“Even Adolf Hitler never denied that he had
been beaten. What he denied was that these beatings were painful. And by
totally falsifying his feelings, he would become a mass murderer. That would
never have occurred had he been capable of feeling, and weeping about, his
situation and had he not repressed his justifiable hatred of those responsible
for his distress but consciously experienced and comprehended it. Instead he
perverted this hatred into ideology. The same hold for Stalin, Ceausescu, and
all the other beaten and humiliated children who later turn into tyrants and
criminals.
The return of the truth only begins to
announce itself in the moment that we turn the tables and the word “spanked”
condemns itself as heartless testimony to the disrespect and humiliation
inflicted on the child. Only once we
have become capable of empathizing with the feelings of the abused child we
once were, and rejection the mockery and cynicism of our adult selves, do we begin
to open the gates to the truth. Only then can we also stop being a danger to
others.” From the book “Breaking
Down the Wall of Silence” Alice Miller page15, 16
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