Monday, April 14, 2025

Bill Maher Kissed the King


I agree. Just because someone is nice to him, it doesn't mean they are not dangerous and abusive to others. He is a rich white guy, and that's why DT was nice to him.

MAGA cult reminds me of the charming cult People Unlimited here in Arizona. But this political cult is much more dangerous because it affects the whole world. 

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=people+unlimited+

Most DT supporters are malignant narcissists. Narcissists can't function unless they are angry because narcissists need anger and chaos to feel alive. When things are going well and are peaceful, they can't handle it, and they have to create chaos so they can feel alive again and play the role of hero or victim.


Comments on this vedio.
"It would have been easier to just write 'don't attack anyone'."

"Hitler was the only stupid person in that assembly, but didn’t know it. He thought he was the smartest one. Then, things happened slowly but happened anyway. So, you know any “leader” of our time like that? You do, but you might not be aware of it, though."


How narcissists fake a smile. They are dead inside; there is no soul behind their smiles.

Sunday, April 13, 2025

Narcissists are Dictators

Yes, they are. 

"I designate as pessimistic the thought that we are far more dependent than our pride would like to admit on individual human beings (and not only on institutions!), for a single person can gain control over the masses if he learns to use to his own advantage the system under which they were raised. People who have been "pedagogically" manipulated as children are not aware as adults of all that can be done to them. Like the individual authoritarian father, leader figures, in whom the masses see their own father, actually embody the avenging child who needs the masses for his own purposes (of revenge). And this second form of dependence--the dependence of the "great leader" on his childhood, on the unpredictable nature of the unintegrated, enormous potential for hatred within him--is decidedly a very great danger." Taken from the book "For Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-rearing and the Roots of Violence" by Alice Miller (page 243) [A great danger indeed]

"Dictators and the dynamics of cruelty
Every dictator torments his people in the same way he was tormented as a child. The humiliations inflicted on these dictators in adult life had nothing like the same influence on their actions as the emotional experiences they went through in their early years. 

Those years are “formative” in the truest sense: in this period, the brain records or “encodes” emotions without (usually) being able to recall them at will. 

As almost every dictator denies his sufferings (his former total helplessness in the face of brutality), there is no way that he can truly come to terms with them. 

Instead, he will have a limitless craving for scapegoats on whom he can avenge himself for the fears and anxieties of childhood without having to re-experience those fears.
Read more in the link below:

“The Romanian dictator Nicolae Ceaușescu knew nothing of the way he suffered as a child from having been pent up in one room with ten brothers and sisters in a state of extreme neglect. 

As an adult living in the monomaniacal opulence of luxurious palaces, he repressed all explicit memory of it. But implicit (body) memories of his childhood suffering remained, and they incited him to take vengeance on a whole nation. 

Like his own mother, the women in this dictatorship were not allowed to have abortions. Like his own parents, most couples in Romania were forced to have more children than they wanted or were able to take care for. 

As a result, Romanian orphanages were full to bursting with youngsters displaying severe behavioral disorders and disabilities caused by extreme neglect. 

Who needed all those children? No one. Only the dictator himself, whose unconscious memories spurred him to commit atrocities, and whose mental barriers prevented him from recognizing them as atrocities. "
Taken from the book “The Truth Will Set You Free” by Alice Miller

"Only unflinching realization of one’s own past reality, of what really happened, can break through the chain of abuse. If I know and can feel what my parents did to me when I was totally defenseless, I no longer need victims to befog my awareness. I no longer need to reenact what happened to me with the help of innocent people because now I KNOW what happened. And if I want to live my life consciously, without exploiting others, then I must actively accept that knowledge.

...Am I saying that forgiveness for crimes done to a child is not only ineffective but actively harmful? Yes, that is precisely what I am saying. The body does not understand moral precepts. It fights against the denial of genuine emotions and for the admission of the truth to our conscious minds. This is something the child cannot afford to do, it has to deceive itself and turn a blind eye to the parents’ crimes in order to survive. Adults no longer need to do this, but if they do, the price they pay is high. Either they ruin their own health or they make others pay the price – their children, their patients, the people who work for them, etc." -- Alice Miller

That's what you get when you are emotionally blinded by hatred. They thought only others would be hurt, and they would be protected from DT's wrath. Most people only care when it affects them. 
They are stuck in childhood without realizing it, with an abusive father figure symbolizing their father or childhood caregiver. 







Wednesday, April 9, 2025

I'm Powerful

The daughter of someone I grew up with grew up to be like Elon Musk in the cult of her family.

That's exactly how they think. They want power and to be on top of everyone, to take revenge on everyone for the wrongs done to them in childhood.

"The unconscious compulsion to avenge repressed injuries is more powerful than reason. That is the lesson that all tyrants teach us. One should not expect judiciousness from a mad person motivated by compulsive panic. One should, however, protect oneself from such a person." Alice Miller -- Breaking Down the Wall of Silence, page 82

I will never forget these words, a Portuguese narcissist once said to me while talking with me on FaceTime, "EU SOU PODEROSA," translated to English, it means: "I'M POWERFUL." She was the last link. It was the longest goodbye. It took me over 60 years to break all the links to that narcissistic world... It's so sad that so many people are so delusional, blinded by the unresolved, repressed hatred






When we enable sociopaths, in the end, everyone loses. 


We are the best country in the world, but we ignored, the most qualified person, who happened to be a woman, not once but twice, and elected the worst person/man ever. It just reveals how deep-seated the hatred for women by many in America is.

Trump thinks he holds all the cards, but I think he is holding two jokers, Vance and Musk

Narcissists will spite you.
Narcissists will often spite you if they feel threatened or challenged. They may lash out with petty actions, insults, or passive-aggressive behavior to punish you for not feeding their ego. Even small disagreements can turn into a way for them to seek revenge. Their goal is to make you feel inferior or hurt to regain their sense of control. In the end, their spiteful actions are all about maintaining power and dominance.

Your Absence Will Teach Them What Your Presence Couldn't!
Some people only realize your value when you're no longer available.
Walk away, and let your absence do the talking.

Tuesday, April 8, 2025

Who wants it all loses it all

 

He didn't want to pay taxes with Harris, but now he is paying a lot more. When you refuse to pay your fair share in taxes, you end up paying a lot more. Who wants it all loses it all. And now he is a joke too. That's what happens when you side with the wrong side of history.

His accusations are confessions, and now we have proof. 

She is spot on. He doesn't care about America or anyone else. He just wants power. He is driven by the unresolved, repressed emotions to take revenge on the world. 

"The unconscious compulsion to avenge repressed injuries is more powerful than reason. That is the lesson that all tyrants teach us. One should not expect judiciousness from a mad person motivated by compulsive panic. One should, however, protect oneself from such a person." Alice Miller -- Breaking Down the Wall of Silence page 82

"Please understand this,
Narcissists are severely emotionally stunted, underdeveloped adults. Regardless of how high mentally functioning they appear to be, they have the emotional intelligence of an angry, irrational young child."

I know, narcissists are stuck in childhood and diaper stage, acting as if personalities pretending to be all grown up and good people, but are wolves in sheep's clothing. 

The words below by Alice Miller explain beautifully why so many "intelligent" and "talented" people fall for politicians like Donald Trump and PUTIN, the capacity to resist a totalitarian state has nothing to do with intelligence, but with the degree of access to our true self.

"Just as in the symbiosis of the "diaper stage," there is no separation here of subject and object. If the child learns to view corporal punishment as "a necessary measure" against "wrongdoers," then as an adult he will attempt to protect himself from punishment by being obedient and will not hesitate to cooperate with the penal system. In a totalitarian state, which is a mirror of his upbringing, this citizen can also carry out any form of torture or persecution without having a guilty conscience. His "will" is completely identical with that of the government.

Now that we have seen how easy it is for intellectuals in a dictatorship to be corrupted, it would be a vestige of aristocratic snobbery to think that only "the uneducated masses" are susceptible to propaganda.

Both Hitler and Stalin had a surprisingly large number of enthusiastic followers among intellectuals. 

Our capacity to resist has nothing to do with our intelligence but with the degree of access to our true self.

Indeed, intelligence is capable of innumerable rationalizations when it comes to the matter of adaptation.

Educators have always known this and have exploited it for their own purposes, as the following proverb suggests: "The clever person gives in, the stupid one balks." For example, we read in a work on child raising by Grünwald (1899): "I have never yet found willfulness in an intellectually advanced or exceptionally gifted child" (quoted in Rutschky). Such a child can, in later life, exhibit extraordinary acuity in criticizing the ideologies of his opponents--and in puberty even the views by his own parents-- because in these cases his intellectual powers can function without impairment. 

Only within a group--such as one consisting of adherents of an ideology or a theoretical school--that represents the early family situation will this person on occasion still display a naïve submissiveness and uncritical attitude that completely belie his brilliance in other situations. Here, tragically, his early dependence upon tyrannical parents is preserved, a dependence that--in keeping with the program of "poisonous pedagogy"--goes undetected. This explains why Martin Heidegger, for example, who had no trouble in breaking with traditional philosophy and leaving behind the teachers of his adolescence, was not able to see the contradictions in Hitler's ideology that should have been obvious to someone of his intelligence. He responded to this ideology with an infantile fascination and devotion that brooked no criticism.”

From the book For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-rearing and the Roots of Violence pages 42 and 43

People are emotionally blind and not any amount of money can make you a seeing person. 



I hope so!

Monday, April 7, 2025

Trump's Tariffs is Financial Terrorism

 

Yep! Malignant narcissists want people on their knees begging. It's all about power, control, and feeding their egos. They are very sad, miserable people. 

Yep! Sooner or later, in one form or another, they will overplay their hand. DT and Elon Musk on the stage of the world are great examples. 
Surround yourself with yes men, and they will cheer you all the way to the bottom. 

DT's tariffs is financial terrorism.


Yes. It's fascism. If you haven't seen it yet, you are a fan of it. 

"Fascism (/ˈfæʃɪzəm/ FASH-iz-əm) is a far-right, authoritarian, and ultranationalist political ideology and movement,[1][2][3] characterized by a dictatorial leader, centralized autocracy, militarism, forcible suppression of opposition, belief in a natural social hierarchy, subordination of individual interests for the perceived good of the nation or race, and strong regimentation of society and the economy.[2][3] Opposed to Marxism, democracy, anarchism, pluralism, free markets, egalitarianism, communism, liberalism, and socialism,[4][5] fascism is at the far right of the traditional left–right spectrum.[6][5][7]"

Totally! Just walk away and let them be

See DARVO, deny, attack, reverse victim and offender. Blame shifting, gaslighting behavior of the narcissist.

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=darvo

In the end, all lose. 

Good advice! Don't him! Hang up the phone!

Trump’s ‘Mafia tactics’ won’t work on the markets

"Thinking deeply about this quote by Sun Tzu: "An evil man will burn his own nation to the ground to rule over the ashes." It's a chilling image, and a powerful commentary on the human condition.

Friday, April 4, 2025

Kamala Harris: I'm not here to say I told you so


She should have been our President. A much better choice than DT, that's for sure!
Many people are blinded by the unresolved hatred of the child they once were; they are driven by the dead hand of their own repression to vote against themselves.
https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2013/03/driven-by-dead-hand-of-their-own_27.html


Why didn't America do the same with the felon DT?!

The Internet Allows Everybody to Show Themselves -- Their Emotional Insights as Well as Their Emotional Blindness

The people who proclaim to be the smartest are usually the dumbest! As we witness with DT. 

The hatred goes deep. This is why DT won because he provided his followers the scapegoats they desperately needed to temporarily and superficially alleviate their unresolved, repressed hatred. The "illegal immigrants" make the perfect scapegoats for many dangerously repressed Americans. 

People's hatred is justified, but has to be understood and consciously felt within the context of their childhood. Repressed hatred cannot ever be resolved by scapegoating. 

"Alongside reactive hatred of the parents and latent hatred deflected onto scapegoats, there is also the justified hatred for a person tormenting us in the present, either physically or mentally, a person we are at the mercy of and either cannot free ourselves of, or at least believe that we cannot. As long as we are in such a state of dependency, or think we are, then hatred is the inevitable outcome." Alice Miller

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2021/10/what-is-hatred.html?m=1

These words Alice Miller wrote to me come truer every dayThank you for your thoughtful letter I agree with you that there is a difference between the powerless, legitimate rage of a desperate child that reacts to the cruelty of their parents and the rage of the adult who is attacking others out of denial of their history by imitating the behavior of own parents from the position of "power" (even grandiosity). The first rage (of the child) should be felt and expressed in therapy; it can then be RESOLVED. The second one (of the adult), directed toward scapegoats, can NEVER be resolved (see dictators). If therapists see it as an end point of their therapies and don’t enable the patients to confront the early parents and the feelings of that time, they do much HARM to them. Staying trapped in the hatred toward scapegoats can't be the successful end of a therapy. I hope that you can continue your work if you have this difference in mind, and can also explain it in your forum."

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=scapegoating+

I wish America had also understood the assignment when electing the President. Congratulations, Wisconsin! You made the right choice. 


Recent data indicates a shift where young men in America are becoming more religious than their female peers, with some evidence suggesting they are more likely to identify as religious and attend church services. [This explains why many young men voted for DT!]

A pastor at Hope Church in Texas said that the young men attending their church "are looking for leadership, they're looking for clarity, they're looking for meaning". [Looking for leadership, clarity, and meaning in the wrong places. 
Many men may be physically stronger, but mentally appear to be the weaker sex. 
Otherwise, they would not be looking for crutches like religion.] 

"...many people joining such groups seem completely indifferent to the fact that their new surroundings are powered by mechanisms expressly designed to subjugate them, to rob them of the freedom to think, to act, and feel as they see fit. They seem completely impervious to the fact that such groups set out to impose an Orwellian form of surveillance and demand for mindless obedience from which the prospects of escaping are more or less nil. Years of brainwashing and indoctrination ensure that the victims are kept unaware of the insidious harm being done to their personalities. They have no notion of the price they have paid for their malleability because they have no notion that there is an alternative.
The thing that concerns me most about cult groups is the unconscious manipulations that I have described in detail in my work. It is the way in which the repressed and unreflected childhood biographies of parents and therapists influence the lives of children and patients entrusted to their care, without anyone involved actually realizing it. At first glance, it may seem as if what goes on in cults and cult-like therapy groups takes place on a different level from the unconscious manipulation of children by their parents. We assume that in the former instance, we are in the presence of an intentional, carefully planned, and organized form of manipulation aimed at exploiting the specific predicament of individuals.
In my view, however, this allegedly conscious exploitation can also be traced back to unconscious motives. Terrible as the consequences were, I do not believe, for example, that the two initiators of “feeling therapy,” discussed earlier, actually set out to establish a totalitarian regime. It was the power they gained over their adherents that made them into gurus. And this is what I have in mind when I refer to the unconscious aspects of manipulation. In the end, they themselves become the victims of a process with an inexorable logic of its own, a process they were unaware of because they had never given it any thought.
Thus, they sparked off a conflagration they were unable to control, much less extinguish. First, they had learned how to reduce people to the emotional state of the helpless child. Once they had achieved that, they also learned how to use unconscious regression to exercise total control over their victims.  From then on, what they did seemed to come automatically, in accordance with the child-rearing patterns instilled into them in their own childhood.
Mithers’s report on the misleading blandishments that arouse false hopes and illusions also helps us to understand how political leaders operate. For the last fifty years, a debate has been raging on whether Hitler actually believed what he was saying or whether he consciously manipulated others. Was he a man obsessed with his self-appointed mission or a consummate actor, a Pied Piper luring millions to their doom? Some biographers have changed their minds on this point, tending more and more to the view that Hitler was indeed a fanatic believer in his own crazed doctrines. The question is a complex one, but one eminently worth following up because, as we see from the cult groups, it has lost none of its burning relevance for today.
If people stand up and proclaim they are prophets or agents of God, does that mean they are calculating charlatans, or are they lunatics genuinely believing they are in direct contact with Jesus? It is by no means easy to draw the line. In the case of “Feeling therapy,” it was clearly discernible how the craving for power engulfed any kind of realistic self-assessment on the part of the founders. They ended up believing they were as marvelous as their supporters thought them to be. They were asked to take part in 134 radio shows and 104 television programs. That was enough to convince them that they were epoch-making geniuses far superior to run-of-the-mill psychologists.
With cult leaders, it is very difficult to say where the conscious ends and the unconscious begins. Many gurus are driven by forces they are not aware of. If this were not the case, they would not feel constrained only by destructive means. With normal, conscious, systematic planning, it would not be necessary to proceed so elaborately. The gurus end up enmeshed in the webs they have woven. The examples are legion. A case in point, an extreme instance of pathological grandiosity, was the mass murder in Jonestown, Guyana, in the late seventies. Others followed suit. Common to all was the way in which mostly well-meaning but misguided and confused people sacrificed their own lives to salvage their belief in the sincerity of one obsessed individual---death as a means of preserving an illusion to the bitter end.
Many of the people who establish cult groups are paranoid, megalomaniac psychotics seeking protection from their own anxieties in the mass of their adherents by passing themselves off as helpers and healers. They proclaim that the end of the world is night and build subterranean bunkers in an attempt to escape their childhood feelings of helplessness and wage war on those feelings at the symbolic level. At the same time, they offer their services as saviors because that ensures them the adoration of their disciples and enables them, at last, to feel powerful instead of powerless. But as soon as they have grounds to fear exposure, they revert to threats and coercion to force their followers to keep silent. Suicide is an extreme form of self-imposed silence. It is also the course elected by those thirty-nine young people who took their own lives in a luxury villa in San Diego in 1997.
I do not believe that material greed alone is an adequate explanation for the system of fraud so elaborate as to inevitably involve unnecessary expenditure. The point is that it is not only the victims that lapse back into an infantile state, but it is also the people behind the system as well---be they little Hitlers or gurus. They bask in the admiration of their adherents, which they take to be proof of their exceptional status and thus completely lose touch with reality. If this were not the case, Hitler would never have prolonged the Russian campaign in defiance of the advice of his experienced generals. But he was completely besotted with himself, a helpless victim of his own delusions of grandeur. His unconscious regression made him lose all contact with reality and any level-headed assessment of the situation.
Hitler, too, believed that the adulation of the masses was irrefutable evidence of his own greatness. The fact that this adulation was born of his own lies was something he could easily forget. Thus, he came to regard himself as a genius. Like Hitler, gurus use paternal or maternal promises of healing and salvation to achieve complete and utter devotion. Regression without awareness, the total relapse into earliest infancy, is the instrument they use to blind the masses and keep them in the state of boundless adulation. This kind of regression makes the criticism of parent figures like gurus and “charismatic” political leaders totally impossible. Equally inconceivable is self-criticism on the part of such leaders. It has no chance against the lust for power and the lure of self-aggrandizement.
Today, anyone who really wants to know how Hitler functioned needs to no more than procuring any tape of documentary footage on Hitler and watch it attentively. Observe the gestures and the facial expression of the Fuhrer, listen to the sound of his ranting, euphoric voice, and read the quotations from his speeches. Then the Hitler mystique will stop being such a mystique. It is an example that can sharpen our perceptions and help us identify other, similar phenomena quickly and accurately.
For political leaders in the Hitler mold, the jubilation of the masses is as indispensable to still their effective craving as a drug is for an addict. The millions of cheering supporters do not realize that they are needed for the purpose and that purpose alone. When Hitler painted his glowing vision of a thousand-year Reich free of revolutions, his listeners had no inkling whatever that their beloved---and allegedly loving---father was getting ready to send them off to their deaths in the war because his own personal biography willed it so.
Some people are convinced that so-called deprogramming is the best---indeed, the only---prospect of freeing cult group members from their dependency and their psychological blindness. I, for my part, am an incorrigible believer in the enlightening power of information. If it reaches people at the right moment, it can set off a process of reflection. Depending on the individual’s personal situation, that process of reflection will either be an ongoing process or it will peter out. The effects may also be delayed, deferred until later. The human mind is not a machine, an apparatus that can be repaired via an outside agency. It has its own individual history, and that history is the sole basis from which it can operate, the only source for thought and action. Sometimes an emotional shock will enable a person to wake up out of his regression and perceive reality as it is, even if that realization is a painful one.
Can therapy help in this respect? There is no general answer to that question. There is such a market for psychological aid today and so many different salvation-mongers peddling their wares alongside the serious representatives of the therapeutic community that there is little point in making vague, general recommendations. But one thing that can be said is that extreme caution is called for in the face of promises of “complete cure” via regression. Frequently, impressive-sounding theories are paraded, which, despite their scientific façade, have absolutely nothing to do with science. The ride roughshod over existing facts and make pronouncements that either is a pure fabrication or are derived from theories they are supposed to be substantiating.
Both Sigmund Freud, in his early years, and Arthur Janov were inspired by the hope that remembering and consciously re-experiencing a traumatic situation could bring about lasting relief from its consequences. This hope has not been entirely fulfilled. I know of cases where improvement has been achieved without recourse to the reactivation of memories, and others where the reenactment of the past and years of therapy has done nothing to alleviate the patient’s condition. Particularly if the therapeutic work restricts itself to a confrontation with the past. Energies briefly released by the suspension of repression are frequently drawn on by the patient to fuel new attempts at regaining the initial euphoria by means of activating more memories. This often leads to an addictive craving for pain and a reemergence of physical symptoms because the old patterns have not been properly worked through in a reliable, trustworthy relationship.
It is by no means unlikely that the attempts to use primal therapy to delve down into the earliest stages of life are bound to fail in those cases where very early traumatic experiences have caused severe irreversible damage to the brain. Constant unavailing attempts to dissolve such long-standing distress will then overtax the organism to such an extent that no positive results can be obtained. At all events, the primal therapists who have been trained more recently have increasingly moved away from the initial absolutism. Many of them combine primal therapy techniques with other methods. The techniques developed over twenty years ago are used less often today; many therapists have jettisoned both the “intensive phase” and the darkened room. Most of them have discovered that they have no need for such things in order to enable their patients to get in touch with their feelings.
Karl Kraus once said that psychoanalysis is the illness it claims to be curing. This criticism was accurate as long as psychoanalysis barricaded itself behind rigid theories. Today, however, there appears to be a greater readiness to turn new research findings from other fields to account, notably the results from infant research and the study of the fetus. There also appears to be an increasing tendency to confront the actual facts of child abuse in all its forms.
Perhaps we may look forward to a time when primal therapy will also become more receptive than it has been in the past. The positive aspect of this approach might be salvaged once its advocates are prepared to acknowledge the negative effects it can have, its limitations, and the serious dangers it may involve when used as a means of manipulation. Then old concepts could be revised in the light of new insights. But adhering uncritically to the alleged infallibility of the once established methods and blaming the patients when things go wrong will relegate the whole approach into the same category as cult leaders’ empty promises of salvation. As Helga’s story shows, such promises only produce self-destructive dependencies militating against any genuine liberation of individual patients from their suffering.
Occasionally, it takes years of therapy to free people from their inner compulsions, constraints, and obsessions. But fortunately, not always. Sometimes, a brief therapy will suffice to open up new perspectives and help patients to extricate themselves from the impasses they find themselves in. Here, additional group therapy has an important ancillary role to play. At regular intervals, news reaches me of such combined programs in various parts of the world, and some of them can indeed point to a very gratifying degree of success."      
From the book “Paths of Life: Seven Scenarios” by Alice Miller   








Wednesday, April 2, 2025

7 ways to trigger a narcissist

 


Yes, narcissists are stalkers. It's a reenactment, as children and young adults, they were stalked by their parents or childhood caregivers, and now, as adults, they stalk others in the same way. Because rejection triggers the repressed fears of the child they once were of being abandoned by their parents or caregivers. People always tell unconsciously and compulsively the true story of their childhood with their endless unconscious reenactments. 

A narcissist has a false self they loathe. They don't want to suffer alone in their self hatred. If you are kind and sensitive and self aware, they might try to make you their scapegoat. Then get others to fiercely hate you so that you feel it even more intensely.
This is designed to separate you from your true self.
Remember that you are not what they claim. You are not part of their darkness. You are sparkly and beautiful and worthy. That's why they target you in the first place.
That's why they try to take you down.