I worked recently with a charming and charismatic 26-year-old single mother of a nine-year-old daughter. I would have lost my job if I hadn't seen her gaslighting clearly to try to get me fired. But six months later, she got herself fired for stealing. Anyway, the father of her daughter is in prison, and I have no doubt she helped put him in jail with her mind games... my question is, what kind of 17 years old thinks it is okay to have a baby unless she wants a child to use and exploit to hide behind to manipulate others to fulfill her unconscious needs.
Unwanted children are usually mistreated. But there exist, as a rule, also a huge amount of people who were "wanted" indeed, but only for playing the role of the victims that their parents needed to be able to take revenge on. They were wanted to give their parents what the parents never had gotten from their own parents: love, adoration, attention, and so many other things. Otherwise, why would so many people have five or more children when they have no time for them? Why do they adopt children if their body refuses to give them what they apparently "want?”
The never acknowledged, never felt pain of their childhood calls for being avenged. They go to church, they pray, they honor their parents, forgive them everything – and they mistreat their children at home, often in a very cruel way, AS IF THIS WERE THE MOST NATURAL THING, because they learned this so early. Their children learn this perverted behavior, also very early, and will later do the same; and so this perverse behavior continues for millennia. Unless people are willing to SEE the perversion of their parents and are ready to consciously refuse to imitate it.
You are not being "sickeningly sarcastic," you only dared to speak out the truth that most people are afraid of seeing or talking about.”
http://www.alice-miller.com/en/unwanted-children/
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