Saturday, June 27, 2015

Open Letter to the Media

Since writing the letter to the media below, a new wrinkle in my story unfolded last March 11, that by odd coincidence was my birthday, it came to my attention that my old boss, a branch manager for the security company that employed me, robbed a bank in Chandler and killed himself in a standoff with the local police. Here is proof I was dealing with sociopaths of the worse type! They treated me like a criminal, but look who are the criminals! And isn't interesting that the media never revealed the bank robber's name! I'm sure they are protecting the security company he worked for, it would not look good for a security company that one of his top managers was robbing banks on the side! 
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My name is Sylvie Imelda Shene and I think I have a story for you.

For nine and a half years, I worked as a gate attendant manager for a wealthy community in Scottsdale. I was a hard worker and an easygoing supervisor, and I always had a smile on my face. In fact, I got along so well with some of the residents that they often invited me to parties and hired me to watch their homes and pets whenever they went away, sometimes for six months at a time. I always handled myself with integrity and a great attitude, and it was greatly appreciated by many of the residents.

Last summer, I published a book about how to recover from childhood trauma, using my own experiences growing up poor in rural Portugal, working as a topless dancer and discovering the groundbreaking works of psychologist Alice Miller. My book, A Dance to Freedom, is part memoir and part self-help book and I’m proud to say that it’s touched many people around the world.

Working on this book was a labor of love for me. I’m not a wealthy person, but I managed to save and raise (through the crowdfunding site Indiegogo) the money I needed to get the book out into the world. It took me five years and four ghostwriters to get it right, but it’s all been worth it.

Many of the residents in the community where I worked supported me in this endeavor, and I’m sincerely grateful for their love and support. Others, however — including the property manager of the community and the security company that employed me — weren’t as enthusiastic about the project. They all started treating me differently after I published my book. They couldn’t stand the fact that someone who they considered inferior — a guard gate manager — could get a real book out into the world and understand the human condition so much that their own lies and illusions were exposed.

It was this combination of jealousy and fear that led a group of sociopaths to begin a campaign of emotional harassment against me. One resident returned the book she bought from me with toilet paper in it. The property manager started a campaign to get rid of me and, with the help of some board members, created a messy package receiving procedure they hoped would frustrate me into quitting. And a new employee who wanted my job called other guards at their homes to see if they had anything bad to say against me. The sociopathic behavior ramped up almost daily, and after six months they decided to fire me without cause.

It saddens me that someone can actually lose their job for exercising their right to freedom of speech. I think what my former employer and co-workers did was a disgrace, and I want as many people to know about it as possible.
If you think you can help me get my story told, I’d really appreciate it.

Thanks so much for your consideration.

 Sylvie Imelda Shene

Thank you, Jekaterina. Connected stories like mine need to be told, but sadly most people in the media are only interested in disconnected stories of victims without resolution they can exploit for pure sensationalism, they are like vultures. And they feel threatened by connected stories like mine because stories like mine make people look in the mirror to question themselves, their own parents and people in power position standing in symbolizing their parents. AND WHO WANTS TO DO THAT? Most people are still scared little children afraid of being punished if they dare to speak the naked truth and expose the real state of affairs.

David Lynch, thank you for your comment, but the reason people in the community read my book was that they all knew I used to be a topless dancer!!! They didn’t have a problem with that!!! smile emoticon They thought it was cool!! Some used to be customers and they knew me from the club! I was treated like I was a star!!! I was very well known in this town! I had a good reputation for being honest and a clean dancer. They thought they were getting a disconnected story, like many out there, but my story is connected with true liberation at the end. My book is a mirror and they didn’t like their own reflections!!! They rather destroy me than face their own painful truths. They were uncomfortable with my knowledge and my understanding of the human mind that I could see through their masks and facades. Just like Donald Warner Parker wrote in his review of my book: “What more can you give a person and this world, for that matter, than sharing your own hard-earned wisdom, experience and truth through telling your own story and holding up a mirror for others to capture their own reflection in it, while at the same time providing the vital information of Alice Miller’s body of work to free themselves from their denial and repression and the illusions that keep it intact. It is so true what you wrote in your Chapter False Hope on page 126, “Ultimately I realized that self-help books and 12-step programs offer a false hope at best. I’m convinced that people who put their faith in these types of things — or in psychologists, psychiatrists or any other cult leader for that matter — are avoiding the real causes of their problems and are just masking their symptoms instead. The seductiveness of the quick fixes offered by traditional treatments and therapies is very powerful and even if they don’t work they offer at least temporary relief from the fear and pain of our abused younger selves.” You make it crystal clear in your book how Ed Sweet played such an important role in the development of it and how grateful you are to him. Once again my Best Wishes to you and Congratulations to you as well on your accomplishment of your passionate mission to get to people the vital and lifesaving information, guidance and companionship they need to free themselves of lies and illusions.” 

You are right they rather replace me with someone that is emotionally blind and mindless shill/crony they can feel superior to and they can fool.

David Lynch: Sylvie, you got set up to fail. This is a common tactic employed by power-hungry narcissists for getting rid of employees that they no longer want around by creating a "no-win situation" where everything you do right is ignored and minimized and everything you supposedly do wrong is magnified, exaggerated and maximized. You were unlucky enough to get targeted by a lying sociopath who saw an opportunity to get rid of you once he learned from your book that you had a history of working as a stripper. Armed with that knowledge it would then have been very easy for him to rally up an army of mindless supporters by telling lies that you were also involved in prostitution/porn etc. He character-assassinates you by painting you as a deadly threat to the morality and good name of their supposedly perfect little community and all his sheeple follow along like the mindless hypocrites that they are cos they want to please Big Daddy. He gets rid of you because you are independent and he has no control over you and replaces you with a mindless shill/crony who will be loyal to him and thereby increase his power-base. The moral is always be very careful about who you share your story with because there are vicious narcs everywhere just waiting for any opportunity they can get to do harm to other people. I don't see your story getting any media attention though because it is so depressingly common. However, if you felt strongly enough about it then you could use (or misuse) social media to anonymously let the world know about what this man is really like.

Read David Lynch's original comment here.

Also read more comments here and here

Monday, June 22, 2015

Tough Decision to Make

I have a tough decision to make. Moving forward is being pulled back into the harem of the sociopaths or narcissists. And do nothing is letting them get away with their lies and attempt to soul murder.
The attached pictures express exactly what I am dealing with.

Sunday, June 7, 2015

Love and Freedom Experienced in Childhood that Turns us into Compassionate Adults

Sylvie, I read your book & I just wanted to share my thoughts with you.  I loved the title, a dance to freedom.  Dancing to me is liberating as well as dealing with those things within ourselves that need liberating. I totally agree with you on how childhood trauma shapes our life.  But I don’t think everyone’s way of learning this is the same.   You had some very tortuous weeks and dealt with a lot of pain very tumultuously at once.  

I discovered mine over a period of years, slowly and gently by the things and people that I surrounded myself by.  I think people are in our lives at the time they are in our lives and our adversities as well as our joys shape us into the beautiful people we are.  I don’t discount the wrongs you were done at the hands of your family & that famous dr. Phil type doctor but they made you the beautiful and compassionate person you are now.  

The desire you have to help others is kind.  My daughter is coming to peace with her traumas by being a Catholic missionary.  I think the discoveries of oneself can be had in the beauties of our beliefs.   Because they are strong and with self-discovery, you find what satisfies your life.  I know you are an atheist but the believing is not where the falsehood lies.  I believe that “God dwells in us, as us.”  But I don’t discount my daughter's avenue of self-discovery.  Her journey is not mine, or mine hers or yours.  I just wanted to share my thoughts, I enjoyed your book, thank you for writing it. K

Thank you for writing to share your thoughts and thank you for reading my book. I am glad you enjoyed reading it. I like to respond in more detail to your letter, but my time is very limited right now so I will do it when I have some free time.
Again thank you for reading my book and take good care,

P.S you might like reading the exchange between me and Donald below, it shows that is the love and the freedom experienced in childhood and finding a true enlightened witness as an adult that helps us heal from traumas, and became courageous adults with kind souls and not the traumas we suffered.

“Dear Donald, your words are touching me deeply. I have no doubt that thanks to having my mother’s protection and full attention in those few earlier years, and her letting me play and explore freely, that’s why I was able to preserve my soul/feelings. And from this short experience of freedom in my childhood was the bases that gave me the strength to rebel and stand up to those trying to repress me and murder my soul/feelings, this experienced freedom was my compass in life to guide me to find a true enlightened witness like Alice Miller, so I could really fully liberate myself and this time preserve it. I did not include this memory in the book, but it just came to mind: I remember my older sisters being mad at my mother when I was a teenager and blaming her for me being so difficult and rebellious, they told her it was her fault, because she had let me run wild as a small child when I was left alone with her in the village. Thank goodness for those few wild years in the village. Those were the best years of my childhood.

Sadly these words in your comment above could not be truer: Thank you for writing. It’s nice to connect to another soul capable of feeling and seeing: “(otherwise they remain in the darkness of compulsive repetition without an enlightened witness) and that this is a life and death matter in a world that is rapidly plummeting to its destruction on every conceivable level due to the individual and collective global repression and denial of childhood traumas and how this is being manifested in our child abusing and neglecting, animal enslaving and slaughtering and earth-raping death culture of addictions, narcissism, and materialism. Anything, however well-intentioned it may be, that evades the central reality of Alice Miller’s message is only inadvertently, hypocritically and unconsciously contributing to the above. Your book is a beacon of light that points the way to true liberation through your own story and how Alice Miller’s body of work enabled you to find your “dance to freedom.” Despite all that you had had to absorb and defend against from your family and culture there was something very true, vital and pure(* see below) inside you to have been able to so clearly recognize the truth in Alice Miller’s work and to be able to take her message to heart, fully embracing it and applying it to your own life and becoming your own enlightened witness with her assistance. Sincerely,” Donald Warner Parker” Read more here