Never Argue or Confront a Malignant Narcissist

 

I agree. The 12-step program doesn't help. I went to Al-Anon and CoDA for many years, and only it gave me was false hope. I think you may like reading my book A Dance to Freedom: Your Guide to Liberation from Lies and Illusions where I share my life experiences and psychological discoveries. It took me over 40 years, but finally, I'm free.  Since I published my first book it has been a constant dance with malignant narcissists trying to regress me into the emotional prison of my childhood. 

The workplace is the only place these malignant narcissists can get close to me. 

Being a seeing and a feeling person is like a double-edged sword, it protects you but also makes you a target of these malignant narcissists that are among us everywhere, especially in the workplace. 

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2023/03/hard-evidence-of-my-ex-boss-being.html

I know that's exactly what they do. But NOW Thank goodness I have two healthy legs to stand alone on my own two feet. 

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2020/02/correspondence-with-alice-miller.html?m=1

Yes, they are only nice to you if it benefits them!

No, you can't have a healthy relationship with a narcissist. They want you to think they have a healthy relationship and that they are happy by posting pictures pretending to be happy on social media.  But I know the true state of affairs behind the pretty pictures. What the public can see and what goes on behind the scenes are two completely different stories. 

Very true! Nothing you could have said or done diferently would have changed the outcome with a malignant narcissist. Relationships with a narcissist never end well. It is what it is. 

  

That's a waste of time to try to talk to them. Don't react or argue with them and just walk away and let them meet their future and destiny. 

Never argue, confront, or react to a malignant narcissist. Anything you do or say, they will twist anything you say and use it against you. Just walk away and never allow them to enter into your life again. 

Rise above the malignant narcissists' bullshit, because reacting to their BS, that's what they want and that's what gives them power.

"In professional environments, they want you to blow up so that coworkers and superiors see you as unstable. In romantic settings, they want you to lash out so that they can use your “hysterical” reactions to show potential partners and exes how crazy you’ve become. Until we understand this, we’ll continue to fall into their trap." 

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=what+a+sociopath+want

Yep! That's why I will never allow another malignant narcissist into my life again, family or not. 

It's better to be alone and to know that you are alone than to wake up next to someone and nevertheless to be alone. 

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2015/12/better-alone-than-being-scapegoat.html

Narcissism is an epidemic. Be very careful who you give love and time to. 

In order to stop focusing on others and to stop trying to control or manipulate others, they would have to develop the courage to look at themselves and face and feel their painful truths. That's the last thing they want to do. Controlling people are cowards. 

It's amazing to me all these very well-articulate and smart people none of them mention that the reason people grow into full-blown malignant narcissists or bullies is because they are too afraid to be alone to face themselves and consciously feel the painful feelings triggered by their endless disastrous reenactments... 

I know. They have been this way since childhood. They are the classic case of the drama of the gifted child Dr. Alice Miller describes beautifully in her book The Drama of the Gifted Child. 

Walk away and let them learn the hard way. I have learned to walk away from anyone who refuses to open their eyes to see and feel.

That's exactly what they do when you are direct with them. Best thing to do is to walk away and never let them into your life again. They just waste your time.