Very good analysis, but it's deeper. It all starts in childhood. Have you read Alice Miller's books? I wrote a book, A Dance to Freedom: Your Guide to Liberation from Lies and Illusions, sharing my experiences and how I liberated myself from the emotional prison of my childhood with the help of Alice Miller's books. It's important that the masses listen to truly liberated stories like mine.
I would like to publish another book titled Reenactment: A Dance with Lucifer, because since I published my first book, I have been constantly targeted in the workplace by people like DT. As Alice Miller Worte: "I designate as pessimistic the thought that we are far more dependent than our pride would like to admit on individual human beings (and not only on institutions!), for a single person can gain control over the masses if he learns to use to his own advantage the system under which they were raised. People who have been "pedagogically" manipulated as children are not aware as adults of all that can be done to them. Like the individual authoritarian father, leader figures, in whom the masses see their own father, actually embody the avenging child who needs the masses for his own purposes (of revenge). And this second form of dependence--the dependence of the "great leader" on his childhood, on the unpredictable nature of the unintegrated, enormous potential for hatred within him--is decidedly a very great danger." Taken from the book "For Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-rearing and the Roots of Violence" by Alice Miller (page 243) [A great danger indeed]
"Dictators and the dynamics of cruelty
Every dictator torments his people in the same way he was tormented as a child. The humiliations inflicted on these dictators in adult life had nothing like the same influence on their actions as the emotional experiences they went through in their early years.
Those years are “formative” in the truest sense: in this period, the brain records or “encodes” emotions without (usually) being able to recall them at will.
As almost every dictator denies his sufferings (his former total helplessness in the face of brutality), there is no way that he can truly come to terms with them.
Instead, he will have a limitless craving for scapegoats on whom he can avenge himself for the fears and anxieties of childhood without having to re-experience those fears." Alice Miller
It is very sad to me, too. I should move to Ireland, too!
I'm done investing time and effort into deciphering someone's behavior.
I've spent too many years painting over warning signs and giving the benefit of the doubt, and it's cost me.
From now on, I'll take things at face value.
What you show me is what it is.
No more self-gaslighting or denying who people truly are.
FACT OF LIFE:
If everyone is happy with you, then surely you have made many compromises in your life.
And if you are happy with everyone, then surely you have ignored many faults of others.
Let other people project.
That shit is on them. I can't stress the importance of staying in your flow (your vibe). What's projected always returns to the individual because they cannot escape what they must deal with.
And you must protect what you've already mastered.
No One Talks About These 5 Painful Lessons in Life
1. Not Everyone You Love Will Stay: People change. Sometimes love isn't enough - and that's okay.
2. Time doesn't heal if you don't do the inner work:
Avoiding pain isn't healing. You have to face it to release it.
3: Being a good person doesn't guarantee good treatment :
Kindness is your power but never let it make you a doormat.
4. You'll outgrow people you thought were forever :
Growth feels lonely sometimes. But staying small hurts more.
5. Nobody's coming to save you:
Your life changes when you take full responsibility, not before.
What Narcissists do when they get caught :
1. Rage, have a tantrum.
2. Tell you a sob story and use it as an excuse.
3. Deny, even with proof in front of them.
4. Lie, gaslight, confuse, manipulate.
5. Deflect and bring up what you do wrong. Make it about you.
6. Create a smear campaign twisting all the facts before you have a chance to tell everyone the truth.
7. Turn everything around and put the blame on you. Get mad at you for getting mad at them.
8. Punish you for telling them they did something wrong. (Silent treatment. Etc.)
9. Find a way to twist everything around and play the victim. -Maria Consiglio
We are in the dictator's dick ship! 😀
That's what you get when you are emotionally blinded by the unresolved, repressed emotions and you are driven by the dead head of your own repression to vote for a demagogue. We would not be here if more people had voted for Kamala.
The conversation about the effects of childhood repression in our society needs to start happening in the stage of the world, sooner rather than later, if we want to save ourselves and humanity from falling off the cliff and committing mass suicide.
Everyone is trying to change the world at the surface, especially so many people using the political machine and religion to manipulate the masses, making things worse in the long run. And no one wants to look at the root causes of how we got here! Into this messed-up world! It’s very frustrating because when trying to change the world at the surface, no matter what people do, the changes will always be superficial and temporary.
"If the repression stays unresolved, the parents’ childhood tragedy is unconsciously continued on in their children.” Alice Miller (The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self) Page 23
Good question?!
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