Wednesday, August 28, 2019

The Trump Administration is Cruel Beyond Words

Trump administration leaves menstruating migrant girls ‘bleeding through’ underwear at detention centres, lawsuit claims

Seeing on Facebook the sharing of the post in the link above  It comes to mind these words Alice Miller wrote in her article "The Origins of Torture In Endured Child Abuse" about the American soldiers in the Iraqi's prisons

"Many people have claimed to be appalled by the acts of perversion committed by American soldiers on ADULT people, Iraqi prisoners. Amazingly, I have never heard of any such reaction in response to the occasional attempts to expose similar practices committed towards CHILDREN as for instance in British and American schools. There, these practices come under the heading of “education.” But the cruelty is the same. The world appears to be surprised that such brutality should rear its head among the American forces.

After all, America presents itself to the international public as the guardian of world peace. There is an explanation for all this, but hardly anyone wants to hear it.


It is definitely a good thing that light has been cast on the situation and that the media have exposed this lie for what it is. Basically, it runs as follows: We are a civilized, freedom-loving nation and bring democracy and independence to the whole world. Under this motto, the Americans forced their way into Iraq with devastating results and still insist that they are exporting cultural values. But now it turns out that alongside their bombs and missiles the well-drilled, smartly dressed soldiers are carrying a huge arsenal of pent-up rage around with them, invisible on the outside, invisible for themselves, lurking deep down within, but unmistakably dangerous.

Where does this suppressed rage come from, this need to torment, humiliate, mock, and abuse helpless human beings (prisoners and children as well)? What are these outwardly tough soldiers avenging themselves for? And where have they learned such behavior? First as little children taught obedience by means of physical “correction,” then in school, where they served as the defenseless objects of the sadism of some of their teachers, and finally in their time as recruits, treated like dirt by their superiors so that they could finally acquire the highly dubious ability to take anything meted out to them and qualify as “tough.”

The thirst for vengeance does not come from nowhere. It has a clearly identifiable cause. The thirst for vengeance has its origins in infancy when children are forced to suffer in silence and put up with the cruelty inflicted on them in the name of upbringing. They learn how to torment others from their parents, and later from their teachers and superiors. It is nothing other than systematic instruction by example on how to destroy others. Yet many people believe that it has no evil consequences. As if a child were a container that can be emptied from time to time. But the human brain is not a container. The things we learn at an early stage stay with us in later life."
Read the full article HERE

Sunday, August 25, 2019

Humanity is Doomed

Amazon fires: Record number burning in Brazil rainforest - space agency



I see tragedies taking place everywhere because the majority of people can't deal with their own painful personal histories... as long the majority of people rather go on acting as if personality pretending to be good -- tragedies around the world will keep happening until humans are extinct

Reading about the tragedy taking place right now in Brazil's rainforest brought to mind the words below Alice Miller wrote to one of her readers:

Alice Miller: You write: “My main point in the allegory is that by necessity none of us are passengers anymore. Everybody’s crew.” I agree with you. But to become aware of the fact that our obedience learned in childhood doesn’t allow us to think freely needs probably more than many hundred years. I am not sure if the tortured planet leaves us the necessary time to understand this fact, to protest against it, and to become a conscious, responsible member of the crew." 
https://www.alice-miller.com/en/we-all-are-the-crew/?fbclid=IwAR04jWsUkyyCUtJalCrzjI9ycxG6VsVOjLahwydjndeWa9UrazJ69CEhNI8

No one can ever accuse me of being an obedient child! Thank goodness I had the courage to rebel against the system from a young age.  

Friday, August 9, 2019

I See Lies and Hypocrisy Everywhere

“If we hate hypocrisy, insincerity, and mendacity, then we grant ourselves the right to fight them wherever we can or to withdraw from people who only trust in lies. But if we pretend that we are impervious to these things, then we are betraying ourselves.” Alice Miller
Free from Lies: Discovering Your True Needs page 55


Alice Miller's answer below to one of her readers comes to mind:

AM: Your question is very important, but it contains the naïve assumption that we can manipulate our feelings without letting others pay the price for it. In reality, we cannot do so. You are saying here what everyone says, what we all have learned from our parents, in school, in church and even in most of the therapies: “One has to turn the page.” It is, without doubt, nice what is being suggested to us: to tell the hatred that it should go away and never ever return. We want to turn the page and live in peace.
Everyone wants this, and it would be nice if it worked. But unfortunately, it does not work. Not at all. Why? Because rage, like all other emotions, cannot be controlled and cannot be manipulated; IT dictates us something; it forces us to experience it and to understand its causes. It can return every time when someone has hurt us, and we cannot prevent that. Because our body cannot “turn the page” and it demands from us that we listen to it. What we can do, though, is suppress our rage, with all its consequences: Illnesses, addiction, crimes. When we do not want to feel our justified rage, because we already have forgiven our parents even the worst abuses, we will soon find out to our surprise that we passed on the same pains, which we endured from our parents, to our children or to others. If we are truthful, we will not claim that we acted “for their own good” (like that beatings are “a good means of education”). Unfortunately, this is what most parents say; this is why our society is so hypocritical.

On the page “articles” you can find my text about hatred, which should be able to help you understand better what I am trying to explain here. Also, the book “The Body Never Lies” can help you to understand more.
https://www.alice-miller.com/en/our-body-cannot-turn-the-page/


No, our body cannot turn the page until we consciously feel and understand all of our feelings within the context of our own childhood. And yes, until we do this others will have to pay the price for it, especially our children if we have children.

Tuesday, August 6, 2019

Only Children are Abandoned

Let's make it clear: are you an adult? You feel abandoned when another person leaves you -- you are stuck in childhood without realizing it -- because only children are abandoned -- adults are left, not abandoned -- If we can understand and consciously feel this feeling of feeling abandoned within the context of your own childhood -- you will grow yourself up into a conscious adult. You will never again suffer when people leave you or ignore you.

Only children need and must have unconditional love and protection; it’s their birthright and parents’ obligation. But adults can never be loved unconditionally. You would not love a rapist or dictator. The love between adults needs to be earned. 

“As adults, we don’t need unconditional love, not even from our therapist. This is a childhood need that can never be fulfilled later in life, and we are playing with illusions if we have never mourned this lost opportunity. But there are other things we can get from a good therapist: reliability, honesty, respect, trust, empathy, understanding, and the ability to clarify their emotions so they need not burden us with them. If a therapist promises unconditional love, we must protect ourselves from him, from his hypocrisy and lack of awareness” Alice Miller (The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self) Page 45

Thursday, July 25, 2019

Only love and truth will open the floodgates of the repressed emotions of the child we once were


Dear J,

Thank you for your understanding words. I could not stop crying while reading your e-mail.

I have lost cats before, but I don’t think I felt this sad before. We did have a special bond – we were in love with each other -- I have not cried like this in years -- It makes me think how short life is and how fast it can be over.

It took me a lifetime to liberate myself and create a home for myself. I’m looking forward to retirement and just spent the rest of my life with just me and the beings I love most, but it makes me think how fast it will all be over. Now that I have created a home for myself and I’m emotionally free -- I wish I could live forever, and now Sutti reminded me how all can be over in the blink of an eye.
Today, at 5:30 pm, will be a week since Sutti left. I wish she could have lived with me for at least 3 years, while I was already retired, so I could have spent more time with her. I wanted more time with Sutti.

And how sad it is that most people never get to experience emotional freedom and be at home with themselves.

This world should be a heaven for us, but instead is full of dangerously repressed people or sociopaths/psychopaths suffering and making others suffer – unconsciously and compulsively looking for scapegoats – which we have to be constantly on the lookout for, especially in the workplace! 

Without truth and truly loving ourselves and another breathing living being, we will never become a seeing and a feeling person, no matter how many self-help books we read and how much intellectual knowledge we get on psychology --  only with the truth and by truly loving ourselves and another being – we will we become a seeing and a feeling person.

Only when truth and love is our first goals in life --  truth and love has always been my first goals --  and everything else has always been secondary for me -- when we stand for truth and truly love ourselves and share it with another living breathing being -- will the floodgates to the repressed emotions will be open to flow healthily -- to be consciously felt within the context of our own childhood -- without using others as scapegoats to temporarily and superficially alleviate the repressed emotions of the child we once were. Everywhere I go, I just see people going around like robots masquerading as love and covertly and silently manipulating others with their illusion of love. 

My childhood and teenage years were the saddest, and most of my adult life was a struggle. However, I have since achieved emotional freedom. Now, the consolation I find is that in my retirement years, which I hope will be many, I know they will be the most beautiful years of my life. I wish Sutti could be with me for many of them to enjoy with me.

You too, take good care, as much as possible.

Sylvie

Dear Sylvie...

Oh, I am so very sorry to hear that...

I don't know how to react or to give some comfort in your sorrow...
How you and Sutti met and you became the closest mates, seems like a kind of fairy tale, right? She chose you... and so did you...

Such a sweet story,  no doubt this is a unique experience...

Looking at her picture, I see such a beautiful, kind, and peaceful being!
I  just cannot be with you in sadness and crying.  What a bad fate, that she had to die too early from a virus...

I am sorry, I have to go to work soon, but I will write more soon.
Sylvie, I give you a big hug and share your feelings.
Take good care and let the tears flow, as long as they need to flow.
Take good care, as much as possible
J

Dear J,

I hope you are hanging in there and not so busy that you have some extra free time for yourself.

Last Saturday, my favorite cat, Sutti, passed away suddenly, caught a virus, stopped eating and drinking, and was gone overnight.

I'm so devastated I don't have Sutti anymore. She was about 8 years old, but I only had her for about 3 years. She appeared on my back patio, and I would leave food and water out there for her. I even made a shelter for her to stay warm in the cold days of winter. She lived outside for at least 3 to 4 years, but every time I went on the patio, she would run. Still, one day when I called her, she came to me and came inside and never wanted to be out again alone, would go to the patio with me and sit in my lap. Still, when I went inside, she would follow me in. She was the sweetest cat I ever had and was so grateful for me taking her in  -- she wanted to be next to me all the time, loving me with her very soft and gentle little kisses. I always looked forward to going home to be with her. The house feels so empty without her.

I just wanted more time with her -- three years was not enough -- I wish I could hold her and touch her silky soft coat one more time.  My work has been so busy, plus doing a lot of side jobs, checking on houses, and cat sitting for people who are away, that I don’t have time to be with my feelings and feel my sadness.

I cry when I’m in the car driving to my job and when I'm going to sleep at night, and when I wake up in the morning. If any of my other cats were to pass, I would not be this sad.

Sutti was my special Kittie.

I like to find another Kitty like her, but I know there are never two beings alike, even if they look alike; personality is never the same. It will never be another Sutti like her.

I hope the next time I write, my heart is no longer this sad.

Hugs from Arizona,

Sylvie



7-13-19 5:30pm

Tuesday, July 16, 2019

Had Enough Therapy?

A Facebook friend shared this article on my newsfeed  Had Enough Therapy?

Thanks for sharing this article, J-F B! Very interesting! To this day, I have not met a single mental health care professional who can provide real assistance in helping people liberate themselves from their emotional prisons. And the real reason is that most of them lack the courage to tell themselves and their patients/clients the truth, and without the truth, liberation will never be possible. But instead, use their intellectual knowledge in psychology to mess with and manipulate people’s minds, feelings,  and behaviors -- making things worse by thickening the walls of people’s emotional prisons and making it nearly impossible for people to ever free themselves.

Just like I wrote in my book A Dance to Freedom:

“The chain of harm done by doctors, therapists, and gurus under the guise of help is endless. Alice Miller believed that most people with a “Dr.” in front of their name or a “Ph.D.” at the end of it weren’t in any kind of position to help or guide anyone, especially if they were repressing their own traumas and creating their own illusions.

For many years, I blamed myself for what happened with Dr. Julio Machado Vaz. It took me more than two decades to see the truth and speak about the fact that this doctor had exploited my anger at my family to feed his sexual perversions and abuse me sexually, instead of helping me work through and resolve my anger.

…I’ve touched on this a lot in this chapter and elsewhere in this book, particularly in the section about Dr. Julio Machado Vaz — the psychologist who used me for sex — but I really want to reinforce the idea that so-called therapists and gurus only substitute one dangerous illusion for another. As Alice Miller writes,

“What can happen when a doctor doesn’t stop at self-deception in his flight from pain, but deceives his patients, even founding dogmatic institutions in which further ‘helpers’ are recruited to a faith advertised as scientific truth,’ can be catastrophic.

…Most people who search for answers never actually find them, because people suffering with their own repression are the ones who practice traditional therapies.

Since the beginning of human history, priests, teachers, gurus, psychics, doctors, philosophers, and psychologists have all duped people into thinking they could provide real assistance when it was never possible because the healers were also victims of their own childhoods.

Alice Miller saw the promise of psychotherapy to help people understand why they behave like helpless victims as adults and also to help them take responsibility for their actions.

But she was disillusioned when she realized that practitioners couldn’t treat patients effectively as long as they failed to deal with their own repression.”

Because I'm critical of the mental health community, in general, this is one of the reasons I got targeted also by a mob of very corrupted people at the community where I worked for nine and a half years – some residents were doctors and professors --  and to protect themselves and the medical community, they thought with their methodical and very well-orchestrated psychological warfare could get me to self-destruct to protect themselves from being exposed for the fraud that they are, but coming after me they exposed themselves and proved what I write in my book is true and gives me and my book more credibility.
https://www.facebook.com/sylne/posts/10156647567313922?notif_id=1563048486584735&notif_t=share_wall_create

Thursday, June 20, 2019

Last surviving prosecutor at Nuremberg trials says Trump's family separation policy is ‘crime against humanity’

This blog was triggered by sharing the article on Facebook using the link below. 
Last surviving prosecutor at Nuremberg trials says Trump's family separation policy is ‘crime against humanity’
He asks: 'What could cause more great suffering than what they did in the name of immigration law?'
"The last surviving member of the Nuremberg trials prosecuting team has said Donald Trump committed “a crime against humanity” with the recent family separation policy. Ben Ferencz, 99, made the comment during a recent interview with outgoing United Nations High Commissioner for Human Rights, Zeid Ra’ad Al Hussein. The lawyer said it was “painful” when he heard about how the Trump administration had separated more than 2,000 children from their families after they had crossed the US-Mexico border." Read more HERE 

Yes, these are crimes against humanity... as long people, with the aid of hypocrisy, compartmentalization, and rationalizations, keep voting into power people like Trump -- we will never be able to stop these atrocities from happening.
"Now that we have seen how easy it is for intellectuals in a dictatorship to be corrupted, it would be a vestige of aristocratic snobbery to think that only "the uneducated masses" are susceptible to propaganda. Both Hitler and Stalin had a surprisingly large number of enthusiastic followers among intellectuals. Our capacity to resist has nothing to do with our intelligence but the degree of access to our true self. Indeed, intelligence is capable of innumerable rationalizations when it comes to the matter of adaptation."
I also was the target of propaganda at my job of nine and a half years, and we witnessed how all the corrupted people were protected and still are being protected. What happens in communities -- it happens in the stage of the world.--- to prevent corrupted people from reaching the highest office of the land, we have to expose corruption from the bottom up, but like we witnessed the corrupted people at my last job still are allowed to go Scot free from the crimes they committed against me.