Yes, most people only care when it happens to them. That's the sad world we live in.
Done that!
Friday, March 28, 2025
Elon Musk's Family History in South Africa Reveals Ties to Apartheid & Neo-Nazi Movements
Time to boycott PayPal.
America's Countryside: Land Of The Free Or A Threat To Democracy? | Witness | USA Documentary
President Johnson said it best: "If you can convince the lowest white man he's better than the best colored man, he won't notice you're picking his pocket. Hell, give him somebody to look down on, and he'll empty his pockets for you." Best description of MAGA I've ever come across.
House of Mirrors
Welcome to the world of projection and transference. This administration is lost in projections and transferences. It's very dangerous that these people are in the land's highest office. They are the ones who need to wake up!
https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=Lost+in+projections+and+transferences+&m=1
Yep! That's exactly what a narcissist who used to be close to me did. But she will never be me!
Yes, they do. I know someone who shared naked pictures with someone with more power than her, so he would give her more business, which is no different than a prostitute. She had no self-awareness to see that it was wrong, corrupt, and of a criminal nature. A prostitute is more honest because she is not hiding behind a status symbol, fooling everyone into thinking she is better...
THE MOST DANGEROUS PSYCHOLOGICAL TRICKS.
• Gaslighting - The victim is made to doubt their own reality and feel like they are going crazy.
• Conditioning with Punishment and Reward - The individual's mind is programmed to behave in a certain way without thinking.
• Love Bombing - Initially, they gain the person's trust through intense love and attention, and then they exploit that trust.
He built a nice prison for himself. Money alone doesn't save anyone from their emotional prisons.
The problem with this country is that the people who make $700/hr have managed to convince the people who make $25/hr that the people who make $7/hr are the problem.
"Many rich folks with an $850,000 house and two Cadillacs, they'll tip you $3 for delivering their $80 pizza. Meanwhile, the family in a single-wide trailer hands you $10 and asks if it's enough. Funny how that works."
"To all of the misguided twits who ignored every red flag, caved to your worst selves, and bought into all of the most obvious of Trump's insane lies: Everything that happens from here on out. The family members you lose, the suffering, the confiscation of your freedoms at the whim of your dictator. It's all on you. You can no longer falsely blame Democrats, antifa, LGBTQ, or immigrants for everything that you've set into motion with your prejudice and cowardice. You made your filthy bed, and now you're going to lie in it, sick, poor, and stupid. All for the sake of your desperate need to hurt people who never did anything to you. Your childish decision will not make us disappear, it will not magically give you cheap gas and groceries, and it most certainly is NOT going to bring about world peace or otherwise make anything "Great". All you have succeeded at doing was to hand the nation's most powerful seat to a career criminal who's only goals are to evade prison, force everyone to worship his worthless ass, and use our country as a piggybank to fund his coke parties. Hope it was all worth it, you hateful fuckwits. Enjoy the ride."
Adam Serwer: American politics makes a lot more sense when you realize that the GOP is afraid of pissing off the GOP base, and the Dems are afraid of pissing off the GOP base, but neither party is afraid of pissing off the Dem base. [Interesting!]
Tuesday, March 25, 2025
Rationalizations don't make it right
Yep! You have to feel it!
I didn't leave a stone unturned!
The idiom "I didn't leave a stone unturned" means you made every possible effort to find something or solve a problem, exploring all options and resources.
Meaning:
The phrase signifies a thorough and exhaustive search or investigation, where no potential avenue was overlooked.
Usage:
It's often used to praise someone's careful work or to emphasize the determination and effort put into a task.
Example:
I left no stone unturned in my search for the truth.
I worked recently with a charming and charismatic 26-year-old single mother of a nine-year-old daughter. I would have lost my job if I hadn't seen her gaslighting clearly to try to get me fired. But six months later, she got herself fired for stealing. Anyway, the father of her daughter is in prison, and I have no doubt she helped put him in jail with her mind games... my question is, what kind of 17 years old thinks it is okay to have a baby unless she wants a child to use and exploit to hide behind to manipulate others to fulfill her unconscious needs.
Unwanted children are usually mistreated. But there exist, as a rule, also a huge amount of people who were "wanted" indeed, but only for playing the role of the victims that their parents needed to be able to take revenge on. They were wanted to give their parents what the parents never had gotten from their own parents: love, adoration, attention, and so many other things. Otherwise, why would so many people have five or more children when they have no time for them? Why do they adopt children if their body refuses to give them what they apparently "want?”
The never acknowledged, never felt pain of their childhood calls for being avenged. They go to church, they pray, they honor their parents, forgive them everything – and they mistreat their children at home, often in a very cruel way, AS IF THIS WERE THE MOST NATURAL THING, because they learned this so early. Their children learn this perverted behavior, also very early, and will later do the same; and so this perverse behavior continues for millennia. Unless people are willing to SEE the perversion of their parents and are ready to consciously refuse to imitate it.
You are not being "sickeningly sarcastic," you only dared to speak out the truth that most people are afraid of seeing or talking about.”
http://www.alice-miller.com/en/unwanted-children/
Talk About Evil
Elon Musk and Donald Trump are great examples of people who have grown into full-blown evil people.
People, continue to protest peacefully and boycott Tesla and anything related to Elon Musk. Elon Musk has to go.
If Trump says it is false, it means is true.
He thinks is the smartest person in the room, and everyone else is dumb. So, he has the illusion that he can get away with his lies, manipulation tactics and steal all the money and power. But all illusions burst sooner or later in one form or another.
Publishing my book A Dance to Freedom showed me that we are surrounded by these types of people who act as if personality pretending to be good people but are wolves in sheep's clothing.
Don't come if you don't have to. It's not safe if you are not an American citizen. Even for Americans, it's a scary place right now.
Some hope
Sunday, March 23, 2025
Cognitive Dissonance
Cognitive dissonance is the psychological discomfort experienced when holding conflicting beliefs, attitudes, or values, leading individuals to try and reduce this discomfort by changing their beliefs, justifying their actions, or avoiding contradictory information.
Definition:
Cognitive dissonance, a concept developed by Leon Festinger in the 1950s, refers to the mental conflict that arises when a person's beliefs or actions are inconsistent with each other.
Causes:
This discomfort can arise from various situations, such as:
Belief Disconfirmation: When new information contradicts a previously held belief.
Induced Compliance: Being compelled to act in a way that conflicts with one's beliefs.
Making a decision: When presented with multiple options or information.
Consequences:
To alleviate the discomfort of dissonance, individuals may:
Change their beliefs: Adjust their attitudes or values to align with their actions.
Rationalize their actions: Find justifications or explanations to make their behavior seem consistent with their beliefs.
Avoid contradictory information: Seek out information that supports their existing beliefs and avoid information that challenges them.
Examples:
Someone who votes for a politician but later learns the politician has made statements that contradict their own values might try to find reasons to still support the politician or change their beliefs.
A person who believes smoking is bad but continues to smoke might try to justify their behavior by saying it helps them relax or that everyone else is doing it.
Selective Exposure:
Individuals experiencing cognitive dissonance may selectively seek out or attend to information that supports their existing beliefs or attitudes while avoiding contradictory information.
Emotional Impact:
Cognitive dissonance can lead to feelings of stress, guilt, tension, shame, anxiety, or regret.
Friday, March 21, 2025
Why Narcissists Treat you so Badly
Narcissists often treat their targets badly due to a combination of factors, including a lack of empathy, a need for control, and a grandiose sense of self-importance, which leads to manipulation and devaluation of others.
- People with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) struggle to understand or care about the feelings of others, making it difficult for them to see things from another's perspective.
- Need for Control: Narcissists often crave control and dominance in relationships, using manipulation and abusive tactics to maintain power over their targets.
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The primary objective of a narcissist engaging innarcissistic abuse is to exert control and power over their victim.
"Unfortunately, narcissists in positions of high visibility or power-particularly in the so-called helping professions (medicine, education, and the ministry) often do great harm to others."
Yep!
My brain needs to see cats 🐈 they are so beautiful! To me, all cats are beautiful, especially black cats.
No, it is not going to end well. Humanity is doomed. Evil is born anew with every new generation.
"Become aware of the fact that our obedience learned in childhood doesn’t allow us to think freely needs probably more than many hundred years. I am not sure if the tortured planet leaves us the necessary time to understand this fact, to protest against it, and to become a conscious, responsible member of the crew."
After my experience with the sociopaths at my job of nine and half years, I see very clearly how terrorism is the war of the poor and war is the terrorism of the rich. The true terrorists are in boardrooms around the world -- plotting and manipulating the poor to retaliate to their lies and injustices --- so they have a reason to pick up their guns and give the illusion that they have to fight in self-defense and to keep everyone safe from the terrorists and thugs like they like to call them. These words from the book Staking the Soul: Emotional Abuse and the Erosion of Identity by Marie-France Hirigoven come to mind: "...Physical violence can be testified to be outside evidence: eyewitness, police and medical reports. With emotional abuse, there is no proof. It's a clean violence. Nobody sees anything."
Violence is a trap and an illusion, and it is never the answer.
The words below by John Lennon could not be truer. The sociopaths at my job of nine and half years were hoping I would react to their lies, mind games, and smear campaign, and I would become violent in some form. The system is thirsty for blood, but I don't play their game.
"When it gets down to having to use violence, then you are playing the system's game. The establishment will irritate you - pull your beard, flick your face - to make you fight. Because once they've got you violent, then they know how to handle you. The only thing they don't know how to handle is non-violence and humor." John Lennon
"Children who are told the truth and are not brought up to tolerate lies and cruelty can develop as freely as a plant whose roots have not been attacked by pests (in our case, lies)" Alice Miller.
Lies are the fuel that creates wars.
Like every narcissist, Elon Musk Has Convinced Himself That He's Never "Done Anything Harmful," And The Internet Is Swiftly Correcting Him
Yep!
My brain needs to see cats 🐈 they are so beautiful! To me, all cats are beautiful, especially black cats.
My thoughts exactly!
Wednesday, March 19, 2025
Malignant narcissists are masters at shift blaming
Malignant narcissists are masters at shift blaming. "Shift blaming" refers to the act of avoiding responsibility for one's actions or mistakes by redirecting blame onto others, a common tactic used in various contexts, including relationships and the workplace.
Definition: Blame-shifting is a form of deflection where individuals avoid taking accountability for their own behavior or mistakes by assigning blame to someone else, a group, or even external circumstances.
Blame-shifting is a form of deflection where individuals avoid taking accountability for their own behavior or mistakes by assigning blame to someone else, a group, or even external circumstances.
Examples:
"You made me do this"
"It's your fault I'm like this"
"Switching focus back to the person being confronted"
"Claiming friends, family, mental health professionals, church leaders, or other authorities are in agreement with them"
Impact:
Blame-shifting can damage relationships, create a climate of mistrust, and prevent individuals from taking responsibility for their actions.
Psychological Factors:
Blame-shifting can be linked to fragile self-esteem, narcissism, and defensiveness.
Elon Musk is a great example that financially success alone doesn't liberate people from their emotional prisons.
Well said. I agree many magas are malignant narcissists just like Trump.
Yes, that's exactly what is happening.
Yes, it's something very wrong with them.Many republicans hypocrisy is epic
What's a scandal?! That's when the real state of affairs behind the scenes breaks through and is exposed for everyone to see.
https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=Scandal+&m=1
Trump Getting Played by Putin
Birds of a feather flock together.
Very true! Once you resolve your childhood repression, you will never care again what other people think of you! And being disliked by some people, I take it as a compliment! Since I published my book, A Dance to Freedom, sharing my life experiences and psychological discoveries, I have been a constant target of people's unresolved repressed hatred.
Good analogy 👏
Doge is a fraud, just like Elon Musk and DT. We are being ruled by white color criminals.
Evil people. Our knowledge cannot alter them. They can change only if they sense, not merely intellectually but with their feelings, how they have been turned into evil people. Only then will they be able to remove the blockages and, by experiencing the blocked pain, liberate the abused child who had to wish to harm anyone on coming into the world, the child who wanted love but found no one to make that possible for him. All he found was barbed wire and walls on all sides, and he believed this to be the world. When he grew up, he built gigantic worlds full of walls and barbed wire, or complicated philosophical and psychological systems, in the hope and expectation of receiving love in return, the love he never received from his parents when he was an 'unworthy life. Page, 143 Banished Knowledge: Facing Childhood Injuries
Tuesday, March 18, 2025
Narcissists need a lot of supply
Yes, they do! Good analogy!
Narcissists develop a false self as a child to survive in a hostile environment and lack the courage to be authentic and consciously feel and understand their feelings within the context of their childhood. They are constantly unconsciously and compulsively looking for scapegoats to transfer and project their unresolved feelings of shame and hatred.
Narcissists are the classic case Alice Miller describes beautifully in her book The Drama of the Gifted Child.
“It is precisely because a child’s feelings are so strong that they cannot be repressed without serious consequences. The stronger a prisoner is, the thicker the prison walls have to be, and unfortunately, these walls also impede or completely prevent later emotional growth. “Alice Miller (The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self) Page 58
“Many people who can tolerate the loss of beauty, health, youth, or loved ones and, although they grieve, do so without depression. In contrast, there are those with great gifts, often precisely the most gifted, who do suffer from severe depression. For one is free from it only when self-esteem is based on the authenticity of one ‘own feelings and not on the possession of certain qualities.” Alice Miller (The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self) Page 34
“If the repression stays unresolved, the parents’ childhood tragedy is unconsciously continued on in their children” Alice Miller (The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self) Page 23
"The grandiose person is never really free; first because he is excessively dependent on admiration from others, and second, because his self-respect is dependent on qualities, functions, and achievements that can suddenly fail." Alice Miller (The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self) Page 36
“We cannot really love if we are forbidden to know our truth, the truth about our parents and caregivers as well as about ourselves. We can only try to behave as if we were loving, but this hypocritical behavior is the opposite of love. It is confusing and deceptive, and it produces much helpless rage in the deceived person. This rage must be repressed in the presence of the pretended “love,” especially if one is dependent, as a child is, on the person who is masquerading in this illusion of love.” Alice Miller (The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self) Page 23
https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=the+drama+of+the+gifted+child
Good points 👉 Individuals with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) need "narcissistic supply," attention, admiration, and positive validation they crave and rely on to maintain their fragile sense of self-worth.
What is Narcissistic Supply?
Narcissistic supply is a term used to describe the attention, admiration, and validation that individuals with NPD seek and require to bolster their fragile self-esteem. It's essentially the fuel that keeps their inflated sense of self-importance running.
Why do Narcissists Need It?
People with NPD often have a deep-seated insecurity and a lack of genuine self-love, making them highly dependent on external validation to feel good about themselves.
Without this constant stream of admiration, they may experience feelings of emptiness, inadequacy, or even depression.
Narcissistic supply can manifest in various ways, including:
Public Attention: This can include praise, accolades, or recognition for achievements or accomplishments.
Interpersonal Relationships: Narcissists often seek attention and admiration through relationships, manipulating others to feel important and special.
Excessive Praise and Flattery: Narcissists are drawn to people who constantly praise and flatter them, reinforcing their sense of grandiosity.
Attention-Seeking Behaviors: Narcissists may engage in attention-seeking behaviors, such as gossiping, lying, or creating drama to gain attention and validation.
Impact of Narcissistic Supply:
The constant need for narcissistic supply can lead to a number of problems, including:
Emotional Instability: The constant need for validation can lead to emotional instability and mood swings.
Lack of Empathy: Narcissists may lack empathy and struggle to understand the feelings and needs of others.
Exploitation of Others: Narcissists may exploit others to gain narcissistic supply, often without regard for their feelings or well-being.
Yep! All is connected to childhood.
Yes, it's a virus.
Money addiction is one of the worst addictions ever.
Yes, most people are prostituting themselves. My passion is peace and quiet away from most people.
Most people out there are prostituting themselves every day, and this is why they are unhappy and suffering from depression and are self-medicating with all kinds of things like religious cults or any other type of cults, food, sex, and codependent on unhealthy relationships or dependent on antidepressants. It’s a tragedy! I wish I had included the very truthful quote below of Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross in my book; I will definitely include it in my next book!
"Any human being that was born into a family that loves "if", will have problems in life, horrible problems, because they all become prostitutes. You will prostitute yourself with good behavior. Do you understand the word prostitution? What sense do I mean by that? You will believe that you can buy love with good grades, that you can buy love with good behavior, that you can buy love if you look pretty, and your need for approval will always be insatiable, and you will always be unhappy for the rest of your life."
-- Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross excerpt from the video Understanding death & suicide - part 2
"Pain is the way to the truth. By denying that you were unloved as a child, you spare yourself some pain, but you are not with your own truth. And throughout your whole life, you'll try to earn love. In therapy, avoiding pain causes a blockage. Yet nobody can confront being neglected or hated without feeling guilty. "It is my fault that my mother is cruel," he thinks. "I made my mother furious; what can I do to make her loving?" So he will continue trying to make her love him. The guilt is really protection against the terrible realization that you are fated to have a mother who cannot love. This is much more painful than thinking, "Oh, she is a good mother; it's only me who's bad." Because then you can try to do something to get love. But it's not true; you cannot earn love. And feeling guilty for what has been done to you only supports your blindness and your neurosis." -- Alice Miller
Monday, March 17, 2025
Sunday, March 16, 2025
Proof Elon Musk has grown into a full-blown evil person
We paid for it, that's why we are entitled to them. That's why it will be hard for Elon Musk and Trump to steal them.
"Sadism is not an infectious disease that strikes a person all of a sudden. It has a long prehistory in childhood and always originates in the desperate fantasies of a child who is searching for a way out of a hopeless situation." Alice Miller
Friday, March 14, 2025
The Difference Between a Narcissist and Codependent
Dear Jo,
Thank you for the birthday wishes.
I think of you often, and I hope you are hanging in there.
It was nice to hear from you and see that you are hanging in there.
Thank you for sharing Kenny Weiss's video. He articulates very well the evil behaviors of many dangerously repressed people. But isn't it interesting that all these very well articulated people are labeling different levels of repression, and no one talks about the repressed emotions?
Malignant narcissists, sociopaths, psychopaths, or whatever you like to call these now evil people with a sharp intellect, gifted and with intellectual knowledge have mastered the art of repression, transference, and projection to perfection, and the co-dependent like I used to be never really mastered the art of repression, thank goodness! We are still able to feel and self-reflect and therefore have a better chance of growing up to stand on their own two feet and be emotionally liberated.
In other words, a co-dependent is a broken person, and an evil person is a very dangerously repressed person with no chances of growth and healing, which is very sad.
"Evil vs Broken
Do not confuse a broken person for an evil person. A broken person can be fixed, but an evil person cannot. An evil person causes pain; they hurt others. They deliberately cause chaos. A broken person would never do any of those things because they know how it feels to be on the other side of those actions. Don't confuse someone who can be saved with someone that you will need to be saved from."
You too, take good care and don't let yourself down.
Sylvie
"Let's just make it easy.
Narcissist...
Sociopath.....
Psychopath....
No need to distinguish which is which.
They all simply suffer from "Shitty Person Syndrome". Avoidance is the only known treatment."
Narcissists are highly sneaky. They will use your reactions to what they have done to you in an effort to make you look crazy. They do this by telling others only half of the actual occurrence and conveniently leaving out their actions.
Some people can be so toxic to your health. They don't want to love you properly but don't want to let go of you either. The more you give, the less they appreciate, and the minute you've had enough and decide to walk away is when they are ready to love you and treat you right. So you give them a chance in hopes that they've changed, only to realize it was all fake. You find the strength to walk away once more, and here he/she comes proclaiming his/her love for you, and you give in again. The cycle repeats itself until you gather up enough strength to say enough is enough and really cut him/her out of your life.
These words by Alice Miller go right to the heart! Yes, the amnesia of politicians or leaders of sects does afflict countless people. We are witnessing how Donald Trump's amnesia of his childhood repression is hurting many! "Kafka was hardly aware of the fact that the main sources of his imagination were deeply hidden in his early childhood. Most writers aren't. But the amnesia of an artist or writer, though sometimes a burden for their body, doesn't have any negative consequences for society. The readers simply admire the work and are rarely interested in the writers' infancy. However, the amnesia of politicians or leaders of sects does afflict countless people, and will continue to do so, as long as society remains blind to the important connections between the denial of traumatic experiences in early childhood and the destructive, criminal actions of individuals.”
“To many people it seems easier to take medication, to smoke, drink alcoholic, preach, educate or treat others, and prepare wars than expose themselves to their own painful truth” From the book Banished Knowledge by Alice Miller
Addiction, greed, and obsessions are all the same thing. Greed, obsessions, or addiction means that whatever the object of our affection is, we can never get enough of it. Addicts live in constant fear of losing the object of their affection and go to any lengths to protect it. They will lie, cheat, steal, go to war without thinking twice, and exploit others, even their own children. No wonder many young people are so angry; when we feel used, manipulated, and exploited, we get furious.
What is addiction really?
“Recovery From Self-Betrayal: What is addiction really? It is a sign, a signal, a symptom of distress. It is a language that tells us about a plight that must be understood.
The drug business would not flourish if there were not so many people who, in refusing to acknowledge their wounds, are in a permanent state of self-betrayal.
Thus, people work to get rid of symptoms instead of searching out the cause.
There are plenty of means to combat symptoms of distress: medications, sermons, numerous "treatments," "miracles," threats, cults, pedagogical indoctrination, and even blackmail.
They can all work for a while, but only because they reinforce the repression and reinforce the fear of resolving it.
However, many people who become abstinent this way are driven into another addiction because the real reasons for becoming addicted must be kept hidden.
A lot of money and fame comes from this business of repression because it satisfies the longing of so many grown-up children: to be loved as a good child (I am blind as you want me to be. I am ready to forget all your cruelty, even at the cost of my life. Can you love me now?).
In the long term, we have to pay a high price for this repression. The repressed story continues to try, again and again, to be heard at long last. Thus, your plight will look for other symptoms, another language, until it is taken seriously enough. An addiction is an attempt by a person in despair, who is not allowed to be in despair, to get rid of his or her memory, to forget his or her plight.
Of course, this "solution" is no longer needed if the goal is exactly the opposite, if you want to remember, if you want to feel your plight and to understand its reasons, if you slowly become aware of why you were so afraid of acknowledging the reasons.
This can happen once you decide to stop running away, to stop betraying yourself, to allow the truth to enter your consciousness.
You decide to do so because you finally understand that everything else is useless and because you no longer want to watch your life go by before having even begun to live. You decide to stop betraying yourself because you understand that only you can give yourself the love and care you never received and that you can't do that as long as you deny the truth.” Breaking Down The Wall Of Silence: The Liberating Experience Of Facing Painful Truth by Alice Miller, page 126
https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=Addiction+&m=1
"Genuine feelings cannot be produced, nor can they be eradicated. We can only repress them, delude ourselves, and deceive our bodies. The body sticks to the facts and never lies. ...If the repression stays unresolved, the parents’ childhood tragedy is unconsciously continued on in their children” - Alice Miller
"Resolving childhood repression is the vaccine against the charlatans of the world who exploit those who are still emotionally blinded by the unresolved, repressed emotions of the children they once were."
-- Sylvie Imelda Shene quote from my book A Dance to Freedom: Your Guide to Liberation from Lies and Illusions page 172
We don’t need more studies to show us what causes mental illness and violence. The problem is not a lack of knowledge and educated people; there are plenty of educated people with intellectual knowledge. The problem is an emotional blockage with the so-called “professionals” or “educated people” hiding behind their rationalizations and seductive theories to protect themselves from having to face and feel their own emotional pain. It takes courage to see, face, and feel the repressed emotions of the child we once were. intelligence alone is not enough, but it rather helps create seductive rationalizations, theories, illusions, and lies to hide behind.
There are two kinds of people: those that think: I don't want others to suffer as I did. And those that think: I suffered, and I want others to suffer too.
Until people resolve childhood repression, will always be the same shit different asshole!
The true tragedy of life comes from those who manipulate, swindle, and use others' empathy and compassion as an opportunity to benefit themselves.
"Yes, we can say this without any hesitation. Every behavior that is directed against the health of a person, that hinders the healthy functioning of the body and mind, is a repetition of once-endured mistreatment, neglect, confusion, lies, betrayal, perverted practices, and the exploitation of the child." Alice Miller
Very few people are able to look in the mirror and take responsibility for their ignorance/evil; the answer Alice Miller gave to one of her readers is so true. It seems that everywhere I go, I see people pretending or faking it to have healed. It comes to mind when I use to go to al-anon and codependents anonymous and the elders use to say: “fake it until you make it” I could tell they all were pretending and faking it and I use to think to myself: you can’t pretend and fake it forever and you going to have to face it sooner or later. I share a little tiny bit of your optimism; otherwise, I would give up completely.
AM: You write: "My main point in the allegory is that by necessity none of us are passengers anymore. Everybody's crew." I agree with you. But to become aware of the fact that our obedience learned in childhood doesn't allow us to think freely probably needs more than many hundred years. I am not sure if the tortured planet leaves us the necessary time to understand this fact, to protest against it, and to become a conscious, responsible members of the crew.
http://www.alice-miller.com/en/we-all-are-the-crew/
http://www.alice-miller.com/en/we-all-are-the-crew/
Dear Sylvie,
I send you my best wishes for your birthday!
On your website, I see your hard work in offering the truth and bringing light into the dark sides of wounded humans.
I hope, after all, you are okay and healthy with your cats, and they shall be healthy and happy, too.
I found this video of Kenny Weiss, and it brought me insights into my behavior, but knowledge alone doesn't help.
I make my surroundings crazy by being in contact but only pretending to relate. If it comes to terms of going for something together, I fail. I am still in contact with my family and the cat there. I feel not free to be there but also not free to leave them alone. This is what I wrote to you from day one...
So far, so embarrassing.
We all have a great responsibility for ourselves and any life on this planet, and each of us failing makes this place worse than it is...
I write this to you and dont change my behaviour...
This annoys me.
I don't know. On a certain level, I have given up. But I shouldn't allow myself to.
What devastating birthday greetings...
I don't really know why I connect... I don't trust myself a bit...
TAKE GOOD CARE and dont let yourself down
J
In toxic relationships, it's crucial to understand the difference between a narcissist and a codependent.
This video delves into each person's distinct traits and behaviors, helping you spot the differences and navigate these challenging relationships with clarity.
Learn how to identify these roles and empower yourself to break free from toxic patterns.
Watch now to gain valuable insights into narcissism vs codependency.
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