Wednesday, April 30, 2014

Addiction and Greed is the Same Thing

This quote brought to mind these words I wrote while Gorge Bush was in power. I wished he had kept on drinking and never had changed his addictions. It probably would have prevented the war with Iraq.

The President of the United States (George Bush) in an interview admitted to have had a drinking problem, and one day he just stopped drinking - that he let Jesus Christ inside him and became a Christian.  Addicts don’t just stop!  They change addictions!  His new addictions are religion, power and money.  Just because his new addictions are more accepted by our society it does not make it any better.  Addiction and greed is the same thing.  Greed or addiction means that whatever the object of our affection is, we can never get enough of it.  Addicts live in constant fear of losing the object of their affection and go to any lengths to protect it.  They will lie, cheat, steal, go to war without thinking twice, and exploit others even their own children.  No wonder so many young people are so angry; for when we feel used and exploited we get angry.  Only addicts will elect and support an addict to be our leader.  This means there are a lot of addictive or greedy people in our society!!!

Facebook post about greed

Monica: Dancing on the titanic?
Nasa-funded study: industrial civilisation headed for 'irreversible collapse'?    
Sylvie Imelda Shene: Those in power don't care about future generations. They just care about keeping their power and collecting more money. That's why the sociopaths at my last job tried to destroy me because my book exposes their lies, facades and evil nature. I have very little hope for humanity. "While some members of society might raise the alarm that the system is moving towards an impending collapse and therefore advocate structural changes to society in order to avoid it, Elites and their supporters, who opposed making these changes, could point to the long sustainable trajectory 'so far' in support of doing nothing."

Monica Chelagat: Social injustice by sociopaths leaders, was and will be the cause of collapse. The greed the live in is no different from a heroin addict.

Hamed Oubeid: Greed! The bloody greed and short term gains ...

Sylvie Imelda Shene: The sociopaths of the world and their enablers that choose to believe their lies and look the other way and support them will be the cause of the collapse. They are worse than heroin addicts because they destroy everything and heroin addict destroy just themselves.
Addiction and greed is the same thing. Greed or addiction means that whatever the object of our affection is, we can never get enough of it. Addicts live in constant fear of losing the object of their affection and go to any lengths to protect it. They will lie, cheat, steal, go to war without thinking twice, and exploit others even their own children. No wonder so many young people are so angry; for when we feel used and exploited we get angry.

Monica Chelagat: I have seen greedy people in my workplace, greedy for career and money at any cost. They are the worst species! They will trumple on anyone without thinking twice! They are damaged beyond repair.

Sylvie Imelda Shene: Yes, they are the worst species, because they don't care about anyone, but keep feeding their addictions or pacifier that protects them from having to face and feel their own painful truths and keeps their repressed feelings at bay. They will destroy anyone that gets in the way of their pacifiers.

Hamed Oubeid: I wish I knew this 30 or 40 years ago. When I studied psycho-sociolgy a bit, this was no known. But I recall now meeting pervert narcissists in my long career. The way I had is to confront them and show no fear. Sometimes, I just avoid them by keeping them at bay. This behavior is also common among African supervisors and I always put it under the culture of poverty, that is, someone coming from a relatively poor background, climb the ladder in an institution and wants to be the chief among people much more clever than him. We were calling him the Mandingo Prince in his back and he never realized that no one was taking him seriously. Well he lost a lucrative career because his behavior caught up with him.

Monday, April 21, 2014

To end Abortion Stigma is one of my Missions in Life

To end abortion stigma is one of my missions in life and this is why: 
“Equal players
Abortion happens in every corner of the planet, whether it’s funded or unfunded, safe or unsafe. Countries with the lowest abortion rates share a few qualities: access to contraception, good health care, progressive sexual values, comprehensive sexual-health education and a commitment to gender equality. But even in those countries, the number of procedures never reaches zero; the reality is that in every country, women sometimes seek out abortions. While there’s little difference between abortion rates in places where the procedure is legal versus where it’s illegal, there is a big difference in health outcomes. Where it’s legal and accessible, it’s usually very safe. Where it’s not, women die.

I could not agree more with the words below by Jackelene Anderson:

"There’s a concept called bodily autonomy. It’s generally considered a human right. Bodily autonomy means a person has control over who or what uses their body, for what, and for how long. It’s why you can’t be forced to donate blood, tissue, or organs. Even if you’re dead. Even if you’d save or improve 20 lives. It’s why someone can’t touch you, have sex with you,or use your body in any way without your continuous consent.

A fetus is using someone’s body parts. Therefore under bodily autonomy, it is there by permission, not by right. It needs a person’s continuous consent. If they deny or withdraw consent, the pregnant person has a right to remove them from that moment. A fetus is equal in this regard because if I need someone else’s body parts to live, they also can legally deny me their use.

By saying a fetus has a right to someone’s body parts until it’s born, despite the pregnant person’s wishes, you’re doing two things.

1) Granting a fetus more rights to other people’s bodies than any born person.

2) Awarding a pregnant person less right’s to their body than a corpse.

Less rights than a corpse. 

Think about that. Less rights than a corpse." Jackelene Anderson 

At its most basic level, abortion access allows women to be equal players in society. Surviving childbirth is a baseline, not a goal. There is no way for a society to achieve the real objective — full gender equality — without abortion rights” 
Read more here 

Saturday, April 5, 2014

Alice Miller the First Person to Stand on my Side

I like to share here a letter that someone wrote from a discussion I was in on a “non-spank” tread on Amazon trying to ban me from the tread. The pro-spanking people try to break me and they did everything possible to trigger me to lose it emotionally, but once you truly have faced and felt your repression you see through people’s games and is not possible to break you anymore. It’s annoying and irritating, but they can’t break me anymore. Anyway they went as far as writing to Alice Miller complaining to her, that I was abusing her copyright and when I saw it on her website, I felt a fear of maybe angering Alice Miller, but once I started reading her answer you can imagine my relieve that Alice Miller stood by my side and was not annoyed that I wrote things close to things she had written and I quote long texts of her.

November 2, 2009
Dear Ms. Miller,
On a "no-spank" thread on Amazon, one of your readers has copied and pasted pages upon pages of your work. One of the copies was of a webpage you allow people to copy and re-post in its entirety, but most of the content seems to end with an "all rights reserved" copyright. In some cases, the person is even copy/pasting the works of your fellow authors and attributing your website, which might not exactly rub them the right way.
We've been concerned about her zeal for copy/paste of copyrighted works for some time, but responsibility dictates that since the poster has failed to see the legal and moral issues, we should at the very least alert you of this.

Alice Miller’s Response:
“Thank you for your letter and the link. I opened it and found a discussion led very respectfully by Sylvie Shene who seems to understand much about the dangers of spanking that produce beside other things ignorant parents in future. Of course, the Internet allows everybody to show themselves, their emotional insights as well as their emotional blindness (like "I was very much beaten but I turned out very well"). But I didn't find an example of anybody using my name for a text that I have NOT written. Did I miss anything? If you did find this kind of abuse, of disrespecting my copyright, please let me know."

This letter is no longer available at Alice Miller's website, I belief the coward that wrote it, asked her to remove it, because I had copied and pasted it into the thread with the following comment and a link to it: To the person that wrote to Dr. Alice Miller, did her answer put your concerns to rest?  It's so funny to witness to the extent the pro-spanking people go to, to stop me from sharing the enlightened information here, they tried to break me, but that did not work, because you cannot break what's not breakable anymore!  Would not it be easier to put me in your ignore list? What are you afraid of? Afraid your children might come here? Become enlightened and be able to see through your lies and illusions. This just shows how conniving some pro-spanking people are. The next morning I clicked on the link from the thread to see if it was working and the letter was no longer available at her website. This person did not like Alice Miller's response and he/she asked her to remove it, because when people clicked on the link could see for themselves their desperation. Later they accused me of fabricating this letter myself!
All my life I have stood alone against the liars and cowards in this world and it felt so good to have Alice Miller stand on my side, I never had anyone before stand on my side like that, and I have no words to express how happy I felt to know I was not alone anymore.
Alice Miller was the first person to stand on my side.

Wednesday, April 2, 2014


Open Letter to the Participants in the Forum
May 2001

To Steven and all the others: I'm not a guru

Hi Steven, thank you so much for having raised the issue of "guruism" and your mistrust that I share with you. To be a guru-believer and wanting to grow is in my opinion a contradiction in itself because a guru sells his "wisdom" at the price of people's authenticity. I hope that nobody here will need to see in me a guru, especially if you make them aware of this danger to them, as you convincingly did in your letter of May 16 to Anna.
You wonder about my childhood. Like you I was a stranger to everybody in my family. Today, I know for sure that I was unwanted, rejected from the conception on, never loved, emotionally completely neglected, and used for the needs of others. But above all I was lied to, I grew up with a perfect hypocrisy. My parents, both absolutely unconscious of their true feelings, pretended to love me very much, and I believed this (because I so much needed this illusion) for more than 40 years of my life until I started to suspect the truth hidden behind their pretensions, hidden probably to them too.
Suspecting is not yet as much as knowing for sure but it was the start. It took me 20 years more to get rid of my denial because I was so alone with the knowledge of my body and my dreams, and a wall of denial surrounded me wherever I opened my mouth. Writing and painting were the only ways to continue with my search without being offended and "punished" for being the troublemaker.
The reactions to my writing showed me that what I discovered for me was true also for some others. I felt then less alone. I began to work with groups of young parents and found again and again the same pattern, the emotional blindness of parents who were afraid of confronting their past traumas and inflicting them unconsciously on their children. And now we are finding it together on this forum. Thus, for the first time in my life I no longer feel like a stranger, I feel belonging to a group of people who think like me, whom I don't need to convince, to inform, to shake, to wake up. I am here with people who are not scared by what I am saying, who understand me because they have known the same terror, who say so many things that move me profoundly and with whom I can openly communicate like I always wanted but was not given the chance.
This is more than I ever dared to wish. Talking freely about one's feelings, without using the well-known conventional defences was in my opinion possible only in dreams or on another planet. And now, surprisingly to myself, this became reality. Unbelievable!
So please don't see me like a guru, this would again put me in a special position where I no longer want to be. I am not your teacher or leader, am not giving advices or imposing anything on you, I am not your mother or grandmother, I am Alice, a sister in pain, like Bent's sister Toril who can tell him: I know what you are talking about, I know dad and mom and the answers they gave us because I can finally feel. And Bent can say the same to Toril. I am not the author here, I am one of the people who endured like you a horror in their childhood and who enjoy to know that what they say in English or German or whatever will not be received as sounding Chinese to others. Can you imagine that I had this feeling all my life until recently? Thank you all for being there.
Alice Miller