Wednesday, September 4, 2019

The Media Creates False Heroes and Only Pays Attention to False Heroes

"When haters go after your looks and differences, it means they have nowhere left to go. And then you know you’re winning!
I have Asperger’s syndrome and that means I’m sometimes a bit different from the norm. And - given the right circumstances - being different is a superpower.
I'm not public about my diagnosis to "hide" behind it, but because I know many ignorant people still see it as an "illness", or something negative. And believe me, my diagnosis has limited me before.
Before I started school striking I had no energy, no friends and I didn’t speak to anyone. I just sat alone at home, with an eating disorder.
All of that is gone now, since I have found a meaning, in a world that sometimes seems meaningless to so many people."
My comments on Greta Thunberg's facebook post above:

Sylvie Imelda Shene In this world they are no winners. In the end, everyone loses. These words didn't come from her. The adults around her wrote them and are exploiting her to feed their own unconscious needs. This is what's wrong with the world adults exploiting children.

Zé Maria Miranda Exactamente Sylvie.

Sylvie Imelda Shene Zé Maria Miranda, the media creates false heroes and only pays attention to false heroes, because false heroes keep the public distracted from the real roots of society's problems and it's easy to manipulate. The established media will never pay attention to real heroes unless they are forced to do it, because real heroes require everyone to look in the mirror and that's the last thing anyone wants to do, especially those in the media.

The media doesn't tell the whole story. Only reports tragic disconnected stories they can exploit for pure sensationalism. They give the public half-truths and misleading information to manipulate the masses and protect the status quo. Read more HERE

As long people's childhood repression goes unresolved, they will be driven by the repressed emotions of the child they once were to destroy the lives of the next generation. This has been going on since the beginning of human history. Evil is born anew with every new generation.
Alice Miller, she's a true hero, but the media doesn't give much attention to true heroes. Read her article in the link below.

Wednesday, August 28, 2019

The Trump Administration is Cruel Beyond Words

Trump administration leaves menstruating migrant girls ‘bleeding through’ underwear at detention centres, lawsuit claims

Seeing on Facebook the sharing of the post in the link above  It comes to mind these words Alice Miller wrote in her article "The Origins of Torture In Endured Child Abuse" about the American soldiers in the Iraqi's prisons

"Many people have claimed to be appalled by the acts of perversion committed by American soldiers on ADULT people, Iraqi prisoners. Amazingly, I have never heard of any such reaction in response to the occasional attempts to expose similar practices committed towards CHILDREN as for instance in British and American schools. There, these practices come under the heading of “education.” But the cruelty is the same. The world appears to be surprised that such brutality should rear its head among the American forces.

After all, America presents itself to the international public as the guardian of world peace. There is an explanation for all this, but hardly anyone wants to hear it.

It is definitely a good thing that light has been cast on the situation and that the media have exposed this lie for what it is. Basically, it runs as follows: We are a civilized, freedom-loving nation and bring democracy and independence to the whole world. Under this motto, the Americans forced their way into Iraq with devastating results and still insist that they are exporting cultural values. But now it turns out that alongside their bombs and missiles the well-drilled, smartly dressed soldiers are carrying a huge arsenal of pent-up rage around with them, invisible on the outside, invisible for themselves, lurking deep down within, but unmistakably dangerous.

Where does this suppressed rage come from, this need to torment, humiliate, mock, and abuse helpless human beings (prisoners and children as well)? What are these outwardly tough soldiers avenging themselves for? And where have they learned such behavior? First as little children taught obedience by means of physical “correction,” then in school, where they served as the defenseless objects of the sadism of some of their teachers, and finally in their time as recruits, treated like dirt by their superiors so that they could finally acquire the highly dubious ability to take anything meted out to them and qualify as “tough.”

The thirst for vengeance does not come from nowhere. It has a clearly identifiable cause. The thirst for vengeance has its origins in infancy when children are forced to suffer in silence and put up with the cruelty inflicted on them in the name of upbringing. They learn how to torment others from their parents, and later from their teachers and superiors. It is nothing other than systematic instruction by example on how to destroy others. Yet many people believe that it has no evil consequences. As if a child were a container that can be emptied from time to time. But the human brain is not a container. The things we learn at an early stage stay with us in later life."
Read the full article HERE

Sunday, August 25, 2019

Humanity is Doomed

Amazon fires: Record number burning in Brazil rainforest - space agency

I see tragedies taking place everywhere because the majority of people can't deal with their own painful personal histories... as long the majority of people rather go on acting as if personality pretending to be good -- tragedies around the world will keep happening until humans are extinct

Reading about the tragedy taking place right now in Brazil's rainforest brought to mind the words below Alice Miller wrote to one of her readers:

Alice Miller: You write: “My main point in the allegory is that by necessity none of us are passengers anymore. Everybody’s crew.” I agree with you. But to become aware of the fact that our obedience learned in childhood doesn’t allow us to think freely needs probably more than many hundred years. I am not sure if the tortured planet leaves us the necessary time to understand this fact, to protest against it, and to become a conscious, responsible member of the crew."

No one can ever accuse me of being an obedient child! Thank goodness I had the courage to rebel against the system from a young age.  

Friday, August 9, 2019

I See Lies and Hypocrisy Everywhere

“If we hate hypocrisy, insincerity, and mendacity, then we grant ourselves the right to fight them wherever we can or to withdraw from people who only trust in lies. But if we pretend that we are impervious to these things, then we are betraying ourselves.” Alice Miller
Free from Lies: Discovering Your True Needs page 55

Alice Miller's answer below to one of her readers comes to mind:

AM: Your question is very important, but it contains the naïve assumption that we can manipulate our feelings without letting others pay the price for it. In reality, we cannot do so. You are saying here what everyone says, what we all have learned from our parents, in school, in church and even in most of the therapies: “One has to turn the page.” It is, without doubt, nice what is being suggested to us: to tell the hatred that it should go away and never ever return. We want to turn the page and live in peace.
Everyone wants this, and it would be nice if it worked. But unfortunately, it does not work. Not at all. Why? Because rage, like all other emotions, cannot be controlled and cannot be manipulated; IT dictates us something; it forces us to experience it and to understand its causes. It can return every time when someone has hurt us, and we cannot prevent that. Because our body cannot “turn the page” and it demands from us that we listen to it. What we can do, though, is suppress our rage, with all its consequences: Illnesses, addiction, crimes. When we do not want to feel our justified rage, because we already have forgiven our parents even the worst abuses, we will soon find out to our surprise that we passed on the same pains, which we endured from our parents, to our children or to others. If we are truthful, we will not claim that we acted “for their own good” (like that beatings are “a good means of education”). Unfortunately, this is what most parents say; this is why our society is so hypocritical.

On the page “articles” you can find my text about hatred, which should be able to help you understand better what I am trying to explain here. Also, the book “The Body Never Lies” can help you to understand more.

No, our body cannot turn the page until we consciously feel and understand all of our feelings within the context of our own childhood. And yes, until we do this others will have to pay the price for it, especially our children if we have children.

Tuesday, August 6, 2019

Only Children are Abandoned

Let's make it clear if you are an adult and you feel abandoned when another person leaves you -- you are stuck in childhood without realizing it -- because only children are abandoned -- adults are left not abandoned -- If we are able to understand and consciously feel this feeling of feeling abandoned within the context of your own childhood -- you will grow yourself up into a conscious adult -- and you will never again suffer when people leave you or ignore you.

Thursday, July 25, 2019

Only love and truth will open the floodgates of the repressed emotions of the child we once were

Dear J,

Thank you for your understanding words. I could not stop crying while reading your e-mail.

I have lost cats before, but I don’t think I felt this sad before. We did have a special bond – we were in love with each other -- I have not cried like this in years -- It makes me think how short life is and how fast it can be over.

It took me a lifetime to liberate myself and create a home for myself. I’m looking forward to retirement and just spent the rest of my life with just me and the beings I love most, but it makes me think how fast all it will be over. Now that I have created a home for me and I’m emotionally free -- I wish I could live forever and now Sutti reminded me how all can be over in a blink of an eye.
Today at 5:30 pm will be a week Sutti is gone. I wish these last 3 years she lived with me I was already retired so I could have spent more time with her. I wanted more time with Sutti.

And how sad it is that most people never get to experience emotional freedom and be at home with themselves.

This world should be a heaven for us but instead is full of dangerously repressed people or sociopaths/psychopaths suffering and making others suffer – unconsciously and compulsively looking for scapegoats – which we have to be constantly on the lookout for, especially in the workplace! 

Without truth and truly loving ourselves and another breathing living being  we will never become a seeing and a feeling person no matter how many self-help books we read and how much intellectual knowledge we get on psychology --  only with the truth and by truly loving ourselves and another being – we will we become a seeing and a feeling person.

Only when truth and love is our first goals in life --  truth and love has always been my first goals --  and everything else has always been secondary for me -- when we stand for truth and truly love ourselves and share it with another living breathing being -- will the floodgates to the repressed emotions will be open to flow in  a healthy way -- to be consciously felt within the context of our own childhood -- without using others as scapegoats to temporarily and superficially alleviate the repressed emotions of the child we once were. Everywhere I go I just see people going around like robots masquerading with the illusion of love and covertly and silently manipulating others with their illusion of love. 

My childhood and teen years were the saddest, most of my adult life was a struggle, but I accomplished emotional freedom and now the consolation I get is that in my retirement years that I hope will be many, I know, they will be the most beautiful years of my life and wish Sutti could be with me for many of them to enjoy with me.

You too, take good care, as much as possible.


Dear Sylvie...

Oh, i am so very sorry to hear that...

I don't know, how to react or to give some comfort in your sorrow...
How you and Sutti met and you became the closest mates, seems like a kind of fairy tale, right? She chose you... and so did you...

Such a sweet story,  no doubt this is a unique experience...

Looking at her picture, i see such a so beautiful, kind and peaceful being!
I  just can be with you in sadness and crying.  What a bad fate, that she had to die too early by a virus...

I am sorry, I have to go to work soon, but will write more soon.
Sylvie, I give you a big hug and share your feelings.
Take good care and let the tears flow, as long as they need to flow.
Take good care, as much as possible

Dear J,

I hope you are hanging in there and not so busy with some extra free time for yourself.

Last Saturday my favorite cat, Sutti passed away suddenly, caught a virus and stop eating and drinking and she was gone overnight.

I'm so devastated I don't have Sutti anymore, she was about 8 years old, but I only had for about 3 years, she appeared on my back patio and I used to put food and water for her out there and I even made a shelter for her to stay warm in the cold days  of winter, she lived outside at least 3 to 4 years, but every time I went in the patio she would run, but one day when I called her, she came to me and came inside and never wanted to be out again alone, would go in the patio with me and sit in my lap, but when I went inside she would follow me in, she was the sweetest cat I ever had and was so grateful for me taking her in  -- she wanted to be next to me all the time loving me with her very soft and gentle little kisses. I always looked forward to going home to be with her. The house feels so empty without her.

I just wanted more time with her -- three years was not enough -- I wish I could hold her and touch her silky soft coat one more time.  My work has been so busy and plus doing a lot of side jobs checking on house and cat sitting for people that are away that I don’t have time to be with my feelings and feel my sadness.

I cry when I’m in the car driving to my jobs and I crying going to sleep at night and when I wake in the morning. If was any of my other cats to pass I would not be this sad.

Sutti was my special Kittie.

I like to find another Kittie like her but I know there are never two beings alike even if they look alike, personality is never the same. It will never be another Sutti like her.

I hope the next time I write my heart is no longer this sad.

Hugs from Arizona,


7-13-19 5:30pm

Tuesday, July 16, 2019

Had Enough Therapy?

A facebook friend shared this article on my newsfeed  Had Enough Therapy?

Thanks for sharing this article, J-F B! Very interesting! To this day I have not met a single mental health care professional that can provide real assistance in helping people liberate themselves from their emotional prisons. And the real reason is that most of them lack the courage to tell themselves and their patients/clients the truth and without the truth, liberation will never be possible. But instead, use their intellectual knowledge in psychology to mess and manipulate people’s minds and behaviors -- making things worse by thickening the walls of people’s emotional prisons and making it near to impossible for people to ever free themselves.

Just like I wrote in my book A Dance to Freedom:

“The chain of harm done by doctors, therapists, and gurus under the guise of help is endless. Alice Miller believed that most people with a “Dr.” in front of their name or a “Ph.D.” at the end of it weren’t in any kind of position to help or guide anyone, especially if they were repressing their own traumas and creating their own illusions.

For many years I blamed myself for what happened with Dr. Julio Machado Vaz. It took me more than two decades to see the truth and speak about the fact that this doctor had exploited my anger at my family to feed his sexual perversions and abuse me sexually, instead of helping me work through and resolve my anger.

…I’ve touched on this a lot in this chapter and elsewhere in this book, particularly in the section about Dr. Julio Machado Vaz — the psychologist who used me for sex — but I really want to reinforce the idea that so-called therapists and gurus only substitute one dangerous illusion for another. As Alice Miller writes,

“What can happen when a doctor doesn’t stop at self-deception in his flight from pain, but deceives his patients, even founding dogmatic institutions in which further ‘helpers’ are recruited to a faith advertised as scientific truth,’ can be catastrophic.

…Most people who search for answers never actually find them, because people suffering with their own repression are the ones who practice traditional therapies.

Since the beginning of human history, priests, teachers, gurus, psychics, doctors, philosophers, and psychologists have all duped people into thinking they could provide real assistance when it was never possible because the healers were also victims of their own childhoods.

Alice Miller saw the promise of psychotherapy to help people understand why they behave like helpless victims as adults and also to help them take responsibility for their actions.

But she was disillusioned when she realized that practitioners couldn’t treat patients effectively as long as they failed to deal with their own repression.”

Because I'm critical of the mental health community, in general, this is one of the reasons I got targeted also by a mob of very corrupted people at the community where I worked for nine and a half years – some residents were doctors and professors --  and to protect themselves and the medical community, they thought with their methodical and very well-orchestrated psychological warfare could get me to self-destruct to protect themselves from being exposed for the fraud that they are, but coming after me they exposed themselves and  proved what I write in my book is true and gives me and my book more credibility.

Thursday, June 20, 2019

Last surviving prosecutor at Nuremberg trials says Trump's family separation policy is ‘crime against humanity’

This blog was triggered by the sharing of the article in the link below on Facebook
Last surviving prosecutor at Nuremberg trials says Trump's family separation policy is ‘crime against humanity’
He asks: 'What could cause more great suffering than what they did in the name of immigration law?'
"The last surviving member of the Nuremberg trials prosecuting team has said Donald Trump committed “a crime against humanity” with the recent family separation policy.Ben Ferencz, 99, made the comment during a recent interview with outgoing United Nations High Commissioner for Human Rights, Zeid Ra’ad Al Hussein. The lawyer said it was “painful” when he heard about how the Trump administration had separated more than 2,000 children from their families after they had crossed the US-Mexico border." Read more HERE 

Yes, these are crimes against humanity... as long people with the aid of hypocrisy, compartmentalization, and rationalizations keep voting into power people like Trump -- we will never be able to stop these atrocities from keep happening.
"Now that we have seen how easy it is for intellectuals in a dictatorship to be corrupted, it would be a vestige of aristocratic snobbery to think that only "the uneducated masses" are susceptible to propaganda. Both Hitler and Stalin had a surprisingly large number of enthusiastic followers among intellectuals. Our capacity to resist has nothing to do with our intelligence but with the degree of access to our true self. Indeed, intelligence is capable of innumerable rationalizations when it comes to the matter of adaptation."
I also was the target of propaganda at my job of nine and a half year and we witnessed how all the corrupted people were protected and still, are being protected. What happens in communities -- it happens in the stage of the world.--- to prevent from corrupted people reaching the highest office of the land we have to expose corruption from the bottom up, but like we witnessed the corrupted people at my last job still are allowed to go Scot free from the crimes they committed against me.

Saturday, June 15, 2019

You are never alone if you enjoy your own company

Dear J,
I hope you are hanging in there.
I’m hanging in here. As long I’m not being targeted by assholes in the workplace it’s all good! :-)
In one of your last e-mails you asked me if it wouldn’t be nice to have other people free from repression to hang out with, yes, of course, it  would be nice to meet other people free from repression, but I don’t think is possible!!! 
Everyone I meet is repressed to a degree and some are very dangerously repressed. I don’t like being for a very long time with anyone that is repressed. 
No matter how much time I spend alone it’s never enough alone time away from repressed people.
Everyone I meet is trying to avoid feeling the painful truths in their lives and no matter who they are if you spend too much time with them, they will try to make you their scapegoat sooner or later in one form or another. Avoiding from feeling our painful truths causes blockage and they will endless need new scapegoats to temporally and superficially alleviate the pent up repressed emotions of the child we once were.
I don’t have words to express how wonderful it feels to be free from the repressed emotions of the child we once were. I feel so light and free to deal with present circumstances that show up in my life without the repressed emotions blinding me, throwing off balance or overwhelming me and clouding my judgment! I never thought was possible to feel this good while we are still alive.
Before resolving my repression I used to think only death could stop the pain and free us.  When you’re free of repression life is wonderful even if you are all alone! 
You are never alone if you enjoy your own company!
It comes to mind the article I shared with my man friend the other day. via text message:
Sylvie: This article says unmarried women without children are happier. I'm proof of that! I know why! Do you know why?! Never put a ring on it! :-)

M: You don't know for sure you are happier without children?
Not ever having them?

Sylvie: When you see clearly the innate psychological patterns of people's unconscious compulsions to repeat or reenact the painful dramas of childhood. I know I would not have been happier having now adult children mad at me and making demands on me just like my childhood caregivers used to do. 

I'm free from the chains of compulsion repetition! 

People that have children before resolving childhood repression will treat their children the same way their own parents treated them when they were defenseless children and when their own children grow up, they will meet again their abusive parents or childhood caregivers in their adult children. It's an endless vicious circle very few people break free from! 

Hugs from Arizona,

Tuesday, April 30, 2019

Troubled family history of slain Crystal Lake boy AJ Freund reveals missed warning signs, failed chances to intervene

Of course, they missed the warning signs! They need a dead body.  Well, they got the dead body they needed to prove a child was living in terror.

Does anyone need more proof that nobody cares about the plight of others especially of little children? People only care when affects them directly. Just like I said to my ex-boss, the bank robber! After making a complaint of emotional harassment in the workplace: I am the victim here and haven’t been able to sleep well because of the emotional harassment I have been through on the job. And yesterday when I was being interviewed by the ladies at HR, I felt like they were accusing me of wrongdoing and the problems were caused by my actions, which could not be further from the truth, but this is what the sociopaths do, they twist everything around to make them look good by destroying their target so they can steal their job or money or whatever their target have that they want for themselves. What of proof they want?! A dead body?

Days before Christmas, a McHenry County doctor asked 5-year-old Andrew “AJ” Freund how he got a large bruise on his right hip.

The boy and his mother had suggested the family dog, a 60-pound boxer named Lucy, caused the injury when the pooch jumped on him. The doctor, suspicious of the explanation but unable to pinpoint a cause after examining the child, took AJ aside and asked him what had happened.
“Maybe someone hit me with a belt,” the child said, according to newly released records. “Maybe Mommy didn’t mean to hurt me.”

Despite the boy’s alarming words, state child welfare officials investigating the Dec. 18, 2018, hotline complaint from police about the bruise determined there wasn’t credible evidence to support taking AJ into protective custody. Nine months earlier, a similar hotline complaint about the boy’s bruising also was deemed unfounded.

The Illinois Department of Children and Family Services, which on Friday revealed new details about the case, has limited legal authority to remove a child from a parent’s custody and does so only if it finds an “imminent and immediate” risk of harm.

The Illinois Department of Children and Family Services, which on Friday revealed new details about the case, has limited legal authority to remove a child from a parent’s custody and does so only if it finds an “imminent and immediate” risk of harm.

Friday, April 26, 2019

The Media Only Pays Attention to Extreme Cases of Child Abuse

I kind of have given up on humanity and was not going to comment on the extremely tragic case of child abuse that happened recently in Chicago. Until society as a whole finds the courage to face the root causes of child abuse -- we will never be able to stop child abuse. But MP sent me the private message below and forced me to comment on it.

MP: The most disgusting story of the year I would have taken this kid in! These people should rot in hell Horrific ignorant people and she is pregnant with a third child.
The Father had the nerve to get in front of a news camera last week  "Aj come home we love you you won't get in trouble" Knowing he just buried him in a shallow grave SICK SICK SICK DRUG ADDICTS The house was decrepit dog feces urine all over trash and filth And The DCFS of Illinois left these kids in this house a younger brother who is still alive thank God! Just disgusting

Sylvie: I saw the story. It makes my blood boil. Because DCFS constantly fails to protect children Everywhere. And the reason is that people working in social services are abusers too, maybe not to this extreme, because with their college degrees, they have become too sophisticated and just stick to mild physical abuse that doesn't leave marks or evidence in the body and resort mostly to emotional abuse and lies.

"Physical violence can be testified to be outside evidence: eyewitness, police and medical reports. With emotional abuse, there is no proof. It's a clean violence. Nobody sees anything." Marie France Hirigoyen

"Children who are told the truth and are not brought up to tolerate lies and cruelty can develop as freely as a plant whose roots have not been attacked by pests (in our case, lies)" Alice  Miller    

The media only pays attention when escalates to extreme cases of child abuse, but ignore the plight of almost every child in our society that is subjected to ordinary abuse every day under the disguise of  “upbringing” and “discipline”.

For the media to recognize this ordinary abuse, they would have to face their own childhood repression and question their own parents. And that’s the last thing they want to do. 

The repressed fears of the child they once were at their parents can stay with a person for the rest of their lives. This is why it’s so hard to demolish the media’s wall of silence. Just as Alice Miller wrote on her website:

 "Humiliations, spankings, and beatings, slaps in the face, betrayal, sexual exploitation, derision, neglect, etc. are all forms of mistreatment, because they injure the integrity and dignity of a child, even if their consequences are not visible right away. However, as adults, most abused children will suffer, and let others suffer, from these injuries. This dynamic of violence can deform some victims into hangmen who take revenge even on whole nations and become willing executors to dictators as unutterably appalling as Hitler and other cruel leaders. Beaten children very early on assimilating the violence they endured, which they may glorify and apply later as parents, in believing that they deserved the punishment and were beaten out of love. They don't know that the only reason for the punishments they have ( or in retrospect, had) to endure is the fact that their parents themselves endured and learned violence without being able to question it. Later, the adults, once abused children, beat their own children and often feel grateful to their parents who mistreated them when they were small and defenseless.

This is why society's ignorance remains so immovable and parents continue to produce severe pain and destructive - in all "goodwill", in every generation. Most people tolerate this blindly because the origins of human violence in childhood have been and are still being ignored worldwide. Almost all small children are smacked during the first three years of life when they begin to walk and to touch objects which may not be touched. This happens at exactly the time when the human brain builds up its structure and should thus learn kindness, truthfulness, and love but never, never cruelty and lies. Fortunately, there are many mistreated children who find "helping witnesses" and can feel loved by them."

I'm not surprised she is pregnant again! Psychopaths need an endless supply of scapegoats to temporary alleviate repressed emotions.

The easiest way to have an endless supply of scapegoats at your disposal is to give birth to them!
”Poisonous Pedagogy. The pedagogical conviction that one must bring a child into line from the outset has its origin in the need to split off the disquieting parts of the inner self and project them onto an available object. The child’s great plasticity flexibility, defenselessness, and availability made it the ideal object for this projection. The enemy within can, at last, be hunted down on the outside. Peace advocates are becoming increasingly aware of the role played by these mechanisms, but until it is clearly recognized that they can be traced back to methods of child raising, little can be done to oppose them. For children who have grown up being assailed for qualities, the parents hate in themselves can hardly wait to assign these qualities to someone else so they can once again regard themselves as good, “moral,” noble, and altruistic. Such projections can easily become part of any Weltanschauung.”

...Statistical studies are hardly the thing to make disinterested jurists into empathic and perceptive human beings. And yet every crime, by virtue of being an enactment of childhood drama, cries out for understanding. The newspapers carry these stories every day, but unfortunately, usually, report only the last act. Can knowledge of the underlying causes of a crime being about a change in the way justice is administered? Not as long as the primary concerns are to assign guilt and impose punishment. But someday it may be possible to gain an understanding for the fact that emerges so clearly in the case Jurgen Bartsch: the accused never bears all the guilt by himself but is a victim of a tragic chain of circumstances. Even so, a prison sentence is unavoidable if society is to be protected. But there is a difference between prison being used to punish a dangerous criminal according to the principles of “poisonous pedagogy”
and human tragedy being perceived, therapy during confinement.” Alice Miller “For Your Own Good” page 199 and 200

..I have no doubt that behind every crime a personal tragedy lies hidden. If we were to investigate such events and their backgrounds more closely, we might be able to do more to prevent crimes than we do now with our indignation and moralizing. Perhaps someone will say: But not everyone who was a battered child becomes a murderer; otherwise, many more people would be murderers. That is true. However, humankind is in dire enough straits these days that this should not remain an academic question. Moreover, we never know how a child will and must react to the injustice he or she has suffered-there are innumerable "techniques" for dealing with it. We don't yet know, above all, what the world might be like if children were to grow up without being subjected to humiliation, if parents would respect them and take them seriously as persons. In any case, I don't know of a single person who enjoyed this respect* as a child and then as an adult had the need to put other human beings to death. * By respect for a child, I don't mean a "permissive" upbringing, which is often a form of indoctrination itself and thus shows a disregard for the child's own world.  We are still barely conscious of how harmful it is to treat children in a degrading manner. Treating them with respect and recognizing the consequences of their being humiliated are by no means intellectual matters; otherwise, their importance would long since have been generally recognized. To empathize with what a child is feeling when he or she is defenseless, hurt, or humiliated is like suddenly seeing in a mirror the suffering of one's own childhood, something many people must ward off out of fear while others can accept it with mourning.

People who have mourned in this way understand more about the dynamics of the psyche than they could ever have learned from books. The persecution of people of Jewish background, the necessity of proving "racial purity" as far back as one's grandparents, the tailoring of prohibitions to the degree of an individual's demonstrable "racial purity"--all this is grotesque only at first glance. For its significance becomes plain once we realize that in terms of Hitler's unconscious fantasies it is an intensified expression of two very powerful tendencies. On the one hand, his father was the hated Jew whom he could despise and persecute, frighten and threaten with regulations, because his father would also have been affected by the racial laws if he had still been alive. 

At the same time--and this is the other tendency--the racial laws were meant to mark Adolf's final break with his father and his background. In addition to revenge, the tormenting uncertainty about the Hitler family was an important motive for the racial laws: the whole nation had to trace its "purity" back to the third generation because Adolf Hitler would have liked to know with certainty who his grandfather was.

Above all, the Jew became the bearer of all the evil and despicable traits the child had ever observed in his father. In Hitler's view, the Jews were characterized by a specific mixture of Lucifer-like grandeur and superiority (world Jewry and its readiness to destroy the entire world) on the one hand and ugliness and ludicrous weakness and infirmity on the other. This view reflects the omnipotence even the weakest father exercises over his child, seen in Hitler's case in the wild rages of the insecure customs official who succeeded in destroying his son's world. It is common in analysis for the first breakthrough in criticizing the father to be signaled by the surfacing of some insignificant and ludicrous trait of his that the patient's memory has repressed. For example, the father--big out of all proportion in the child's eyes--may have looked very funny in his short nightshirt.

The child had never been close to his father, had been in constant fear of him, but with this memory of the skimpy nightshirt, the child's imagination provides a weapon, now that ambivalence has broken through in the analysis, which enables him to take revenge on a small scale against the godlike, monumental paternal figure. In a similar fashion, Hitler disseminates his hatred and disgust for the "stinking" Jew in the pages of the Nazi periodical Der Stürmer in order to incite people to burn books by Freud, Einstein, and innumerable other Jewish intellectuals of great stature. The breakthrough of this idea, which made it possible for him to transfer his pent-up hatred of his father to the Jews as a people, is very instructive." For Your Own Good, page 196 and 197

“…society we live in continue to turn a blind eye to the facts of child abuse in all its forms. Among thousands of professors at hundreds of universities, there is not one single university chair for teaching about child abuse and cruelty to children. Why? Because that cruelty successfully masquerades as parenting and education” Alice Miller, taken from the book “The Truth Will Set you free” page, 101

"I think that violent teenagers are demonstrating what happened to them emotionally when they were small. I have no doubt about that. It might not always be a harsh discipline but in most cases, there is emotional neglect, lack of authentic communication, of warm, friendly contact. If this lack is also covered by what is called "spoiling" (buying a lot of expensive objects to replace love), the child is often unable to detect the neglect and stays bound to denial. Anyway, every child must deny the pain in order to survive. Only in adulthood is it possible to realize the truth. But the more the childhood history is repressed, the more its cruelty denied, the less these young people are able to feel, to confront the actual reasons of their distress, the stronger they feel urged to act destructively. They have not always conscious memories of what happened in their childhood, especially in infancy, but this knowledge is stored up in their body's cells and, amazingly enough, they threaten others exactly the same way as they were threatened in the beginning of their life. Unfortunately, the common, ever-present avoidance of the issue "childhood" doesn't make things easier. I discuss this problem in my book Paths of Life, 1999, and The Truth Will Set You Free, 2002.

Thursday, April 18, 2019

Dr. Johnnie Barto, a sexual predator pediatrician, gets up to 158 years in prison

Dr. Johnnie Barto, a sexual predator pediatrician, gets up to158 years in prison

“He held himself out as a pillar in his community — a family pediatrician, an elected member of the school board, a regular attendee at church,” the state attorney general said. Read more HERE

Just like the prestigious Dr. Julio Machado Vaz in Portugal. I wonder if he will ever be also held accountable for his sexual crimes?

I have been trying to tell my story of sexual abuse since the year 2000, way long before the ‘me too movement” and I’m still waiting to be heard. 

Just like Dr. Barto had many enablers -- Dr. Julio Machado Vaz has a whole country enabling him. “Erika Brosig, who said she was 12 when Barto molested her in 1994, said the doctor had enablers who also need to be called to account.”  Yes, I agree enablers need to be called to account also.

I know without a doubt I’m not the only woman the prestigious Dr. Julio Machado Vaz in Portugal sexually abused and have to be many, many more women in Portugal that have been also sexually abused and brainwashed by him, just like I was. I wonder if any ever find the courage to come forward and tell their stories too?! 

“If we hate hypocrisy, insincerity, and mendacity, then we grant ourselves the right to fight them wherever we can or to withdraw from people who only trust in lies. But if we pretend that we are impervious to these things, then we are betraying ourselves.” Alice Miller
Free from Lies: Discovering Your True Needs page 55

Also, read Open letter to the Prestigious Dr. Julio Machado Vaz

Abuse on the couch Silenced transgression

Will more Women in Portugal Find the Courage to Report Dr. Julio Machado Vaz Sexual Abuse?

A Facebook friend sent me the article in the link below of the prestigious Dr. Julio Machado Vaz in Portugal. So I posted this comment on his article: I wonder if Dr. Julio Machado Vaz deep down knows he is a fraud also like Dr. Johnnie Barto was here in America.…/dr-johnnie-barto-sexual-…
I wonder how long my comment will last there without being deleted!…/a-relacao-medico-doente-o-simpl…
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Ester Santos So is this the Portuguese pedophile doctor everyone respects? What a sick cunt !! Messing up with the country 's populations. The cunt must be reported and have his license removed from him!

Sylvie Imelda Shene Dr. Julio Machado Vaz has many enablers protecting him. 

Most people are repressed at very dangerous levels. I have come to the conclusion humanity is very dangerous and we have to be constantly on the lookout. If you trigger people’s repressed emotion
s, they will lash at you viciously and try to make you their scapegoat. 

Most people are unconsciously and compulsively looking for scapegoats to temporally and superficially alleviate pent up repressed emotions. 

People in the mental health field are the most deceiving and dangerous with their sharp intellect and memorized intellectual knowledge -- they say all the right things -- to manipulate public perception -- and make you believe are safe -- but are wolves in sheep's clothing -- they have mastered the art of manipulation to perfection.

These words Alice Miller wrote to me come truer everyday: AM: I have learned over the years of my work on the internet that there are readers who SEEM to understand SOME of what I have written, at least intellectually, but they are still so afraid of their very cruel parents and of their repressed FEELINGS of rage towards them that they are constantly looking for scapegoats.

They thus live in a continual confusion pretending that they are healed and even offering help and empathy to others. But eventually they use unconsciously other people (even the ones who are quite friendly to them) as a poisonous container like their parents did to them, and if the offended people begin to defend themselves they can become very mean.

I can only urge you to trust your feelings and do NOT offer your empathy and interest to everybody just because they say they read and understood everything I have written. In most of the cases, it is a lie. To understand my books means to overcome the fear of one’s parents, to honestly feel the justified rage TOWARD THEM and to no longer use others to getting free from the accumulated rage.