Saturday, March 1, 2014

Don’t let Others Exploit your Repressed Anger to do Harm

Hi J
Yes, I think MM's anger of the child he once was is very much justified, but as an adult, he is responsible how he expresses his repressed anger, in a way that is not destructive to himself and others.

You said that you were seeing a therapist and left her because you didn't agree with her on MM. You are being a perfect example, of why it's dangerous for people to go public, before liberating themselves, and how it creates much confusion to the general public. He is hurting you and you can't see it, because of you still emotionally blind, by the repressed emotions of the child you once were. You are abandoning your own inner child, that still is stuck in the emotional prison of your own childhood, to go to the emotional prison of MM, and trying to save and protect him, but you or anyone else, can help him, but himself, and what you are doing unconsciously, is joining him in hating the ghost of his mother, because she left her emotional prison long ago, and now MM is only fighting with the ghost of his own mother, it was heartbreaking for her to leave her adult child there, but once a child becomes an adult no one can help him, not even his own mother, and Alice Miller learned, that she could not save him, and to save herself, she would have to let him go. Now you are in MM's emotional prison, joining your anger at your own mother, to MM's anger at his mother, and you are making Alice Miller your scapegoat, blocking your own liberation, because anger cannot ever be resolved directed at scapegoats. If you want to liberate yourself, leave MM's emotional prison because he is now an adult and only he can liberate himself. And don't let him exploit your repressed anger, to join his own anger to help him fulfill the fantasies of revenge of the child he once was, to symbolically kill his own mother in the public arena, by trying to destroy her very courageous and pioneering work she did in her adult life, that cannot save the children of the past, like her own child, but can save others, like saved me, and the children of the future. People like you that are joining their own unresolved repressed anger at their own parents, to MM's anger at his mother are hurting themselves and others by creating much confusion.

I will not get in the game he she said with you, because that would be letting you bring me into MM's emotional prison with you, and I don't go into anybody's emotional prisons anymore, because once people are adults only them can save themselves, I will offer emotional support to anyone that has the courage to do their own emotional work to really leave their emotional prisons, and truly liberate themselves, but I will not let anyone bring me into their emotional prisons to use me, and exploit me, to fulfill the fantasies of revenge of the child they once were, to hurt themselves and others. But I know this: Alice Miller apologized to him publicly and in her books, for not being the mother, he needed when he was little. And how she wishes she had the information, she is now sharing in her books, when she was a young mother, so other young mothers can resolve their own repression, and not pass their own childhood suffering into their own children like she unconsciously did as a young mother.

If it was true, MM had healed his childhood traumas and liberated himself, he would be talking about his childhood pain, and how he liberated himself, in a way that would not create confusion, the fact that he is creating much confusion, it shows he has not healed or liberated himself, and still a confused child, in his emotional prison, and using his mother well know name, to gain sympathy from a lot of people, and bring them into his emotional prison with him, to manipulate them to join their own hate, at their own mothers, to his own anger to hate his mother with him, and is confusing a lot of still emotionally vulnerable people. This is very destructive. This is how psychopaths work, and that's how Hitler, got people to join their hate to his hate to kill a lot of innocent people.

I don't know if you or MM are true psychopaths, but this is the behavior of psychopaths, that exploit the repressed anger of other people, to join their own anger, to help them feed their thirst for revenge, and the masks and illusion to hide behind, like for example the psychiatric doctor did to me when I was 17 years old, that exploited my anger at my family, to feed his sexual perversions, under the disguise of the mask or illusion of "mental health provider". You said that you like him were left out of the parents' will. Dependency breeds anger, as long we are dependent on the family's money; we remain stuck with them, in their emotional prisons, and hate instead of being resolved, it increases. We have to work to find our autonomy and not depend on the family or others standing in symbolizing our parents. As long we are dependent on the family or others financially, we remain prisoners of our childhood. Read my blogs Dependency Breeds Anger and Liberating Ourselves from Dependency that Breeds Hatred. 
When people go public with their stories, before liberating themselves, it will be a big distraction from doing their own emotional work and creates confusion in the general public, that is already very confused. Our wounds need to be healed first in private with the assistance of a true enlightened witness. But when people go public with their sad tragic childhood stories, playing the victim card, to gain sympathy from others, are exploiting the wounded child within themselves, just like their own parents exploited them, when they were little, to fulfill their own needs and perversions, now the adult is exploiting the wounded child in them, to gain sympathy from others and exploit others repressed anger to join their own anger, to fulfill the adults perversions and fantasies for revenge. This is the mechanisms of psychopathy. 

I hope my letter answers your questions and helps you see the danger of going public before liberating ourselves. 

Wishing you courage and strength to leave MM's emotional prison, and focus on liberating your own inner child from your own childhood prison.

Also, read my blogs in the links below:
Letter to P About Martin Miller's book
Then Pain of a Mother
In Most Cases is a Lie

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