Monday, August 31, 2015

Never Trust a Person that Proclaims to Having Wonderful Parents and Childhood

Since writing this blog, my ex-boss, who the property manager recruited to do her dirty work, killed himself in a standoff with the local police after robbing a bank on March 11, 2016, that by coincidence was my birthday! So, the property manager does have blood on her hands after all, because I know without a doubt, if she had not started this psychological warfare against me, he would still be alive – he was her collateral damage – when people start wars someone always gets hurt or killed!!! I was her target to destroy, but when was one of her helpers to lose his mind and self-destruct, everyone involved became silent, and now is a big cover-up that involves the FBI, the US Marshals, and the media. It's a shame he was not strong enough to stand up to do the right thing and let himself become a puppet of the property manager -- he paid a high price for it. Puppets never have a good end. If it was me, the little woman to commit a crime my name and face would have been splashed all over the news stations! And then all probably go on TV talking about how disturbed the little woman was -- to discredit me and my book -- and make a name for themselves by standing on my head. And all probably say that you need God in your life, my ex-boss was a Mormon, a man of God, but he was the one to lose his mind, but now is a big cover-up. I could see their dirty games and traps so clearly.
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The property manager at my last job could never talk about childhood and proclaimed her parents and childhood was wonderful. It took nine and a half years to stab me in the back and show her true colors! Publishing my book triggered her jealousy and revealed her true face and she stabbed in the back big time!!!


Yes, parents love to hide behind the "addiction" label. With all the information at our fingertips parents of today can no longer claim innocence like our parents had of not having the right information available. But sadly people choose to reject this very important information and I don’t have much hope for humanity.

“Our parents and grandparents are not to blame for having passed on to us misleading messages because, at that time, they had no better information at their disposal. But we do have them today. We can't claim the same innocence when the next generation blames us for having rejected information that was available to us and was easy to understand. Parents of today can no longer claim the unlimited freedom to be ignorant nor can a responsible government do it. It must take into account the most recent scientific discoveries. Damages in the brain structure of beaten children can already be seen on the screens of computers. Violence to children produces a violent and ill society. True authority dismisses humiliation. Its discipline is based on listening and talking, on trust, respect, and protection of the weaker. It gives children the assistance they need to become responsible adults who will not turn to vengeful actions like wars and dictatorships because they will simply return to others what they once received and what they learned by example: protection and respect.” Alice Miller --Read the full article here



"Your personal attacks on myself have absolutely no effect other than to show a level of lack of any character. More homeless kids on our streets and communities than ever before and most of them girls. Child and sexual abuse, teen suicides, and domestic violence are at record highs. Parent groups who Refuse to go out into their communities and engage teens before it's too late. They blame it all on that magical word of addiction. Yet more and more very young teens of 12-13 years old in middle-upper class communities are turning to heroin and other drugs daily. And of course none of these social issues are going on in their communities and if they did what could that possibly have to do with kids turning to drugs? Definitely not parenting because 'addiction' has become the free pass and scapegoat even though the most extensive 60 years of combined research by the American Pediatrics Association program of Reaching Teens shows a very definite and direct connection. But if parents no longer have the veil of 'addiction' to hide behind, they offer zero programs to reach teens. When you proclaim yourself as a perfect parent yet have to resort to name calling and personal attacks on me throws the myth of the perfect parent out the door. Blaming the heroin or the drugs, the dealers, the cops and everybody else while looking to legislate, incarcerate and educate your way out of this has not made one dent in this ever-growing epidemic. Since you have no effective programs to offer and our prevention programs have a 97% success rate I remain unaffected."

Mor: This is how victims become abusers: not dealing with their own pain, avoiding the discomfort of recovery and then venting their triggers on others, usually children because they can't leave and have no voice in the matter. EVERY victim needs to understand that ALL that stands between them and being the next perpetrator is the amount of recovery work they are willing to do.. Grief is a process, not a license to freak out. 

Sylvie Imelda Shene I agree, Mor, this is how victims become abusers. Behind every crime a personal tragedy lies hidden. No matter how many programs people come up with to teach parents to communicate with their children in a nonviolent way, parents will keep abusing their children in one form or another, as long their own childhood repression goes unresolved, covertly and silently with seductive lies to manipulate children and others behavior by masquerading with the illusion of love or overtly with physical abuse like spanking, beatings, and emotional insults. Never trust a person that can’t talk about their own childhood and always say that they had wonderful parents and a beautiful childhood, most likely this person is living a lie, masquerading with the illusion of love and sooner or later they will stab you in the back, it’s just a matter of time. Just as I wrote in my book A Dance to Freedom page, 82 and 83 “Alice Miller wrote a lot about how destructive the impulse to protect our parents — especially our mothers — can really be. She believes that women are permitted to be tyrants in the home, punishing “millions of people who will never accuse them of their crimes because almost every child loves his or her mother and would never, never put her in troubles.”47 Facing personal pain is a lot more difficult than putting mom or dad on a pedestal and blaming ourselves for being a problem to them, or thanking our parents for the cruelty that we’ve come to believe was necessary to keep us in line. 

Alice Miller was frustrated by the fact that the path from being a misled victim to becoming a misleading perpetrator is totally ignored worldwide. She concluded that it’s because “almost ALL of us were beaten, and we had to learn very early that these cruel acts were normal, harmless, and even good for us. Nobody ever told us that they were crimes against humanity. The wrong, immoral, and absurd lesson was wired into our developing brains, and this explains the emotional blindness governing our world.”48 If we could just see with clarity what the false idealization of our childhoods can do to us, it would be easy to admit that our parents were cruel. Because when we refuse to admit it, we do nasty things to ourselves and to others. We repeat the cruelty that was done to us and find insidious ways to justify it, whether through religion, power, status or some other success marker. Dictators, cult leaders, and mass murderers are all links on the same idealization chain. “In order to understand how Mengele was able to remove the eyes and other organs of healthy people, we only have to know what was done to him in childhood,” Alice Miller writes. “I am convinced that something almost inconceivably horrible to outsiders would be uncovered, which he himself no doubt regarded as the best upbringing in the world, one to which, in his opinion, he ‘owed a great deal.’”49

People who idealize their childhoods, or otherwise ignore their pain, have limitless cravings for scapegoats on whom they can avenge themselves for the fears and anxieties of childhood. This is why some people have a lot of children because unconsciously they want to make sure they have an endless supply of vulnerable, defenseless new victims.” 



Unseen wounds
"An important study finds that children who have been psychologically maltreated suffer effects that are equal or greater than children who have been physically or sexually abused."

Few great quotes that describe the property manager at my last job so well! She spent 9 and half years waiting for an opportunity to try to destroy me. She never had me fooled. I always knew if she had the opportunity to cause me harm, she would of, because she always was jealous of me. Never trusted her.

The quote above also describes the property manager at my last job to a T! She didn't like it that I stood up to her. She accused me of things that she was doing. Her hypocrisy was epic.


The words below articulates beautifully the dark ploy of the property manager and members of the board attempted to do to me at my last job:
"Another dark ploy is that narcissists contact your relatives, in-laws, friends and anyone who will listen to broadcast blatant lies about your character. This doesn’t happen in all instances but it is remarkable the lengths these malicious individuals exceed to trash you, put you at fault and lead others to believe that you are “crazy”; you need immediate psychiatric help; you have always been unstable, etc. Even people whom you have trusted —family members—can be flipped to the narcissist’s side, especially if he/she has influence over them and deep pockets."
Dr. Linda Martinez-Lewi, Malicious Narcissists Convincing Others You Are At Fault Or Crazy 
Narcissists have a sinister side, especially if they want something that you have and you refuse to comply. This becomes very ugly during the severing of a marital relationship. Many non-narcissistic spouses who have been treated abominably still want to believe that when it comes to ending the marriage, the narcissist will be civil and fair just for the purpose of watching you exit quickly. The plays are opposite–Bring on the army of shark-toothed lawyers and go for the jugular. To protect yourself, study and research in-depth the true nature of the narcissistic personality including examples from real life. Get to know this personality profile intimately. It will be a strong reminder when you start to bend or buckle to the narcissist’s tricks, tactics, strong-arming techniques and charm offensive.

Another dark ploy is that narcissists contact your relatives, in-laws, friends and anyone who will listen to broadcast blatant lies about your character. This doesn’t happen in all instances but it is remarkable the lengths these malicious individuals exceed to trash you, put you at fault and lead others to believe that you are “crazy”; you need immediate psychiatric help; you have always been unstable, etc. Even people whom you have trusted —family members—can be flipped to the narcissist’s side, especially if he/she has influence over them and deep pockets.

Read the full article here 
Facing childhood Traumas Facebook page post


To read more about my experiences with the mob of sociopaths or narcissists at my last job read my blog Experienced Knowledge  






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