The older I get, the less I feel the need to be included, understood or accepted.
"Narcissist v. Sociopath
A Narcissist sees others as a means to validate his existence. The less validating you are, the less use you are to a Narcissist.
A Sociopath views others as entertainment. The less entertaining you are, the less use you are to a Sociopath.
Both the Narcissist and the Sociopath need to dominate and control others. They will both exploit you with no remorse and have no conscience. My advice? Do not validate the Narcissist and do not entertain the Sociopath. Stay clear of them. Once they suck you in, it is hard to get away. Avoid them both at all costs and if they manage to bring you into their den, run like hell." Lisa E. Scott
"IT IS VERY RARE THAT A SURVIVOR OF NARCISSISTIC ABUSE IS NOT LEFT COMPLETELY FINANCIALLY OBLITERATED."
"Dark Truth: Emotion for a narcissist equates to fuel. They want to hear you getting irritated. They want to get you annoyed. They want your voice to rise and see the tears of frustration welling your eyes. When they see this, it makes them feel so powerful."
"Does the narcissist's description of YOU actually make a good description of the narcissist? Welcome to the wonderful world of PROJECTION."
"THEY ARE PREDATORS
They seek out compassionate, trusting good hearted human beings, and then mimic those qualities.
Like parasites, they are their strongest when they have a healthy host.
And then slowly, they use their victims love to destroy them from the inside out.
But unlike parasites, they don't do this for survival.
They do it for fun/entertainment in order to temporarily alleviate the twisted state of living in contempt, envy and boredom."
"Narcissists are not what they pretend to be .... They are what they hide.
"Open minded people don't care to be right, they care to understand. There's never a right or wrong answer. Everything is about understanding."
"The narcissist believes they are the authority that determines reality. To them, your facts are meaningless and your logic offensive."
"Why? Narcissists Do Not Go To Therapy Narcissists spend their lives, repressing the insecure parts of themselves. They are constantly seeking narcissistic supply, to feed that insatiable need to be superior and the best. The false self is powerful, strong and omnipotent. If they decide to go to therapy, in their eyes, they perceive that to be an admittance of weakness, and that there may be something innately wrong with them. There is no way a narcissist is going to allow that to happen. They live their lives, trying to avoid that very thing. They need to believe there is nothing wrong with them, and they are In fact, superior and amazing human beings. It is extremely difficult convincing a narcissist to go to therapy, and if they do end up going, they have been known to be, dishonest and manipulative with the therapist." -Maria Consiglio
"A TOXIC PERSON never changes. They change victims and blame everything on everybody else. They can't see the wrong in their actions, but always find time to find them in yours."
"Relationships with narcissists only last for as long as you're willing to put yourself last."
"A narcissist will do what it takes to maintain control over you.
This intensifies when you leave.
They do this through various ways. They will try and cripple you financially, they will isolate you from any support system they perceive to be a threat. Be prepared and have a plan in place!"
"Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate." CARL JUNG
"Before you attack her, know that she is built for this shit. She's stronger than her demons. She's been played, stabbed, cheated on, taken advantage of and left crying and ribbed on the cold floor. Her name has been dragged through the dirt a number of times, and everytime she picked it up and came out clean. She passed the worst moments of her life alone. You see, she's self made. She's built for war, and pain shaped her the best, you can't destroy a woman like that."
"When you think of the long and gloomy history of man, you will find more hideous crimes have been committed in the name of obedience than have ever been committed in the name of rebellion" -- C.P. Snow.
"They don't lie to you because the truth will hurt your feelings. They lie to you because the truth might provoke you to make choices that won't serve their interest."
"DYING DOESN'T SCARE ME WHAT SCARES ME IS lS LIVING IN AWORLD RUN BY EVIL PEOPLE. WHO CONTROL THE DESTINY OF OUR CHILDREN"
"Narcissists only surround themselves with people who enable their behavior, ignore their behavior or encourage their behavior. Anyone who tries to hold them accountable will be accused and blamed of the exact things the narcissist is guilty of. And the people who know the truth, will remain silent. THE ENLIGHTENED TARGET"
"Narcissists are not sick. They are evil. They are selfish. They are liars. They manipulate you to serve their interests. They do not deserve a second chance, and they will never change.
Sounds harsh? Good! Because the way they will destroy your life is even harsher."
"NARCISSISTS DESPISE WEAKNESS
One day my client came in, angrily proclaiming, "You will never believe what's happening?" "I helped my brother when no one else did. No one else in the family cared, they turned their backs on him. I went with him to all his appt. and everything he needed to try to fix his situation. And no matter how cruel everyone was, I was always there trying to be his strength. Things eventually got better for him. And unfortunately things took a turn for the worst for me. I started to have some difficulty in my life, because of my narcissistic husband. Everything started falling apart. My narcissistic family turned against me as usual. And guess who was the leader of the pact? MY BROTHER! My brother turned against me, no remorse, no obligation to the only person who was there for him. You see my brother is a narcissist too. I had hoped that me being there for him would of maybe influenced a change in him, I could not have been more wrong. I feel so betrayed. I am so sad. I don't deserve this. And I am so angry! What horrible horrible people!"
Narcissistic Individuals don't feel obligated to anyone. They do what is best for them, regardless of who they hurt.
The brother saw his sister in a position of weakness, and had no respect for her. She was depressed and having a really hard time functioning. She started having panic attacks and went to the emergency room a few times. Her brother looked down on her. Narcissists hate weakness. They don't have compassion or empathy for the person suffering. What they have is contempt." Maria Consiglio
"Why did they try to destroy you?
Because the darkness in them recoils from your light.
Their empty heart resents your abundant love, and their strange hunger feeds on the pain they cause.
Your resilience enrages them. Despite doing their worst, they could never break you.
They hate you because they are something monstrous, and you are nothing like them." John Mark Green // Reasons Why
There is no such thing as a "mutual friend" with an abuser. If they're still friends with the abuser, they cannot be your friend. If they are in contact with the abuser, it puts you at risk and you should not be in contact with them.
IS NARCISSIST PERSONALITY DISORDER
Permanent? Yes.
Treatable: No.
Can help? No.
Can it be fixed? No.
Will it always be bad? The abuse will always return.
Can I make it better? No.
What if its ME? It isn't.
What about the good times? The good times are a tool to keep you hooked.
"Some children in a narcissistic household detect how the selfish parent gets his needs met by the other family members. Those children observe how manipulation and using guilt gets the parent what they want. They emulate the narcissistic parent and develop a false self, use aggression and intimidation, and bully the other siblings and other parent in order to get their way. Those children become narcissists themselves."
"Imagine growing up treated as if you're hard to love... later realizing you were the most worthy of them all... finding you've been surrounded by toxic people full of self hate who gained light by by putting out yours. An insight that makes you invincible"
"The only time a child of a narcissist receives any attention is when it is "showtime". When narcissistic mom is presenting herself as "super mom." There are the impeccable photographs of the perfect family. The children stand their with glued on smiles and empty frozen eyes. They are wearing their best clothing and mother has made sure that everyone she knows will have this image of her family."
The Black Butterfly
"NEVER SAY THIS TO A NARCISSIST
"You're lying!"
"You're a narcissist."
"You're wrong!"
"You use people!" "You hurt me!"
Narcissists are built to destroy those who call them out, so don't. Close the book in the relationship instead and move on!"
"NARCISSISTIC ABUSE
I think the only ones who could understand this type of abuse is other people who have gone through it. Because if it didn't happen to me, I would of never accurately understood it. It feels earth shattering when the mask comes off, and they are so cold, so cruel almost gruesome at times. It is so difficult to accept that none of it was real. You feel traumatized, and really shaken up. It's like waking up from a bad dream, to a nightmare. Especially if you dealt with a covert narcissist, who appeared so good and humble, even kind and compassionate, only to find the devil at the other end of the mask. its so difficult getting used to the depth of their cruelty, and their ice cold hearts. The shock does not wear off easily. At least it didn't for me." Maria Consiglio
"THEY HATE YOU
They hate you, they hate you because they need you. Narcissists are very needy people. That's why when you walk away from them, you are completely exhausted. They need your energy. But they resent that. They resent needing you to survive, so they punish you. You can feel the hatred sometimes pouring out their pores. Crazy part is you don't know what you did. What did you do to make them hate you so much? You didn't do anything, they just resent giving you that much power. They never want to admit just how very important you are to them." -Maria Consiglio
"Psychological murder, or pernicious abuse is form of violence. It is one that goes unnoticed. A crime that is enabled by society. It goes unrecognized but it exists.
The perpetrators operate on an extremely covert level.
It happens behind closed doors, without anyone even being aware of who the victim is-the real victim.
There is no trail of evidence and no one has ever been convicted of it yet but the truth is that pernicious abuse is something that can and does have a life-changing or life-ending effect, not just on the victim, but also on a broader spectrum. Pernicious abuse can initiate someone to commit acts of covert psychological murder, unfortunately, unrecognized and virtually unquestioned.
A covert narcissistic abuser has the potential to commit murder without leaving a trace behind, even morphing into a martyr, a victim."
"You know what your problem is? You're smart. Too smart. You over think, because your mind moves at a million miles a minute.. You're sad, because you're not fooled by the world like everyone else. You don't get along with most people, because they just don't look at things the way you do. You think you're dumb, because you're smart enough to know you don't know everything. Your problem is you're too smart. And that's not a problem at all." Unknown
I don't know a single person in this world I would like to switch places with! I have created a little heaven on earth for myself!
"TO THE REBELS This is for ones that see the through the deception and lies. That actively resist tyranny and live a life which is lead by their own intuition and heart. They are owned by no one.
To the brave Women and Men who courageously risk their reputation and relationships to stand up for what they believe in. Although they may be courageous, they are also selfless, intuitive, and conscious. They care. They love. They fight. Not only for their freedom, but for everyone's freedom.
To the rebels of the world. KEEP ROARING!!"
"WHY YOU SHOULDN'T BE JEALOUS OF THE NEW SUPPLY!
THERE IS NO HAPPILY EVER AFTER. EVER. THERE IS NO TRUTH, LOVE, WARMTH. HONESTY. FIDELITY, RESPECT, CONSIDERATION, RECIPROCITY OR GENUINE BOND. THERE IS ONLY FILTH. TOXICITY, CYNICISM, CONTROL, MANIPULATION, CHEATING, TRIANGULATION. PASSIVE AGGRESSION, COMPETITION. INSECURITY AND ENVY. A LANDFILL. THE NARC WILL NEVER BE ANY DIFFERENT TO HOW THEY WERE WITH YOU! WHEN THE MASK SLIPS"
"Pathological narcissists get away with their abuse because those who haven't experienced it cannot wrap their heads around the possibility such cruelty exists. Because the truth sounds insane. That's because it is."
"TIPS FOR DEALING WITH A NARCISSIST
Don't argue with them.
Don't engage with them.
Don't defend yourself.
Be indifferent.
Be grounded.
Be emotionless."
"Sometimes people try to destroy you, precisely because they recognize your power - not because they don't see it, but because they see it and they don't want it to exist."
"MALIGNANT NARCISSISTS DON'T CHOOSE LOSERS. THEY CHOOSE YOU BECAUSE THEY WANT THE QUALITIES THAT YOU HAVE, THE ONES THEY ARE LACKING, THAT THEY WILL NEVER HAVE."
"Narcissistic Individuals Buy Into Their own Masks.
Covert narcissists for example think they are really good people. They buy into their "humble demeanor" There is a delusional aspect to narcissism, there has to be for them to believe they are perfect or superior. They rationalize all the bad things they do. They find a way to blame you, or make it your fault, or believe you deserve it. That is how they could live with themselves. Especially covert narcissists, they can't imagine being looked at as anything
other than wonderful people" -Maria Consiglio
"5 REASONS WHY NARCISSISTS ARE SO DANGEROUS
Narcissists are dangerous because they destroy and corrupt the Victim's self-identity, self-concept, and self-worth. The Victim no more identifies him or herself and takes years to rebuild their personality. Going through narcissistic abuse is the total annihilation of everything a person has ever known. The gaslighting, projection, cognitive dissonance, future-faking, love-bombing, false-promises, eroded boundaries, inability to empathize, and mind-fuckery are all enough to drive one crazy.
Narcissists are true parasites. The only reason they stay with you because they need supply and need to feed on you. They see you as an object.
• Lack of meaningful remorse or guilt-to the point of complete indifference. They leave a trail of destruction wherever they go.
. They take pleasure in their Victim's pain. It gives them a sense of being in power and control. Emotional Abuse"
"Empaths be like:
I don't just listen to your words. I listen to your use of words, your tone, your body movements, your eyes, your subtle facial expressions. I interpret your silences - I can hear everything you don't say in words." - Unknown
"The high narcissists get from hurting an innocent child is a hell of a lot more intense than the one they would get from targeting a world-weary adult. This is why narcissists stalk their own children; that and easy access. Malignant narcissist parents also stalk their children's souls in order to be human extensions-to live vacariously through them. Either way; the malignant narcissist parent gains in the transaction of the child's soul. They drain the child (kill life in the child), and leave them hollow (without a self) so that they can fill the child with themselves: be it as a dumping ground for their own toxic waste, or a vessel to live their narcissistic fantasy through."
"Most normal people have a narcissistic tendency as well as an altruistic one. However, the narcissist is the one end of the scale and the altruist on the other. While the altruist gets a kick out of helping others, the narcissist gets a kick out of hurting others. The altruist wants to raise others to their level and enjoy the familiarity they see with themself in the person, the altruist has helped and shares the happiness. On the other hand, the narcissist wants to drag people down to their level and enjoy the familiarity they see with themself in the person they have hurt and the shared misery." ~Dr. Ludger Hofmann-Engl
"The narcissist's life is a huge lie that is wrapped up with a huge bow to look like it is an amazing gift to all man and womankind! They have to process a great deal to keep their dysfunction at bay and protect themselves from exposure always having to look over their shoulder because in time life WILL finally catch up with them and expose them with the truth of what they REALLY are. If they can get away once more they will try, they are very adept at escaping exposure and accountability with more lies. But age will also slow them down as well as KARMA and there will be nobody there for them to abuse for supply and that will destroy them. Let them meet their own future AND destiny."
EVERYTHING YOU SEE ON TV IS A SCRIPTED PERFORMANCE WITH THE PURPOSE OF SHAPING YOUR WORLD VIEW TO BENEFIT THE POWERFUL INTERESTS RUNNING THE SHOW.
"What kind of narcissist is the most dangerous?
A covert narcissist is the worst kind of narcissist there is. Like a stealth bomb, you can't see them coming until they have left their destruction.
Covert narcissism is one of the most extreme and damaging forms of narcissism that you can encounter. The thing that sets these narcissists apart is their highly defensive nature and being emotionally vulnerable, seemingly without any exterior trace of the planning and plotting in which they engage. Unlike other forms, the covert narcissist is like a stealth bomb-they come without any warning and destroy everything in their wake."
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