This blog is about learning to understand all of our feelings and learning to consciously face, feel and experience all of our feelings within the context of our own childhood.
Everything we become and happens to us is connected to childhood. Not every victim becomes an abuser, but every abuser was once a victim of abuse and no matter what anyone says these are facts. Violence is not genetic, it’s learned.
Thursday, January 31, 2013
Removing the stigma
I HEAR stigma everywhere! One of my missions in life is to help remove the stigma
from abortion and put it where it belongs, because if should be stigma
somewhere it should be on the people that unconsciously and compulsively
coerce, manipulate vulnerable women to bring new life into this world that are
in no position to take care of and protect emotionally and physically and
because of these unresolved childhood wounds when they grow up put life on this
planet in danger.
HEAR stigma everywhere:
should be rare”
“Abortion is a tragedy”
“Abortion is only 3% of our budget”
“I am pro-choice but I’d never have an abortion”
“I am not like those other women”
“I don’t believe in abortion as birth control”
may have heard these statements. You may have said these words yourselves. You
may have thought these thoughts.
reality is, however, that without us there is no choice. Without providers, the
right to abortion is just an idea – it is just something on paper that means
nothing to women in actuality.
what does it take to keep 47 million women and their loved ones silent? You
have to spend millions of dollars to shame them – to tell them they are
murderers over and over until they believe it themselves. And you must threaten
and intimidate and ultimately murder those who provide them this care. For over
35 years abortion providers have been the buffer between the anti-abortion
movement and the women who have abortions. We have tried to protect women and
shield them from the hostility of the antis as well as provide them with
impeccable medical care. This is not working.
me, eradicating stigma is the single most important thing we can do for
abortion rights in this country and it is my life’s work.
I believe my work is to honor women. Making
an abortion decision is a time when a woman acts with intention. When she chooses
a path for her life and the direction she will travel. I want to NOTICE
that moment of acting with intention and hold it up high for the woman to
notice and to feel and own as hers. I invite her to experience her life as
though she were in charge of it. There are many times in a woman’s life where
“life happens to them” and abortion stands out as a time when I can support a
woman to be the actor in her own life – the chooser – not a victim but an
intentional, deliberate and ethical person choosing what is best for them.” http://lilithfund.org/
read the excerpt in the link below from the book “"Breaking
Down the Wall of Silence: The Liberating Experience of Facing Painful Truth"
By Alice Miller