
Read more HERE

I too just like Albert Einstein I always knew the theory of happiness

“A calm and modest life brings more happiness than the pursuit of success combined with constant restlessness,” he wrote in German on a piece of hotel stationery.

I always knew that a peace of mind and a simple life would bring more happiness than anything else in this world and that’s why this was my first goal to achieve in life. It doesn’t mean that I didn’t take the opportunity to make money, if it showed up in my life, as long it was in an honest way and I could be true to myself, but I would never compromise my peace of mind and my true self for any price in this world.  

The only way to achieve this is to face and resolve our own childhood repression and I have written a book sharing my life journey and psychological discoveries of how to liberate ourselves from the emotional prison of our childhood and achieve true peace of mind, liberation, and happiness.

On a second sheet, he wrote, “Where there’s a will, there’s a way.”

I got a will and I have found a way many times in my life and I will find it again! The sociopaths at my job of nine and half years might have slowed me down a little bit, but they cannot stop me! 

Read more here

The Games People Play

Hi J,

Yes, the mind games some people play are always the same! Idealize, devalue and discard.   

At my job of nine and half years and a few of my boyfriends followed exactly these patterns: idealize, devalue and discard! They hate me because they are not able to manipulate my emotions with their mind games to get the reactions they want out of me. 

I will never allow anyone again to manipulate me like my boyfriend of 10 years did. 

Never again will I give people the pleasure to trigger my emotions to manipulate me to get the reactions they want out of me.

Once you truly resolve your childhood repression no one can manipulate you like that again! Free at last!  

I never fell for the illusions and mind games of some people in the community where I worked for nine and half years. I knew all the little gifts they gave me over the years, it was all a game for them to fool me, especially the property manager, so when they had the opportunity to stab me in the back,  and I would not know where it came from. 

They never fooled me. I see it very clearly! I know when people are giving from the heart or to manipulate me and fool me. I can only imagine what a failure they all must be feeling because probably for the first time in their lives, they were not able to fool someone and are being exposed for the fraud that they are.

Some people thrive on drama and chaos, it's a source of supply for them that helps them feel alive. 

Hurting and destroying others' lives is their painkilling drug. It's an addiction that keeps their own childhood repression intact. Just like I wrote in my book A Dance to Freedom page 118: "... as long our pain remains repressed we will unconsciously and compulsively do to others what was once done to us."

During the love-bombing or idealizing phase, they are trying to get you hooked, and once they think you are hooked, they will back off. Your reactions to their withdrawal of affection -- when you try to bridge the gap and return things like they were at the beginning of the relationship, this is a better supply to them than the love-bombing or idealized phase! The target who is yelling and fighting to get things on an even keel is priceless to the person playing mind games. 

This person never loved or liked us during the love-bombing or idealizing phase, but they are at least engaged and entertained in securing our affections "the game". They do not love us also during the devalue phase, but our reaction to the devalue phase is still nevertheless engaging and ego-boosting for them.

Building up and tearing down, it doesn't matter - it is all source of supply for the person playing games. All actions cause a reaction, and that constitutes the supply. When they don't get a reaction from their target, they move on and start the whole process with a new target. They never change, they will play this game forever, until they take their last breath. Sad. 

I am a Loner and a confirmed bachelorette that's for Sure

Dear X,

Thank you for writing! Was nice to hear from you!

I agree almost with everything you write.

I allow others to speak their minds and I want to have the same freedom for myself to speak my mind too. It’s like everyone is allowed to have an opinion, but me! That’s not fair!

I’m very accepting of others viewpoints too, but it seems others are not accepting of mine and I’m attacked for expressing my opinion, thoughts, and feelings. I agree with you that people that refuse to open their eyes to see and feel, history will prove them wrong, but it’s sad innocent people will have to pay the price down the road for their ignorance. and refusal to open their eyes to see and feel. 

I do not analyze people all the time, if they are not a danger to others, I let them be, but I do get tired of certain superficial people and I need long breaks from them.

It’s good to make an assessment of people's psychological profile, in case I come across of dangerous people and I need to take steps to protect myself. I would not have survived being a woman and all alone in this world full of dangerous sociopaths/psychopaths if I didn’t read people well and stayed away from dangerous people that are unconsciously and compulsively looking for scapegoats for transference effect to temporally and superficially alleviate their pen-up repressed emotions.  

Thank you for the good wishes. But being super rich and famous never have been a dream of mine. I didn’t write my book to become rich and famous. I wrote my book to help raise awareness of the dangers of childhood repression in our society. And hopefully also be of a support to people that are in the same place I once was. Of course, if my book finds the hands of many people it will help me to live comfortable financially and I would have extra money to spend on causes I most passionate about. As long I have enough to live comfortably I'm happy. I enjoy a simple life. I'm a simple person. 

These quotes from the article 14 Signs You Are a Confirmed Bachelor (Or Bachelorette) describes me to a T:

“9. If you were in a serious romantic relationship, and it ended, maybe you will feel sad or hurt; but you may also feel relieved because now you get to go back to the life that feels right to you.

1. You like your single life.

2. Well, that’s not quite true. Actually, if the rest of the world did not think it was oh-so-odd to say so, you’d put it this way: You love your single life.

3. Loneliness isn’t a big issue for you. Time alone isn’t something you fear; it’s something you savor.

5. You enjoy handling many tasks and challenges on your own. That doesn’t mean you will always want to do everything on your own, but you do enjoy your self-sufficiency.

8. If you never had to date again, you would be very happy, and not because you already found “the one." Do you disagree with this one, but still think of yourself as a confirmed bachelor? Okay, I have a loophole for you: There are confirmed bachelors who enjoy dating and romance; they just don’t want that to turn into married life.

14. You are living the life that is the best, most authentic, most fulfilling, and most meaningful life for you. If you are a confirmed bachelor, that life is single life. You are living your best life, even though other people can’t quite get their heads around that. Congratulations! You are awesome.

If you like to read the whole article click in the link below:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/living-single/201709/14-signs-you-are-confirmed-bachelor-or-bachelorette?utm_source=FacebookPost&utm_medium=FBPost&utm_campaign=FBPost

Also, these quotes from the article People Who Like to be Alone Have These 6 Special Personality Traits describes me also to a T: 

There is a great difference between being alone and being lonely. A loner will always prefer being alone, but they will never feel lonely.

Loners are a unique type of people. They prefer having a smaller circle of friends, and they do not mind spending time alone, being with themselves. Unlike those who feel lonely.

In fact being in their own company is what makes them feel most fulfilled, as this is when they most in touch with themselves. Loners are very self-aware, and perhaps this is the main reason they prefer to be alone.

Being friends with a loner is something not many have the opportunity to experience. They pick their friends carefully, and they can easily sniff out fake. So, what makes a person a loner?

Here are 6 characteristics these people share:

1.       Firm boundaries

A loner always exercises strong and healthy boundaries. They are able to understand themselves perfectly, and this allows them to set clear ideas and strong values. They know that they are never alone, as even if they are the last person on earth, they have themselves.

2.        Loyalty

A loner does not crave for the company of others the way many do. However, once they get to like someone and they want them as a close friend, they become the most loyal of friends you can find. They know how to value their worth, and if they find you to be worthy of being their friend, they will gladly give an arm for you when necessary. They exercise their loyalty in all fields in life, be it relationships, work, family, you name it.

 If you like to read the whole article click in the link below:  

https://curiousmindmagazine.com/people-who-like-to-be-alone-have-these-6-special-personality-traits/

Open Letter to Jimmy Kimmel

Last week I sent the letter below to Jimmy Kimmel along with a copy of my book.  I hope his staff brought it to his attention!

Dear Jimmy,

I saw a video on the internet of your emotional reaction to the Las Vegas Massacre.  I am surprised what we witnessed happening in Las Vegas doesn't happen more often.

The question is: how can we defuse these time bombs in people’s brains from exploding in the future?

If your emotions are genuine and you would really like to help prevent these senseless acts of violence from happening in the future then we must find the courage to face our own personal painful truths.

The real evil in our society is society’s collective childhood repression. And if we want to stop being a danger to ourselves, others, or both we must face childhood repression.

I’m all for gun control, but all it prevents is the number of people they hurt at one time and these very sick or dangerously repressed people will still go on hurting others on a smaller scale. Even if they only hurt one person or one animal at a time, it’s still bad.  Why do we only pay attention when it’s a mass shooting!?  Society needs to ask why some men are so angry and where this anger comes from and why!?

Anger is not a dangerous emotion, it only becomes dangerous when it’s repressed and directed at scapegoats.

Like my enlightened witness, Alice Miller wrote to me before her passing in 2010: “Thank you for your thoughtful letter. I agree with you that there is a difference between the powerless, legitimate rage of a desperate child that reacts to the cruelty of their parents and the rage of the adult who is attacking others out of denial of their history by imitating the behavior of their own parents from the position of “power” (even grandiosity). The first rage (of the child) should be felt and expressed in therapy, it can then be RESOLVED. The second one (of the adult), directed toward scapegoats, can NEVER be resolved (see dictators). If therapists see it as an endpoint of their therapies and don’t enable the patients to confront the early parents and the feelings of that time, then they do much HARM to them. Staying trapped in the hatred toward scapegoats can’t be the successful end of a therapy. I hope that you can continue your work if you have this difference in mind and can also explain it in your forum.”

I wrote a book that shows how I used Alice Miller’s enlightening information to resolve my own repression and free myself from my own emotional prison. I’m enclosing a copy of A Dance to Freedom: Your Guide to Liberation from Lies and Illusions.  I hope you like it!

I lost my job of nine-and-a-half years for writing and publishing a book that tells the truth and exposes the lies and illusions of our society that keeps everyone repressed and feeds the violence we constantly witness in this world.

No one should lose their job for speaking out and exposing the lies that keep millions of us repressed.

I was treated like a criminal at my job, but exactly a year later after being emotionally harassed and losing my job, my boss, an ex-sheriff,  the true criminal that was projecting himself into me, shot himself in a police standoff on March 11, 2016, after robbing a bank. But it’s been a big cover-up by the FBI and US Marshals. 

The media never revealed his name, a white man, and an ex-sheriff. But if it was a poor little woman or anyone from any other minority group, their name and face would have been splashed on all the news stations. If a white man commits a crime it only gets media attention if it kills a lot of people, and even then, white criminals are never called terrorists and thugs like the criminals of others minority groups.

I tried to get the media’s attention to my story but the silence from the media is deafening. You are welcome to read my letters to the media at my website sylvieshene.com.

I hope your tears were genuine and you really care. Hopefully, you can help me share my story with the general public. Not because it’s my book or my story, but because it’s urgent for society to understand the damaging effects of childhood repression and how it turns people into sociopaths and psychopaths who do everything from intimidating women in the workplace to using the political system to prop themselves up and keep others down. 

Alice Miller knew what she was talking about when she recognized the damage parents can do to their children. The world is in dire need for a conversation about what we can do to stop the madness.

Thank you for your attention,

Sylvie Shene