When Surrogacy Becomes a Weapon of Reenactment

What happened in California is not just a criminal case — it is a soul-crushing example of how deeply childhood repression distorts human behavior. Twenty-one children were born, not out of love, but as unconscious props in a tragedy of reenactment. Brought into the world by surrogates — some of whom were unaware they were participating in a pattern of mass child acquisition — these babies were handed over to individuals acting out their own unresolved childhood traumas, likely under the illusion that they were building a “big happy family.”

They were not.

The fact that a surrogate woman smiled on television, unable to feel the tragic weight of what she participated in, says it all. Only someone deeply emotionally repressed — blind to the suffering of their own inner child — could carry a pregnancy to term and hand over a new human being to be used as a scapegoat or a poison container for someone else's festering wounds.

The extremes people go to in order to recreate their childhood horrors — this time with them in control — are staggering. These 21 children now carry the burden of someone else’s pain, projected onto them from birth. Their chance of breaking free from this inherited trauma is painfully slim, especially in a society that continues to idealize parenthood, ignore childhood suffering, and glorify reproductive technology without accountability.

As I wrote in A Dance to Freedom, pages 82–83:

“Alice Miller was frustrated by the fact that the path from being a misled victim to becoming a misleading perpetrator is totally ignored worldwide. She concluded that it’s because ‘almost ALL of us were beaten, and we had to learn very early that these cruel acts were normal, harmless, and even good for us. Nobody ever told us that they were crimes against humanity.’”

“People who idealize their childhoods, or otherwise ignore their pain, have limitless cravings for scapegoats on whom they can avenge themselves for the fears and anxieties of childhood. This is why some people have a lot of children — because unconsciously, they want to ensure a constant supply of new, defenseless victims.”

It is not enough to call this a case of fraud or neglect. This is a societal mirror. Until we stop idealizing childhood, until we are willing to name the crimes that were committed against us when we were small and helpless, this cycle will repeat — with newer victims, younger bodies, and darker consequences.

Surrogacy without strict ethical and emotional oversight is ripe for abuse. But the deeper issue is not just legal. It’s psychological. It’s generational. It’s the blind spot of a society emotionally addicted to the illusion of "family" while denying the realities of child exploitation — often by those who claim to love them most.

As Alice Miller wrote:

“It is above all the children already born who have a right to life — a right to coexistence with adults in a world in which, with or without the help of the church, violence against children has been unequivocally outlawed. Until such legislation exists, talk of ‘the right to life’ remains not only a mockery of humanity but a contribution to its destruction.”