This blog is about learning to understand all of our feelings and learning to consciously face, feel, and experience all of our feelings within the context of our own childhood. Everything we become and everything that happens to us is connected to childhood. Not every victim becomes an abuser, but every abuser was once a victim of abuse. These are facts. Violence is not genetic; it’s learned. https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2014/08/a-dance-to-freedom-book-reviews.html
Sunday, August 13, 2017
Hurting Others is the Malignant Narcissist Pain Killing Drug
If you like to read more about my experience with a mob of sociopaths also read my blog post Experienced Knowledge
Tuesday, March 4, 2025
Sadistic Malignant Narcissist
Tuesday, May 19, 2026
One Million Views and the Evolving Mask of the Covert Malignant Narcissist
My blog has crossed a major milestone. While I have been deeply immersed in the human ocean, navigating real-world storms, my blog has quietly soared way past one million all-time views.
Reaching this number is a testament to the collective hunger for truth in a world governed by lies, illusions, and emotional blindness. Thank you to everyone who reads, reflects, and shares this space. However, hitting this milestone comes with a stark reminder of who else watches from the shadows.
Recently, I removed a covert malignant narcissist from a group I was leading. The process of exposing and surviving their psychological warfare is exhausting, precisely because—as French psychiatrist Marie-France Hirigoyen masterfully notes in her landmark book Stalking the Soul—emotional abuse is a "clean violence." Nobody sees it. There are no physical wounds or police reports, only the systematic, virtual murder of a victim's soul designed to maintain the abuser's fragile sense of power.
I know she visits this blog. But individuals like her do not read these insights to self-reflect or grow. Instead, they study psychology to weaponize it.
The Evolution of the Modern Narcissist
Narcissists are adapting to modern times. As highlighted in the enlightening video,
The modern covert malignant narcissist is exceptionally dangerous because they utilize the following evolved strategies:
Weaponizing "Therapy-Speak": Because society is hyper-focused on mental health, modern narcissists have educated themselves on psychological concepts. They will be the first to proactively accuse you of what they themselves do and call you toxic, project their traits onto you to justify emotional harassment or control.
The Mask of Victimhood: When a narcissist realizes you are strong and cannot be easily manipulated or controlled, they will immediately pretend to be weak to appeal to your empathy [
]. They portray themselves as the eternal, misunderstood victim to hook your conscience and make you feel entirely responsible for their emotional well-being.04:38 Rewriting Digital History (Gaslighting 2.0): They have taken their manipulation tactics online. In a hyper-connected world, they will subtly edit, delete, or alter digital records like text messages and emails to make you completely question your own memory, reality, and sanity [
].05:15 Hiding in Empathetic Spaces: They love to embed themselves in progressive movements, charities, self-help groups, or leadership positions. They mirror your deepest values back to you, building instant trust before exploiting that exact proximity to slowly dismantle your self-esteem.
The Pain-Killing Addiction
We can understand a vast portion of human motivation once we realize one profound reality: ninety-nine percent of humanity spends ninety-nine percent of their time trying to avoid facing and feeling painful truths.
For the covert malignant narcissist, hurting and destroying the lives of others is their ultimate pain-killing drug. It is a severe psychological addiction required to keep their own childhood repression completely intact. As I explored in my book (page 82), the psychologist Alice Miller was deeply frustrated by how entirely the world ignores the path from being a misled victim to becoming a misleading perpetrator. Because so many of us were raised to believe cruel, repressive behavior was normal or "good for us, and this explains the emotional blindness that governs the world, allowing these predators to thrive in plain sight.
Moving Forward
The individual I removed will undoubtedly move on to her next target. And because she has analyzed the very concepts meant to expose her, she will be sneakier next time—hiding even deeper behind the masks of innocence, heroism, and victimhood. The next person who crosses her path might barely survive the psychological vortex she creates.
Even our gatekeepers are paying attention; my blog analytics recently revealed that Google administration has been closely monitoring this platform again. It is always uncomfortable when the overseers come around, but it is a reminder that speaking truth to power—and to pathology—resonates loudly.
To the over one million souls who have gathered here: keep your eyes open, trust your intuition when a "victim" feels like an aggressor, and continue breaking the silence. The tactics are evolving, but our collective awareness is also evolving faster.
For a deeper dive into the subtle tactics of psychological manipulation, read my previous post on
Some people"change" when they see the light. Some only change when they feel the heat. Stop trying to explain yourself to people who are committed to misunderstanding you.
I did not lose some people; I let them go to save myself.
When you call out bad behavior and then feel like you are the offender for speaking up, well, that's gaslighting.
"Accept people as they are, but place them where they belong. Always remember that you are the CEO of your life. Hire, fire, and promote accordingly." -Anonymous
Also, watch YouTube video about how narcissists want to exhaust you.
Monday, August 12, 2024
How Narcissists Create Conflict
Narcissists do evil for the same reason an alcoholic takes a drink because it makes them feel good. It keeps a pain repressed. Indeed, does an alcoholic like whiskey? No! He has a love-hate relationship with it. He knows it's killing him. But it has a hold on him. He's addicted to the high. Narcissists are addicted to the high they get from harming others. Yes, they DO act out of malice, because they will to hurt you. That's no accident: they hurt you on purpose and as much as they can. But only because hurting you makes them feel good.
Hurting and destroying others lives is their pain killing drug. It's an addiction that keeps their own childhood repression intact.
"Sadism is not an infectious disease that strikes a person all of a sudden. It has long prehistory in childhood and always originates in the desperate fantasies of a child who is searching for a way out of a hopeless situation." From the book: “For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-Rearing and the Roots of Violence” By Alice Miller to Read more in the link below:
Saturday, April 6, 2024
Narcissists Suffering
...It is a great mistake to imagine that one can resolve traumas in a symbolic fashion. If that were possible, poets, painters, and other artists would be able to resolve their pain through creativity. This is not the case, however. Creativity helps us channel the pain of trauma into symbolic acts; it doesn't help us resolve it. If symbolic revenge for maltreatment received in childhood were effective, then dictators would eventually stop humiliating and torturing their fellow human beings. As long as they choose to deceive themselves about who really deserves their hatred, however, and as long as they go on feeding that hatred in symbolic form instead of experiencing and resolving it within the context of their own childhood, their hunger for revenge will remain insatiable" Alice Miller
Friday, November 8, 2024
Narcissists Are Evolving
I'm constantly their target but no I'm not their victim no matter how much they try.
Monday, May 5, 2025
Larry David Hands Bill Maher the Verbal A** Whooping He DESERVES
Yes, it's a very bad spot to be in when we are ruled by criminals.
Everyone is focused on the sociopaths in the White House, but how we prevent sociopaths from getting into the highest office of the land is to expose them and their corruption at the local level. We fight corruption from the bottom up and not from the top, but as we witnessed at my place of work -- where I worked for nine and a half years -- no one had the courage to expose the sociopaths and their corruption. And no one cares that my livelihood was almost destroyed by these very bad players.
https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2017/09/big-cover-up-by-sociopaths-at-my-ex-job.html?m=1
The comment below by someone on YouTube is so true!
The conversation about the effects of childhood repression in our society needs to start happening in the stage of the world, sooner rather than later, if we want to save ourselves and humanity from falling off the cliff and committing mass suicide.
https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=With+the+aid+of+technology+
From the book: “For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-Rearing and the Roots of Violence” By Alice Miller
Friday, April 18, 2025
AI roasts Elon Musk
They deny the truth and facts, creating a false narrative that pretends to be all grown up, all good and perfect, acting as if personality.



