This blog is about learning to understand all of our feelings and learning to consciously face, feel, and experience all of our feelings within the context of our own childhood.
Everything we become and everything that happens to us is connected to childhood. Not every victim becomes an abuser, but every abuser was once a victim of abuse. These are facts. Violence is not genetic; it’s learned.
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Since writing this blog, exactly a year later, my ex-boss, who the property manager recruited to do her dirty work, killed himself in a standoff with the local police after robbing a bank on March 11, 2016, that by coincidence was my birthday! So, the property manager does have blood on her hands after all, because I know without a doubt, if she had not started this psychological warfare against me, he would still be alive – he was her collateral damage – when people start wars someone always gets hurt or killed!!! I was her target to destroy, but when was one of her helpers to lose his mind and self-destruct, everyone involved became silent, and now is a big cover-up that involves the FBI, the US Marshals, and the media.It's a shame he was not strong enough to stand up to do the right thing and let himself become a puppet of the property manager -- he paid a high price for it. Puppets never have a good end. If it was me, the little woman to commit a crime my name and face would have been splashed all over the news stations! And then all probably go on TV talking about how disturbed the little woman was -- to discredit me and my book -- and make a name for themselves by standing on my head. And all probably say that you need God in your life, my ex-boss was a Mormon, a man of God, but he was the one to lose his mind, but now is a big cover-up. I could see their dirty games and traps so clearly. Read more in the link below:
I was wondering if you received my e-mails informing my former bosses that I was being emotionally harassed on the job by the new guy, but of course, they didn’t take me seriously, because they were all in together plotting against me.My book triggered their own repression and to keep their own lies, illusions, and repression intact, they mobilize all the forces at their command to discredit me, just as I wrote in my book A Dance to Freedom: Your Guide to Liberation from Lies and Illusions, page 173 “It really is a powerful feeling, and you’re likely to find yourself possessing a power that will be threatening to a lot of people. Society is on the side of the status quo, so be prepared. As Alice Miller writes in Free from Lies, going against the parents “is a source of major alarm for others … They will sometimes mobilize all the forces at their command to discredit the former victim and thus keep their own repression intact.”82”
This was exactly what my former employer S, PP, and S board did, they started mobilizing all the forces at their command to discredit me and after six months of trying every manipulative trick available to them and not being able to do it, they just fired me without a reason.
You might like reading my blog post of 2-8-15 Stalking the Soul, it articulates very well the manipulative tricks they were playing to make me lose it emotionally so they could declare me mentally unstable to force me to quit or fire me with the reason that I was not mentally stable. They were pure evil, they rather destroy a soul than face their own illusions and repression. People like this are nothing but cowards.
Thank you for listen and I am looking forward to hearing what your thoughts are. Have a good weekend.
Sincerely,
Sylvie Shene To read more about my experiences with the mob of sociopaths or narcissists at my last job read my blog Experienced Knowledge
Since writing this blog, exactly a year later, my ex-boss, who the property manager recruited to do her dirty work, killed himself in a standoff with the local police after robbing a bank on March 11, 2016, that by coincidence was my birthday! So, the property manager does have blood on her hands after all, because I know without a doubt, if she had not started this psychological warfare against me, he would still be alive – he was her collateral damage – when people start wars someone always gets hurt or killed!!! I was her target to destroy, but when was one of her helpers to lose his mind and self-destruct, everyone involved became silent, and now is a big cover-up that involves the FBI, the US Marshals, and the media.It's a shame he was not strong enough to stand up to do the right thing and let himself become a puppet of the property manager -- he paid a high price for it. Puppets never have a good end. If it was me, the little woman to commit a crime my name and face would have been splashed all over the news stations! And then all probably go on TV talking about how disturbed the little woman was -- to discredit me and my book -- and make a name for themselves by standing on my head. And all probably say that you need God in your life, my ex-boss was a Mormon, a man of God, but he was the one to lose his mind, but now is a big cover-up. I could see their dirty games and traps so clearly. Read more in the link below:
Yes, body autonomy and freedom of speech in America is an illusion, a farce, and a sham. All wars we have is to make sure people remain slaves of the state and don't even try to liberate yourself, because they will mobilize all forces at their command to put you back in your place. You saw what happened to me at my last job, as long they thought I was a good slave, they all were very nice to me, but the moment they found out I was a liberated soul, they started mobilizing all the forces at their command to bring me down and put me in my place of the good silent servant slave. The publishing of my book it shuttered their illusion of being superior to me and they rather see me dead than face their own repression, they were pure evil, so they could keep their own repression intact and their illusion of grandiosity by hiring someone new that they could feel superior to and wouldn't challenge them.
Why does this happen? The judge must be a sociopath that was circumcised and now wants others to have the same fate as him. “Their consciousness, however, has not registered the realities of their situation. By repressing not only the pain but also their anger and desire for revenge, they have managed to banish consciousness, even idealizing the custom. Today, as a result of their repression, they can justify the procedure as harmless and necessary. They cannot recall their repressed anger and have never grieved about what happened to them. Consequently, they inflict the same ordeal on their children without wishing to acknowledge what they're doing to them.” Alice Miller Read more here
Since writing this blog, exactly a year later, my ex-boss, who the property manager recruited to do her dirty work, killed himself in a standoff with the local police after robbing a bank on March 11, 2016, which, by coincidence, was my birthday! So, the property manager does have blood on her hands after all, because I know without a doubt, if she had not started this psychological warfare against me, he would still be alive – he was her collateral damage – when people start wars, someone always gets hurt or killed! I was her target to destroy, but when one of her helpers lost his mind and self-destructed, everyone involved became silent, and now it is a big cover-up that involves the FBI, the US Marshals, and the media.It's a shame he wasn't strong enough to do the right thing and stand up to the property manager— he paid a high price for it. Puppets never have a good ending. If it were me, the little woman to commit a crime, my name and face would have been splashed all over the news stations! And then all of them will probably go on TV talking about how disturbed the little woman was—to discredit me and my book—and make a name for themselves by standing on my head. And all probably say that you need God in your life. My ex-boss was a Mormon, a man of God, but he was the one to lose his mind, and now it's a big cover-up. I could see their dirty games and traps so clearly. Read more in the link below:
You are very welcome. Being helpful to people and all beings is my nature, wherever I am.
They terminated me without giving me a reason. But I know the reason. I triggered P’s jealousy, and she manipulated the very weak and very emotionally blind present board and all plotted against me. Some Rs wanted me to take P's place when she retires this Christmas. I always said I didn’t want her job; besides going in and out, gossiping, and plotting against others, she does nothing. But I suppose she couldn't handle the thought of me taking her place.
Just like I wrote to Mrs. A a few weeks ago: "Hi, Mrs. A I am pretty sure I am being targeted by a sociopath at work, and I think you know who I am talking about. I triggered her jealousy, and now she is going to use her last year at work to manipulate things to make me look like I am crazy and unstable, and make her appear to be the bigger and saner person. I am going to try to be careful, watch my back, keep my distance from her, and see if I can survive her last year. Otherwise, I might have to look for another job.
Below is an article about sociopaths, if you have time to read it. I am her target, and once a sociopath targets you, you can’t win, and the only way to keep your sanity is to stay away from them. This is why she didn’t share your email with all the board members and just shared it with the one in charge of security, because in this way, she has fewer people to persuade and maintains more control. The board member in charge of security right now is totally emotionally blind, will never see through her games, and will play him like a mouse.
I'm not sure if I'll be available to take care of your house this summer, but let’s talk when you're about to leave.
Best wishes,
Sylvie
P.S. If you'd like to know more of the scoop on what went down. You are welcome to read my blog posts below. This is another reason P and the X Board were uncomfortable with me, because they know I see through them all. I have too much experience and knowledge.
Definitely, this describes Elon Musk. And someone who was once close to me. She, like Elon Musk, has the illusion that she is self-made. But her first house was given to her. I never had anyone give me a house or give me a down payment for a home. It has taken me a lifetime, but I got here by myself. The little support and little crumbs I received along the way from some people was given to me unconsciously, mostly to create a good image to look good in the public eye with their randmon acts of kindness but the moment many people realized I was truly free from the emotional prison, they all tried to pull me back. They mobilized all the forces at their command to stop me in my tracks. All they care about is image, money and power over others. Some people are okay with helping you as long as you stay below them; they don't want to be on your side, they want to use you to step on your head to get to the top. Elon Musk, without funding from the United States government, would not be the richest man. Now he is destroying all the institutions that helped him, so that others cannot have the same opportunities he once did, because he wants to remain on top and ensure that no one else becomes bigger than him.
Yes, Elon Musk's companies, particularly Tesla and SpaceX, have received significant government funding. A Washington Post analysis found that Musk's companies have collected at least $38 billion in government contracts, loans, subsidies, and tax credits over the past two decades. This funding has been crucial for their growth and survival, particularly during challenging periods.
Elaboration:
Significant Funding:
The Washington Post analysis revealed that Musk's companies have benefited from at least $38 billion in government funding.
Various Forms of Funding:
This funding includes government contracts, loans, subsidies, and tax credits.
Examples of Government Support:
SpaceX: SpaceX has received substantial government funding, including NASA contracts and funding for projects like Starlink.
Tesla: Tesla has received government loans and tax credits to support the development and production of electric vehicles.
Impact of Funding:
This government funding has played a crucial role in the growth and development of Tesla and SpaceX, particularly during their early stages.
It doesn't matter how big of a genius and talented you are, if you don't get funded, you are not getting very far.
Proof that Elon Musk and this administration are pure evil. You can't be more greedy than this!
Addiction, greed, and obsessions are all the same thing. Greed, obsessions, or addiction mean that whatever the object of our affection is, we can never get enough of it. Addicts live in constant fear of losing the object of their affection and go to any lengths to protect it. They will lie, cheat, steal, go to war without thinking twice, and exploit others, even their own children. No wonder so many young people are so angry; for when we feel used and exploited, we get angry. Only addicts will elect and support an addict to be our leader. This means there are a lot of addictive or greedy people in our society!!!
They want revenge at any cost, even if it hurts them, too.
"The unconscious compulsion to avenge repressed injuries is more powerful than reason. That is the lesson that all tyrants teach us. One should not expect judiciousness from a mad person motivated by compulsive panic. One should, however, protect oneself from such a person." Alice Miller -- Breaking Down the Wall of Silence, page 82
Yes, very true. That's why I'm hated since I published my book A Dance to Freedom. Because my book is a mirror. As a reader of my book wrote: "As the old saying goes "birds of a feather flock together" and the last thing that dishonest people, "People of the Lie", as Scott Peck calls them, wants around is people like you that are honest and authentic, who hold up a mirror to their lies, just with their presence, even if they do not say anything. They will avoid this like the plague and be compelled to annihilate and destroy someone like this (whom they use as a scapegoat) in their presence to keep their own repression and denial of their childhood traumas intact, as you know and understand so well, and have found out the hard way through your own direct personal experience, and survived thanks to the extensive work you have done to face up to and resolve your childhood traumas."
Ted Koppel is correct 👌 Fox News has hijacked and poisoned the minds of many vulnerable Americans.
What Narcissists Feel In Private
When you find no solution to a problem. It's probably not a problem to be solved. But rather a painful truth to be accepted.
This is how you are supposed to deal with people who come to you to tell you what others are saying about you. I don't care what others say or think of me; it's none of my business what people say behind my back.
Yes, they are! Incapable of looking in the mirror and self-reflection. They distract themselves by projecting and transferring their unresolved childhood repression into other people who also have unresolved repression, and these already vulnerable people, with the projections and transferences from the narcissists, it triggers their own unresolved repression. With their own unresolved repressed emotions and the narcssists' projections and transferences, it't too much emotion or energy, and like a circle breaker goes bananas and causes a black out with too much energy, and they act out, appearing crazier in the eyes of society and then the narcissists point the fingers at them to distracting themselves from their own painful truths. This vicious circle is not easy to break out of. The best way is to walk away from the narcissist and focus on your own life and healing. Your reactions, that's what the narcissists want, and that's what gives them power. Do not give the narcissists what they want! Walk away and stay away!
The malignant people at my job of nine and a half years were hoping I would react to their lies, mind games, and smear campaigns, but I don't play their game. By refusing to play and walking away, that's how we stay free. It does matter what people say or think about us. Once we have truly resolved our childhood repression, all we care about is being free and staying free.
True learning only comes from real experience and an open mind that has not been hijacked by a malignant OR corrupted system.
As long as people remain repressed, they have no free will; the dead hand of their own repression will drive them endlessly into a state of compulsive repetition.
Rise above their bullshit, because reacting to their lies and bullshit, that's what they want and that's what gives them power. I no longer give my power away like that. Marty is the only one in my life I gave my power away to like that. I only wanted his love, but instead, after being in a relationship with him for 10 years, I got a master's degree in psychology.
My book is a strong mirror, and they don’t like their own reflections, so they want to try to bring me down. How dear of me, an ex-topless dancer and now a gate attendant, to put such a strong mirror in front of them. And like my family, they are using the same tactics..., but what they want to do is to put me in my place and show me who is in charge to manage their own fears and keep their own image, repression, and little illusions intact.
Just as Alice Miller says: “Conditioning and manipulation of others are always weapons and instruments in the hands of those in power, even if these weapons are disguised with the terms education and therapeutic treatment.” For Your Own Good, P. 278
And of course, just like my teachers and older sisters, they want to destroy my spirit so I will be like them. They are allergic to my aliveness.
Just like Donald wrote in the discussion about my book: “The passage below from the Alice Miller interview, How To Combat Denial, came to my mind right away when I read of your sisters blaming your mother for your being so difficult and rebellious:
Borut Petrovic Jesenovec: I notice that a lot of people become allergic when they see a truly childlike child, unburdened by guilt and abuse. They just can’t stand it. They repeat that every child must be socialized as soon as possible, in other words, taken away from parents and put into kindergarten so that he/she become "available" to anyone. They preach the benefits of socialization as if it were a most sacred, noble cause. I find this social pressure enormous. But in this context, socialization equals adaptation to cruelty. Why is a child who is alive, genuine, and pure, in their eyes, unbearable, even sinful, and must, by all means, be mutilated so he/she would become similar to them?
Alice Miller: Because the child’s creativity and liveliness trigger in the parents the repressed pain of being suffocated. They are afraid of feeling the pain, so they do whatever they can to avoid the triggers. By insisting on obedience, they kill the lively child, they victimize him or her as they themselves were victimized before. For that reason, they absolutely need information. This is why we talked and worked on this interview. Most parents don’t want to hurt their children; they do it automatically, just by repeating what they themselves learned as children. We can help them to stop this destructive behavior by explaining to them why it is actually destructive. So that they can wake up and make a choice.
"If Trump can consolidate authoritarian rule as quickly as some other historical dictators did, the complete (albeit hopefully temporary) end of American democracy could happen very rapidly, possibly even in the next few weeks or months. The window for action is closing fast.
But there’s still hope, because we’re still We The People. As long as our protest movement continues to grow and demand a stop to the damage Trump and Musk are doing to our democratic republic, we may be able to slow or even stop this anti-American cabal and reclaim our republic.
Our protesting in the streets and reaching out to legislators may encourage resistance within the media and courts, and might even inspire a handful of Republicans to stand against this wannabe dictator.
When democratic institutions fail, the last line of defense has always been citizens willing to take to the streets. Ukraine provides the most powerful recent example of how a determined populace can rescue democracy from Russian-inspired authoritarianism."
Click on the link below to read the whole article:
"The titles mean nothing to me anymore. If you're toxic and refuse to take accountability for your bad behavior, I'm not sticking around to wait for that change. No more empty promises. Show me or I'm gone." ME TOO!
The real world is not a safe place for a seeing and a feeling person. I have stated this before, and the fire I have walked through recently only confirms it: the modern workplace is a breeding ground for repression, projection, transference, and emotional violence. In today’s institutions, the people who effortlessly rise are rarely the most capable. Instead, they are the ones who have mastered the art of repression, denial, and blame-shifting to absolute perfection. They have buried their own feelings so deep that they no longer hear the screams of their own wounded child. And because they are entirely deaf to their own pain, they can step on others without a shred of guilt. They thrive in the corporate matrix because they have grown into full-blown sociopaths.
For the rare few who have done the brutal, liberating emotional work to free themselves from childhood repression, navigating these environments is like holding a double-edged sword. Emotional freedom makes you an instant target for malignant narcissists; your clarity acts as a mirror that reflects their deepest, unexamined imprisonment, and they will envy your freedom. However, that very same clarity is your ultimate armor.
Once a mind is truly free, it cannot be captured again. When you are no longer blinded by the repressed emotions of the child you once were, you see people’s patterns and predict their next moves long before they make them. You see the traps, and you refuse to step into the choreography.
The Mechanics of the Corporate Smear Campaign: DARVO
Recently, I became the target of two covert malignant narcissists in a group. The first was a charming, charismatic 26-year-old single mother; the second was a 22-year-old who replaced her. Both weaponized the exact same toxic playbook to try and get me fired: they made false reports, accusing me of the very behaviors and sabotages they themselves were committing.
This maneuver is a well-documented tactical phenomenon known as DARVO (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender), a concept pioneered by Dr. Jennifer J. Freyd. When a manipulator is exposed or fears losing control, they instinctively execute these three rigid steps to escape accountability:
Deny: They flatly refuse to accept responsibility or acknowledge reality, instantly deflecting blame.
Attack: They launch a vicious character assassination—a smear campaign—to ruin the reputation of the person speaking the truth, mobilizing "flying monkeys" to do their dirty work and destabilize the target.
Reverse Victim and Offender: They twist the narrative entirely, casting themselves as the fragile victims while painting the whistleblower as a malicious offender.
They weaponize projection. As Lucas Bean's recent psychological analysis perfectly articulated, every accusation is a confession. They accuse you first of what they are guilty of, so that when your evidence finally comes to light, your defense looks like mere retaliation to an emotionally blind audience.
The 26-year-old single mother who targeted me had a child at 17. One must ask the cold question: what kind of teenager thinks it is okay to bring a baby into this world, unless she subconsciously wants a human prop to exploit, hide behind, and use to manipulate others to fulfill her own unconscious needs? Her child's father is currently in prison. I have no doubt her psychological mind games helped put him there; he reacted blindly to her emotional abuse instead of walking away. Had he consciously felt his justified anger within the context of his own childhood—realizing she was merely a stand-in symbolizing a toxic caregiver from his past—he could have freed himself from ever falling into a malignant person's trap again.
Scapegoating: Voting for Your Own Destruction
The tragedy of the emotionally repressed is that they are entirely driven by forces they refuse to see. This young woman, surviving on food stamps and rental assistance, proudly voted for Donald Trump. When she told me she was voting for Trump. I responded: Really? But thought to myself: of course you are. Now, as his administration aggressively moves to gut the very social safety nets she depends on to survive, she is left blind to the reality of her choices.
Why do people consistently vote against their own self-interest? Because they are driven by a desperate, unresolved need to alleviate their childhood repression superficially. As I wrote many years ago in my post on Scapegoating, hatred can never be resolved by projecting it onto an external group. Trump won because he offered his followers the perfect, pre-packaged scapegoats—such as undocumented immigrants—to dump their repressed rage onto. They project their internal misery outward, blinded by the unresolved repressed hatred, completely unaware that the politicians they cheer for are dismantling the roofs over their heads.
The Ultimate Boundary: Standing in Evidence
The only way I survived these calculated attempts to destroy my livelihood was through radical emotional clarity and a simple, grounding strategy of protection:
Gather Cold Evidence: While they relied entirely on elaborate lies, gaslighting, and historical revisionism, I quietly collected texts, emails, and documentation.
Hold Strategic Silence: I refused to respond in anger. Anger is fuel for a narcissist and validates their false narrative to bystanders.
Present the Truth Once: I took the undeniable evidence to the people who matter, then I stopped.
As I shared with a reader years ago, we must never let others exploit our unresolved, repressed anger. If the people in power at a job are corrupt and refuse to look at objective evidence, it is an automatic sign to pack your bags and move on. You cannot force people to look at the evidence if they refuse to open their eyes.
Fortunately, those who mattered consisted of decent people who looked at the hard facts. Because my evidence and silence hallowed out their lies over time, their masks slipped, they fell directly into the traps they had set for me, and both of those malignant women are now gone.
Yes, they don't want anyone to be more successful than they are. That's why they constantly target me; they live in fear of me becoming a best-selling author. But it is only a matter of time—even if it happens after I am gone.
No matter what happens, I am already far more successful than they will ever be, because I am emotionally free.
“It is only after it is liberated that the self begins to articulate, to grow, and to develop its creativity. Where there had been only fearful emptiness or equally frightening grandiose fantasies, an unexpected wealth of vitality is now discovered. This is not a homecoming, since this home has never before existed. It is the creation of a home.”
Once a person has grown into a full-blown malignant narcissist, they will never change. Get the f**k away from them.
Never react or argue with them—just walk away. Your reaction is exactly what they want, and it’s what gives them power. I have deep compassion for the wounded children they once were, but I have absolutely zero compassion for the monsters they have chosen to become as adults.
Yes, they want you to chase after them. The only person I ever chased in my life was my ex, for 10 long years, and I promised myself I would never do it again. Family or not, I don't care how charming, beautiful, or wealthy someone is—I am done chasing.
For 20 years, I waited patiently for a niece, hoping she would grow and find the courage to do her emotional work. The very first time I said "no" to her, she went full-blown nuclear and blocked me on all social media. A few months later, she unblocked me, fully expecting me to run after her. Instead, I blocked her right back. She will never be let back into my life. Once someone consciously chooses darkness over light, I’m done!
Her anger boiled down to the fact that I refused to join her in humiliating her aunt and cousin in a family Facebook group. She showed me she had zero respect for me. I no longer give second chances. Disrespect me once, and I am out forever. Life is just too short to waste on people who don't know how to respect you.
Exactly 💯
"If you want to know an amazing human being with supernatural levels of love, compassion, integrity, and fortitude...look no further than a survivor of Narcissistic Abuse. They have overcome obstacles that would destroy most, and are a living, breathing example that good does conquer evil." Jill Wise Narcissistic Abuse Recovery 622 Coaching
A disagreement with a toxic partner will turn into an argument, which turns into a bigger problem. A disagreement with a divine partner will turn into a conversation that will lead to changed behavior or a solution.
